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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better"

Or because they like the attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better"

It was actually mentioned on another thread hence the big question

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

Or because they like the attention "

I love it when I get a little attention, who doesn't? Women get loads on here I'm sure and I imagine most love it

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

OP I'm sure you don't struggle to get attention. I mean, I clicked on your profile because it looks like you have a great body that you work hard for.

I wish I had a body like that.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't think I hold the power - it's a man's decision to meet me. I do think some women believe they hold all the cards and some men think that way too.

And yes, I meet men I wouldn't normally meet in the outside world - in so far as I wouldn't be sure if they were interested or not if I met them in a vanilla setting and this site helps to remove that question. Are they 'out of my league'? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys that show interest on here are no different looks wise to the ones who show me interest off of here.

Just on here i know where we both stand and prefer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in the sense that an online site of any kind will automatically give you access to people you would never otherwise meet. I don't look at any interactions or relationships I have in terms of power - I prefer equality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr burns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

I see it as mutual terms. If we like each other we meet. I don't meet outside Fab for many reasons.

I've met really hot people off here that I wouldn't have had a chance to meet outside of Fab.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Women definately hold the power on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better"
awwww ask him if he feels better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so true. I can trick any guy into meeting me.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant


"It's so true. I can trick any guy into meeting me. "

I willing to take that bet

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Men would do or say anything to ride anything ergo women hold the power.until he cums

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

Or because they like the attention "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab isn’t all about single men meeting single women, it can be women meeting other women, plus couples and that can be MF, MM or FF. Couples meeting couples. Its not just one dimensional.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Holding power over what exactly?

If you send someone a message and they don’t respond because they aren’t interested for a variety of different reasons, that’s just a normal interaction, wouldn’t be any different in real life.

Everyone has the power to choose who they interact with and who they spend time with.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

No-one on here holds any more "power" than anyone else - it's within each of us as individuals to control our own level of "success" from the site by having the right approach and expectations.

Had you asked who gets the most attention on here OP then that might have been a different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely don't feel I hold the power ... surely its a mutual decision? Actually it's incredibly hard to meet what I'm looking for most of the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The moderators?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree"

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant


"The moderators? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The moderators? "

Haha

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic "

Ah my favourite kind of messages, those. I just love the sincerity!

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic "

I don’t even reply to those type of messages

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think women have far more choices and options on here. I guess that’s a sort of power.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really get the us vs them mentality the power is individual to each other

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Power to the people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have zero power on here. I definitely can't bippity-boppity-boo any of the hotties I desire into my bed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic

Ah my favourite kind of messages, those. I just love the sincerity! "

You look peng and I’ve met you in person albeit briefly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have zero power on here. I definitely can't bippity-boppity-boo any of the hotties I desire into my bed. "

I think some would disagree with you Dana!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have zero power on here. I definitely can't bippity-boppity-boo any of the hotties I desire into my bed.

I think some would disagree with you Dana! "

Dana you're hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr burns"

Doh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you believe that OP?

That sounds like you are implying that the ladies of fab can just decide that thay are gonna get who they want on a whim. And the fella doesn't get a say in it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have zero power on here. I definitely can't bippity-boppity-boo any of the hotties I desire into my bed.

I think some would disagree with you Dana!

Dana you're hot!"

Even women find you hot Dana

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

People only have power over you if you bestow it upon them.....unless you're Kim Jong-Un....there's always exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic "

Those are exactly the people to avoid (for me)

Dont confuse power with standards

It’s my experience on here that men, more so than women, will focus on getting laid more than who they want to meet for said activity.

So whilst it looks like the economics of the situation fall into supply and demand, as has been pointed out - all parties have to consent to meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jim’s mum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Jim’s mum"

Erect Jim?

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By *abfella40Man
over a year ago

barrow in furness

Most women are complex. I prefer to keep things simple. I don't think woman always have the power.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't like this question but I understand it ...

If you open up the women sarching for men or couples searching for men then you get all pages filled with men online (,very.. humbling,) but vice versa you're lucky if you get 2 pages online and there's some "power" in that. (More choice usually equals propensity to ignore and choose/set higher standards/control pace of meet).

I mean you don't get guys blocking girls and saying (single girls I'll find you)...

However I think maybe the "top" 20 ~ of men have the ability too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

In theory ladies do, simply because there's more choices available to them. Unfortunately for them it means that they have an hours and hours a day task on their hands just to wade through their rammed mailboxes and try and unearth decent meets amongst all the great wall of shite.

That's power I can well do without. Not counting ongoing conversations, I get 20 messages a day tops and whilst that isn't as many ladies/couples to choose from there's lovely females in their number that I meet regularly and have lots of fun with, without the huge chore that comes with having "power".

I'm very happy with Fab and the fun it provides, and I'd hate to be a single lady on here personally, "power" or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true... you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? "

Yes.

Just thought I'd change the question a bit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better"

The lad is bored and likes controversy. I'm sure the little lamb is harmless

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

The lad is bored and likes controversy. I'm sure the little lamb is harmless "

Haha thank you

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

He-Man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

Or because they like the attention

I love it when I get a little attention, who doesn't? Women get loads on here I'm sure and I imagine most love it"

Actually it gets boring when you get attention from guys not meeting your criteria cos all they've done is look at the "pretty pictures".

It was different when i was new to site forums, many many years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 29/07/18 09:38:32]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me

whahhaaaahahahhahahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOT TRUE,

I still haven't had a meet yet. Apart from being played once by a no show, I have actually made the decisions not to meet as I am after something very specific. I do not struggle off of fab as I'm sure many don't. However it's clear to see that guys look at this as a place where they can easily find horny women and they are right, they will find horny women but there is a difference between horny and easy

Play your own game...make your own rules.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

They hold no power over me, I along with anyone else can say no thanks ..

only those folk who are willing to say yes when they're actually thinking no have given the other power over themselves..

Know your worth, hold onto your standards and if you're thinking no thanks say so..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

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By *rolicerMan
over a year ago

Abergele

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

"

Not necessarily because some women use sex as a weapon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither holds the "power", it resides with the person being approached, whether male or female.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

Not necessarily because some women use sex as a weapon "

And men have no defence against this on fab?

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By *rolicerMan
over a year ago

Abergele

Women, then mostly men in a couples profile (note mostly)

Then by age.

All due to supply and demand, don't know what the ratio is, but must be something like thousands of men hundreds of couples, some women.

But distorted as profiles can't be linked, so a couple could also have a his and hers single profile too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I hold the power - it's a man's decision to meet me. I do think some women believe they hold all the cards and some men think that way too.

And yes, I meet men I wouldn't normally meet in the outside world - in so far as I wouldn't be sure if they were interested or not if I met them in a vanilla setting and this site helps to remove that question. Are they 'out of my league'? No."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

Not necessarily because some women use sex as a weapon

And men have no defence against this on fab? "

Depends on how hot she is

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

Ladies will only meet on their terms if men allow it

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have zero power on here. I definitely can't bippity-boppity-boo any of the hotties I desire into my bed.

I think some would disagree with you Dana! "

Me for one!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We all have the power to choose who we want to meet or not.

So everyone has their own power.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all have the power to choose who we want to meet or not.

So everyone has their own power. "

That’s a very diplomatic statement

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

Not necessarily because some women use sex as a weapon

And men have no defence against this on fab?

Depends on how hot she is "

So you hand those women the power.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If women hold the power the men hand it to them willingly.

Not necessarily because some women use sex as a weapon

And men have no defence against this on fab?

Depends on how hot she is

So you hand those women the power. "

I think I should stop thinking from my D

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I think the man does because he can drive to your place or somewhere in his lunch break, he travels with his work so can meet lots of different people where as people with kids or husbands dont have so much free time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic

Ah my favourite kind of messages, those. I just love the sincerity! "
If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If i want to meet takes 2 to agree

It helps if the guy is saying you are the most beautiful woman in the entire universe before even seeing your face pic

Ah my favourite kind of messages, those. I just love the sincerity! If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me"

Haha! Always loved that line...it's so cheesy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab?

Ladies will only meet on their terms if men allow it "

That only works if all men have standards. Remember some men will fuck anything with a pulse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

"

You do have a point .

We should leave this sex site and find a swingers' site

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab?

Ladies will only meet on their terms if men allow it

That only works if all men have standards. Remember some men will fuck anything with a pulse"

Quite right...some women will too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

"

Maybe not that quietly, but it's a good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one has power here. Women just have a bigger choice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

"

The OP says " is it true you hold the power and meet guys on your terms?"

Just hilarious

And says it all really

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"No one has power here. Women just have a bigger choice...."

Thats very true, us tvs do ok too... Well some of us as the standard varies lol

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"I don't think I hold the power - it's a man's decision to meet me. I do think some women believe they hold all the cards and some men think that way too.

And yes, I meet men I wouldn't normally meet in the outside world - in so far as I wouldn't be sure if they were interested or not if I met them in a vanilla setting and this site helps to remove that question. Are they 'out of my league'? No."

A very considered response from a young lady I hope to sync with one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

"

Clunky wording but don't think that's what OP said or insinuated at all

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

No different to the real and natural world IMHO -after all, how lucky are most men when trying to find a partner in the real/ vanilla world? Most tend to let themselves down with their own Neanderthal rutting stag behaviour - no wonder women seem "picky" to these individuals - god forbid that they may be allowed to exercise a rational choice in the matter...

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"No different to the real and natural world IMHO -after all, how lucky are most men when trying to find a partner in the real/ vanilla world? Most tend to let themselves down with their own Neanderthal rutting stag behaviour - no wonder women seem "picky" to these individuals - god forbid that they may be allowed to exercise a rational choice in the matter..."

Sometimes better to go without.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

Clunky wording but don't think that's what OP said or insinuated at all "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy way to know is have a woman and a man write the same status and see how many messages they get. The status should simply say “looking to meet tonight”.

I wonder who would get more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

What do you mean by ‘wouldn’t have a chance to meet ouside’?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Attention does not equal power. The power lies with each individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 1st thought would be to say that women have the power because of the sheer man / woman ratio, the perception is that women can choose to meet who they want.

The reality is different, women do get rejected by the confident, secure men who know exactly what they seek and won’t settle.

So I guess it’s not gender specific, it’s more about the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My 1st thought would be to say that women have the power because of the sheer man / woman ratio, the perception is that women can choose to meet who they want.

The reality is different, women do get rejected by the confident, secure men who know exactly what they seek and won’t settle.

So I guess it’s not gender specific, it’s more about the individual.

"

Best answer yet.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"No different to the real and natural world IMHO -after all, how lucky are most men when trying to find a partner in the real/ vanilla world? Most tend to let themselves down with their own Neanderthal rutting stag behaviour - no wonder women seem "picky" to these individuals - god forbid that they may be allowed to exercise a rational choice in the matter...

Sometimes better to go without. "

There you go exercising your free choice and all your fancy womanly wiles ...just typical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like the idea of women holding the power. I think it’s equal as both parties have to agree so both have the option to say yes or no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t like the idea of women holding the power. I think it’s equal as both parties have to agree so both have the option to say yes or no x "

I don't like the idea of power in relationships full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No different to the real and natural world IMHO -after all, how lucky are most men when trying to find a partner in the real/ vanilla world? Most tend to let themselves down with their own Neanderthal rutting stag behaviour - no wonder women seem "picky" to these individuals - god forbid that they may be allowed to exercise a rational choice in the matter..."

Ain't that the truth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better"

Ouch burn

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The only power we should be discussing is the power of attraction, and that works both ways.

Since the numbers are heavily tilted to favour selection from the woman's perspective, it's to be expected that only a small minority of men won't be hurting for both interest and meets. That's called natural selection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only power we should be discussing is the power of attraction, and that works both ways.

Since the numbers are heavily tilted to favour selection from the woman's perspective, it's to be expected that only a small minority of men won't be hurting for both interest and meets. That's called natural selection."

Indeed! And these are the ones we're all scrambling to neet

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"No different to the real and natural world IMHO -after all, how lucky are most men when trying to find a partner in the real/ vanilla world? Most tend to let themselves down with their own Neanderthal rutting stag behaviour - no wonder women seem "picky" to these individuals - god forbid that they may be allowed to exercise a rational choice in the matter...

Ain't that the truth?"

Not that I haven't on occasion been guilty of said behaviour - difference is I try to learn from my mistakes not repeat them - I think my disclaimer should be "warning, subject to wild inconsistency"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man who asks to see me can apply his own terms and conditions. If he doesn't like mine-which are few-and I don't like his, we won't meet.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"Any man who asks to see me can apply his own terms and conditions. If he doesn't like mine-which are few-and I don't like his, we won't meet."

My, you're quite organised with your application forms and all...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

There's about 15 men to every woman on here. . Assuming women mainly want to meet men and men mainly want to meet women then women clearly have the market power.

In the same way that in a time of high unemployment anyone offering a job has market power over those seeking the job.

It's all supply and demand. There's a product in short supply. (women offering casual sex) and high demand. (men wanting causal sex). Consequently power lies with the supplier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ming the merciless holds the ultimate power. Hail Ming!

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here."

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don’t like the idea of women holding the power. I think it’s equal as both parties have to agree so both have the option to say yes or no x

I don't like the idea of power in relationships full stop"

Nor I but you see it all the time. I've watched the dynamic between a couple I know. One witholds money to exert power the other witholds communication to regain it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think women hold the power on here.

But that’s just because of the ratio of men to women.

I think some use it as a power trip and enjoy the “control” they have. Which is a bit ridiculous in my opinion.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from"

My own surveys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ming the merciless holds the ultimate power. Hail Ming!"

But others have suggested it's Mr Burns or He-Man. I'm confused now, who does hold the power, I thought it was She-Ra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

Clunky wording but don't think that's what OP said or insinuated at all "

The OP said, and I quote 'hence you meet guys on your terms as in who, when and how!'

I think it's exactly what he insinuated, what else could you read into that statement? If you take this away from a woman you have taken away free will and surely everyone has a right that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why i said it's really clunky, women, 9/10 will be responding not initiating, also due to safety they will be deciding where..

IMO OP is trying to wrap his head around hundreds of years of tradition/culture of courting women + the BIG fact that men 100% and unequivocally outnumber women on every site. Really is a big question about society when you think about it.

Power is such a one sided word, this is a 3 dimensional problem(/reality?)

and i don't think deciding mutually will take away ones free will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from"

That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from

That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back"

Sorry, but all that tells me is how many men vs women are online at a particular point in time & nothing about how many regularly log in and engage with the site. Even if you were right at that particular point in time it tells me nothing about averages - just looking at the forum posts tells me it is nothing like a 15 to 1 ratio and if anything closer to the 50% ratio - which would suggest at least a little cognitive bias going on for a fair few members of e hard done by set on here - just because males tend to make more approaches on here does not necessarily translate to them being in the majority

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back"

Yes -I'd love to see how impartial your "thoroughly researched" methods are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any man who asks to see me can apply his own terms and conditions. If he doesn't like mine-which are few-and I don't like his, we won't meet.

My, you're quite organised with your application forms and all... "

I have to be

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset


"It's so true. I can trick any guy into meeting me. "

you wouldn't need to trick me just say when and i will send you my address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

So true that is mate I have never been made to feel so ugly before I joined this site

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"It is true, and then men start threads like this to make themselves feel better

Or because they like the attention

I love it when I get a little attention, who doesn't? Women get loads on here I'm sure and I imagine most love it"

You imagine wrongly! Crass messages, crap profiles? People or can't read or more likely just decide to ignore everything that has been written? Yeah I love that attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

Clunky wording but don't think that's what OP said or insinuated at all

The OP said, and I quote 'hence you meet guys on your terms as in who, when and how!'

I think it's exactly what he insinuated, what else could you read into that statement? If you take this away from a woman you have taken away free will and surely everyone has a right that? "

I think the OP isn’t about taking away a woman’s free will, it’s insuating that some women are meeting men who wouldn’t look twice at them in the real world

Hence the ‘women hold all the power” line. For me though if that’s what he means, then more fool the men that give themselves up so easily.

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab?

So true that is mate I have never been made to feel so ugly before I joined this site "

very true and by some less than pretty females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rolls eyes and tuts!

You mean to say OP there are some women who are on here who don't agree to meet and fuck anyone who asks ?

Omfg

Doesn't she know she is in a swingers site and men think because she is on a swingers site she is in effect giving up any right to choose who she would like to meet!

Unbelievable lol

I can't believe the cheek of us unrealistic females with all the power!

Sat quietly seething at this post.

Clunky wording but don't think that's what OP said or insinuated at all

The OP said, and I quote 'hence you meet guys on your terms as in who, when and how!'

I think it's exactly what he insinuated, what else could you read into that statement? If you take this away from a woman you have taken away free will and surely everyone has a right that?

I think the OP isn’t about taking away a woman’s free will, it’s insuating that some women are meeting men who wouldn’t look twice at them in the real world

Hence the ‘women hold all the power” line. For me though if that’s what he means, then more fool the men that give themselves up so easily.

"
in the name of nsa any holes a goal sex

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Each gender holds their own power whether they want to meet is their own choice.

Strange question OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly don't have power on here, and would never ever view it that way either. I don't have the power over men, they decide if they want to meet me.

For me when meeting it's about it all being mutual and fair when it comes to when and where.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab?

So true that is mate I have never been made to feel so ugly before I joined this site "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Only I hold the power over what I do, same as we all do

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from

That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back

Sorry, but all that tells me is how many men vs women are online at a particular point in time & nothing about how many regularly log in and engage with the site. Even if you were right at that particular point in time it tells me nothing about averages - just looking at the forum posts tells me it is nothing like a 15 to 1 ratio and if anything closer to the 50% ratio - which would suggest at least a little cognitive bias going on for a fair few members of e hard done by set on here - just because males tend to make more approaches on here does not necessarily translate to them being in the majority"

We are open to messages from everyone. About 95% of our messages are from single men.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"

We are open to messages from everyone. About 95% of our messages are from single men. "

Again all that tells me is the demographic your profile appeals to / that it is men that are most likely to make the first approach - by way of comparison, look at the forum averages and notice how many women are engaging and posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really sure who holds the power - probably the owners of the site i.e. it attracts lots of visitors BUT the % of people who actually meet is tiny in comparison to visitor numbers. As for single ladies - lol - just forget it - we've had one in 7 years (under various profiles)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from

That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back

Sorry, but all that tells me is how many men vs women are online at a particular point in time & nothing about how many regularly log in and engage with the site. Even if you were right at that particular point in time it tells me nothing about averages - just looking at the forum posts tells me it is nothing like a 15 to 1 ratio and if anything closer to the 50% ratio - which would suggest at least a little cognitive bias going on for a fair few members of e hard done by set on here - just because males tend to make more approaches on here does not necessarily translate to them being in the majority

We are open to messages from everyone. About 95% of our messages are from single men. "

You're both way out IMHO, I'm afraid.

Looking at who is online now is flawed; men think about sex far more often of average than women, so it therefore reasonable that they will be logged in more often, giving skewed results. Also the very ratio means a certain number of men, I would guess at about 15% copy and paste carpet bomb every single female and couple within a certain radius. Whereas a lot of women do what I do and very rarely do they send out a first contact. So the stat of 95% of messages being from single chaps is also deeply flawed.

On the flip side, using the amount of people of either gender present on the forums won't give you an average result either; far from it. The forums probably wouldn't suggest even numbers anyway IMHO, about 1 woman to 3 men perhaps, but more women than men will want to interact socially in a less pressure environment to get a feel for others full stop and will also use this as a way to get a more well-rounded personal idea of what another forum user is like.

I think the only fairly accurate way of judging how many men per women are on site is to do a local search in several areas for users nearby fullstop and not just online now, and work out a mean average. I think this was done amongst forumites at a point in time a couple of years ago and the figure came out between 1 in 6 and 1 in 7. This doesn't however take into account the amount of fake profiles and bearing in mind that almost all fake profiles will be female, followed by couples (as how can a wind up merchant have much mischief with a single guys profile) I would then reason that the ratio would perhaps be in the region of 1 woman for every 8 - 9 guys or thereabouts.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's about 15 men to every woman on here.

Really? - I'd love to know where you get your figures from

That's an estimate but it's thoroughly researched that men outnumber women and if you want some proof, search men for women+couples then search women for men+couples. Count how many online now and come back

Sorry, but all that tells me is how many men vs women are online at a particular point in time & nothing about how many regularly log in and engage with the site. Even if you were right at that particular point in time it tells me nothing about averages - just looking at the forum posts tells me it is nothing like a 15 to 1 ratio and if anything closer to the 50% ratio - which would suggest at least a little cognitive bias going on for a fair few members of e hard done by set on here - just because males tend to make more approaches on here does not necessarily translate to them being in the majority

We are open to messages from everyone. About 95% of our messages are from single men.

You're both way out IMHO, I'm afraid.

Looking at who is online now is flawed; men think about sex far more often of average than women, so it therefore reasonable that they will be logged in more often, giving skewed results. Also the very ratio means a certain number of men, I would guess at about 15% copy and paste carpet bomb every single female and couple within a certain radius. Whereas a lot of women do what I do and very rarely do they send out a first contact. So the stat of 95% of messages being from single chaps is also deeply flawed.

On the flip side, using the amount of people of either gender present on the forums won't give you an average result either; far from it. The forums probably wouldn't suggest even numbers anyway IMHO, about 1 woman to 3 men perhaps, but more women than men will want to interact socially in a less pressure environment to get a feel for others full stop and will also use this as a way to get a more well-rounded personal idea of what another forum user is like.

I think the only fairly accurate way of judging how many men per women are on site is to do a local search in several areas for users nearby fullstop and not just online now, and work out a mean average. I think this was done amongst forumites at a point in time a couple of years ago and the figure came out between 1 in 6 and 1 in 7. This doesn't however take into account the amount of fake profiles and bearing in mind that almost all fake profiles will be female, followed by couples (as how can a wind up merchant have much mischief with a single guys profile) I would then reason that the ratio would perhaps be in the region of 1 woman for every 8 - 9 guys or thereabouts."

I have done what you said in the last paragraph a few times and the figures always come out at something like 75% men 20% couples 5% women. When I have publicised those findings on here, people have done similar searches in their areas and come up with similar figures.

So we have a ratio of 1 single man to 15 single women and I man to3-4 couples.

Bearing in mind many couples will not meet single men and taking into account fakes your ratio of 1 mam to 8-9 genuine couples or women willing to meet them is probably about right..

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"On the flip side, using the amount of people of either gender present on the forums won't give you an average result either; far from it. The forums probably wouldn't suggest even numbers anyway IMHO, about 1 woman to 3 men perhaps, but more women than men will want to interact socially in a less pressure environment to get a feel for others full stop and will also use this as a way to get a more well-rounded personal idea of what another forum user is like.

I think the only fairly accurate way of judging how many men per women are on site is to do a local search in several areas for users nearby fullstop and not just online now, and work out a mean average. I think this was done amongst forumites at a point in time a couple of years ago and the figure came out between 1 in 6 and 1 in 7. This doesn't however take into account the amount of fake profiles and bearing in mind that almost all fake profiles will be female, followed by couples (as how can a wind up merchant have much mischief with a single guys profile) I would then reason that the ratio would perhaps be in the region of 1 woman for every 8 - 9 guys or thereabouts."

I never said the forums was an accurate reflection either -just that it does not seem to cirraborate the 15 to 1 ratio.

In terms of the general population, there is approximately a 50/50 split for single people (along gender lines) -so why would the forum conceivably be any different?

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"I think the only fairly accurate way of judging how many men per women are on site is to do a local search in several areas for users nearby fullstop and not just online now, and work out a mean average. I think this was done amongst forumites at a point in time a couple of years ago and the figure came out between 1 in 6 and 1 in 7. This doesn't however take into account the amount of fake profiles and bearing in mind that almost all fake profiles will be female, followed by couples (as how can a wind up merchant have much mischief with a single guys profile) I would then reason that the ratio would perhaps be in the region of 1 woman for every 8 - 9 guys or thereabouts."

I don't think this would work either as a lot may choose not to have their location broadcast -this is especially so for women who are fearful of their personal safety or may choose to have their profiles hidden

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Ladies, Is it true that you hold the power on fab hence you meet guys on your terms as in Who, when & how? who otherwise you wouldn’t have a chance to meet/date outside fab? "

Snap . They've got the power .

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"TI have done what you said in the last paragraph a few times and the figures always come out at something like 75% men 20% couples 5% women. When I have publicised those findings on here, people have done similar searches in their areas and come up with similar figures.

So we have a ratio of 1 single man to 15 single women and I man to3-4 couples.

Bearing in mind many couples will not meet single men and taking into account fakes your ratio of 1 mam to 8-9 genuine couples or women willing to meet them is probably about right.. "

Again this in no way accounts for hidden profiles or those that choose to not share their location -until the site itself gives us a real breakdown, all user surveys are just a wild guess and bear no reflection on reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very possibly FAB is the only place where equal opportunities /PC may not always apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the power to choose how I act and respond on here, as do others. No one holds holds your power unless you give it to them. Even then you have chosen to give it to them so you still have the power to choose even if you aren’t aware of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_BRv9wGf5pk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Snap's on Fab i'd say it was him, he seems to think so anyway.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"TI have done what you said in the last paragraph a few times and the figures always come out at something like 75% men 20% couples 5% women. When I have publicised those findings on here, people have done similar searches in their areas and come up with similar figures.

So we have a ratio of 1 single man to 15 single women and I man to3-4 couples.

Bearing in mind many couples will not meet single men and taking into account fakes your ratio of 1 mam to 8-9 genuine couples or women willing to meet them is probably about right..

Again this in no way accounts for hidden profiles or those that choose to not share their location -until the site itself gives us a real breakdown, all user surveys are just a wild guess and bear no reflection on reality."

Obviously, it's not 100% accurate, but it's not a wild guess either.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

There's no power imbalance, we all have free will and the choice to exercise it as we please.

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