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Apparently Britain has the lowest breast feeding rate in the world

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By *aptain V OP   Man
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?"

It's not going to be taken up when so many people opening sneer at it. My recent grandson started off being breastfed but after his mum received practically no support from any medical areas and got tutted at by people when trying to feed him out and about she gave up.

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By *aptain V OP   Man
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?

It's not going to be taken up when so many people opening sneer at it. My recent grandson started off being breastfed but after his mum received practically no support from any medical areas and got tutted at by people when trying to feed him out and about she gave up. "

I don't understand why other people are so bothered by it. It's a natural thing and a baby needs to be fed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is"

Agreed, I found rather than being shamed for breastfeeding, I was made to feel guilty for not trying hard enough to do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it for the first 6 mths

I did get a lot of support from my midwife as well and luckily had no problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?

It's not going to be taken up when so many people opening sneer at it. My recent grandson started off being breastfed but after his mum received practically no support from any medical areas and got tutted at by people when trying to feed him out and about she gave up. "

I think all the recent publicity is only likely to make people sneer at it more ... for example the model walking down the runway breast feeding ... what was the point ... to me it sent the message this is a spectacle to be gawped at more than anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?"

I think it makes a difference what the women in your family do - if as a child it is normal that your brothers and sisters are breastfed then you are more likely to yourself as a woman. I breastfed my daughter for 15 months and never considered using a bottle - my husband at the time wasn't used to this and didn't really want me to. It should be a woman's choice but I loved it - easier to do for night feeds and gives you a very close connection to your baby. Buy I was a stay at home Mum and if you return to work it makes it more difficult.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is"

I bottle fed mine he is big strong and healthy only one filling where as i had lots at his age.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is"

In high-income countries breastfeeding reduces the risk of sudden infant deaths by more than a third. In the UK there are around 220 deaths a year from SIDs

It may also increase intelligence, and protect against obesity and diabetes in later life. For mothers, longer-duration breastfeeding reduces the risks of breast cancer and ovarian cancer.

(Source The Lancet)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the only woman in a ward of four that didn’t breastfeed and I was made to feel guilty. I just wasn’t comfortable and to have forced me wouldn’t have been beneficial to my child. He was very hungry so I doubt that I would have been enough for him anyway.

But breastfeeding is seen as something to be hidden away here and until that culture changes it will not be as popular x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is

In high-income countries breastfeeding reduces the risk of sudden infant deaths by more than a third. In the UK there are around 220 deaths a year from SIDs

It may also increase intelligence, and protect against obesity and diabetes in later life. For mothers, longer-duration breastfeeding reduces the risks of breast cancer and ovarian cancer.

(Source The Lancet)

So it may not actually proven then."

Its probably a more reliable source of speculation than many! After all nature intended it to be?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is

In high-income countries breastfeeding reduces the risk of sudden infant deaths by more than a third. In the UK there are around 220 deaths a year from SIDs

It may also increase intelligence, and protect against obesity and diabetes in later life. For mothers, longer-duration breastfeeding reduces the risks of breast cancer and ovarian cancer.

(Source The Lancet)

"

My sons inteligent compared to me, very inteligent not overweight either, maybe it was just luck or lots of other things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breastfed our boy till he was 21 months old anywhere and everywhere I had. In the cafe, sitting on the bench in the high street and never had any odd looks or anything. The only place I've been asked to go to breastfeed in a private room (by the staff) was at the hospital while in the A&E waiting room

Of all places it was the last one I was expecting anybody to say something

Mrs

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By *aptain V OP   Man
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester


"I breastfed our boy till he was 21 months old anywhere and everywhere I had. In the cafe, sitting on the bench in the high street and never had any odd looks or anything. The only place I've been asked to go to breastfeed in a private room (by the staff) was at the hospital while in the A&E waiting room

Of all places it was the last one I was expecting anybody to say something

Mrs"

There needs to be a cultural change and education about topic

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I breast feed both my children my daughter till she was two and my till one.

I personally believe it's the best thing for a baby not only does the baby get exactly what their bodies need they also develop a bond.

At the end of the day it comes down to the mothers wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?"

Is this article saying that Britain has the lowest breast-feeding rate overall, or the lowest breast-feeding in public rate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dispatches are doing a documentary on this subject.

Are women giving up on breastfeeding in favour of the bottle ?

It's not going to be taken up when so many people opening sneer at it. My recent grandson started off being breastfed but after his mum received practically no support from any medical areas and got tutted at by people when trying to feed him out and about she gave up.

I think all the recent publicity is only likely to make people sneer at it more ... for example the model walking down the runway breast feeding ... what was the point ... to me it sent the message this is a spectacle to be gawped at more than anything "

Chrissy Teigen was in the papers "naked and breastfeeding". I think it was sexualised and the wrong message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Formulas are that good now i cant see what the issue is"

You would think that 'breast is best' but i also hear that cases of rickets in children are on the rise because vitamin D is not found in breast milk but is a supplement added to formula.

Whatever your stance is regarding the subject i don't think it's acceptable to stigmatise new mothers for the choice they make either way. They already have enough to cope with without being made to feel bad about what is no more than a choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not surprised, lots of factors contribute to this. It wasn’t that that long ago breastfeeding women had to feed in the toilet area if out in public...!

We’re having babies later and going back to work, not easy to fit feeding / expressing into that kind of routine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breast fed both of mine, but it is really hard. You get told it's the most natural thing in the world so it should be easy. That's absolutely not always the case. I nearly gave up loads of times.

As long as the baby is fed it really shouldn't matter how it's done. Being a new mum is hard enough without added pressure if being made to feel guilty about breast feeding.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

I tried & couldn't. Even with help. I was devastated. Mine were bottlefed my expressed breast milk until it dried up @6 weeks. Youngest had really bad reflux & ended up on prescription formula.

This country needs to get over it’s issues with breastfeeding & baby feeding in general. There’s enough pressure as a new parent as it is

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to wonder how working mums cope. It's easy enough to express into a bottle but in my experience once a baby's been on the teat it's a nightmare getting them to accept the nipple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to wonder how working mums cope. It's easy enough to express into a bottle but in my experience once a baby's been on the teat it's a nightmare getting them to accept the nipple."

In the uk women are entitled to 12 months maternity leave before they return to work ... by which point its likely the baby will have some teeth ... why you would want it on the nipple with teeth is beyond me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still breastfeed my twins xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to wonder how working mums cope. It's easy enough to express into a bottle but in my experience once a baby's been on the teat it's a nightmare getting them to accept the nipple.

In the uk women are entitled to 12 months maternity leave before they return to work ... by which point its likely the baby will have some teeth ... why you would want it on the nipple with teeth is beyond me "

Judging by all the gadgets on the market there must be plenty who're expressing. I would have thought that consistency in a baby's routine was far more important than what they're actually being fed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that the guilt I had from not breastfeeding was terrible and I felt pressured by professionals and others to keep trying. I breastfed my son for a week, the majority of that week he was crying all the time and constantly trying to feed. I decided to express to see what was going on - after a hour I had only produced 1oz of milk. My mum went out and got formula. I tried to just do formula top up as pressured by the midwife but gave up in the end. I was only 19 and the pressure that was put on me and I was made to feel like a bad mum for not being able to feed.

So I'm answer to the OP I think it should be the mother's choice with no judgement either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breastfed both of our babies. Adam was fantastically supportive and I'm lucky that there was plenty of support from medical professionals too. I trained to be a breast feeding supporter to help other ladies that were struggling or just wanted to chat to other breastfeeding mums.

My midwife in the hospital with my eldest child made me feel like an inconvenience for wanting to breastfeed. She didn't ask my preference and just brought me a bottle. She literally shoved my baby at my breast and was awful!

I did get flack for breast feeding from non breastfeeding mums, crazy really. Not sure why it's anyone else's business as to how you feed your own baby.

Breastfeed, bottle feed, public or private.. it's the mother's choice and everyone else should mind their own business.

The trouble is that people will always get defensive over their actions and tear chunks out of others to make themselves feel justified. Hence why the media bring the subject up so much, they know it's controversial and turns parent against parent.

Do you and mind your own business. (also, don't like breastfeeding in public? Don't look!)

Eve. x

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I fed both of mine till they got teeth and tit was replaced by teat... but the both were 9/10 months old when I stopped. I was lucky as they both were good feeders.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I fed all of mine, was even invited to attend anti natal classes by the midwife to talk to pregnant mums about the pros & cons, and show how it easy it was.

I happily fed them wherever we were.

I was also very good at silencing the odd few who make various unneeded comments.

Did I do because it was best? Well it was a factor, but my main reason... Lazy!

Figured babies were hard enough work, without all that boiling water, cooling water, scrubbing & sterilising bottles, mixing powders, carrying huge bags round with me, then trying to find somewhere to get it warmed up while out.

Lord no, pop em on ya tit & job done

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I worked on a maternity ward for a lot of years until I recently changed to another area of healthcare.

Women used to come In with such weird notions ‘people say the nurses will shout at you if you use a baby wipe and not cotton wool’ was one I heard a lot.

we really won’t.... same goes for feeding, disposable/washable nappies, those weirdos that put shoes on a baby that’s 3 hours old.

What DID recently happen... which maddened me... was they were giving cash incentives to women to breastfeed... £200 I think.

It’s tossers that make these ‘statements’ that get me... remember the girl in the swimming pool and the waves came on??

Just do what you want, discreetly and do it for yourself and your babe. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was fortunate enough to be able to breast feed my children but it's not always possible, its definitely frowned upon here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breast fed one for 20 months. My other one, I tried countless times to feed, but despite desperately trying, my little one became under weight, as she was not getting enough nutrients. On the advice of the midwife and Health visitor, i did combination feeding for a couple of weeks, just to get her weight up. Despite also expressing my breast milk, it did dry up very quickly. It was very difficult for me, given I'd breast fed my other one. The guilt was tremendous. The fact that there is so much pressure for mother's to breast feed and formula from birth is actually banned from being advertised, to encourage Mother's breastfeeding their babies, just fed into my feelings of failure as a mother. I wish they had the balance right. Not guilt tripping Mother's to breast feeding. Yes, we all know breast is best, but not all of us have a choice in the matter. New Mother's have hormones galore upon giving birth. They don't also need the added guilt of being made to feel like crap, on how they decide to feed their baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to individuals, there's no wrong or right way. If mum is happy and comfortable than baby will be!

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"I fed all of mine, was even invited to attend anti natal classes by the midwife to talk to pregnant mums about the pros & cons, and show how it easy it was.

I happily fed them wherever we were.

I was also very good at silencing the odd few who make various unneeded comments.

Did I do because it was best? Well it was a factor, but my main reason... Lazy!

Figured babies were hard enough work, without all that boiling water, cooling water, scrubbing & sterilising bottles, mixing powders, carrying huge bags round with me, then trying to find somewhere to get it warmed up while out.

Lord no, pop em on ya tit & job done "

Ha ha .... I'm glad I'm not the only self confessed 'lazy' mum out there! I have to admit my main motivation for breast feeding each of mine was to avoid all the faff which accompanies bottle feeding and also so that wherever we were, whatever we were doing, I'd never run out of food for my babies. Plus, it was free!

Having said that, I fully appreciate not all women are able, or willing, to breast feed and they certainly shouldn't be made to feel guilty for their choices which can be due to myriad circumstances. On the other hand, it does make me feel sad that a number of women who *want* to breast feed aren't necessarily getting the support they might need to fulfil this - whether that's from medical professionals in the early days, or from society later on. Whatever a woman may personally prefer to do, there's no denying that breast feeding is completely natural and it's ridiculous women are still sometimes being made to feel awkward or even 'ashamed' about feeding their babies this way.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I feel breastfeeding is like marmite and you either think ‘aww’ or ‘urgh’ and that is that really

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