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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Women are no better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flick your bean hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better. "

Why is nobody honest anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

Are you saying women don't cheat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both as bad as each other.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

I've been asking that question since my divorce 17 years on I'm still no wiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

We both find your pictures very attractive.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's not that their married that means that they don't quit. Some men, and I'm sure women, don't desist if they think that it's worth another go.

Just block and forget them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive."

And that, ladies and gentlemen, wins the non sequitur of the day award!

Honestly?

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

I am. 100%!

I absolutely have to be or my Wife wouldn't like it. Total openness at all times. She has my logon and browses what I've been up to and she always tells me about any fun she has had or is hoping to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

Are you saying women don't cheat?"

Um, no.. she isn’t..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, wins the non sequitur of the day award!

Honestly? "

Thanks, is there a prize ?

Honesty’s the best policy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

Are you saying women don't cheat?"

Nonif you read the thread it was in reply to women being the same.. the question was a general one.. hence the use of ‘anybody’

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive."

Ha thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not that their married that means that they don't quit. Some men, and I'm sure women, don't desist if they think that it's worth another go.

Just block and forget them.

"

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal "

You mean the ones sneaking behind their wives back? I agree. Each to their own and all but I couldn’t knowingly meet a married person who was cheating on their other half.

I just don’t agree with it. And when you politely say no thanks they say something like “She will never know, it’ll be our secret” which makes it worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

You’re meeting strangers off the internet, why are you surprised?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing."

I’m not adverse to that

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It is mainly men who lie on a sex site mainly because the demographics mean women can say anything and still get sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

You’re meeting strangers off the internet, why are you surprised?"

Because I’m honest, and by default, a little naive

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By *olice_997Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

I've been asking that question since my divorce 17 years on I'm still no wiser"

I don’t think any of us ever will be

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By *olice_997Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *olice_997Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, wins the non sequitur of the day award!

Honestly? "
ha ha that’s a good one! Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, wins the non sequitur of the day award!

Honestly? ha ha that’s a good one! Ha "

The Police is here

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

Because we are all animals and hormones are great at overcoming intellect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing.

I’m not adverse to that "

I think there are ways you can root out the bad liars. Things like being able to accommodate. Being able to see you at the weekend. Being emotionally available. They're not infallible indicators. But they can help.

After that though you're just left with the truly single and the devilishly good liars. I guess it's a bit of a dangerous cocktail. I suppose that's why it's down to us guys who are genuinely single to go that extra mile somehow in putting women at ease that we're not devilish liars. Dunno

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing."

There really isn't. The *widower* I met is a case in point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

We both find your pictures very attractive.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, wins the non sequitur of the day award!

Honestly?

Thanks, is there a prize ?

Honesty’s the best policy "

Don't worry I did exactly the same thing to the op on another thread She does look lovely doesn't she... as do you guys

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal "

I'm pretty sure the poor wife does too

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing."

Sometimes there is, I’ve got it on my profile so youn choose to hate me up front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m married "
so you are ma'am

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing.

Sometimes there is, I’ve got it on my profile so youn choose to hate me up front "

I know single men who pretend to be attached to avoid attachments forming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing.

I’m not adverse to that

I think there are ways you can root out the bad liars. Things like being able to accommodate. Being able to see you at the weekend. Being emotionally available. They're not infallible indicators. But they can help.

After that though you're just left with the truly single and the devilishly good liars. I guess it's a bit of a dangerous cocktail. I suppose that's why it's down to us guys who are genuinely single to go that extra mile somehow in putting women at ease that we're not devilish liars. Dunno "

That’s exactly what a good liar would say... hmmm

Oh bugger so was that!

Shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on! "

I must agree with you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some reason here in hull it's been inundated with married woman. Looking to play away.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on! "

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

"

It's a shame really, inequality

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality "

Man made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality

Man made.

"

Man made? or Human?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality

Man made.

Man made? or Human?"

The inequality of married women on here being seen as a huge turn on by men and, therefore, treated differently to married women is just human? I don't see many women putting them on pedestals and being turned on by them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal "

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an interesting thing about honesty in here.

Lot of women have on their profile ' married and he doesn't know ' and they have plenty if verifications.

However when me state they are married it seems to be harder to get meets.

Just an observation not a judgement.

Im single by the way OP !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

Faf? "

Will no one take this utterly ravishing woman seriously?

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By *olice_997Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I find a married man a huge turn on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality

Man made.

Man made? or Human?

The inequality of married women on here being seen as a huge turn on by men and, therefore, treated differently to married women is just human? I don't see many women putting them on pedestals and being turned on by them.

"

I do see women putting men down though? that makes each just as bad as the other in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

Faf? "

Are you married?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

Faf?

Will no one take this utterly ravishing woman seriously?

"

It would appear not

And thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with. "

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's an interesting thing about honesty in here.

Lot of women have on their profile ' married and he doesn't know ' and they have plenty if verifications.

However when me state they are married it seems to be harder to get meets.

Just an observation not a judgement.

Im single by the way OP !!!

"

Is that the truth tho?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality

Man made.

Man made? or Human?

The inequality of married women on here being seen as a huge turn on by men and, therefore, treated differently to married women is just human? I don't see many women putting them on pedestals and being turned on by them.

I do see women putting men down though? that makes each just as bad as the other in my eyes"

I agree on that point but your response what to my comment on your post that you find married women a HUGE turn on. The man made is purely about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[confiscated by the police at 27/07/18 17:21:48]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a married Lady a HUGE turn on!

It appears a lot of men do. It's why they are treated differently, on here, to married men.

It's a shame really, inequality

Man made.

Man made? or Human?

The inequality of married women on here being seen as a huge turn on by men and, therefore, treated differently to married women is just human? I don't see many women putting them on pedestals and being turned on by them.

I do see women putting men down though? that makes each just as bad as the other in my eyes

I agree on that point but your response what to my comment on your post that you find married women a HUGE turn on. The man made is purely about that.

"

Ok I understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I lie to you OP !! Plus im the worst liar ever so you'd know fairly quickly.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Husbands and wives cheat in the real world too, it’s not confined to Fab.

You could walk in to a bar and meet a guy and know nothing about him apart from what he chooses to tell you.

It’s personal choice who you meet on here and what you disclose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

Faf?

Will no one take this utterly ravishing woman seriously?

It would appear not

And thank you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "
What you don't know doesn't hurt you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore What you don't know doesn't hurt you "

Yeah that’s true..

But when it’s disclosed and they still expect the same outcome that I’m talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore What you don't know doesn't hurt you "

But it can potentially hurt someone else, if they were to find out. The woman is the slut making it with hubby... Even when they had no idea. It's completely wrong to me. People have the right to decide if they want to enable cheating or not

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Because this is how people treat the person they "love"...grow a pair of balls thats what I say. Or you can just hope their partners are fucking them over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Husbands and wives cheat in the real world too, it’s not confined to Fab.

You could walk in to a bar and meet a guy and know nothing about him apart from what he chooses to tell you.

It’s personal choice who you meet on here and what you disclose. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?"

Already have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?"

By that line of thinking, I take it you’re very single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

By that line of thinking, I take it you’re very single "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'ark at all the clean shirts on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?"

Some are and have been. It’s only on fab that I’ve come across more deceitful people than anywhere else. I met my ex husband online and the guy before him, they ticked the boxes and were totally single.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?"

Maybe not though lots of men like being single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But but but... what if I buy you flowers first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

By that line of thinking, I take it you’re very single "

I like you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore What you don't know doesn't hurt you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m married so you are ma'am "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

Some are and have been. It’s only on fab that I’ve come across more deceitful people than anywhere else. I met my ex husband online and the guy before him, they ticked the boxes and were totally single."

Ok great..... that means you stood out to these guys and something good happened....

My experience with female friends that do online dating is that all the great guys they meet always are married or attracted in some way.....

I just advise them to enjoy the ride until it’s over. But still date other people until you find the person you want....

This is a swinging site.... most people come here for sex. Try to get the sex you want and if something more happens it’s a bonus.... if people have less expectations they will not be disappointed....

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore

It's a website for sexually related activities. People will lie.

If you're bothered by people who are married then you really will have to do a lot of homework before you meet people as there is no guaranteed way of knowing."

Some married guys say as much on their profile, well I do anyway. I’m bisexual and she doesn’t like it. So getting that itch scratched elsewhere is tolerated so long as it’s drama free, no one comes to our home and I stay safe at all times.

Agree there are many of both sexes sneaking around behind partners backs. Persistent contact with someone who has ignored or deleted your message isn’t going to make them change their mind.

Forget it, them and move on.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Hand up, I’m married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

Some are and have been. It’s only on fab that I’ve come across more deceitful people than anywhere else. I met my ex husband online and the guy before him, they ticked the boxes and were totally single.

Ok great..... that means you stood out to these guys and something good happened....

My experience with female friends that do online dating is that all the great guys they meet always are married or attracted in some way.....

I just advise them to enjoy the ride until it’s over. But still date other people until you find the person you want....

This is a swinging site.... most people come here for sex. Try to get the sex you want and if something more happens it’s a bonus.... if people have less expectations they will not be disappointed...."

Exactly, I use this the same way I use other sites. I want a swinging partner but with a regular everyday relationship. If I find it here then great but I tend to find guys into most things on normal dating sites. Just harder these days to find a good match. I like younger guys but don’t want kids. That’s the biggest hurdle I’m finding.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal "

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same."

Not the point though is it?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

Why is nobody honest anymore "

Honestly? I don't know

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By *endoverhappyMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I like cheese cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like cheese cake "

Me too! With melted chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?

Some are and have been. It’s only on fab that I’ve come across more deceitful people than anywhere else. I met my ex husband online and the guy before him, they ticked the boxes and were totally single.

Ok great..... that means you stood out to these guys and something good happened....

My experience with female friends that do online dating is that all the great guys they meet always are married or attracted in some way.....

I just advise them to enjoy the ride until it’s over. But still date other people until you find the person you want....

This is a swinging site.... most people come here for sex. Try to get the sex you want and if something more happens it’s a bonus.... if people have less expectations they will not be disappointed....

Exactly, I use this the same way I use other sites. I want a swinging partner but with a regular everyday relationship. If I find it here then great but I tend to find guys into most things on normal dating sites. Just harder these days to find a good match. I like younger guys but don’t want kids. That’s the biggest hurdle I’m finding. "

That’s my problem also when dating..... I don’t want children or marriage for another 5-6 years and most women 35 and above don’t want to hear it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs"

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans."

I had been meeting with a man a few times and when I had gotten out of hospital last year I wouldn’t meet him as I was unwell. He eventually said ‘my wife’s moody, I don’t need you being moody too!’ Eh, what wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans.

I had been meeting with a man a few times and when I had gotten out of hospital last year I wouldn’t meet him as I was unwell. He eventually said ‘my wife’s moody, I don’t need you being moody too!’ Eh, what wife? "

Hahaha crazy tales of the fab world. ...When I found out a guy had a wife, when he opened his laptop with a picture of them both on the screen this was after many many meets. ...When I confronted him (naked in a jacuzzi, so he couldn't flea) he replied "don't worry we won't name the baby after you!". Some people just have no shame. They want their cake and a doughnut on the dick as well .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same."

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "

I was completely open about it when I first joined, even posted a thread trying to explain my situation but apart from a private supporting message from a rather nice lady, which I'll never forget, was pretty much ripped apart, so I can understand why someone isn't open.

S

Now my situation is different I'm not going to be hypocritical about those who are married on here, judge everyone individually I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans.

I had been meeting with a man a few times and when I had gotten out of hospital last year I wouldn’t meet him as I was unwell. He eventually said ‘my wife’s moody, I don’t need you being moody too!’ Eh, what wife?

Hahaha crazy tales of the fab world. ...When I found out a guy had a wife, when he opened his laptop with a picture of them both on the screen this was after many many meets. ...When I confronted him (naked in a jacuzzi, so he couldn't flea) he replied "don't worry we won't name the baby after you!". Some people just have no shame. They want their cake and a doughnut on the dick as well ."

Oh my lord

I was meeting with someone I actually knew for years before fab...knew he used to be married and he had kids. Was very open about the fact that cheating ended his marriage. We met a few times, and guess what? His girlfriend is due their baby next month he told me this in his car, an hour drive away from my house. Fun car journey home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to try and consule my non cheating mind with things like, it's their demons and not mine but I'm not buffy and it's not like these promiscuous fuckers glow in the dark. So no way of knowing truly, unless like another OP said you dig around to find out, who's got time for that unless you're an extra in fatal attraction!. I just don't meet now, as it's easier that way, to not be involved in threesomes, without the other woman not knowing.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with. "

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans.

I had been meeting with a man a few times and when I had gotten out of hospital last year I wouldn’t meet him as I was unwell. He eventually said ‘my wife’s moody, I don’t need you being moody too!’ Eh, what wife?

Hahaha crazy tales of the fab world. ...When I found out a guy had a wife, when he opened his laptop with a picture of them both on the screen this was after many many meets. ...When I confronted him (naked in a jacuzzi, so he couldn't flea) he replied "don't worry we won't name the baby after you!". Some people just have no shame. They want their cake and a doughnut on the dick as well .

Oh my lord

I was meeting with someone I actually knew for years before fab...knew he used to be married and he had kids. Was very open about the fact that cheating ended his marriage. We met a few times, and guess what? His girlfriend is due their baby next month he told me this in his car, an hour drive away from my house. Fun car journey home!"

I just feel for the women and also hope they are doing the same if not more, otherwise poor fools. We can only walk our own path and avoid the dog muck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

So today, the guy id been talking to for about a week asked me to add him on instagram.. I like this shit, I like to know people are real..

Then he went ‘you my see shit on there tho, like my bird’

Ffs

I had similar recently. ...to be boggled with pictures of his (stunning btw) girlfriend and their NEW born baby hahahah. I can only put these people down, as having a slipped disk of the brain block/block and I don't waste much longer trying to figure out odd humans.

I had been meeting with a man a few times and when I had gotten out of hospital last year I wouldn’t meet him as I was unwell. He eventually said ‘my wife’s moody, I don’t need you being moody too!’ Eh, what wife?

Hahaha crazy tales of the fab world. ...When I found out a guy had a wife, when he opened his laptop with a picture of them both on the screen this was after many many meets. ...When I confronted him (naked in a jacuzzi, so he couldn't flea) he replied "don't worry we won't name the baby after you!". Some people just have no shame. They want their cake and a doughnut on the dick as well .

Oh my lord

I was meeting with someone I actually knew for years before fab...knew he used to be married and he had kids. Was very open about the fact that cheating ended his marriage. We met a few times, and guess what? His girlfriend is due their baby next month he told me this in his car, an hour drive away from my house. Fun car journey home!

I just feel for the women and also hope they are doing the same if not more, otherwise poor fools. We can only walk our own path and avoid the dog muck."

Oh turns out his ex wife had warned the new girlfriend exactly how bad it had been and said if she ever needs to chat, she’s there. And he does this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True story.

Married man met a woman, told her a lie that his wife has passed away. On their sex date he went back home to find his wife dead on the sofa. His last missed calls were from her, obviously he never answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deceitful people are everywhere not just here, many married women and men here cheating some however are here with permission, some are couples, for me a single guy it's their choice if they tell me or not but still ultimately it's their choice, this isn't a moral life but we are all just about adults

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start "

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

I was talking to a friend about this last week. It's not whether they're married or not, it's whether they tell you or not.

Then, you have a choice.

I just find it strange, that on here of all places, people can't be honest And not specifically relating to relationship status. It's such a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m going to play devils advocate here.....

Ladies if you meet a guy online that ticks all the right boxes...

Handsome, smart , successful , caring, and funny.....

Would you expect him to be totally single?"

I must admit that the single guys I have met from Fab have not appealed to me - most of them have been very immature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont care if there married its there family not mine and there reasons are there own

So doesnt bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore "
because lies get you everything these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there not a way of sussing out even the most devilishly good liars? Are such people spiritual? Do they exhibit good moral behaviour in other situations?

Unfortunately the truth is that, like psychopaths, they so utterly lack empathy or remorse that they simply look around at what tricks they have to pull in order to appear genuine and assimilate them. If appearing spiritual or moral does it... that's what they'll do to cover their tracks. You only have to look at that fucking cunt from the church of England who's in the news at the moment to see how far some monsters are willing to go to wear the best disguise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t care it’s their business. I know of a few men on here that are people just assume they are single but they’ve been more than happy to say they’re married x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I hear, dating sights are just the same. Personally I’d be more pissed off meeting someone who was attached on POF thinking I could have a relationship with them than meeting someone for a casual dalliance on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what I hear, dating sights are just the same. Personally I’d be more pissed off meeting someone who was attached on POF thinking I could have a relationship with them than meeting someone for a casual dalliance on here.

"
you can get a relationship here to the sites ultimately are all the same, this one's just got a more honest title

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

"

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'? "

Yes!

There used to be one of those down here. The difference was that quite a few men did go on and continued to meet her. It works sometimes, just as it does for the men.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

"

In my experience, the two questions I receive the most are;

What kind of lady do you prefer?

and;

Are you married/attached?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'? "

Lol!

There was a guy who messaged today telling his true age as I like older guys and his profile was out by 8 years. I’m wondering if he really expected me to meet him when he’s lied about his age! Such a put off!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'?

Yes!

There used to be one of those down here. The difference was that quite a few men did go on and continued to meet her. It works sometimes, just as it does for the men.

"

Good for them lol! Unfortunately for this lady, my car was parked on a meter, so I didn't have much time to chat, and when I got back online, I blocked her.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'?

Lol!

There was a guy who messaged today telling his true age as I like older guys and his profile was out by 8 years. I’m wondering if he really expected me to meet him when he’s lied about his age! Such a put off!"

My point entirely; what else have they lied about

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t find married women more or less attractive but I do like the fact that it’s much more likely to be a NSA relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

Similar to the woman I met for a social this morning then, who has her age set at 51. Did she really think I would either not notice how much older she actually is, or was she hoping I was one of those guys for whom 'every hole's a goal'?

Lol!

There was a guy who messaged today telling his true age as I like older guys and his profile was out by 8 years. I’m wondering if he really expected me to meet him when he’s lied about his age! Such a put off!

My point entirely; what else have they lied about "

This is exactly my thought when I find out.

Instant block for me!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I don’t find married women more or less attractive but I do like the fact that it’s much more likely to be a NSA relationship "

Men arent normally bothered anyhow its not just you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

In my experience, the two questions I receive the most are;

What kind of lady do you prefer?

and;

Are you married/attached?

"

I don't think I've ever been asked once in all my time here.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

In my experience, the two questions I receive the most are;

What kind of lady do you prefer?

and;

Are you married/attached?

I don't think I've ever been asked once in all my time here."

Maybe you look god like honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what I hear, dating sights are just the same. Personally I’d be more pissed off meeting someone who was attached on POF thinking I could have a relationship with them than meeting someone for a casual dalliance on here.

"

Exactly this....

Some of the things i have seen/read on here does make me wonder if some folk are naive about expectations from site such as this.... or if its that I am just a cynical old bat that doesnt fall for bullshit?!

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on..."

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating."

Some of us couldn’t do that to a poor woman sat at home not knowing what her husband is up to.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham

In terms of honesty. This site has a lot of men. If they thought they'd stand a better chance being honest then they would. As this shows, women are a lot less tolerant to married people than men are. So they lie to improve their appeal.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"

Some of us couldn’t do that to a poor woman sat at home not knowing what her husband is up to. "

Your concern for the husband beater/cheating wife does you good.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating."

And yet, in all likelihood, if/when his adultery is exposed it's the woman who gets blamed.

I don't judge why married people are on here. Life is complicated. I chat to married people on the fora, by pm and have met them at socials. All are as bad for the ignorant partner so it would be hypocritical to denounce them. I just ask that they tell me so I can make an informed judgement about meeting them. Angry partners at my door is not what I have signed up for.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

And yet, in all likelihood, if/when his adultery is exposed it's the woman who gets blamed.

"

Yes and that is wrong. But isn't that more likely with a "traditional" affair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although they wouldn't necessarily admit it, lots of women on Fab are happy to have sex with guys if there's the option that, should they fall in love, it could lead to a relationship. That seems like a perfectly reasonable attitude to me and I, like a small but very sexy minority of guys on here , are totally happy to agree to that.

If you're not willing to be open to potentially having a relationship, whether you're incapable of doing this or you just don't want to, then it's totally within the rights of these women to not want to meet you. You're not in it for the same reason they are. End of story.

You may disagree with this approach, and may even feel it doesn't belong here, but the better approach is simply to seek out women who aren't coming from this angle and genuinely aren't bothered if you're married or not interested in having a relationship.

That's just my take on it. So I could be wrong. But I thought I'd chip in to see if it helped guys get their heads round why they may be looking at this all wrong

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By *yd Charisse 10Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

The world is full of lies its life in the words of miss marple I not believe a word anyone said to me for years its less trouble that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is mainly men who lie on a sex site mainly because the demographics mean women can say anything and still get sex "

Looking forward to the fact based research on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is mainly men who lie on a sex site mainly because the demographics mean women can say anything and still get sex

Looking forward to the fact based research on this one"
ooooooof me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walks in, turns around and immediately exits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating."

His adultery isn’t the issue. Nobody was proposing a long term relationship, least of all me.

But once I know about a girl and have seen pictures of her, for me, morally, there’s no way I could knowingly continue. I don’t want to be his enabler thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

His adultery isn’t the issue. Nobody was proposing a long term relationship, least of all me.

But once I know about a girl and have seen pictures of her, for me, morally, there’s no way I could knowingly continue. I don’t want to be his enabler thanks "

That’s perfectly understandable.

You mentioned earlier up the thread you were new & a little naive at times, has reading through some of the comments on here enlightened you to what the site can be about?

Personally, having seen what some people are capabale of from here, I wouldn’t let random strangers have access to my other social media pages, just be a little careful that’s all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

His adultery isn’t the issue. Nobody was proposing a long term relationship, least of all me.

But once I know about a girl and have seen pictures of her, for me, morally, there’s no way I could knowingly continue. I don’t want to be his enabler thanks

That’s perfectly understandable.

You mentioned earlier up the thread you were new & a little naive at times, has reading through some of the comments on here enlightened you to what the site can be about?

Personally, having seen what some people are capabale of from here, I wouldn’t let random strangers have access to my other social media pages, just be a little careful that’s all.

"

Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

His adultery isn’t the issue. Nobody was proposing a long term relationship, least of all me.

But once I know about a girl and have seen pictures of her, for me, morally, there’s no way I could knowingly continue. I don’t want to be his enabler thanks

That’s perfectly understandable.

You mentioned earlier up the thread you were new & a little naive at times, has reading through some of the comments on here enlightened you to what the site can be about?

Personally, having seen what some people are capabale of from here, I wouldn’t let random strangers have access to my other social media pages, just be a little careful that’s all.

"
I know some here are despicable

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"As long as they are honest on their profiles, i don't care. It's when they are deceptive and try to pretend that they are not attached/married, that i get pissed off with.

I don't know why people try to make out they're single, when they're not. It is a complete waste of time. Better to be upfront about it from the start

I believe it's because they like the secret, hope to get some sex before being found out, and then hope they have done enough to keep the person happy to still meet them.

In my experience, the two questions I receive the most are;

What kind of lady do you prefer?

and;

Are you married/attached?

I don't think I've ever been asked once in all my time here."

Maybe it’s a Northern thing

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

And yet, in all likelihood, if/when his adultery is exposed it's the woman who gets blamed.

Yes and that is wrong. But isn't that more likely with a "traditional" affair? "

Not only. There have been cases of wives finding Fab, seeking out the regular meet and contacting them on here and by phone.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’m in an open marriage have been for the past 6yrs we play separately because that’s what we prefer, I am honest about it on my profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people "

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"

Why is nobody honest anymore "

We're both married

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I'm married and that fact is on my profile.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Although they wouldn't necessarily admit it, lots of women on Fab are happy to have sex with guys if there's the option that, should they fall in love, it could lead to a relationship. That seems like a perfectly reasonable attitude to me and I, like a small but very sexy minority of guys on here , are totally happy to agree to that.

If you're not willing to be open to potentially having a relationship, whether you're incapable of doing this or you just don't want to, then it's totally within the rights of these women to not want to meet you. You're not in it for the same reason they are. End of story.

You may disagree with this approach, and may even feel it doesn't belong here, but the better approach is simply to seek out women who aren't coming from this angle and genuinely aren't bothered if you're married or not interested in having a relationship.

That's just my take on it. So I could be wrong. But I thought I'd chip in to see if it helped guys get their heads round why they may be looking at this all wrong "

Yup, aside from all the moral reasons for not wanting to meet attached men there's that selfish one - no way I want to risk falling for someone attached, I've seen friends waste years on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm "

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry, even if Dick has a nice dick. "

Better to be wary than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry, even if Dick has a nice dick.

Better to be wary than sorry. "

Maybe I was taking the quote out of context. Still in my pre-coffee silk robes bunny slippers and curlers so not quite up to speed over here yet But I try not to see the world through a cynical lens. That's just a general statement. Now where's that cappuccino?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry, even if Dick has a nice dick.

Better to be wary than sorry.

Maybe I was taking the quote out of context. Still in my pre-coffee silk robes bunny slippers and curlers so not quite up to speed over here yet But I try not to see the world through a cynical lens. That's just a general statement. Now where's the dick of Dick to put milk in my cappuccino? "

Only you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drama drama drama.... no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drama drama drama.... no thanks! "
. Pretty much my view

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry."

I’m

Not saying I’m not wary..

Choosing to see the good in people until proven otherwise isn’t a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time."

I often think those that are adverse to playing with married people should clearly state that in their profile. However, it won't stop people lying though, but genuine people like yourself would take note and not bother them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal

What kind of relationship were you after with him? How much of it would be in public?

If he'd been single, his personality (to you) etc would be exactly the same.

Well at the point in question I had no idea. And had he not disclosed it then I’d have been none the wiser.. but once he’d told me he saw nothing wrong with us just carrying on...

So you found someone you liked. He wasn't proposing a long term relationship. You wouldn't be exclusive swingers. If he made you happy, I don't understand what his adultery would have to do with you. You're not cheating.

And yet, in all likelihood, if/when his adultery is exposed it's the woman who gets blamed.

I don't judge why married people are on here. Life is complicated. I chat to married people on the fora, by pm and have met them at socials. All are as bad for the ignorant partner so it would be hypocritical to denounce them. I just ask that they tell me so I can make an informed judgement about meeting them. Angry partners at my door is not what I have signed up for.

"

Exactly this.

I do not want to be on the recieving end of the wifes anger or abuse.

I’ve seen it happen to someone else and rather than the wife berate her husband for playing away she gave the woman hell for months until she had to report her to the police.

I’ll stick to single man thanks. Of course, I don’t know for sure if the men I meet are all single, nobody will. But if I see “Married & playing away” or get a message from a man saying he’s married and he hopes I don’t mind, it’s a no from me.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time."

I appreciate the ones who are honest, it's the ones who try and cover it up and lie I can't stand.

I don't meet married men and it annoys me when they still message me ,despite having it on my profile.

Yes you may never know of someone's playing away,if I'm at all suspicious I don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh no I’m not new.. honest and a little naive, but only because I still refuse to see the world through cynical eyes

I’ll givw everyone W the benefit of the doubt because I like to see the good in people

Good on you! I try to be the same. No place for cynicism. It's just a form of self harm

Not sure I agree with that tbh.

It’s not necessarily being a cynic treading carefully and not opening yourself up to and / or believing every Tom, Dick & Harry."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time.

I appreciate the ones who are honest, it's the ones who try and cover it up and lie I can't stand.

I don't meet married men and it annoys me when they still message me ,despite having it on my profile.

Yes you may never know of someone's playing away,if I'm at all suspicious I don't meet them.

"

I want to put it on my profile.

But I feel like the moment I do that, it will create more liars and those married men who want to meet me will swiftly take the “married” off their profile or not mention. Of course some do that anyway but I think more will if it’s on my profile.

I have an age preference and I’ve had messages from people claiming to be older than their profile states, one went as far as to change his age from 25 to 37 in an attempt to meet me but sent his genuine pictures which was just silly as it showed he certainly wasn’t 37.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time.

I often think those that are adverse to playing with married people should clearly state that in their profile. However, it won't stop people lying though, but genuine people like yourself would take note and not bother them."

I always take note of a woman's stated preferences whatever they are, otherwise it's just a waste of both our time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time.

I appreciate the ones who are honest, it's the ones who try and cover it up and lie I can't stand.

I don't meet married men and it annoys me when they still message me ,despite having it on my profile.

Yes you may never know of someone's playing away,if I'm at all suspicious I don't meet them.

I want to put it on my profile.

But I feel like the moment I do that, it will create more liars and those married men who want to meet me will swiftly take the “married” off their profile or not mention. Of course some do that anyway but I think more will if it’s on my profile.

I have an age preference and I’ve had messages from people claiming to be older than their profile states, one went as far as to change his age from 25 to 37 in an attempt to meet me but sent his genuine pictures which was just silly as it showed he certainly wasn’t 37. "

One of my attached male fab friends blocks all women within his search criteria who list on profile - won’t meet married etc -

He maintains it not only saves his time messaging someone who isnt interested it also clears up his local update feed, makes searching easier.

So for all those who don’t read, there are some that do...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time."

You still want my boobs though don't you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their inability to know when to quit..

Who cares if I’m married..

I fucking do pal "

I agree I’d rather play with single men when lied to it takes my freedom of choice away.... yes women can be just as dishonest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time.

You still want my boobs though don't you.... "

Not just your boobs Frisky.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"

One of my attached male fab friends blocks all women within his search criteria who list on profile - won’t meet married etc -

He maintains it not only saves his time messaging someone who isnt interested it also clears up his local update feed, makes searching easier.

So for all those who don’t read, there are some that do... "

Yes, even "seekers" don't want to waste their time.

The problem comes when they believe they can get you to change your mind. Nothing will stop those.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

One of my attached male fab friends blocks all women within his search criteria who list on profile - won’t meet married etc -

He maintains it not only saves his time messaging someone who isnt interested it also clears up his local update feed, makes searching easier.

So for all those who don’t read, there are some that do...

Yes, even "seekers" don't want to waste their time.

The problem comes when they believe they can get you to change your mind. Nothing will stop those."

That’s the point, it becomes a challenge..

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I am married and my wife absolutely loves me meeting people, turn her on when we chat about what I done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The problem comes when they believe they can get you to change your mind. Nothing will stop those."

there are many who try this and singles you say "no thanks to"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single, just saying."

So that’s what the T-shirts about

is it a bird ?

Is it a plane ?

No, it’s SINGLE MAN !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single, just saying.

So that’s what the T-shirts about

is it a bird ?

Is it a plane ?

No, it’s SINGLE MAN !!!"

love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single, just saying.

So that’s what the T-shirts about

is it a bird ?

Is it a plane ?

No, it’s SINGLE MAN !!!"

*flexes biceps*

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


" I like younger guys but don’t want kids. That’s the biggest hurdle I’m finding. "

Oh hello

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore What you don't know doesn't hurt you "

But it hurts others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are no better.

Why is nobody honest anymore What you don't know doesn't hurt you

But it hurts others. "

thats the big point. if they never find out thats your conscious but if someone does it can give a whole world of shit

but some dont see this

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I'm married and i'm playing away from home as stated clearly on my profile (an honest cheat?). If you put on your profile you're not interested in married men then you won't get any interest from me. As far as i'm concerned the more information that's on a profile the better, it saves alot of time."

Same goes for me; if you state on your profile you’re not interested in married/attached guys playing away, I block you so you don’t clutter up my searches

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