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"I get that when you see someone you like your eager to send a message but try and remember the person behind the profile is real. Treat them as you would if you me them in real life. Turn offs for me are asking if I want to meet or fuck in the first few messages. Guys who ask questions that are already answered on my profile. Basically for me if you wouldn't say it to my face in real life then don't say it here. So what turns you off in messages ?" When I get a close up picture of beef curtains  next to a sky remote | |||
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"The long winded story ones that sound like a hideous mash up of a crappy Mills & Boon and the worst passages of Fifty Shades of Dross. They usually start with “you open the front door and .....”. "  Shit.....  | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " I hate your shoes 
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " Nice shoes  | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " You have lovely shoes  | |||
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"Anything starting with "can I ask you a question?" Obvious cut and paste 'erotica' designed to turn me on but actually makes my vagina sew itself shut" I like to respond along the lines of “yes, but only one and you’ve just used up your quota”. | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology You have lovely shoes "They are damn fine shoes, I agree. | |||
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"Anything starting with "can I ask you a question?" Obvious cut and paste 'erotica' designed to turn me on but actually makes my vagina sew itself shut" My biggest bug bear on here! That or , 'so how are you finding Fab?' , 'what are you on here for?' I mean really
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"Anything starting with "can I ask you a question?" Obvious cut and paste 'erotica' designed to turn me on but actually makes my vagina sew itself shut I like to respond along the lines of “yes, but only one and you’ve just used up your quota”. " Love this. Gonna try it next time | |||
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"Anything starting with "can I ask you a question?" Obvious cut and paste 'erotica' designed to turn me on but actually makes my vagina sew itself shut I like to respond along the lines of “yes, but only one and you’ve just used up your quota”. Love this. Gonna try it next time " | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " #yourshoessuck  | |||
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"What you into What do you like How's fab treating you  "What do you like. Drives me nuts. Last you that asked that I wrote back long walks in the park and romantic music. He replied with its a swinging site | |||
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"What you into What do you like How's fab treating you
What do you like. Drives me nuts. Last you that asked that I wrote back long walks in the park and romantic music. He replied with its a swinging site "I recommend reading my profile, and the amount that tell me I'm stupid for it. | |||
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"Anything starting with "can I ask you a question?" Obvious cut and paste 'erotica' designed to turn me on but actually makes my vagina sew itself shut My biggest bug bear on here! Definitely this for me aswell That or , 'so how are you finding Fab?' , 'what are you on here for?' I mean really
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"What you into What do you like How's fab treating you
What do you like. Drives me nuts. Last you that asked that I wrote back long walks in the park and romantic music. He replied with its a swinging site "After a while,I've given up on telling them to read the profile | |||
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"What you into What do you like How's fab treating you
What do you like. Drives me nuts. Last you that asked that I wrote back long walks in the park and romantic music. He replied with its a swinging site
After a while,I've given up on telling them to read the profile "I don't usually bother even relying | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " I went one better and said they were lovely I think. Do I win a prize? | |||
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"Couples who message saying "will you come and be our fuck toy?" I really need to think about such an awesome offer.....not!" Hang on you said that to me  | |||
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"Hi, I would love to fuck you while your husband watched. Would you mind if I paid you for sex, please don’t take offence, it’s just my thing! Would you consider selling me some of your used panties? We usually reply to these type of messages now with a reply saying, sorry this is a fake profile set up as a research project for Sydney University." Love the fake Sydney idea | |||
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"What do you do if reading their profile and asking them questions doesnt work? :/" I would assume that I'm not the kind of person they're looking for. | |||
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"Couples who message saying "will you come and be our fuck toy?" I really need to think about such an awesome offer.....not!" Never had this | |||
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"Boo! Hello naughty, how’s tricks? Can I impregnate you? * *errrrr you may wanna check out my age "Oh I hate the breeding messages with a passion. Related, "You're going to be my filthy (slur) and come to dinner with another man's cum dripping down your leg." Why would you say that to a stranger? | |||
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"Couples who message saying "will you come and be our fuck toy?" I really need to think about such an awesome offer.....not! Hang on you said that to me "Shhhhhh man, that's different, I'm allowed | |||
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who the fuck is Claire?
Hey stranger (from someone I've never spoken to let alone met)
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"Couples who message saying "will you come and be our fuck toy?" I really need to think about such an awesome offer.....not! Hang on you said that to me
Shhhhhh man, that's different, I'm allowed "Well you need to explain the rules | |||
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"Creepy messages telling me exactly where I am on my train journey home. You know who you are! "#ninjawarrior | |||
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"Ladies, please stop telling me to remove this wet tee shirt or I’ll catch my death! "I'll remove it for you  | |||
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"Lol Babe How's you? Meet now? I don't bite (unless you ask)" I hate being called babe | |||
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"Lol Babe How's you? Meet now? I don't bite (unless you ask) I hate being called babe "I've been getting bbe a lot. I'm not sure if it's meant to be babe or baby... and I'd prefer neither. | |||
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"Can i pull your finger hard Urm not thats called dislocation you sausage heads" Hey up, are we back to the 'pull' thread again. You and your finger do cause quite a stir! | |||
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"Lol Babe How's you? Meet now? I don't bite (unless you ask) I hate being called babe "Me too, hate it with a passion. | |||
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"Can i pull your finger hard Urm not thats called dislocation you sausage heads Hey up, are we back to the 'pull' thread again. You and your finger do cause quite a stir!" Dunno why we just mosey along like john wayne | |||
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"I get that when you see someone you like your eager to send a message but try and remember the person behind the profile is real. Treat them as you would if you me them in real life. Turn offs for me are asking if I want to meet or fuck in the first few messages. Guys who ask questions that are already answered on my profile. Basically for me if you wouldn't say it to my face in real life then don't say it here. So what turns you off in messages ?" People demanding things. I once had a couple ask me for meet. Yes they asked me a single guy lol. However, they demanded the first meet to be a social only. Fair enough. Except they lived a 6 hour drive from me. I am sorry but now way am I driving 6 hours for social. | |||
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"Boo! Hello naughty, how’s tricks? Can I impregnate you? * *errrrr you may wanna check out my age "Asking if they can impregnate you shows they didn't read your profile and sent you a copy and paste messages they sent to loads of women at the same time they messaged you. | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology I hate your shoes
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"Best ones so far ... Hi can I impregnate you!! And a dick pic with a chocolate finger on it you know who u are "Saw one the other day with a row of choccy buttons on it! Some brown, some white. Perhaps he was embracing diversity? | |||
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"Lol Babe How's you? Meet now? I don't bite (unless you ask) I hate being called babe
Me too, hate it with a passion."Me three | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind "Maybe if women messaged more.... | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind "Oh same  | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind "I have to say, I often ask what people have planned.... Mostly to make conversation, not because I'm planning to hide in the bushes nearby.... | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
I have to say, I often ask what people have planned.... Mostly to make conversation, not because I'm planning to hide in the bushes nearby...."But would that be the first thing you say to a woman you meet in the street ?? I doubt it. And you can make conversation about other things | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
Maybe if women messaged more...."When I message I usually pick something about them from their profile and start a conversation about that. | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
I have to say, I often ask what people have planned.... Mostly to make conversation, not because I'm planning to hide in the bushes nearby....
But would that be the first thing you say to a woman you meet in the street ?? I doubt it. And you can make conversation about other things "Why would I say that to a woman on the street? The last conversation I had with a woman on the street was telling her that she'd left her eggs on the roof of her car as she was backing out of her space. I'll often send a short message for my first message, so they can read my profile and decide if they want to chat more. I'm not going waste my time on a short essay, nor am I going to fall over myself to entertain people. You are messaging strangers, not your best mate. | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
I have to say, I often ask what people have planned.... Mostly to make conversation, not because I'm planning to hide in the bushes nearby....
But would that be the first thing you say to a woman you meet in the street ?? I doubt it. And you can make conversation about other things "Like "cracking pair of tits ya got there busty"?. | |||
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"When they ask me what I'm wearing. When they ask me what I'm into. When they send me a little story that's as dull as fuck and you think 'Christ is that the best you can come up with'. When they say 'How's you?' When they attach a cock they are obviously proud of and ask if you want it. When they send you an action shot. I feel sorry for the single guys sometimes!!" Told one I was wearing pj's dressing gown and slippers the other day, (I actually was!) don't think it's what he wanted to hear, he didn't message again lol. | |||
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"When they ask me what I'm wearing. When they ask me what I'm into. When they send me a little story that's as dull as fuck and you think 'Christ is that the best you can come up with'. When they say 'How's you?' When they attach a cock they are obviously proud of and ask if you want it. When they send you an action shot. I feel sorry for the single guys sometimes!! Told one I was wearing pj's dressing gown and slippers the other day, (I actually was!) don't think it's what he wanted to hear, he didn't message again lol. " That would do me tbh | |||
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"I get that when you see someone you like your eager to send a message but try and remember the person behind the profile is real. Treat them as you would if you me them in real life. Turn offs for me are asking if I want to meet or fuck in the first few messages. Guys who ask questions that are already answered on my profile. Basically for me if you wouldn't say it to my face in real life then don't say it here. So what turns you off in messages ?" If a woman in first message says can we meet and can I see your dick | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. " Bit of a generalisation there. | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. " My first messages aren't like that at all. Mine contain actual sentences that make sense, references to things and sometimes something humorous. If the receiver doesn't like my message, oh well, it means I wasn't for them, and in turn, they wouldn't have been for me. Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. My first messages aren't like that at all. Mine contain actual sentences that make sense, references to things and sometimes something humorous. If the receiver doesn't like my message, oh well, it means I wasn't for them, and in turn, they wouldn't have been for me. Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. " cynic | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
I have to say, I often ask what people have planned.... Mostly to make conversation, not because I'm planning to hide in the bushes nearby....
But would that be the first thing you say to a woman you meet in the street ?? I doubt it. And you can make conversation about other things "At work, I often use the phrase what are you up to for the rest of the day as a conversation starter.  | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. " Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.) | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.)" Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance. | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.) Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance." yes but think about your message statistics for a minute on the basis of your 528 messages 100 more than yesterday and none read so absolutely no point messaging. You so I personally wouldn't, I need to have conversation to get to know the person I meet and say for example you were to message me because you liked my profile, the likelihood of you seeing my reply zero probably, I just don't go anywhere near the popular women on this site it's like banging your head against a brick wall..... Pointless | |||
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" Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance." Because everyone knows men will just look at the pics and think "ooh she's not bad looking" and message her anyway. Personally I much prefer if a woman has some info about her so it makes her look more interesting and it gives me something to work with if I decide to message her. And still don't know why you think it's a "high probability" that there's loads of men on these sites pretending to be women so they can message men. Because they're gay and want a cock pick? Nah, rarely happens. The ones to look out for are the fakes that after their first message send you a link to some dodgy website or tell you to email them. | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.) Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance.yes but think about your message statistics for a minute on the basis of your 528 messages 100 more than yesterday and none read so absolutely no point messaging. You so I personally wouldn't, I need to have conversation to get to know the person I meet and say for example you were to message me because you liked my profile, the likelihood of you seeing my reply zero probably, I just don't go anywhere near the popular women on this site it's like banging your head against a brick wall..... Pointless "I ain't that popular, I'm just in an area where there are lots of members and a lot of the men spam mail all the ladies online at that time that are relatively local in the hope to catch a fish. I do read some messages, mainly if it's from a forum thread, as you can tell by the title if it is. I doubt I'll read many today as I know I'm in a mood, so it will only serve as me using a sharp tongue (which I find therapeutic when I'm due on, but today really won't be a good idea) | |||
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" Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance. Because everyone knows men will just look at the pics and think "ooh she's not bad looking" and message her anyway. Personally I much prefer if a woman has some info about her so it makes her look more interesting and it gives me something to work with if I decide to message her. And still don't know why you think it's a "high probability" that there's loads of men on these sites pretending to be women so they can message men. Because they're gay and want a cock pick? Nah, rarely happens. The ones to look out for are the fakes that after their first message send you a link to some dodgy website or tell you to email them. " Because they're pricks who get a kick out of winding people up. For shits n giggles. Not all obviously, but there are plenty. | |||
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" yes but think about your message statistics for a minute on the basis of your 528 messages 100 more than yesterday and none read so absolutely no point messaging. You so I personally wouldn't, I need to have conversation to get to know the person I meet and say for example you were to message me because you liked my profile, the likelihood of you seeing my reply zero probably, I just don't go anywhere near the popular women on this site it's like banging your head against a brick wall..... Pointless "Yeah this is true. Most of the time your message doesn't get read or the woman will just delete it as she's on a deleting spree. I don't bother messaging women on here much now. Prefer the forum I think | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.) Yet those men still message the women with crap profiles. Who's the mug? I have on mine that I rarely read messages and am currently sitting on 528 unread. 100 more than yesterday. I ain't gonna get bent out of shape and start a thread about women being rude, not replying or even reading messages. If they wanna waste their time then so be it. I didn't say it was 100% men sending those messages, I said a high probability. I'd like to think that a lot of women who've been on the receiving end of the shit ones, would take a little care in making sure they sent something with some substance.yes but think about your message statistics for a minute on the basis of your 528 messages 100 more than yesterday and none read so absolutely no point messaging. You so I personally wouldn't, I need to have conversation to get to know the person I meet and say for example you were to message me because you liked my profile, the likelihood of you seeing my reply zero probably, I just don't go anywhere near the popular women on this site it's like banging your head against a brick wall..... Pointless
I ain't that popular, I'm just in an area where there are lots of members and a lot of the men spam mail all the ladies online at that time that are relatively local in the hope to catch a fish.
I do read some messages, mainly if it's from a forum thread, as you can tell by the title if it is.
I doubt I'll read many today as I know I'm in a mood, so it will only serve as me using a sharp tongue (which I find therapeutic when I'm due on, but today really won't be a good idea)"No area is any more popular than any other and 528 messages in anybodies book makes you popular, I get the forum message thing but if messages are flying into your message box at a rate of knots even they get swallowed up in the pile | |||
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" Because they're pricks who get a kick out of winding people up. For shits n giggles. Not all obviously, but there are plenty." I'm sure it happens occasionally but you're just guessing. | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. " They are probably men masquerading as women | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " But your ankles are dreamy | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " Shoes? What shoes?
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. They are probably men masquerading as women " Oh don't say that, you'll get told you're wrong. | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. They are probably men masquerading as women " | |||
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"On the rare occasion a woman messages first it's usually "hey how are you?" Or just "Hi." Women are pretty crap at the first message thing yet they expect the guy to come up with a world-class first message. They are probably men masquerading as women Oh don't say that, you'll get told you're wrong." Yep that's right lol. Think women are getting offended that other women can be boring and/or a weirdo. | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
Maybe if women messaged more....
When I message I usually pick something about them from their profile and start a conversation about that. "I do that all the time and it never works so it doesn't matter much. If it works it works. | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
Maybe if women messaged more....
When I message I usually pick something about them from their profile and start a conversation about that.
I do that all the time and it never works so it doesn't matter much.
If it works it works."It only works sometimes I suppose | |||
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"It really irritates me when first message asks for my plans for the rest of the day or the weekend! It’s not something you ask strangers you meet in the street so why is it ok to ask in first message ?? Asking if I’m free later. Also asking what I’m after when it is more than clear to those who actually read my profile . Think guys sometimes get so excited they see you online and shoot with first stupid line that comes to their mind
Maybe if women messaged more....
When I message I usually pick something about them from their profile and start a conversation about that.
I do that all the time and it never works so it doesn't matter much.
If it works it works.
It only works sometimes I suppose "the way to a woman's heart is through her belly, I have cake........ Mostly fruitcake mind | |||
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"I get that when you see someone you like your eager to send a message but try and remember the person behind the profile is real. So what turns you off in messages ?" I got a first-time message yesterday from a guy telling me i was not real. How peculiar, I thought. I didn't bother replying. | |||
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"People who mail our profile but only address Ann, i think its the height of disrespect. Worse again are those who get rebuffed, then mail Anns single profile as if getting round me is the goal "That would really bug me too. | |||
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" That or , 'so how are you finding Fab?' , 'what are you on here for?' I mean really
Ss"Aww! I have a soft spot for those. We all use fab for different things and in different ways. Plus their answers hint to whether they are positive or negative people. Maybe I’m just shit at conversation. | |||
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"I get that when you see someone you like your eager to send a message but try and remember the person behind the profile is real. So what turns you off in messages ? I got a first-time message yesterday from a guy telling me i was not real. How peculiar, I thought. I didn't bother replying. " Surreal! | |||
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"Anyone on here got nice shoes. I love a nice pair of shoes "Me too | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology " I've seen better. | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology I've seen better. "The story of my life ! | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology I've seen better.
The story of my life ! "You can borrow mine | |||
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" Oh and I hate to break it to ya, but it's a high probability that those women sending those first messages.... were men. Yeah sure. You would know that how? Anyways... Who says I was talking just about this site? I've been on plenty of other sites over the years and a lot of the time women do send generic boring first messages. That's not to say they're necessarily boring if you get in a conversation with them, although a lot of the time they are. A lot of women on dating sites also have a crap profile as they know they don't need to make much effort as they'll still get a constant influx of messages from men (if they look half-decent.)" I take it your not looking to meet women or couples then? | |||
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"My messages the last few days have been shockingly bad! I really do think a lot of men just do not have a clue how to speak to women "Just be going around. | |||
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"I don't like getting message saying that I have nice shoes #reversePsychology I've seen better.
The story of my life !
You can borrow mine "Do you think Fabulous would suit espidrills? | |||
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"My messages the last few days have been shockingly bad! I really do think a lot of men just do not have a clue how to speak to women "How do you speak to women from a woman's perspective? | |||
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"My messages the last few days have been shockingly bad! I really do think a lot of men just do not have a clue how to speak to women How do you speak to women from a woman's perspective? "Politly | |||
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