FabSwingers.com forum: How narrow minded are you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever try and see things from other people's point of view, or can you only see your own side?

If you're having a discussion are you narrow minded and can't imagine anything other than your own opinion exists? Do you ever change your mind after a discussion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever try and see things from other people's point of view, or can you only see your own side?

If you're having a discussion are you narrow minded and can't imagine anything other than your own opinion exists? Do you ever change your mind after a discussion?"

By definition narrow minded people don’t know they’re narrow minded, more intelligent people have more empathy and are more willing to take other peoples opinion on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am open minded and I would understand if someone tried to tell me different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i may be an empath

But a selfish one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hearing different opinions and often ask for them but they need to be based on fact before I can consider them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point. "

You can be intelligent and still get your point across without belittling and condescending people in the process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point.

You can be intelligent and still get your point across without belittling and condescending people in the process."

It seems that some 'intelligent' people miss that point on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love hearing other people's opninions. I'm always open to having my opinion changed if the premise on which its based is sound. However, not all opinions have to be based on fact to have value. Some are based on morality, personal experience etc.

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By *ast_And_CuriousMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Yeah always. But there's times (often with women) that you just can't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love hearing other people's opninions. I'm always open to having my opinion changed if the premise on which its based is sound. However, not all opinions have to be based on fact to have value. Some are based on morality, personal experience etc.

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point.

You can be intelligent and still get your point across without belittling and condescending people in the process."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like hearing other views of things. nice to see other peoples view

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

The opinions of others are great......so long as they correlate with mine ::Insert middle finger emoji here::

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very good at playing devils advocate

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I allways try to see both sides of anything and everything.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Yes sometimes you can, i believe what i believe though do change my mind about some things over time not straight away. I am narrow minded in some ways not in others though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever try and see things from other people's point of view, or can you only see your own side?

If you're having a discussion are you narrow minded and can't imagine anything other than your own opinion exists? Do you ever change your mind after a discussion?"
I can see both sides for most things... I may not change my personal opinion but can see why someone may think or act like that.

I find it frustrating at times as feel my understanding nature can be taken advantage of or misread as easy to trick. I'm not. I just can view things from someone else's shoes. But It rarely changes my personal view point.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Do you ever try and see things from other people's point of view, or can you only see your own side?

If you're having a discussion are you narrow minded and can't imagine anything other than your own opinion exists? Do you ever change your mind after a discussion? I can see both sides for most things... I may not change my personal opinion but can see why someone may think or act like that.

Snap.

The only way we can learn other views and opinions, ways other than our own is to listen and educate ourselves. It's those that listen to respond rather than listen to hear that I think are blinkered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a difficult one...in my head I want to be open minded, open to persuasion and perspectives and new ideas and answers, but surely that judgement is in others eyes not my own?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good answer, but it's amazing how different reactions can be dependant on a subject discussed...as we see in the forums?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I’m very good at playing devils advocate "

Yes, I like doing that too, and playing 'but what if...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am open minded and I would understand if someone tried to tell me different."

Aha! A challenge!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes, it's not always trying to convert others to your way of thinking, but to accept we all think differently and that's ok.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Depends on who the discussion is with, what the subject is and bloody minded I am at the time of the discussion.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I think I'm fairly open minded.

Always willing to listen to others opinions and have been known to change my mind after listening.

However I do have something's I will not be swayed on, so does that make me average minded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse than someone who is very opinionated.. that’s a sure way to get yourself into a rant.

I like to think I’m on the fence with most things, seems to be the easiest way round it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm fairly open minded.

Always willing to listen to others opinions and have been known to change my mind after listening.

However I do have something's I will not be swayed on, so does that make me average minded?"

This is me also.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" It's a difficult one...in my head I want to be open minded, open to persuasion and perspectives and new ideas and answers, but surely that judgement is in others eyes not my own? "

I don't know what you mean. Like they don't believe you're open minded?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than someone who is very opinionated.. that’s a sure way to get yourself into a rant.

I like to think I’m on the fence with most things, seems to be the easiest way round it. "

Are you more 'lenient' with them if they are very opinionated but you agree with what they're saying?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends on who the discussion is with, what the subject is and bloody minded I am at the time of the discussion."

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you hold good characteristics then you can't be narrow minded..

empathy sympathy kind honest respectful and so on..

but when we let our personal experiences and views cloud our views opinions and come across as though nothing else is right then yes defo narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It's a difficult one...in my head I want to be open minded, open to persuasion and perspectives and new ideas and answers, but surely that judgement is in others eyes not my own?

I don't know what you mean. Like they don't believe you're open minded? "

How can I make a genuine statement saying I'm open minded? It would need the eyes of others to qualify that remark?

We may think we are, but maybe our close mindedness prevents us from realising it?

that's way too deep...that's what reading forums whilst out walking in the woods does to you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" It's a difficult one...in my head I want to be open minded, open to persuasion and perspectives and new ideas and answers, but surely that judgement is in others eyes not my own?

I don't know what you mean. Like they don't believe you're open minded?

How can I make a genuine statement saying I'm open minded? It would need the eyes of others to qualify that remark?

We may think we are, but maybe our close mindedness prevents us from realising it?

that's way too deep...that's what reading forums whilst out walking in the woods does to you!

I'm proper brain dead today. That sounds really deep. Or something that would only make sense when I'm pissed.

One group of people may think you're open minded but another may think you're closed minded, even on the same subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It's a difficult one...in my head I want to be open minded, open to persuasion and perspectives and new ideas and answers, but surely that judgement is in others eyes not my own?

I don't know what you mean. Like they don't believe you're open minded?

How can I make a genuine statement saying I'm open minded? It would need the eyes of others to qualify that remark?

We may think we are, but maybe our close mindedness prevents us from realising it?

that's way too deep...that's what reading forums whilst out walking in the woods does to you!

I'm proper brain dead today. That sounds really deep. Or something that would only make sense when I'm pissed.

One group of people may think you're open minded but another may think you're closed minded, even on the same subject. "

Now that's really hurting my brain...I'm starting a simple thread on shitting in a bag instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And fab suddenly becomes the most open minded non argumentative place ever!!!... think I've entered a parallel universe

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm more open minded with some people than others. It depends on their attitude to me. If someone uses their intelligence as a weapon to patronise and belittle I stop listening.

There are also some subjects on which my mind will never be changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And fab suddenly becomes the most open minded non argumentative place ever!!!... think I've entered a parallel universe

There's no such thing as a parallel universe thicko

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And fab suddenly becomes the most open minded non argumentative place ever!!!... think I've entered a parallel universe

There's no such thing as a parallel universe thicko

Are you calling them all liars????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am en extremely open minded but as for listening to other people's opinions, well It depends on the situation. If it's in a heated argument I can be so stubborn and I will cut my nose to spite my face rather than let the other person know that now I've listened to their point of view, and I actually agree with them.

At other times I'm more than willing to say yes, you're actually right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am open minded.

I listen to other people's opinions.

And take everything under consideration

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am en extremely open minded but as for listening to other people's opinions, well It depends on the situation. If it's in a heated argument I can be so stubborn and I will cut my nose to spite my face rather than let the other person know that now I've listened to their point of view, and I actually agree with them.

At other times I'm more than willing to say yes, you're actually right"

When plates are flying I'm not a good listener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.

If it’s something I’m passionate about and / or am 100% correct I will stand my ground.

That’s not to say I won’t consider the differing opinion I just won’t open my mind upto it.

I’ve changed my mind a few times in the past on the forums. A well presented factual discussion can do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely accept that people are entitled to their wrong opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it's not always trying to convert others to your way of thinking, but to accept we all think differently and that's ok."

Exactly

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

Interesting question. It brought to mind this quotation; which applies just as much now, in the UK, as it has in the USA. Sadly.

"There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."

Isaac Asimov

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point.

You can be intelligent and still get your point across without belittling and condescending people in the process."

You can indeed , but some people don’t get that at all . As soon as someone does it I simply turn off and don’t listen , don’t have any further interaction with them , and no matter what they say I won’t have anything to do with them .

So I’m totally closed minded to that type of person .

But very open minded to reason minded and open people who put points across in a reasonable way .

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

My view on most things is my opinion isn’t the only opinion or the right opinion but the best one for me at that time. The opinions of others presented in an appropriate manner can change mine. I see that as personal development. However, as F&B said above the intelligent, belittling, condescending my opinion is the only opinion and therefore correct approach is more likely to make me think they’re a knob and their opinion right, wrong or indifferent I won’t even entertain. Aesop’s fable the North wind and the Sun is something some may want to take on board when trying to change the opinion of others

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"My view on most things is my opinion isn’t the only opinion or the right opinion but the best one for me at that time. The opinions of others presented in an appropriate manner can change mine. I see that as personal development. However, as F&B said above the intelligent, belittling, condescending my opinion is the only opinion and therefore correct approach is more likely to make me think they’re a knob and their opinion right, wrong or indifferent I won’t even entertain. Aesop’s fable the North wind and the Sun is something some may want to take on board when trying to change the opinion of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever try and see things from other people's point of view, or can you only see your own side?

If you're having a discussion are you narrow minded and can't imagine anything other than your own opinion exists? Do you ever change your mind after a discussion?"

Honestly, I’m very narrow minded, I don’t give shit about others opinion, I’m stubborn and probably considered as a cunt! Still, my friends and family love me the way I am

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I do depending on how the facts have been presented to me.

If someone, or a group of people, makes it sound like I am stupid, which btw is true but do not need a reminder, their arrogance fuck up their point.

You can be intelligent and still get your point across without belittling and condescending people in the process."

Where's the fun in that though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd describe myself as radically open minded in the sense that I've exerted serious time and effort into falsifying and questioning things I believe in. As a result, conversations on here often change my mind and give me insight into things.

If you stuck me in a room with a version of me in my early 20s, me in my late 20s, and me in my early 30s we'd have a massive argument with each other on all sorts of issues. I like that side of me. It makes me a more interesting, complex, intellectually adventurous, and empathetic person

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