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"How do people cope without friends? Im struggling atm with this, i have my small family and work but nothing else. I go to work and come home, visit my family but i have no other interactions with people. Its as if im invisible, its getting quite lonely atm. Ok moan over, sorry everyone " Hugs x I am the same . I have my 2 kids in my life . I kind of struggle with the friends bit . So I understand your struggle op. | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped." Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped." I was probably borderline PTSD a few months back. Waking up in cold sweats and a state of anxiety. For me it was important to try and shrug it off, laugh at it, make light of it, and put it behind me. Try to reconnect with your joy. I learnt a vital lesson. When you're in a state of joy even the tallest mountains feel like molehills. But if you're in a state of anxiety or sadness even the smallest molehill will seem like a mountain. So if your life is surrounded by mountains, rather than drive yourself to exhaustion trying to scramble up them all, why not just shrink them into molehills? Work on your joy dude. It's the single most effective way to overcome everything around you. Good luck | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? " Its more. What can the op do to change his situation | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation " Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward. | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward." Be nice to everyone you meet is always a good start. Also, hate to say it as it sounds like you've had it hard but: Don't be a downer man. I know people who have it just as hard if not harder and one of the things I respected about them most was no matter what, they were positive and upbeat, even at death's door. People only get what you show them. So if you are this happy positive upbeat person that people wanna be around your existence will be so much better. It's hard man! I find baby steps are the way forward. So with myself every time I feel those deep dark depressing thoughts creeping in I try to be conciously aware of it and get myself back in the moment | |||
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"And don't change who you are man: You're beautiful just the way you are!!! (Threw up a little bit whilst typing)" And you're beautiful too man Oops! A few chunks came up then too. What have you started? | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward." Why would you change who you are? That’s daft. You can change your approach, reaction and thought process but you need to stay who you are. | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward. Why would you change who you are? That’s daft. You can change your approach, reaction and thought process but you need to stay who you are. " I wonder if at times im not a likeable person and fight with demons that people tolerate my presence rather than welcome it. Due to health issues i cant play sport anymore, cycling and running are also a no go. Ill find something though...may be | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward. Why would you change who you are? That’s daft. You can change your approach, reaction and thought process but you need to stay who you are. I wonder if at times im not a likeable person and fight with demons that people tolerate my presence rather than welcome it. Due to health issues i cant play sport anymore, cycling and running are also a no go. Ill find something though...may be " All that is negative. Go to a bar without loud music or a sports screen, order a coffee and chat to someone. That’s it. Either the conversation will flow or it won’t. Then try the next person. | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward. Why would you change who you are? That’s daft. You can change your approach, reaction and thought process but you need to stay who you are. I wonder if at times im not a likeable person and fight with demons that people tolerate my presence rather than welcome it. Due to health issues i cant play sport anymore, cycling and running are also a no go. Ill find something though...may be " How about walking? There are walking clubs pretty much everywhere and it's a more sociable activity since you aren't out of breath! | |||
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"Im not on fb, and i think my job puts people off. Since a near fatal accident a few years ago my trust in people has dwindled and PTSD hasnt helped. Are you wanting to make friends here or IRL? What can we do to help change your situation? Its more. What can the op do to change his situation Its something im working on including changing the person i am so i can fit in so to speak, but im sure im not alone here in feeling this situation and bit the bullet to highlight my issue to help others step forward. Why would you change who you are? That’s daft. You can change your approach, reaction and thought process but you need to stay who you are. I wonder if at times im not a likeable person and fight with demons that people tolerate my presence rather than welcome it. Due to health issues i cant play sport anymore, cycling and running are also a no go. Ill find something though...may be All that is negative. Go to a bar without loud music or a sports screen, order a coffee and chat to someone. That’s it. Either the conversation will flow or it won’t. Then try the next person. " Yeah what she just said. As I said in my last message. Don't be a downer! It is harsh but true. If sports are a no go do things that you can do. Can you draw? Maybe photography? Only you kow you but if you keep having all these negative thoughts they are like poison | |||
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