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By *r_Pink OP   Man
over a year ago

london stratford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno

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By *r_Pink OP   Man
over a year ago

london stratford

Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

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your female friend seems odd ?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s probably implying that you shouldn’t identify race as we do sex..... so if you would like to meet with FFM .... it should just identify that it’s 2xladies and a guy and they could be any race/ethnic origin..... rather than black/white/Asian .... etcetc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

"
is it fuck ya mates a cock my advise go get a new one with a grown ups brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The words racist and racial get confused by some folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The words racist and racial get confused by some folks.

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like tomato and tomato

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."
so in that case you are saying . Every lady who says she wants a BBC is racist ?

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

So is it sexist to say you want to meet simply a woman...because she is a woman, or a man simply because...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racist at all. What a load of rubbish.

People are far too quick to use that word, and then it loses its meaning and gets thrown around flippantly.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

No, not per se. Or at least the act of fetishising people of a certain race. I think we have to be very careful when criticise and otrosising the output of sexual desire on here (glass houses and all that). Now thats not to say the origins of the sexual desire may be based in some kind of deep seated racist concept or ideas even is you dont hold overt racist views. For example some fetisimism of certain races can be seated in ideas of power and to some extent linked to real world racism. But we are all products of our environment. Like many other kinks and sexual desires have a basis in areas that are taboo, morally questionable or a product enviroment/past trauma. I dont think we should be made to feel ashamed for our sexaul desire. However you may find it difficult to achieve this fantasy in real life with people if your motive is know. Not everyone likes or is comfortable with being objectified for their race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine her reaction to the amount of queens of spades tattoos you see on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."

what a load of crap ! I wanna fuck a white guy to satisfy my wish (not my usual type) does that make me racist? as that is pretty much what you’re saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

is it fuck ya mates a cock my advise go get a new one with a grown ups brain"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

"

I want a bi mmf with a black couple as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."

And? You have an age range set. Must mean you're ageist, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when a thread gets ranty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not racist at all. What a load of rubbish.

People are far too quick to use that word, and then it loses its meaning and gets thrown around flippantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it when a thread gets ranty! "

Absolutely!! Coming back to your previous point and the similar above.

I said possibly, and could. For me it depends why the OP wants to have sex with them. The preference argument has been done to death here, but this isn’t preference this is “as a change”. Only the OP knows what is driving that and whether there is some deeply held racism. Hence the possibly and could.

However, more to my point, he is definitely objectifying them. He is reducing humans down to a few body parts (ie their skin colour). Remember, this isn’t a long held preference, but an “I fancy fucking a black couple”.

No other qualifiers, just the fact that they are black. Is it the same as women who want BBC? Absolutely, but the guys who are said possessors, possibly don’t mind being objectified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

"

It’s objectification of sorts. Not racist in the slightest. It’s like wanting to sleep with someone ginger because you’ve only had brunettes.

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By *r_Pink OP   Man
over a year ago

london stratford

well thanks folks!

I am gonna tell her....

I am objectifying not racist!

and I only wanna do it coz I aint done it before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."

This.

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By *ust for BeckyMan
over a year ago

Godalming


"Not racist at all. What a load of rubbish.

People are far too quick to use that word, and then it loses its meaning and gets thrown around flippantly.

"

This...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that were the case, then the single women looking for BBC only, must be racist.

Tell you friend that it is something you want to explore and if she should be less judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call bullshit, not racist at all, your fantasy is based on race but not racist. Now go drop kick your friend in her ovaries and tell her to wise up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."

Yet most people have age prefences on here, guess we are all ageist too

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

"

You can’t help stupid people

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By *r_Pink OP   Man
over a year ago

london stratford

I've spoken to the lady in question and just said "I'm not racist, some

of my best friends are gay!!!"

Alas, she did not get my SOH. but did tell her I am not a racist, just a kinky man who wants it all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't think were gonna hang out together again though.

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By *o-disgracefullyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Anything positive is not racist. Anything negative is racist. So you can say you want to meet a Black person, but you shouldn't say I don't want to meet a Black person or I only want to meet white (Pink really) persons.

Do not empower racists. Always confront racists as they will take silence as a tacit agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple."

So it could be considered racist if a guy wants sex with a black couple . So remind me . How many hundreds of women on here have BBC only on their profiles ?. No white. Black only. They aren’t looked upon as being racist. They just want black cock. Double standards .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start again...

Told a female friend that one of my bucket list to do's is to have a Bi MMF with a black couple. She then went beserk calling me racist. I explained that I have been with only white couples in Bi MMF and would like to try and she said it was a power thing!!!

Have I missed something? How is wanting that racist?

"

Your not racist for having a preference or desire. Way too many have knee jerk reactions and pull the race card out...

Being racist and having a preference are completely different.

I dont want really to fuck a 99 year old woman. That doesn't make me ageist, It's s preference.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"Possibly.

You’re not expresssing a sexual preference, but merely a wish to shag a couple based solely on their skin colour. That could be interpreted as racist.

Even if not racist, you are sexually objectifying the couple. The only reason you want them is to satisfy your wish to have sex with a black couple.

So it could be considered racist if a guy wants sex with a black couple . So remind me . How many hundreds of women on here have BBC only on their profiles ?. No white. Black only. They aren’t looked upon as being racist. They just want black cock. Double standards ."

So logically this applies as well to the white women who only want white guys or who do not want Asians of which there are far more in this group than those that like black men. I think the white women who only want white guys would be upset to be called racist.

Additionally given that many who ask for BBC (an acronym I hate, but that's a different argument) are married to white guys or have a white partner, how are they racist?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't comment on whether you are racist or not.

That would depend entirely on your reasoning behind wanting to have sex with black people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't comment on whether you are racist or not.

That would depend entirely on your reasoning behind wanting to have sex with black people. "

Presumably because he finds; as I do, black women attractive.

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