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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

I've said previously I'm not a swinger and to be honest I, personally could never swap a partner. Each to their own but not for me. Hand on heart I've never cheated on any girl I've been with and when I'm in a relationship monogamy is a must.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally."

Correct me if I'm wrong but there are single people on here also who are interested in meeting other single people?

I have zero interest in other men's partners so I'm not expecting anything from them.

Fuxsake, I replied,to your post and you say I don't belong here haha

No need to apologise for your reply

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Of course each relationship is different and being on a swinging site you will probably get slightly different responses than if you asked this question of a different group of people.

Speaking only for us I would say that friendship is an essential in keeping our 38 year relationship on track along with hard work, trust, compromise, forgiveness and respect. We like each other and we've got each others back.

Romantic love doesn't last and if it doesn't evolve into deep, respectful love you're in trouble.

Swinging successfully depends on having a rock solid relationship and if you're using it to rescue a tired one that won't work either.

I don't think the choice is between being best friends and swinging. Long relationships are successful for a wide variety of reasons. What do you mean by the term "the right track" when you refer to a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Correct me if I'm wrong but there are single people on here also who are interested in meeting other single people?

I have zero interest in other men's partners so I'm not expecting anything from them.

Fuxsake, I replied,to your post and you say I don't belong here haha

No need to apologise for your reply"

I won't apologise. This is a swingers site. Yes of course people may use it how they wish, but you have joined here, admitted you aren't a swinger, yet on your profile you want to meet couples? I think you're confused mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Of course each relationship is different and being on a swinging site you will probably get slightly different responses than if you asked this question of a different group of people.

Romantic love doesn't last and if it doesn't evolve into deep, respectful love you're in trouble.

Swinging successfully depends on having a rock solid relationship and if you're using it to rescue a tired one that won't work either.

By the right track I was meaning making it last. So many relationships fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

I'm the same. I'm not a swinger and when in a relationship I wouldn't want to swap.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think all relationships are meant to last for a lifetime. All sorts of reasons for that I suppose.

I honestly believe that it's pure luck that you meet someone who is prepared to put the work in. I also think that as a couple you need to see your marriage as something separate to the two of you that needs tending. A bit like a garden. You need to it, apply fertiliser and you get to sit in it on sunny days and enjoy the scenery

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I also think that arguing about whether people are swingers or not could ruin what might be an interesting discussion

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

Weve been together 22 years, swinging for the past 3. To be honest a long relationship is hard work. You have to learn to examine your self and be willing to change and adapt. But you also have to learn to let things go and not carry a grudge. Thats the real killer as it leeds to contempt. Focus on being friends, the lovers part follows on from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to many weddings, both here and in the US - probably about 12 in total, and the only one couple out of all of those who are still together and seemingly very happy is the couple who didn't have kids. Every other couple have split and are with new partners.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Weve been together 22 years, swinging for the past 3. To be honest a long relationship is hard work. You have to learn to examine your self and be willing to change and adapt. But you also have to learn to let things go and not carry a grudge. Thats the real killer as it leeds to contempt. Focus on being friends, the lovers part follows on from that.

Yep. Sex will never keep a relationship going long term.

My parents have been married 63 years. My mother is now very ill, sex is not keeping them together.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Yep. Sex will never keep a relationship going long term.

My parents have been married 63 years. My mother is now very ill, sex is not keeping them together. "

Agreed, we might have sex once every 6-8 weeks or so. It's not sex keeping us together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I also think that arguing about whether people are swingers or not could ruin what might be an interesting discussion "

Who is arguing?

I'm simply saying what I think in a grown up manner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been to many weddings, both here and in the US - probably about 12 in total, and the only one couple out of all of those who are still together and seemingly very happy is the couple who didn't have kids. Every other couple have split and are with new partners. "

The statistics are quite sad aren't they.

I do believe children bring immense amounts of pressure and stress which if the marriage isn't strong enough to start with, can indeed cause break ups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soundproofing so kids stay out ya room lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

In a nutshell that is actually it!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private."

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

In a nutshell that is actually it!

Its a warts and all relationship being married.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together. "

But going to the toilet (for a poop) is incredibly intimate and not something I would want someone standing watching me do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Soundproofing so kids stay out ya room lol"

Hell yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Communication, respect and laughter!

I can’t say swinging or the swinging scene as we are noobs (but it definitely has improved what we thought was perfect)

Been together 21 years, only got married last year!

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By *amlee7986Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

"I also think that arguing about whether people are swingers or not could ruin what might be an interesting discussion "

I agree. I keep checking back on this post as I'm genuinely curious as to what people say, not to read the drama

there are lots of other threads for that haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

In a nutshell that is actually it!

Its a warts and all relationship being married. "

I think a lot of people run away at the first sign of a wart.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

But going to the toilet (for a poop) is incredibly intimate and not something I would want someone standing watching me do."

Not watching lol! Just not excluding. If my wife had an accident, or became ill or so frail that she could no longer wipe herself etc i could do that. I love her. I understand what that commitment means. In sickness and in health, and everything in between.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

But going to the toilet (for a poop) is incredibly intimate and not something I would want someone standing watching me do."
If you can't be incredibly intimate within the safety of your marriage, where can you be?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

In a nutshell that is actually it!

Its a warts and all relationship being married.

I think a lot of people run away at the first sign of a wart.

Agreed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

But going to the toilet (for a poop) is incredibly intimate and not something I would want someone standing watching me do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

In a nutshell that is actually it!

Its a warts and all relationship being married.

I think a lot of people run away at the first sign of a wart.

Agreed."

Mind you under certain circumstances I've been known to do a runner if I see a wart

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Jesus, we've been married over 30 years .. you really know how to make someone feel ancient

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Jesus, we've been married over 30 years .. you really know how to make someone feel ancient

Sorry, you're not ancient, you're in your prime

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

But going to the toilet (for a poop) is incredibly intimate and not something I would want someone standing watching me do. If you can't be incredibly intimate within the safety of your marriage, where can you be?

I've no idea, but I still wouldn't want to go to the toilet in front of a partner. Imagine when I need to change a tampon!! Maybe where I'm going wrong then. Who knew a poop could save a marriage

(tongue in cheek before anyone has a go)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single now but I was in a monogamous, faithful relationship for 24 years. I think eating together and going to bed at the same time are incredibly important. Those are the times that the communication takes place. Once we started going to bed at different times I knew we were in trouble.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single now but I was in a monogamous, faithful relationship for 24 years. I think eating together and going to bed at the same time are incredibly important. Those are the times that the communication takes place. Once we started going to bed at different times I knew we were in trouble.

Yes, I agree with this. Unfortunately it's not always possible.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We haven't quite made the 20 year mark yet, but we aren't far off.

For me trust and being able to talk through problems is the key.

Swinging is a small part of things for us and is only relevant in that it highlights this trust and understanding of each other.

I also believe it is important to have separate identities and interests a way from the two of you.

We are friends not simply lovers, and will always be there for each other.

Nita

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

I've no idea, but I still wouldn't want to go to the toilet in front of a partner. Imagine when I need to change a tampon!! Maybe where I'm going wrong then. Who knew a poop could save a marriage

(tongue in cheek before anyone has a go)"

It's not an every day thing

We have two loos because we like privacy. However if we needed to we know that having to take a poo in each others company wouldn't threaten our relationship.

We've been together while I gave birth, while recovering from surgery, while being so ill from rotor virus that I fainted on the loo and had to be rescued, through grief and loads of other rough stuff. It's how you stick together on the rough times that makes a relationship rather than the good times.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Me & John were serial shaggers before we ever met & when we did get together friends reckoned we'd last no longer than six months, 21 years down the line were still just as happy & still in love/lust with each other.

Not only have we met countless people swinging we've also met 100's more making porn so you have to treat extra marital fun & work as just a titillating experience & not live it 24/7 or it can get addictive.

We have our normal family life kids/grand kids vanilla friends & to people who don't know what we do we seem a pretty boring & ordinary couple, you have to know when to swing & when to switch off as some of our friends over the years have burned out their relationships over too much deceitful one sided swinging & jealously etc.

We still love the social aspect of swinging better than the sex & that's what attracted us to swinging in the first place, couples can enjoy swinging without destroying their relationship if they set out guidelines & are honest with each other.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

I've no idea, but I still wouldn't want to go to the toilet in front of a partner. Imagine when I need to change a tampon!! Maybe where I'm going wrong then. Who knew a poop could save a marriage

(tongue in cheek before anyone has a go)"

It's about intimacy in all aspects of your relationship. Tampons Are just something that happens. If you're squeamish about toilet habits you'll have a shock when you start having children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me & John were serial shaggers before we ever met & when we did get together friends reckoned we'd last no longer than six months, 21 years down the line were still just as happy & still in love/lust with each other.

Your an inspiration and should do relationship therapy

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I’ve tied her to the bed and put her in a cage rest of time - she simply just can’t leave!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally."

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Your an inspiration and should do relationship therapy

Thanks xx, we were recently asked to do some podcast interviews for a well know adult site about swinging/the adult industry & how we maintain a normal life & the effects it has had during that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab"

Why is it a problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been with my husband 27yrs and counting

Started swinging about 10/11 yrs ago I'd defo say it's made us alot closer yrs.

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab"

Totally agree - just know meeting someone like this would have no respect for you. Equally perhaps suggests why single - they got pissed of with the jealousy and being made to feel like they were owned, rather than equal. Out of some sense of backward devotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

Why is it a problem?"
hypocrisy?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab"

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab"

Care to explain why I and others who share my view are a problem?

I stated earlier, I won't waste anyone's time or arrange meets and not show so I don't get why my presence is unwelcome.

Maybe I'll meet a single lady from the site why is this a problem for you?

I can't believe some people have either the time or inclination to complain about and question others criteria for being on a site hahaha

I'm genuinely stunned I'm being cyber bullied on here haha

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it? "

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

Care to explain why I and others who share my view are a problem?

I stated earlier, I won't waste anyone's time or arrange meets and not show so I don't get why my presence is unwelcome.

Maybe I'll meet a single lady from the site why is this a problem for you?

I can't believe some people have either the time or inclination to complain about and question others criteria for being on a site hahaha

I'm genuinely stunned I'm being cyber bullied on here haha"
bullied lol obviously you havnt tried the Scottish forums then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger... "

Hahaha

This may surprise you but I, at this point in time have no interest in becoming a swinger.

Neither do I think being a swinger is any kind of achievement to aspire to haha.

Maybe the site started as a swingers site but looks to me like it's evolved into a dating and swinging site

If swingers want to swing that's their choice I have no issue with that and nobody is stopping you but trying to alienate people who don't swing from a website is a little odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger... "

Sorry you feel more deserving to be here than me. But until this website is changed so it doesn't suit my needs, get over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

Care to explain why I and others who share my view are a problem?

I stated earlier, I won't waste anyone's time or arrange meets and not show so I don't get why my presence is unwelcome.

Maybe I'll meet a single lady from the site why is this a problem for you?

I can't believe some people have either the time or inclination to complain about and question others criteria for being on a site hahaha

I'm genuinely stunned I'm being cyber bullied on here hahabullied lol obviously you havnt tried the Scottish forums then

I'm being bullied by swingers on a Sunday.haha

I might nip out for a few beers to find the courage to hit our forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The secret of our success is being able to have conversations with each other while sharing the bathroom. One on the toilet, one in the shower or whatever. That's the secret.

Haha I could never do that though. Some things I need to keep private.

I don't know how a couple who keeps things private from each other could stay together.

I've no idea, but I still wouldn't want to go to the toilet in front of a partner. Imagine when I need to change a tampon!! Maybe where I'm going wrong then. Who knew a poop could save a marriage

(tongue in cheek before anyone has a go)

It's not an every day thing

We have two loos because we like privacy. However if we needed to we know that having to take a poo in each others company wouldn't threaten our relationship.

That is true.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger...

Sorry you feel more deserving to be here than me. But until this website is changed so it doesn't suit my needs, get over it"

Now where is my stock of popcorn...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The definition of swinging is a person who engages in group sex OR swaps partners. There is nothing to suggest the two are mutually exclusive and you don't have to tick all the boxes to be able to swing.

I see plenty of couples here looking for a single males or females to enhance their play so surely there is a place for us singles here whether we wish to share our own partners or not.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Crikey this thread South suddenly!

No need to be rude to those who don't share the same views as you. To be fair I think very few singles on here would swing if in a relationship. For many couples, it's just not something that they would be comfortable with.

As long as I don't feel disrespected or used, whether they would swing with a partner, isn't something I would even think to ask.

Try to be nice and positive guys.

Nita

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger...

Hahaha

This may surprise you but I, at this point in time have no interest in becoming a swinger.

Neither do I think being a swinger is any kind of achievement to aspire to haha.

Maybe the site started as a swingers site but looks to me like it's evolved into a dating and swinging site

If swingers want to swing that's their choice I have no issue with that and nobody is stopping you but trying to alienate people who don't swing from a website is a little odd."

Nothing against you personally but through experience we have found quite a few people with no interest of said sites will infiltrate to gain knowledge photo evidence against individuals, Police/Customs/Tax investigators/Reporters/Tabloids etc so you can see why real swingers are dubious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread has totally gone off on a tangent.

Hey ho...on to the next

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"This thread has totally gone off on a tangent.

Hey ho...on to the next

Totally agree lol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I've actually joined a golf and a snooker forum. I'm hoping to turn them both into angling forums. I just don't see why they shouldn't change for me.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"I've actually joined a golf and a snooker forum. I'm hoping to turn them both into angling forums. I just don't see why they shouldn't change for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger...

Hahaha

This may surprise you but I, at this point in time have no interest in becoming a swinger.

Neither do I think being a swinger is any kind of achievement to aspire to haha.

Maybe the site started as a swingers site but looks to me like it's evolved into a dating and swinging site

If swingers want to swing that's their choice I have no issue with that and nobody is stopping you but trying to alienate people who don't swing from a website is a little odd.

I totally take your point but people need to take a bit of responsibility for their own privacy if they are hiding what they do.

TBH I think you might be over stating the interest in what you do, I'm not sure too many people not involved care who shags who but I understand why some people might not want the fact they are on here to be common knowledge.

Just don't get the need for the hostility some have shown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've actually joined a golf and a snooker forum. I'm hoping to turn them both into angling forums. I just don't see why they shouldn't change for me."

Nobody is asking anybody to change anything.

What are you reading here? Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The definition of swinging is a person who engages in group sex OR swaps partners. There is nothing to suggest the two are mutually exclusive and you don't have to tick all the boxes to be able to swing.

I see plenty of couples here looking for a single males or females to enhance their play so surely there is a place for us singles here whether we wish to share our own partners or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger... "

Then they should boot off all the couples that only ever meet singles for threesomes. They clearly aren't swingers if only one of them fucks other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

I'm the same. I'm not a swinger and when in a relationship I wouldn't want to swap. "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taken a little longer than I thought for someone to start throwing the ‘swinging site / proper swinger’ references around.

FYI... the site can be used in a variety of ways, those that don’t refer to themselves as swingers don’t take up anymore cyberspace than those that do!

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger... "

So I guess we aren't swingers in your eyes then ? Sorry but we've no intention of leaving just to satisfy you.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

I wasn't married for 17 years, all but the last was very happy....

We,were best mates "got" each other, total trust and had a great sexy life. I think you need those ingredients to have a chance of a relationship lasting.

So....you're not a swinger but you've joined a swingers site?

You wouldn't share your partner yet you expect other men to share their partners with you?

Wrong site mate....totally.

Totally this.

This is one of the problems with Fab

So should Fab be for swingers only? How would Admin Police it?

Yes a swinging site should be for just swingers or people thinking about swinging, why on earth would you join lol.

To be married but too jealous to swap your partner yet still want to play doesn't really make you a swinger...

So I guess we aren't swingers in your eyes then ? Sorry but we've no intention of leaving just to satisfy you."

No one as asked anyone to leave lol, the thread once again was taken off topic and people simply answered questions that were asked.

Its true this site can be used for whatever purpose people want but not everyone will or will not agree with those purposes...

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

302 year's together and counting.

Honesty,trust, communication as well as a healthy sex life.

Swinging has suplimented or sex life but tbh we would still be at it like bunnies swinging or not.

I love her more than ever.

Just because you have been together for a long time doesn't mean giving up on the relationship, like most things it still requires maintenance.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

302 year's together and counting.

Honesty,trust, communication as well as a healthy sex life.

Swinging has suplimented or sex life but tbh we would still be at it like bunnies swinging or not.

I love her more than ever.

Just because you have been together for a long time doesn't mean giving up on the relationship, like most things it still requires maintenance."

302 years fuck me had it been that long?

I obviously meant 32!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

302 year's together and counting.

Honesty,trust, communication as well as a healthy sex life.

Swinging has suplimented or sex life but tbh we would still be at it like bunnies swinging or not.

I love her more than ever.

Just because you have been together for a long time doesn't mean giving up on the relationship, like most things it still requires maintenance.

302 years fuck me had it been that long?

I obviously meant 32!!"

Maybe it just feels that long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Erm... We'll get back to you in 8 years or so

Mrs

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

302 year's together and counting.

Honesty,trust, communication as well as a healthy sex life.

Swinging has suplimented or sex life but tbh we would still be at it like bunnies swinging or not.

I love her more than ever.

Just because you have been together for a long time doesn't mean giving up on the relationship, like most things it still requires maintenance.

302 years fuck me had it been that long?

I obviously meant 32!!

Maybe it just feels that long.

Probably does for her I have turned into a bit of a grumpy git.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

302 year's together and counting.

Honesty,trust, communication as well as a healthy sex life.

Swinging has suplimented or sex life but tbh we would still be at it like bunnies swinging or not.

I love her more than ever.

Just because you have been together for a long time doesn't mean giving up on the relationship, like most things it still requires maintenance.

302 years fuck me had it been that long?

I obviously meant 32!!"

It did make me smile.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

*waves* open relationship here! Been with my hubby for 15yrs and only been swinging and in a open r/s for about the last 7yrs it works for us and that’s all that matters

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over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Me and husband have been together 17 years, married for 14.

We're complete opposites and best friends, and we have had plenty of moments that have tested us over the years.

But we're both too stubborn to ever give up on our relationship, and have been through far too much together to ever cut each other out of our lives.

Neither of us want to be part of the divorce statistic, or want our daughter to have separated parents. So we compromise a lot, we make sure we tell each other we love each other every day, and even when we really don't like each other we remind ourselves why we've lasted so many years and of all the good times we've shared.

Because despite the times when we drive each other mad and can bring the worst out of each other, we're also soul mates who'd do anything for each other no matter what.

I wouldn't say swinging has changed our relationship in any way, it's something we both enjoy doing together for recreational purposes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thread has inspired me to do this.

To those couples who have been together for a really long time i.e. 20 years or more, what is the secret to making it work?

Do you think swinging has played a part in keeping your relationship on the right track?

Or do you get to a stage where you are more like best friends and remain together because of that?

Me and husband have been together 17 years, married for 14.

We're complete opposites and best friends, and we have had plenty of moments that have tested us over the years.

But we're both too stubborn to ever give up on our relationship, and have been through far too much together to ever cut each other out of our lives.

Because despite the times when we drive each other mad and can bring the worst out of each other, we're also soul mates who'd do anything for each other no matter what.

I wouldn't say swinging has changed our relationship in any way, it's something we both enjoy doing together for recreational purposes.

You sound very realistic and grounded about your relationship. I think the fact you admit you drive each other mad is admirable. That is something that is present in everyone's relationships, just a lot of people won't admit to it.

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