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By *ensuallover1000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

A simple, quick question now; On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your confidence ‘In the real world’ as it were?

I realise that this could be construed as somewhat ambiguous as it is perfectly feasible to be confident in some areas of one’s life, such as being confident in ones own abilities in ones job description for instance, yet simultaneously suffering shyness and lack of confidence in a social context.

With this in mind, the rating I’m specifically being nosey about is precisely the latter variable i.e your self perceived level of social confidence.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Social confidence? I’m around a 4 I think. Report home says ‘must try harder’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About an 8. Reckon it’s gone up since I got married - couldn’t give a fuck what other folk think now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am annoyingly confident. I would say I am an 11

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 I’m shy so struggle and have to fake it a lot

Fab gives me confidence I’m a vote an 8/9 when I’m in naughty mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very low.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My jobs have taken me onto American and British military bases where I've held my own against men with shiny medals on their chest and guns at their hips.

I've taught in inner city colleges where threat of violence were just that threats because I could hold my own.

I've negotiated with mps, CEOs...all levels confident in my skills and expertise.

I've addressed conferences and seminars...all in a day's work.

Put me behind the wheel of a car and I hyperventilate, I go hot and cold and panic. I've turned down jobs because a company car was provided. Once I turn on the ignition I'm fine but I panic and lose confidence every time...I rely on public transport now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say i fluctuate between 7 and 10

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

...when it comes to body confidence: I'm fat my other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...need I say more?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Feeling about a 7 currently, a trip to the barbers usually helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of the things I find really interesting on here. I'm just on here for a laugh / browse and it doesn't mean anything to me in real terms...

However to some it's clearly a major part of their lives and consequently a major part of their self.

I would guess a large minority of people on here have low self esteem and confidence and use this site as an attempt to boost both but would never "meet" anyone or see it through.

It's easy to blag confidence on the www but it's also easy to see right through it given the right training...

For the record socially I'm 10/10 and sexually 8/10

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m about an 8 in 1-2-1 situations and about a 4 in some social situations, I really can’t do small talk so unless I know you well or we have just met and have a lot to talk about I can be quiet, I’m an introverted extrovert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately very low

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"It's one of the things I find really interesting on here. I'm just on here for a laugh / browse and it doesn't mean anything to me in real terms...

However to some it's clearly a major part of their lives and consequently a major part of their self.

I would guess a large minority of people on here have low self esteem and confidence and use this site as an attempt to boost both but would never "meet" anyone or see it through.

It's easy to blag confidence on the www but it's also easy to see right through it given the right training...

For the record socially I'm 10/10 and sexually 8/10"

I don’t think having low self esteem or lack of confidence means that people don’t meet necessarily.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

8/10. I don’t shy away from much and can be a bit too forward. Hopefully this doesn’t come across too douchebaggy when I do it though. Overconfidence can come across as pushy and I know that is personally a turn off so I’d hate to think I do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9-10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've changed from about a 3 or 4 to a 7 or 8, over the years.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’d say I’m about a 6 and my wife the same .

That’s cool though , there’s nothing worse than overconfident people who usually are arrogant and pompous with it .

We were both about a 3 before we started swinging though , it helped us loads to gain confidence .

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By *eneRoissyMan
over a year ago

Nailsworth

I think it requires a balance, there are things I am more confident about than others. I'd place myself as a 5 and would hope I never slip into intolerance and pomposity as over confidence irritates me

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By *hisky and WineCouple
over a year ago

the vicinity of Betelgeuse


"I’m about an 8 in 1-2-1 situations and about a 4 in some social situations, I really can’t do small talk so unless I know you well or we have just met and have a lot to talk about I can be quiet, I’m an introverted extrovert "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the circumstances, as a person I’m not very confident in some things, how I look or mixing with strangers. But in what I do I’m very confident, so it’s up and down x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally am a 2 or 3

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

Work 9

With friends 9 to 10

Socially with strangers 5 to 6 (not good at small talk either)

Fab World 5

Fab Parties/Events 2 to 3 (nervous wreck)

The term 'introverted extrovert' is spot on in my case.

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