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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

Where do couples come into this?

What about guys messaging guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

Then us guys might as well go on other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ladies already send the first message

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some ladies already send the first message "

Or wink

Which I usually wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the number of men to women on here I think it would piss a lot of men off lol. Surely there simply wouldn’t be enough women to message every guy??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send messages I only receive them once in a while

#youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do so many on here feel the need to change fab into something that reflects their own preconceptions or prejudices.

I find it works fine just the way it is.

If it doesn't work for you OP you have two choices.

I'm sure you can work them out on your own

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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

And your the kind of guy that still washes dishes, has a corded hoover and a non steam iron. I'm sure you can work out what I'm saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And your the kind of guy that still washes dishes, has a corded hoover and a non steam iron. I'm sure you can work out what I'm saying "

Oh dear

Reactionary is probably not the way to go

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

But surely sometimes the magic is in the first message. There must be occations were a man's first message tottaly trumps their overlooked profile? Think of the missed opportunities and possible relationships that may never of happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

No loads of women and couples by that i mean the female half first message i was having a great chat just last night because of this

So its fine as it is granted some guy first messages are plain wierd

But in general it works fine as it is thanks for your concern tho op infact all but the last 2 meets were down to women messaging me first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "
you'd never hear from anyone my friend, you quite often don't hear from women who like you, having the opportunity to show your personality is your chance, you surely don't want to give that away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

I'd love for the site to try it as an experiment for a week.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought

I'd love for the site to try it as an experiment for a week. "

Would the site not lose most of its revenue by the end of the week?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"And your the kind of guy that still washes dishes, has a corded hoover and a non steam iron. I'm sure you can work out what I'm saying "

We wash up and have a corded hoover ...what we aren't prepared to do is spend time checking every profile that sends us a wink as we wouldn't get any washing up or hoovering done....and yes we do have a steam iron.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

No. I’ve messaged people and ended up meeting as a result. If I hadn’t been able to, I’d have met no-one. Seems a no brainier to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought

I'd love for the site to try it as an experiment for a week.

Would the site not lose most of its revenue by the end of the week? "

What revenue? The site is free to use.

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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Some great points tbh particularly about a msg grabbing someone's attention when they might otherwise have passed you by.

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By *rown Eyed SubWoman
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire


"Some ladies already send the first message "

exactly! if i like what a see i send a msg. i know what i want & usually get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And your the kind of guy that still washes dishes, has a corded hoover and a non steam iron. I'm sure you can work out what I'm saying

We wash up and have a corded hoover ...what we aren't prepared to do is spend time checking every profile that sends us a wink as we wouldn't get any washing up or hoovering done....and yes we do have a steam iron."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

There is an argument for some guys not being able to start threads for their own good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a ridiculous idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is a ridiculous idea. "
don't mince your words

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought "

There's nothing stopping you from doing this.

Tumble emoji wanted here

Meanwhile in fabland for a lot of others.... Party emoji

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought

I'd love for the site to try it as an experiment for a week.

Would the site not lose most of its revenue by the end of the week?

What revenue? The site is free to use. "

Many users are silver or gold. The site may not be for profit spinning but I'm sure it does run on fresh air, it has costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the site might be better if only the girls could send a first msg. Guys could wink in way of showing interest but the ladies are the ones who initiate the contact. Just a little thought

I'd love for the site to try it as an experiment for a week.

Would the site not lose most of its revenue by the end of the week?

What revenue? The site is free to use.

Many users are silver or gold. The site may not be for profit spinning but I'm sure it does run on fresh air, it has costs."

Lots use it for free.

I'd estimate the ones with pics are supporters and the ones just looking aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged 2 people on here but not to chat, to comment on things from the forums. I honestly would chat to anyone if this happened. I wouldn't have a clue what to say to someone in an opening message

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