FabSwingers.com forum: Ive noticed this about men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They get upset if you mention other men (so I don’t do that) but so many men mention ´the hottest girl on fab’ or ´had the best time ever with....’ or ‘I’m hung up on one’ of your friends....’

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all i love hearing about who girls like and dont

Who theyve met what they have and will get up to its all about learning for me

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

As with many things ladies do a guy is slaughtered if he does the same ..

It's part of the fab inequality statement..please read the terms and conditions

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I’ve noticed that it’s very unpopular to post anything remotely negative about guys in the forums.

The coven will be along shortly to put you right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one rule for them and another for us. I can think of *many* other examples where men do things but it's the end of the universe if a woman does the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, it is funny how people react so bad when you treat them the way they treat you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's one rule for them and another for us. I can think of *many* other examples where men do things but it's the end of the universe if a woman does the same. "

Just got to be a grown up about these things

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've only had this once, a guy I'd been talking to asked what I was up to at the weekend, when I told him I was meeting someone from fab he took the right hump that it wasn't him. Despite him racking up verifications the whole time we were chatting and it didnt bother me a bit. People are strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They get upset if you mention other men (so I don’t do that) but so many men mention ´the hottest girl on fab’ or ´had the best time ever with....’ or ‘I’m hung up on one’ of your friends....’

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "
I don't do that, I don't want to hear what you get up to and I will reciprocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to hear about other encounter too. Good and bad. Call it research, if you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I do get a pang of jealousy for any reason, I check myself and remember that this is a site to fuck people, cause having sex is fun and variety is the spice of life. And people should be fucking more.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I think that it very much depends upon how each person deals with this. It is, at its most basic, that old chestnut called jealousy. Even here, where it should be a lot more open to openness, the jealousy comes out. It’s in a slightly different way to that within relationships. With them, there may be feelings of hurt and betrayal.

On fab it’s going to be slightly different. Imagine a pub with someone you have been eying up all night and just as you’re going to make your move, someone else sidles up to them and the opportunity feels lost.

So for some, it’s a feeling of FOMO (fear of missing out) like if that kid just stole your favourite toy.

I see flirting among the regulars on here and may think “why are they not flirting with me?” I understand I’m still relatively new here. Some coming into the forums or seeing interactions in general on the site, can take this as a sense of rejection. Like the toy analogy that someone has just swiped it away.

I’d still like more to flirt with me of course

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Maybe if it's single guys they don't get the swinging dynamic and are actually looking for a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

To those men, mention other men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if it's single guys they don't get the swinging dynamic and are actually looking for a relationship?"

I don’t think they get the idea of swinging at all. They want NSA sex with many people, but can’t seperate the jealousy when the other person does it.

I’ve heard it’s women too. I’ve heard tales of an incredibly prolific female on here who’s in the hot pics a lot being incredibly possessive and insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm nosey and I think big mistake men do on Status updates is moan ,its not a attractive trait to be negative and will not attract anyone too you .My opinion of course .Plus some verifications are too detailed and rude puts me off .Discreet and stay classy always gets you quality hook ups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I do get a pang of jealousy for any reason, I check myself and remember that this is a site to fuck people, cause having sex is fun and variety is the spice of life. And people should be fucking more. "

Same and id enjoy hearing about it regardless i love the storys people tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ego"

Everybody’s

Got

One

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the ones talking about women are ok with hearing about other men?

I've not met anyone-that I recall anyway-who spoke about other women without me asking. I like hearing about who men have sex with and what they like about them. I don't mention other men unless asked though. Funny though that men don't tend to ask.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Frankly, it's none of my business if someone I've met is meeting someone else and it doesn't bother me in the slightest if they do - the ONLY time it would bother me would be if they cancelled plans with me to do so.

I guess as others have said though, some people (and it is both men and women) let the green eyed monster rear it's head and if they do, to me at least, it suggests they don't "get" the lifestyle and are perhaps looking for more than just NSA.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally don’t get upset if women put statuses about other men. Good on them and enjoy yourselves.

I’ve had it the other way though where women have got upset because I’ve put a meet up or a status saying I’m available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

I think it's their fear they've missed out on something. You could have been giving them your time but chose someone else. Not realising they have done the same to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dosent bother me ,i just go to the pub and play pool.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

"I don't mention other men unless asked though. Funny though that men don't tend to ask. "

I will always ask, though I try to be and encourage openness from the start.

It’s relevant, as past partners will likely have had some influence on how she views a particular activity now. That might be a positive memory or negative. There’s something very endearing about hearing how such and such first got her into eg swinging, fetish. If it’s a negative, then that too can be discussed and help her to regain confidence or openness trying new things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think some men and women forget it's a swingers site .It's not a dating site .

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"I’ve noticed that it’s very unpopular to post anything remotely negative about guys in the forums.

The coven will be along shortly to put you right

The Coven?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

"
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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

I think it's their fear they've missed out on something. You could have been giving them your time but chose someone else. Not realising they have done the same to you. "

Oh they had their time, and plenty of it, it was their choice not to see me, then the green eyed monster appeared when I made other plans.

I find it quite funny now

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Ego.

Some, note I said some, have a very fragile ego and can't understand why they aren't the center of your universe.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Ego

Everybody’s

Got

One"

And some are larger than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind talking about fantasies and people in the past, about what we'd do if we met George Clooney and Zooey Deschanel, or about lovers we've had.

But when I'm with a woman, even if it's just for sex, I prefer to stay in the moment and treat her with that respect that all my attention is on her. So, no, I wouldn't bring up the subject of other women I'd like to meet. And I'd hope for the same in return.

So maybe it's not a male female thing. Maybe it's a manners thing

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Ego.

Some, note I said some, have a very fragile ego and can't understand why they aren't the center of your universe.

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That is true . There are also some women who are exactly the same ( in these very forums ) . But yes there are guys who are way over sensitive on here , and they are perhaps on the wrong site

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I wouldn't want to hear about past conquests or discuss my own, I just think likes, wants and needs can be expressed without being indiscreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

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that is a generalisation though, surely you don't come into a forum and expect everyone to have the same opinion otherwise what's the point of a forum, we are all different and expect different things from this the meeting point

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

that is a generalisation though, surely you don't come into a forum and expect everyone to have the same opinion otherwise what's the point of a forum, we are all different and expect different things from this the meeting point

I was talking about a personal experience.

Dealing with someone who claimed to be open minded & liberated, happy to do his own thing on a regular basis, but reduced me to tears for doing the same, once!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow, so interesting, thanks for all the comments.

I think whoever said about ego is true and also I think a couple of guys are just kids in candy shop so the fomo is true too

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Ladies I thought we had an agreement that you wouldn’t meet anyone else on here until you’d had your turn with me!

Now clearly some of you seem to think that rule doesn’t apply to you. Come here now for your spanking.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

There’s a lot of single people on here and clearly not all are honest about their true intentions.

Good communication is the key. When FT and I met on here as singles and realised that our previous NSA desires didn’t apply, we talked it through. And we didn’t involve anyone else to complicate and test the situation. Slightly different situation I know, but I think there are many singles on here that would prefer more than they may care to admit to themselves, let alone others.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Personally I find a woman who likes sex with lots of different men very hot. Bring it on I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ego

Everybody’s

Got

One"

Answer to the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow, so interesting, thanks for all the comments.

I think whoever said about ego is true and also I think a couple of guys are just kids in candy shop so the fomo is true too "

Miss can i have some sweetys please i promise il be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

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I appreciate you started off talking about him as an individual but you then " its an ugly unnaatractive trait in people " But if that's solely applying to him that is of course fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

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I appreciate you started off talking about him as an individual but you then " its an ugly unnaatractive trait in people " But if that's solely applying to him that is of course fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a pic on my profile of me grabbing a mans arse..

When i first posted it, another man i was chatting to took the hump and decided he didn't want to meet me after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ego

Everybody’s

Got

One

And some are larger than others."

Some are more fragile than others lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ego

Everybody’s

Got

One

And some are larger than others.

Some are more fraggle rock than others lol "

Worries for another day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no desire to hear who someone is hankering after or who they have met. In fact i think it is a bit rude to bring up another meet with someone you’re meeting, have met or are going to meet, unless they ask.

It’s just showboating and i don’t find that attractive in men at all.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

woman are smoke screens, straight men only want cock anyway or why be on here HAHAHAHA...it's all very dark and secretive on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

I think it's their fear they've missed out on something. You could have been giving them your time but chose someone else. Not realising they have done the same to you.

Oh they had their time, and plenty of it, it was their choice not to see me, then the green eyed monster appeared when I made other plans.

I find it quite funny now "

I get it. They don't want you any more but don't like the idea of someone else having you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no desire to hear who someone is hankering after or who they have met. In fact i think it is a bit rude to bring up another meet with someone you’re meeting, have met or are going to meet, unless they ask.

It’s just showboating and i don’t find that attractive in men at all."

Especially if they mention names?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind hearing about the shenanigans of my male friends, I quite like it. What I don’t like is when we chat daily and they lie about being at work or something then receive and display a veri

I don’t care that they’ve met someone, and I know they’ve probably lied to not “hurt my feelings” but it really bugs me.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"I've noticed this about some people".

Sorted.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

I appreciate you started off talking about him as an individual but you then " its an ugly unnaatractive trait in people " But if that's solely applying to him that is of course fine

Ok, maybe putting 'in a person' would have read better.

Forgive my dyslexic brain for getting it wrong, it took long enough to write, correct & rewrite the typos I did spot

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Been there, done that. Getting grief off of someone when I posted a new Veri, despite his numerous ones, that I never batted an eyelid over, or even bothered to read.

I call it double standards... And it's an ugly unnaatractive trait in people who are supposedly open minded & liberated.

I think it's their fear they've missed out on something. You could have been giving them your time but chose someone else. Not realising they have done the same to you.

Oh they had their time, and plenty of it, it was their choice not to see me, then the green eyed monster appeared when I made other plans.

I find it quite funny now

I get it. They don't want you any more but don't like the idea of someone else having you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind talking about fantasies and people in the past, about what we'd do if we met George Clooney and Zooey Deschanel, or about lovers we've had.

So maybe it's not a male female thing. Maybe it's a manners thing "

I agree with this. I don't like verifications detailing every sex act they've done and who with. I prefer discreet people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to hear about past conquests or discuss my own, I just think likes, wants and needs can be expressed without being indiscreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

I believe Madam meant to say "Some men"...

I never say things like "the hottest girl on fab" as because I haven't met every single girl on fab I'm in no position to judge that? Though I may think they're the hottest girl I've met up to that point. But the problem with that is that there's so many different ways in which someone can be hot and it differs in the minds of one person to the next?

So while I have no problem in singing a lady's praises and extolling her virtues and sultry appeal that's one description I tend not to use really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's one rule for them and another for us. I can think of *many* other examples where men do things but it's the end of the universe if a woman does the same. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say what I want all men do works both ways .If people don't like it block button is too be used for all the blonkers of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really give a shit about statuses of people I've met. Absolutely nothing on here bothers me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don't mind hearing about other people's experiences, I actually find it a huge turn on with some of my friends.

I find the majority of men I meet like to know about my other meets too, and I value these men as real swingers as they understand it. Only the odd few dont like to know. I do always ask a man how he feels before I would even mention other meets I've had.

I also never disclose who or when it was, when I'm talking about previous meets, as I'm extremely aware about discretion.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t think it is ok either way. Surely people can keep details to themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "
in my case you're wrong I never discuss other conquests or potential conquests, I will flirt but that my nature, I don't ask for veris, show veris or even want veris

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I actually don't mind hearing about other people's experiences, I actually find it a huge turn on with some of my friends.

I also never disclose who or when it was, when I'm talking about previous meets, as I'm extremely aware about discretion."

Snap

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I think some men do it to boost an ego or as like a marker for how many women they have been with. Personally if a woman said it to me I wouldn’t care as I know what this site is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be ego, but the one time I felt like that it was my feelings of attachment and disappointment I couldn’t see her that were more the problem. It has never bothered me in the slightest before or since.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"It's one rule for them and another for us. I can think of *many* other examples where men do things but it's the end of the universe if a woman does the jsame. "

I love your irony

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

I think as a generalisation you are spot on, however I get quite irritated with my wife when she won't tell me who she likes in case it upsets me, if you are truly best friends with your partner then that is exactly the conversation you should be able to have.

So personally I love it.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Who's got a bruised ego then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

You are right.. it’s because men like to pee on everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

You are right.. it’s because men like to pee on everything

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yes got a nettle sting on my shin the other day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think some men and women forget it's a swingers site .It's not a dating site .

Its not necessarily about dating and monogamy ... alot of the time its just bruised ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to hear about past conquests or discuss my own, I just think likes, wants and needs can be expressed without being indiscreet."

This for me too. I have zero interest in hearing about or discussing past conquests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to hear about past conquests or discuss my own, I just think likes, wants and needs can be expressed without being indiscreet.

This for me too. I have zero interest in hearing about or discussing past conquests."
me to its can lead to the green eyed monster

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

So personally I love it.

Mr"

You’re swingers and she irritates you in relation to this site? Should you talk to her rather than tell us this info?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't believe it's down to gender.

It's down to personality type.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

So personally I love it.

You’re swingers and she irritates you in relation to this site? Should you talk to her rather than tell us this info?

Bloody hell this site is hilarious. Do you actually take yourselves this seriously all the time. Life must be an absolute riot of... Boredom, lol.

it's a tongue in cheek jokey comment. And yes of course I talk to her about it, that's why some of us are in relationships, we know how to talk to each other, lol. And we can even have a little laugh at each others expense without running off to cry to all the really important people in our lives on this forum

But still, you win uptight comment of the day award, lol.

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over a year ago

"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit "
that's a very unfair statement I'm afraid I never treat a woman with anything less than respect

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

So personally I love it.

You’re swingers and she irritates you in relation to this site? Should you talk to her rather than tell us this info?

Think you're reading that completely wrong. In answer to the thread, he's saying he wants me to tell him when I like someone. In the same way he tells me. Our communication is great thanks

Mrs

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

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"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit "

So all men treat women like shit do they? The most you can justifiably say is all the men you have experienced do, which is a sad insight into any father figure, grandfather's and any other men in your life. What a shame.

Fortunately I can assure tyou that while it IS true in some cases, as a valid generalisation it is utter nonsense. About as valid as an all men are rapists statement.

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over a year ago

"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit

Fortunately I can assure tyou that while it IS true in some cases, as a valid generalisation it is utter nonsense. About as valid as an all men are rapists statement.

Except I never said all.

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over a year ago

"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit that's a very unfair statement I'm afraid I never treat a woman with anything less than respect "

If you did, you wouldn't need to mention it. Instead you should direct your energy towards the men who do treat non men poorly.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

So personally I love it.

You’re swingers and she irritates you in relation to this site? Should you talk to her rather than tell us this info?

Think you're reading that completely wrong. In answer to the thread, he's saying he wants me to tell him when I like someone. In the same way he tells me. Our communication is great thanks

Mrs"

Touché

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over a year ago

If you did, you wouldn't need to mention it. Instead you should direct your energy towards the men who do treat non men poorly."

Why would I or anyone say all men are rapists? That would just give all men a get out clause. The fact that most men aren't rapists is reason for the rapists to not have any excuse.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Well this took a turn

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Well this took a turn

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Fab is a place where people come for sex. A side effect of having sex with someone new is that you feel wanted and desired (yes, someone did like you enough to chat, flirt, kiss, look you in the eyes and do wonderful things with you). This is nothing more than validating of self, reflected back in the desire of others. How can this fail to increase your sense of self worth (ego).

As already stated a large proportion use this site simply for NSA, rather than swinging. I believe it is this portion of fab, that have not experienced sharing/swapping/clubs that have the most issues as they are unlikely to have been exposed to that before. Swinging/poly/sharing does go against the grain of our modern society and the need to mark and protect your territory is the norm.

The jealousy is a (vanilla) normal reaction which is what many of us have to overcome in ourselves and defend from with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about their deep rooted childish insecurities !

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

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"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit

Fortunately I can assure tyou that while it IS true in some cases, as a valid generalisation it is utter nonsense. About as valid as an all men are rapists statement.

Except I never said all."

The fact you started your sentence "men's" does say that and. Sure you know that but fair enough, as long as you don't actually think it's all then fine.

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over a year ago

"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit

Fortunately I can assure tyou that while it IS true in some cases, as a valid generalisation it is utter nonsense. About as valid as an all men are rapists statement.

Except I never said all.

The fact you started your sentence "men's" does say that and. Sure you know that but fair enough, as long as you don't actually think it's all then fine. "

You chose to interpret that way and I'm not seeking approval of my opinions.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

If you did, you wouldn't need to mention it. Instead you should direct your energy towards the men who do treat non men poorly.

Why would I or anyone say all men are rapists? That would just give all men a get out clause. The fact that most men aren't rapists is reason for the rapists to not have any excuse."

Not much of a follow of current affairs, with yours being such a femeinist statement I made yet another assumption and thought you would be well aware of that. But it sounds like you are just making random ambiguous statements with little point. Think God for the green arrow saving me time trying to rationise with you

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marilyn_French

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

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"Men's biggest fear is that we treat them equally. Equally to how they treat non-men. Which is pretty shit

Fortunately I can assure tyou that while it IS true in some cases, as a valid generalisation it is utter nonsense. About as valid as an all men are rapists statement.

Except I never said all.

The fact you started your sentence "men's" does say that and. Sure you know that but fair enough, as long as you don't actually think it's all then fine.

You chose to interpret that way and I'm not seeking approval of my opinions."

Well as you're posting them on a public forum you will get it whether you seek it or not, lol. Does make me laugh when somebody gets Checked on a ridiculous statement, justifies it as an opinion, then implies people don't have the right to question that very opinion. If you don't want it queztioned maybe you should keep it to yourself?

But don't worry I won't question you any more, from the look of your other posts it isn't my help you need. Bye and have a lovely time being you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is a place where people come for sex. A side effect of having sex with someone new is that you feel wanted and desired (yes, someone did like you enough to chat, flirt, kiss, look you in the eyes and do wonderful things with you). This is nothing more than validating of self, reflected back in the desire of others. How can this fail to increase your sense of self worth (ego).

The jealousy is a (vanilla) normal reaction which is what many of us have to overcome in ourselves and defend from with others."
jealousy is within us all, their is no such thing as vanilla and not everyone is a swinger, not everyone wants nsa, not everyone develops feelings, not everyone kisses, we are all different and a gents a gent whether on this site or any other and the process of man meeting woman is much the same on any site, these sites including this one are meeting places, we are all real people going about real lives, the labels aren't needed really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed we all should be.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

The jealousy is a (vanilla) normal reaction which is what many of us have to overcome in ourselves and defend from with others.jealousy is within us all, their is no such thing as vanilla and not everyone is a swinger, not everyone wants nsa, not everyone develops feelings, not everyone kisses, we are all different and a gents a gent whether on this site or any other and the process of man meeting woman is much the same on any site, these sites including this one are meeting places, we are all real people going about real lives, the labels aren't needed really "

Agreed, rereading my post I could have been a bit clearer. What we do here is no different from any other site, it is meeting people and having a form of relationship, whether that is a brief social, intimacy or something longer term. The only main difference is that veris provide evidence that people are able to run more than one of these at the same time.

It is perfectly natural to have negative feelings when someone has other meets when you think you are "in the running". It is perfectly normal to question yourself, and compare yourself unfavourably. After all there must be a reason why the object of your desires had picked someone else over you.

Even with experienced swinging couples jealousy can be present. Is the new play partner younger/prettier/tighter/fitter/bigger/better/dirtier... It takes a special person to share their partner completely and be totally secure.

I have deliberately kept this as gender neutral as possible. These feelings and emotions are applicable to all. Some people are just better at expressing than others.

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over a year ago

The guys I have met will always (in my head) have met or are seeing someone fitter, prettier, younger and hotter than me. I'd like to say I don't give a shit, but sometimes it's quite difficult for me to deal with and has actually contributed to my complete lack of confidence and cessation of sex meets.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"The guys I have met will always (in my head) have met or are seeing someone fitter, prettier, younger and hotter than me. I'd like to say I don't give a shit, but sometimes it's quite difficult for me to deal with and has actually contributed to my complete lack of confidence and cessation of sex meets.

Now that is one of the saddest things I've read on here, the. Guys you've been seeing should have been having the opposite effect. And judging just from your pictures that certainly won't have been the case most of the time.

I wouldn't play with somebody that I didn't really like in one way or another, and I would feel very badly about myself if I left that play with the woman not feeling at least a little better about herself.

Although I guess we all have insecurities, larger or smaller, and maybe this wouldn't have been enough for you. Who can say from a, few text posts.

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over a year ago

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yes and you're not the only woman that feels like that but the flip side of that is you are constantly being bombarded with compliments and messages of praise, the guys however are sitting waiting patiently waiting to get a positive reaction to their messages and in most cases not getting a reply, they are seeing the veris go up and not getting a meet, they get no compliments to boost their ego, ok some guys here maybe even many guys here let themselves down with rude and thoughtless messages but many do send decent well thought out messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Equal Opportunity Act 2010

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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it's a real shame that you feel like this...you are unique and entirely different from every other person in this world with your entirely unique personality and looks... comparisons are pointless .. men want you to be you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

You are right.. it’s because men like to pee on everything

Literally?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well this took a turn

I don’t know what the blinking heck has happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was so surprised to read this. You are incredibly hot (from this female’s pov) and come across so well on the forums that I’ve been following you from afar for quite a while.

The flippant thing to say would be maybe you could get by on lady lurve while you shake feeling like this,

More seriously perhaps a break, rethink, refocus and regroup? Come back kicking arse?

For what it’s worth, I’d join your fan club..

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over a year ago

The way I look at it is that there's always someone seemingly more accomplished than you in some regard or other as no one is the human version of perfection and even if they were or as close to it, it would only be from the viewpoint of SOME, not everyone.

There are guys on Fab more ripped than me and of course younger, but the age appeal varies from woman to woman.

I am not the most intelligent man on the entire planet either, for me to think so would be ironically the very height of stupidity. There are of course guys with bigger appendages for the size queens.

But my "scores" if you will in these areas aren't bad at all and I'm imaginative, pay attention, am thoughtful and a pleaser.

Therefore I do fine on here and am having a whale of a time! I certainly don't let my not achieving "perfection" grind me down ha! Why would I? And neither should you.

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over a year ago

I was so surprised to read this. You are incredibly hot (from this female’s pov) and come across so well on the forums that I’ve been following you from afar for quite a while.

The flippant thing to say would be maybe you could get by on lady lurve while you shake feeling like this,

More seriously perhaps a break, rethink, refocus and regroup? Come back kicking arse?

For what it’s worth, I’d join your fan club..

Noted and appreciated x

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

There are guys on Fab more ripped than me and of course younger, but the age appeal varies from woman to woman.

But my "scores" if you will in these areas aren't bad at all and I'm imaginative, pay attention, am thoughtful and a pleaser.

Therefore I do fine on here and am having a whale of a time! I certainly don't let my not achieving "perfection" grind me down ha! Why would I? And neither should you.

I'm not looking for "perfection" but I'm very pleased you are having such a wonderful time. Go You.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're single Dana perhaps it's time to think about moving over to dating and away from here. This is where I'm currently heading. Yes there are a lot of nutters on the dating apps. But at least the formula involves seeking to connect with the person and seeing if you want to invest in them and allows sex to bubble up naturally as a byproduct of getting to know someone and, through that, can be much more respectful and rewarding.

Without the offer of sex, people may also be less inclined to lower their standards, meeting only people they genuinely find attractive in more ways than one rather than merely attractive enough for a one night stand.

Just some thoughts from my own head space at the mo

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over a year ago

There are guys on Fab more ripped than me and of course younger, but the age appeal varies from woman to woman.

But my "scores" if you will in these areas aren't bad at all and I'm imaginative, pay attention, am thoughtful and a pleaser.

Therefore I do fine on here and am having a whale of a time! I certainly don't let my not achieving "perfection" grind me down ha! Why would I? And neither should you.

I'm not looking for "perfection" but I'm very pleased you are having such a wonderful time. Go You. "

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over a year ago

I’m not a jealous person so I would never bother me on here, however I’ve noticed many men get jealous even if another man is looking at you, or if you mention messages, even when they haven’t met you!

I do think it’s a mix of jealousy, ego & this strange fantasy of wanting to control you and then be the only one you meet whilst they’re out getting their dick wet in every Sue, Susie & Sarah.

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over a year ago

"I’m not a jealous person so I would never bother me on here, however I’ve noticed many men get jealous even if another man is looking at you, or if you mention messages, even when they haven’t met you!

I do think it’s a mix of jealousy, ego & this strange fantasy of wanting to control you and then be the only one you meet whilst they’re out getting their dick wet in every Sue, Susie & Sarah.

Would you mind adding more picture of you minge please.

Thank you.

Signed a desperate wanker

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "
I love hearing about the other men, it’s a turn on

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over a year ago

I do think it’s a mix of jealousy, ego & this strange fantasy of wanting to control you and then be the only one you meet whilst they’re out getting their dick wet in every Sue, Susie & Sarah.

Love it. So true.

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over a year ago

There are guys on Fab more ripped than me and of course younger, but the age appeal varies from woman to woman.

But my "scores" if you will in these areas aren't bad at all and I'm imaginative, pay attention, am thoughtful and a pleaser.

Therefore I do fine on here and am having a whale of a time! I certainly don't let my not achieving "perfection" grind me down ha! Why would I? And neither should you.

I'm not looking for "perfection" but I'm very pleased you are having such a wonderful time. Go You. "

Thank you, dear lady

And that's also precisely my point. You're not looking for perfection and neither is just about everybody on here?

Therefore it doesn't matter who guys who meet you have met before or after? They want to meet you because they want to meet you?

The way I see it, every woman is different and has different qualities to her? What I fancy the panties off one woman for often won't be the reason that I similarly fancy the knickers off another lady?

So you have nothing to worry about.

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

Have to say this has come as a bit of a shock. You mean to say the women on fab are not innocent nun types, waiting to have their virginity plucked by the alpha males of fab?! Disgusting harlots, I'm going to hang out in fet life, where you're guaranteed to find maidenhoods in tact.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It would appear from what I’m hearing more and more. Guys are as insecure and as jealous as the girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would appear from what I’m hearing more and more. Guys are as insecure and as jealous as the girls. "

If that's aimed at the original question on this thread, I don't think the issue is insecurity or jealousy. I just think it's a bit demeaning and awkward to talk about other women when I'm with a woman. Besides... if I'm with her... it's because I'm interested in her, not anyone else, so why would I talk about anyone else.

Do you talk about other amazing meals you've had whilst you're biting into a lovely meal? Personally I prefer to be present with it. That's got nothing to do with insecurity or jealousy. It's about respect and revelling in the moment

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"It's one rule for them and another for us. I can think of *many* other examples where men do things but it's the end of the universe if a woman does the same. "

So can i. I can also think of many things women get away with that men couldn't. It's almost like men and women aren't the same...

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Dana, I said something along the same lines on a thread a few weeks ago when I ventured back after taking a break.

Depending on where you’re at in your personal life, Fabs and all that goes with it can deliver an almighty confidence boost but it’s hard to sustain because it’s not really based on anything substantial.

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By *un Mike 2019Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I had the opposite problems when I was on here before with someone who basically became an FWB. She would see about another guy every week and i would offer a basic “have a nice time”. But on the odd occasion I’d have another meet it would be “oh you won’t wanna see me again then after this!” In a snotty tone.

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over a year ago

"I had the opposite problems when I was on here before with someone who basically became an FWB. She would see about another guy every week and i would offer a basic “have a nice time”. But on the odd occasion I’d have another meet it would be “oh you won’t wanna see me again then after this!” In a snotty tone. "

Gives her a tissue.

From the outset

Trust

Honest

Loyalty... You should agree on what's best for both of you.

Is it okay to fuck others after all no one owns anyone. Did you have an agreement with her. Its ok for both of us to fuck others with no JEALOUSY INVOLVED.

For single people on fab I feel it still cums with stigma.

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over a year ago

I’m not condoning or excusing but it may have been how she was treated before by guys. Guys do tend to find a new shiny toy and the interest from the old toy disappears. I’m not agreeing with it I’m just offering a different perspective. As rebellious said communication, trust, loyalty etc is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally speaking because the male ego is far more fragile than the female, but he'd never admit to that.

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over a year ago

I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say this is more common than the one in the op.

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter. "

Sorry. It is what I’ve noticed though. Clearly I can’t speak the other way around as I’m not interested in women but it’s my view and I did say I’d reflect if I was wrong. It seems there are issues for both sexes. I was purely trying to understand a bit more

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

I wasn’t having a dig at you, just my observations after running through the thread and reading the ‘all men’ points that have been trotted out.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

You're not wrong..

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter. "

It’s nit a sweeping generalisation if it relates to HER experience.

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

I wasn’t having a dig at you, just my observations after running through the thread and reading the ‘all men’ points that have been trotted out. "

Ahh I see. Yeah I skipped through a lot of them. A conversation seems to have developed in the middle.

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over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

You're not wrong..

Thanks, Just a lot of observations since being on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

It’s nit a sweeping generalisation if it relates to HER experience.

Thanks hon, it’s a mine field

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it strange that people would have double standards on a swingers site, we’re all here to swing?? And meet like minded people, if your of the jealous nature you shouldn’t be swinging.

But folks are strange, I’m ok with people talking about and meeting others “That’s what swingers do” isn’t it. ??

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

It’s nit a sweeping generalisation if it relates to HER experience.

I wasn’t making a point about the OP, I’m pointing out that in some people’s experiences that may be the case but to generalise and to tar everyone the same way is demeaning. I’ve experienced similar behaviour on here from other genders, it’s how people are built, not just guys and not everyone is the same

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

It’s nit a sweeping generalisation if it relates to HER experience.

Literally no one said everyone is the same.

The OP is making a post based on her own experience that cannot be judged by anyone since you aren’t her.

I can’t see how it’s tarring everyone with the same brush. We know others are like this as it’s been mentioned before however again, this is the OPs experience and nobody can dispute that.

If she has had a high number of men act like this, I don’t blame her for assuming it’s common. I would too.

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over a year ago

"I must admit that it makes me a little bit sad to read this thread.

Jealousy and ego are part of everybody’s character to a greater or lesser degree, not just men. How we deal with it and wether we act on it is a different matter.

Personally I dislike sweeping generalisations according to gender, age or anything else for that matter.

It’s nit a sweeping generalisation if it relates to HER experience.

Literally no one said everyone is the same.

The OP is making a post based on her own experience that cannot be judged by anyone since you aren’t her.

I can’t see how it’s tarring everyone with the same brush. We know others are like this as it’s been mentioned before however again, this is the OPs experience and nobody can dispute that.

If she has had a high number of men act like this, I don’t blame her for assuming it’s common. I would too. "

I do appreciate that, I agree that it is a common thing for everyone

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over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong "

I might have wee’d myself a little reading this.

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over a year ago

Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

I might have wee’d myself a little reading this."

It escalated

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Why is it ok for men to have these status updates or say it in messages but not women

Am I wrong? I’ll happily reflect on my post if I’m wrong

I might have wee’d myself a little reading this.

It escalated

It did. But I’ve changed me pants now so it’s all good.

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