FabSwingers.com forum: Manners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a true believer that mannors cost nothing, and nor does respect, however why is it people of both young and old who seem to struggle with this concept. Time to delete and block a few people on here who only talk when they fancy like talking

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm a true believer that mannors cost nothing, and nor does respect, however why is it people of both young and old who seem to struggle with this concept. Time to delete and block a few people on here who only talk when they fancy like talking "

You think they should be obliged to chat to you whenever YOU feel like it though??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You think they should be obliged to chat to you whenever YOU feel like it though??

No but I'd you send a message to someone does it cost alot to reply, esp if these people were a regular meet previously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think they should be obliged to chat to you whenever YOU feel like it though??

No but I'd you send a message to someone does it cost alot to reply, esp if these people were a regular meet previously "

Maybe they were busy?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

You think they should be obliged to chat to you whenever YOU feel like it though??

No but I'd you send a message to someone does it cost alot to reply, esp if these people were a regular meet previously "

Maybe they just don't fancy you anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has people not chatting to you got to do with having manners or not?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Maybe if 6 months have passed since you last met them they thought you'd lost interest OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if 6 months have passed since you last met them they thought you'd lost interest OP

Or maybe its 6 months between messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

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"No but I'd you send a message to someone does it cost alot to reply, esp if these people were a regular meet previously "

In my experience when I politely turn a guy down with a "no" - they read it as "I may be interested" so they persist. I politely say "no" again and they ask why. I then ignore them and they call me a bitch. So its easier to cut to the chase and ignore them from the start...

Sorry, that's just how it is with some men on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm.

Nobody is obliged to reply to you, regardless of what you think.

It also isn’t rude if they don’t reply, this has been sad many times.

I don’t understand why this riles people up on here so much. Just move on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don’t HAVE to reply. Doesn’t mean they don’t have manners. What’s to say you didn’t get lost within their inbox?!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You think they should be obliged to chat to you whenever YOU feel like it though??

No but I'd you send a message to someone does it cost alot to reply, esp if these people were a regular meet previously "

Well I agree, if you have met someone they should reply promptly, and know you well enough to just tell you if they don't feel like chatting one day, or ever again.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start "

I don't think there are any shitty comments here OP - people can only go on the information available to them without knowing the intricate details.

My last comment wasn't a dig - your veri summary suggests your last meet was possibly 6 months ago so if that was the "regular meet" you were referring to - it's a logical conclusion to draw that if you've not met or had contact in that time she may well have thought you'd gone off the idea or moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start "

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners"

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't reply or get a quick reply to messages from my kids at times ...we reply when we're able. Therefore I'm not impressed with someone on a sex site getting arsey if their message isn't responded to quickly.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm neither young nor old, I'm mediumish and I have impeccable manners.

Here's a hug now straighten your face x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it. "

Omg. They are not obliged to reply to you.

If you can’t stand having someone not reply to you, don’t message them, problem solved.

Of course it’s not hard to reply to someone, doesn’t mean you have to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply or get a quick reply to messages from my kids at times ...we reply when we're able. Therefore I'm not impressed with someone on a sex site getting arsey if their message isn't responded to quickly.

Agreed.

I don’t reply to all the texts or whatsapp messages I get sometimes, yet my friends and family don’t suddenly have a strop because of it.

I phone my doctors/dentist sometimes and don’t get an answer, I don’t have a strop.

I get junk mail both post, email & phone. I don’t respond to it, should those who send it then be angry at me?

Lol. It’s such a petty thing to be bothered about to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subjects been done to death I'm afraid.

I found the minute I stopped fretting over deleted messages, no replies or even no thankyou replies and trying to understand every form of behaviourhere, I started to enjoy this place far more! I also had a lot more success!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it. "

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do you chat to people when you dont feel like it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I understand from this post, and I'm usually wrong, it's about not replying promptly. I must admit I often don't reply to messages promptly as fab isn't a main priority or even delete them unanswered if a person obviously haven't read my profile, but this has nothing to do with manners! In fact is it actually good manners to message someone with unasked for messages? Lol ... just thought I'd throw that in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I understand from this post, and I'm usually wrong, it's about not replying promptly. I must admit I often don't reply to messages promptly as fab isn't a main priority or even delete them unanswered if a person obviously haven't read my profile, but this has nothing to do with manners! In fact is it actually good manners to message someone with unasked for messages? Lol ... just thought I'd throw that in

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it. "

Hello everyone.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

Hello everyone.......

Hello Byron....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

Bore off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhh a disguised moan about lack of responses.... we the united forumites can see through your disguise.... and so I’m gonna c9mmence with eye rolling, sighing and wander off to find a less predictable thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they have jobs, children, families, grown up responsibilities?

Or maybe they simply arent interested?

Your OP sounds like you expect people to reply when it suits you

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

Bore off "

You mentioned manners just now didn't you..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

Bore off

You mentioned manners just now didn't you..........

Exactly!

In my opinion those who rant about those not replying are usually the rude and impolite ones and the OP has sure proven that!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

Hello everyone.......

Hello Byron.... "

Hi Fabulous.

How are you today?

How are you finding Fab?

What's the weather like where you are?

I know you're straight, but would you like a BJ?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

Bore off

You mentioned manners just now didn't you..........

Exactly!

In my opinion those who rant about those not replying are usually the rude and impolite ones and the OP has sure proven that!

Fabicide........

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

If I started I'd never stop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners maketh man, OP, but not in this case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

Hello everyone.......

Hello Byron....

Hi Fabulous.

How are you today?

How are you finding Fab?

What's the weather like where you are?

I know you're straight, but would you like a BJ?"

Why not. Ill send you a picture of my cock, please print and put it in your mouth...I'll close my eyes and wank thinking of you blowing me cock

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

Hello everyone.......

Hello Byron....

Hi Fabulous.

How are you today?

How are you finding Fab?

What's the weather like where you are?

I know you're straight, but would you like a BJ?

Why not. Ill send you a picture of my cock, please print and put it in your mouth...I'll close my eyes and wank thinking of you blowing me cock "

*switches printer on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start

Its probably because you started off about people's manners, or lack of them, and ended with a whinge about your lack of responses.. which has nothing to do with manners

If you say Hello to someone, do you expect an hello back???? It's not hard to reply to someone regardless of what your response it.

No, I don’t expect a response. Why would I? I’m not entitled to one

Bore off "

Why? Because I feel like I’m not entitled to a reply if I message someone? Oh dear! Manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

It’s okay, I got blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then he was gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

He’s had a strop and deleted himself!

I give him a week...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

He’s had a strop and deleted himself!

I give him a week...

I wanted to ask why I got blocked!!!! How rude! No manners

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"And then he was gone

Shit, I was going to message him......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t believe he left in a strop. Won’t take long until he’s back

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me laugh about this site, u post on here and all the shitty comments having a dig start "

So you don't like people not replying. And you don't like people replying if its not in agreement?

Not getting the response you want/expect/demand doesn't make other people "shitty"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

It’s okay, I got blocked

I feel left out now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

It’s okay, I got blocked

I feel left out now

I think it’s because I said I didn’t feel entitled to a reply

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Op never replied to me, fucking ignorant gimboid.

It’s okay, I got blocked

I feel left out now

I think it’s because I said I didn’t feel entitled to a reply

Because you're saying it wrong.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not this again! *groans*

Ok, I get 30 messages an hour. If I spend two minutes sneaking on to their profile, reading it and then getting back to them, that’s my entire hour gone.

Now let’s say I get one message out of every sixty (so one every two hours) that I actually like. Maybe the profile interests me and I spend twenty minutes reading it and responding with something equally well thought out. That means I have to cut out nine messages that have dropped into my inbox and not respond.

Now let’s really stretch the bounds of possibility and say that I actually have a job to pay my bills, friends I want to see, a relationship with a fabulous guy, personal hygiene to keep up, two cats that need playing with and a set of household chores that have to be done (and forum posts to answer!) and all of a sudden I have maybe 40 minutes a day to respond. So in a sixteen hour day - I have 480 mails to answer, of which eight are potentials I might be interested in and I only have the time to get back to two of those.

I certainly don’t expect ex-meets to chat to me. We all have shit going on. If she’s not that interested any more you’ve moved down the priority list. It’s not about manners at all...it’s about time management. And you may still have been on her potentials list - so she might not have wanted to cut off contact entirely (unless you took the entitled attitude into your messages to her), but she doesn’t know how to say that.

To you, it’s spending a few minutes to tell you that she doesn’t want to chat anymore or she doesn’t have time. To her, it’s twenty minutes of very precious free time, figuring out how to explain that she doesn’t want to meet just now...and then having to field the same thing over and over again each time you try and strike up a conversation after that.

I have partners and potential partners that haven’t answered my messages when I’ve sent them and I’ve done it to others. I despise bad manners but I also understand motivations and the meaning of expediency and pragmatism. Don’t sweat it and find someone else to chat to. She probably has!

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