FabSwingers.com forum: Having a drink on a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I've seen on a few profiles and spoke to a couple of people who don't like drinking when having a meet, for us we would need to have at least a couple to let the nerves go and make ourselves more comfortable, plus we don't get out much because of young kids so when we do we like to make the most of it haha

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually drink for a meet but would have a drink or 2 at a Social. I do drink in clubs. As long as someone wasn't rat arsed I would be ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet socially before a meet, but I don’t drink alcohol. I will drink water, hydration is so very important before extraneous physical activities OP

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have absolutely no problem with other people drinking on a meet (so long as it's not to excess) but if it's a sex meet prefer not to drink myself.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'd rather not inflict beery breath on my date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

3-4 glasses of wine and 6-8 pints??

That's excessive drinking even if it's only once in a while.

It would certainly put me off. 1 or 2 drinks while chatting is fine but then I very rarely drink anyway.

If I was meeting someone who was drinking that much, I'd think they had a problem with alcohol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other people's drinking habits is their business not ours,who are we to say how much someone else can drink?

However, depending on how d*unk they are would have an effect on our judgement as to whether we wanted to take things further or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m with someone who is drinking more than a couple of pints at a sex meet then a) we’re spending too much time drinking and not having sex b) there won’t be a repeat performance once he’s come, which would be a shame.

But I sometimes drink more than I intend to, especially at socials, so I can’t judge anyone on it. Like you I have young kids, it’s an emotional time and sometimes I need to let rip.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I like relaxing with a few glasses with meets I already know

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m fortunate in that I don’t need the prop of alcohol to do anything and I don’t generally meet people who do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

3-4 glasses of wine and 6-8 pints??

That's excessive drinking even if it's only once in a while.

It would certainly put me off. 1 or 2 drinks while chatting is fine but then I very rarely drink anyway.

If I was meeting someone who was drinking that much, I'd think they had a problem with alcohol. "

You clearly get out less than we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a bit cagey when it comes to people drinking as my first serious boyfriend turned out to be an alcoholic, so i tend to mentally count how many alcoholic drinks they are having. Whilst i’d not say anything it would probably put me off and i’d not see them again. I realise not everyone is an alcoholic in waiting but it’s just one of thise things for me.

I personally don’t drink on socials as i’m usually driving.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

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Wouldnt put me off at all . Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I’m with someone who is drinking more than a couple of pints at a sex meet then a) we’re spending too much time drinking and not having sex b) there won’t be a repeat performance once he’s come, which would be a shame.

But I sometimes drink more than I intend to, especially at socials, so I can’t judge anyone on it. Like you I have young kids, it’s an emotional time and sometimes I need to let rip."

Alchohol and performance isn't a worry I have tbh, I've never failed to rise to the occasion, as for recovery then 5-10 minutes and I'm firing on all cylinders again

Our first play was with friends and certainly wasn't planned and was after a night of drinking, his wife was pleasantly surprised when I was ready to go again after 5 minutes, she said her husband was done for the night after he had finished unfortunately but he seemed happy enough haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

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omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like to meet for a drink and see if there is a connection and then ‘take it upstairs’ so to speak.

The last woman I met, we get on so well we almost forget we are there to have sex. But we remembered in time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a bit cagey when it comes to people drinking as my first serious boyfriend turned out to be an alcoholic, so i tend to mentally count how many alcoholic drinks they are having. Whilst i’d not say anything it would probably put me off and i’d not see them again. I realise not everyone is an alcoholic in waiting but it’s just one of thise things for me.

I personally don’t drink on socials as i’m usually driving.

That's makes sense as you've had a bad experience so would always leave you being defensive and judge people more intently, despite the post above we certainly don't have a problem with alcohol, we wouldn't be able to do our jobs if we did, we get about 4 nights out a year without kids so try to relax and enjoy but want to combine our fab life in with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to meet for a drink and see if there is a connection and then ‘take it upstairs’ so to speak.

The last woman I met, we get on so well we almost forget we are there to have sex. But we remembered in time

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I do like a drink, not going to deny that, but I don't need to drink.

I guess it would depend on the situation, the occasion, the person I was meeting.

I've had socials which were strictly coffee, others we've gone on a night out & had a few bevvies.

I wouldn't get d*unk on a first social/meet though. I'd prefer to keep a clear head, and them the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

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If funs involved

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

Hmmm I guess we are all different in how alcohol affects us, maybe it's our nationalities that mean we can handle it better haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do like a drink, not going to deny that, but I don't need to drink.

I guess it would depend on the situation, the occasion, the person I was meeting.

I've had socials which were strictly coffee, others we've gone on a night out & had a few bevvies.

I wouldn't get d*unk on a first social/meet though. I'd prefer to keep a clear head, and them the same.

I agree complelety, I haven't been d*unk since my teens to be honest, I just mean a drink to let the nerves go and relax, I personally find meets pretty daunting and I get really nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

Hmmm I guess we are all different in how alcohol affects us, maybe it's our nationalities that mean we can handle it better haha "
I don't need to have a drink to be good company though that's my point also on the fun side you would smell like a brewery and it would affect performance surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do like a drink, not going to deny that, but I don't need to drink.

I guess it would depend on the situation, the occasion, the person I was meeting.

I've had socials which were strictly coffee, others we've gone on a night out & had a few bevvies.

I wouldn't get d*unk on a first social/meet though. I'd prefer to keep a clear head, and them the same.

I agree complelety, I haven't been d*unk since my teens to be honest, I just mean a drink to let the nerves go and relax, I personally find meets pretty daunting and I get really nervous "
also it would appear we are both from London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

That quantity would put me off tbh.

1 or 2 maybe but 4 glasses of wine is more than a bottle!

How can you judge consent effectively at that point?

I get the steel your nerves thing but I want my wits about me- especially in a club environment.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've met people who drink a lot and don't take it further. One lady in particular drank so much at a social we had that her partner was getting two drinks at a time for her and eventually just refused to by her any more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

Hmmm I guess we are all different in how alcohol affects us, maybe it's our nationalities that mean we can handle it better haha I don't need to have a drink to be good company though that's my point also on the fun side you would smell like a brewery and it would affect performance surely?"

Doesn't affect performance for me in the slightest personally, but I know a lot guys who it does

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

So long as you are in control of your senses, I don't see any problem having a drink before, during or after. And often all three!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

Doesn't affect performance for me in the slightest personally, but I know a lot guys who it does"
8 pints doesn't affect your performance golly how's that tum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've met people who drink a lot and don't take it further. One lady in particular drank so much at a social we had that her partner was getting two drinks at a time for her and eventually just refused to by her any more.

Wow when the other half refuses to but his wife any more then that is the time to leave

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Over the years I’ve done both, but I’ve opted over the last few years to mostly stay entirely sober. I love a drink ordinarily but I don’t find it a good mix when playing and personally speaking, drinking numbs the senses and it’s not so much fun.

Ive also been put off by the amount of d*unk people at clubs. Incoherent, falling down and out of control. Consent to me is a major part and I’m very uncomfortable being around people that can’t limit themselves sensibly. Add on a few club guys that have smelt of stale alcohol and it’s not the scene I like to play in.

So 9 times out of 10 we both drink water only.

I wouldn’t mind if someone wanted a drink or two before playing with me, but I’d never knowingly go with anyone drinking more than a few pints. 6+ pints is way too much for my chosen playmates.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I am usually driving to a meet so i might have a shandy, but i might be put off by someone who is drinking a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

omg if I drank 4 pints I would be out of it and a bottle of wine for the lady crikey I don't drink on a meet a social one or two but if fans involved noooooo

Doesn't affect performance for me in the slightest personally, but I know a lot guys who it does8 pints doesn't affect your performance golly how's that tum? "

If it did then I wouldn't touch the stuff believe me, I probably last a little longer if anything but recovery time is still the same for round 2

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

We like a little drink to lubricate the social gears.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I like a drink but the best sex is always when I’m stone cold sober and hungry. An age thing I guess - 6 to 8 pints? Wow, I’d be useless, falling asleep and very flatulent!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like a drink but the best sex is always when I’m stone cold sober and hungry. An age thing I guess - 6 to 8 pints? Wow, I’d be useless, falling asleep and very flatulent!"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting in a pub first is perfect in my opinion, as it's more in public than most meeting spots. Its also a fantastic way to chat and feel relaxed

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I may have 1 if it is a social. Play meet then no. It's not so much a performance issue.. after 2 or 3 I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection, but I lose sensitivity. A couple more and I can go until it's raw, but I probably won't cum. A couple more than that... I don't want the world spinning while we are in the middle of a 69. After that... I'm no use at all.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I’d a social meet during the day once and he had 5 pints while I had a coffee.

Definitely put me right off him.

If I’m meeting I’m always driving so no alcohol, it also means I can leave, if and when I choose.

If I’m with someone who is drinking, 2 or 3 is fine, after that I think they loose common sense and judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I enjoy a drink I do not drink on meets regardless if its a social or playdate. And I prefer the people.Im.meeting not to either although of course the choice is up to them. I would say that if they indulged in more then 1 or 2 this would put me off.

2 reasons... I do play on a first date if the social goes well and time allows. If I thought a person needed/wanted to be merry or tipsy to have a good time I would be concerned.

Also being that a lot of my play involves aspects of kink, alcohol consumption is a silly idea for a huge variety of safety and consent issues!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I'm not one for the nanny state and everyone is free to do what they want as long as no one else gets hurt but if the OP only gets out 4 times a year how does 6 to 8 pints only get him merry when 6 pints a week is the recommended maximum.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

3-4 glasses of wine and 6-8 pints??

That's excessive drinking even if it's only once in a while.

It would certainly put me off. 1 or 2 drinks while chatting is fine but then I very rarely drink anyway.

If I was meeting someone who was drinking that much, I'd think they had a problem with alcohol. "

Beat me to it.

2 or 3 maybe, but 6-8 pints ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

3-4 glasses of wine and 6-8 pints??

That's excessive drinking even if it's only once in a while.

It would certainly put me off. 1 or 2 drinks while chatting is fine but then I very rarely drink anyway.

If I was meeting someone who was drinking that much, I'd think they had a problem with alcohol.

You clearly get out less than we do

I get out quite frequently thanks

I also lived with an alcoholic when I was growing up. It gave me a certain respect for the stuff.

I'm with most of the posters on this thread, if you need a drink then why do it?

I also value my driving license and after that much it would probably be a good 24 hours before anyone was legal to drive. But hey we can't all be super her is who aren't affected by alcohol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, I enjoy having a few drinks on meets. It helps me relax, and as I never get pissed I don't see the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink alcohol so it is not an issue for me but I remember meeting a girl in McR who needed some in order to get less anxious, so we hit few pubs so I don't mind people drinking either as long as they do not want to drink my piss afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

If someone drank that much on a meet with me id be very unhappy as i think thats a lot to drink, it would definetely put me off and id halt the meet asap.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends who it was.

People I know well, no problem at all.

New meets, not so much.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I have never d*unk over 5 pints in one session in my life, so someone drinking 6-8 pints on a social meet with people they had never met before would seriously put me off.

I would strongly suspect an alcohol problem.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I have never d*unk over 5 pints in one session in my life, so someone drinking 6-8 pints on a social meet with people they had never met before would seriously put me off.

I would strongly suspect an alcohol problem. "

I’m thinking it would be like trying to ride a water bed, being on top of that much liquid

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow I must admit I didn't think that people would be so quick to judge someone they never met and know nothing about because once in a while they let there hair down on a night out with their wife and drink 6 or 8 pints of beer in a day, especially on a site like this where sex in public places, cheating wives and husbands, taking pics of flashing in public and adding them to profiles etc etc seem to ok not to judge on, or have I logged into mum's.net by accident

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Wow I must admit I didn't think that people would be so quick to judge someone they never met and know nothing about because once in a while they let there hair down on a night out with their wife and drink 6 or 8 pints of beer in a day, especially on a site like this where sex in public places, cheating wives and husbands, taking pics of flashing in public and adding them to profiles etc etc seem to ok not to judge on, or have I logged into mum's.net by accident

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish "
I for one ain't judging ya. I'd love a few bevvies and a giggle

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Who’s judging?

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By *ensualflingMan
over a year ago

I think it’s situation dependent...... a little one is always nice though!

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

Lots of people here doing long distance diagnoses of drink problems on the basis of quantities consumed. We have a rule - the definition of a drink problem is when drinking means you can't do something you want to, or you do something you don't want to (or regret). Quantity consumed is irrelevant.

As someone said above informed consent matters and intoxication makes informed consent impossible.

As a Dom, and therefore being accountable for what happens, I don't drink and play. My choice, my call, my rules....

Carter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish "

Im not judging you nor telling you how to live your life but its my preference to avoid meeting people who drink that amount on a meet.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

We haven’t had a meet for such a long time now but I always have a couple of drinks before hand to settle the nerves plus it makes me horny for some reason

It’s not a need......just more of a relaxed night all round

I’m not an alcoholic as it’s rare I drink but I do get typsy pretty quickly

if people are put off by that then so be it

Different for guys I suppose as can spoil the performance

Each to their own I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a few drinks, but not too much that we can't fully enjoy the sex.

I don't like d*unk sex that I can't remember the next day, and I don't like having a hangover after a night of sex, as I feel depressed the next day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink on a meet. I dont need my nerves calming and i dont need anything to enhance the fun.

I do drink occasionally at home or when out for a meal as long as im not driving.

Everyones different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a drink but the best sex is always when I’m stone cold sober and hungry. An age thing I guess - 6 to 8 pints? Wow, I’d be useless, falling asleep and very flatulent!"

Hungry. Oh no, that’s totally unacceptable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The drinks are on me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We haven’t had a meet for such a long time now but I always have a couple of drinks before hand to settle the nerves plus it makes me horny for some reason

It’s not a need......just more of a relaxed night all round

I’m not an alcoholic as it’s rare I drink but I do get typsy pretty quickly

if people are put off by that then so be it

Different for guys I suppose as can spoil the performance

Each to their own I suppose"

I think people read my original post and guessed that we drink that on meets, we don't, I said we will have that on a night out together but I wanted to know the etiquite of drinking when on meets that was all, we've had 2 arranged meets and had a couple of drinks to calm the nerves especially for myself as I think there's more pressure on the males to perform lol

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish "

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

From my perspective, I’ve changed my view on this from seeing the extremes. I’m talking women so intoxicated that they are staggering, slurring and barely able to walk. For this reason i point blank refuse to go back to one of the most popular Uk clubs that has a shocking history of this. One guy told me recently it was his favourite club, but he did have to have a word with one guy recently whose partner was completely wankered and being taken on by multiple guys. Sorry but at that stage is it a gang bang or another word beginning with r. And unfortunately this is not uncommon.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

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over a year ago

"Who’s judging?"

Just a few comments like anyone who has 6 pints possibly has a drink problem, god I'm far from having a drink problem haha, also about my responsibility regarding driving while druunk and that drink will affect my performance, I'm.bot bothered I just found it a little odd to be judged on this site, I didn't expect it haha

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over a year ago

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole. "

God i agree complelety with you 100% with what you've said, and I haven't felt attacked and sorry if it came across that way, just being told you may have a drink problem because I let my hair down on the few occasions I get out with my wife seems harsh and a bit ridiculous really

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

How bad are your nerves if you need 6 pints to calm them?

Drink whatever you’re comfortable with, but if I had that much at the very least I’d be off for a piss every 10 minutes once I’d broken the golden seal.

Maybe it’s an advantage if she likes watersports

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

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over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I think that’s a fair comment.

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over a year ago

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole. "

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

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over a year ago

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same. "

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need drink to enjoy a meet but I like when I've had a few drinks and I'm a lot more chatty. Same as any night out. We have also had meets after we have been out all night which have actually been the best meets. If I had to choose I would pick after we all had a good drink x

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me. "

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Shall I open the bar then

Lol

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Shall I open the bar then

Lol"

Been drinking for the last 6 hours

I’m on holiday, I’m allowed! Am I slurrrrrrring yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I open the bar then

Lol"

Yes I need a drink after this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I open the bar then

Lol

Been drinking for the last 6 hours

I’m on holiday, I’m allowed! Am I slurrrrrrring yet

Oh lucky you, enjoy

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over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Shall I open the bar then

Lol

Been drinking for the last 6 hours

I’m on holiday, I’m allowed! Am I slurrrrrrring yet

Oh lucky you, enjoy

Last day now

If I report into forums that I’m drinking on Friday, please do report me to mumsnet for being d*unk in charge of a laptop and mobile while working from home

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!

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over a year ago

"Shall I open the bar then

Lol

Been drinking for the last 6 hours

I’m on holiday, I’m allowed! Am I slurrrrrrring yet

Oh lucky you, enjoy

Last day now

If I report into forums that I’m drinking on Friday, please do report me to mumsnet for being d*unk in charge of a laptop and mobile while working from home

I will be keeping an eye out don't you worry

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over a year ago

"Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!"

Wow, agreed that would be to risky, glad I've never tried breathplay the wife might get carried away

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I'm going out in the evening with a fabber it's likely I'll be driving so I may have one. I'd find it off putting if the other people drank as much as you said in your OP but probably because I'm a lightweight and would be a little out of it!!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that."

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

I’m teatotal , but my wife has the odd glass of wine now and again . Any amount of alcohol that changes your thinking is unacceptable in my book , so a few to calm the nerves is ok . Any more a big no no if you’re going to play .

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over a year ago

"Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!

Wow, agreed that would be to risky, glad I've never tried breathplay the wife might get carried away

If you pissed her off she might suffocate you and disguse it as role play lol x

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Midnight you say? Oh I think you’re being generous. In the last twelve months try Sunday afternoon falling down d*unk and been carried around by male partner. And 9pm arrival into club to be accosted (both of us) by some woman with partner in tow.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Anyone having sex with a woman paralytically d*unk is almost certainly committing r ape.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Ah , I know the club you mean now , and to be fair that’s a reasonable analysis . We’ve seen the same there , and younger women in floods of tears due to what they and their partner have been doing when the effects of the drink wears off .

I was talking about clubs that don’t open till later in the evening .

It’s sadly so common and a reflection of the seedy and sad side of swinging . The necessity to get wrecked in order to have fun is not a pleasant sight or experience .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Anyone having sex with a woman paralytically d*unk is almost certainly committing r ape. "

Very true , but rarely gets to the point of pursuing such charges .

One could quite reasonably suggest that the woman who voluntarily gets pissed in a swingers club is leaving herself open to such potential .

It doesn’t make it acceptable at all , but why be in a club and get pissed ? Crazy behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!

Wow, agreed that would be to risky, glad I've never tried breathplay the wife might get carried away

If you pissed her off she might suffocate you and disguse it as role play lol x"

She's reading all this so don't be giving her any ideas

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

I was talking about clubs that don’t open till later in the evening .

It’s sadly so common and a reflection of the seedy and sad side of swinging . The necessity to get wrecked in order to have fun is not a pleasant sight or experience .

I had no idea this sort of thing went on, we are complelety new to this and haven't done a club as of yet but looking forward to it, hopefully we don't see scenes like this because it would just be upsetting and why drink to the point your not in control or can't remember, is there any point in going to the club in the first place with that intention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But to lighten the mood a little - if I have a great meet I want to be able to remember the fantastic sex. I’ve had blurred memories on occasion and wished I could remember it better to relive in private later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood. "

The likelihood of what?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If I’m meeting someone and I’m hoping it will lead to sex, then I don’t want to be d*unk. I want to be on the top of my game. So I’ll have a drink to be sociable but that’s all

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts...."

With a lime navel and salty pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink, despite running a pub, but have no objection or problem to anyone having a drink on a social, at the end of the day a social should be a relaxed affair

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?"

That this is someone with an drink issue. Someone needing 6-8 pints to get through a social meet with a stranger is prima facie evidence of that. (which of course doesn't mean that everyone who drinks that much has an issue).

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Anyone having sex with a woman paralytically d*unk is almost certainly committing r ape.

Very true , but rarely gets to the point of pursuing such charges .

One could quite reasonably suggest that the woman who voluntarily gets pissed in a swingers club is leaving herself open to such potential .

It doesn’t make it acceptable at all , but why be in a club and get pissed ? Crazy behaviour

Probably because she hates it and only comes along to please her partner.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

I don’t have sex in public or flash.

This is why I think you will have adverse reactions.

I don’t think anyone’s attacked you for liking a drink on a meet, just many have said they don’t. That’s probably not representative of the site as a whole.

I wonder what kind of person gets off seeing their partner being fucked by multiple men, while she is too d*unk to move.

What kind of relationship is that.

Just go to a club at midnight and ask them !

It really is so common to see this behaviour and we find it disgraceful .

It’s for this reason that the op is getting a bit of grief I think .

Anyone having sex with a woman paralytically d*unk is almost certainly committing r ape.

Very true , but rarely gets to the point of pursuing such charges .

One could quite reasonably suggest that the woman who voluntarily gets pissed in a swingers club is leaving herself open to such potential .

It doesn’t make it acceptable at all , but why be in a club and get pissed ? Crazy behaviour

Probably because she hates it and only comes along to please her partner. "

Another very unfortunate fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!

Wow, agreed that would be to risky, glad I've never tried breathplay the wife might get carried away

If you pissed her off she might suffocate you and disguse it as role play lol x

She's reading all this so don't be giving her any ideas

In your defence your honour....he was an arsehole pmsl x

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

Goodness no.

I typically drive to any meets I've had.

I generally don't drink as it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Given my predilections for kinky sex, alcohol and meets don’t mix. Last thing I need is to pass out while I’m enjoying some breathplay because the guy couldn’t judge my limits well!

Wow, agreed that would be to risky, glad I've never tried breathplay the wife might get carried away

If you pissed her off she might suffocate you and disguse it as role play lol x

She's reading all this so don't be giving her any ideas

In your defence your honour....he was an arsehole pmsl x"

Lol

, hey us jocks are supposed to stick together and now your giving her ideas and a defence, albeit not true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never and have never judged anyone on this site despite how depraved their antics may seem to me because it's their life to choose to do as they wish

Im not judging you nor telling you how to live your life but its my preference to avoid meeting people who drink that amount on a meet."
are they the E word?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd have 1 or 2 ,but not too many if meeting on my own ,you got to be careful these days.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

???

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

???

margarita

They’ve become a bit of habit this holiday

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

???

margarita

They’ve become a bit of habit this holiday

They always makes me think of the midnight margarita scene in Practical Magic, put the lime in the coconut song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many would admit to having a drink prior to a meet? So the 4 drinks you see consumed may in fact be 6 or 8. Some people have the need to add steel much earlier than others. If we went on a social and the others were tipsy when we got there it would be a goodbye from us.

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over a year ago

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning.

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over a year ago

"How many would admit to having a drink prior to a meet? So the 4 drinks you see consumed may in fact be 6 or 8. Some people have the need to add steel much earlier than others. If we went on a social and the others were tipsy when we got there it would be a goodbye from us. "

If I'm asked out to a bar or pub for a social I might have a drink while I'm getting ready. I've done that since I was a teenager.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Why not just join in and be sociable

You might enjoy the outcome

Xxxx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning."

In general I think most people would be aware that if you are meeting someone for the first time and want to impress them drinking six to eight pints is not a good move.

Hence if you do drink that amount in that situation there is a good chance you need to.

Would anyone on here not be distinctively unimpressed if they met a bloke for a social and he Downed that amount?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

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margarita

They’ve become a bit of habit this holiday

They always makes me think of the midnight margarita scene in Practical Magic, put the lime in the coconut song

Superb film

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm happy to have a teetotal meet ,but I also enjoy licking sambuca off of nipples but don't think that counts....

With a lime navel and salty pussy

Ah no that would just be with tequila

Don’t say that M word

???

margarita

They’ve become a bit of habit this holiday

They always makes me think of the midnight margarita scene in Practical Magic, put the lime in the coconut song

Superb film

I clearly need educating

Until then, I’ll keep enjoying the salty rim

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By *hisky and WineCouple
over a year ago

the vicinity of Betelgeuse

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning.

In general I think most people would be aware that if you are meeting someone for the first time and want to impress them drinking six to eight pints is not a good move.

Hence if you do drink that amount in that situation there is a good chance you need to.

Would anyone on here not be distinctively unimpressed if they met a bloke for a social and he Downed that amount? "

I’d be somewhat impressed because if I drank that amount of beer I’d feel like a beached whale!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning.

In general I think most people would be aware that if you are meeting someone for the first time and want to impress them drinking six to eight pints is not a good move.

Hence if you do drink that amount in that situation there is a good chance you need to.

Would anyone on here not be distinctively unimpressed if they met a bloke for a social and he Downed that amount?

I’d be somewhat impressed because if I drank that amount of beer I’d feel like a beached whale! "

I'd be comatose...

Maybe I mix in innocent circles, but I can't imagine a woman getting the hots for a bloke who drinks pint after pint...

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By *hisky and WineCouple
over a year ago

the vicinity of Betelgeuse

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning.

In general I think most people would be aware that if you are meeting someone for the first time and want to impress them drinking six to eight pints is not a good move.

Hence if you do drink that amount in that situation there is a good chance you need to.

Would anyone on here not be distinctively unimpressed if they met a bloke for a social and he Downed that amount?

I’d be somewhat impressed because if I drank that amount of beer I’d feel like a beached whale!

I'd be comatose...

Maybe I mix in innocent circles, but I can't imagine a woman getting the hots for a bloke who drinks pint after pint... "

I don’t mind sharing a few drinks at the weekend with J but beer just makes me bloated and makes my stomach feel like it’s full of liquid!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Actually I do remember having a few pints on a social with a local woman in the early FAB day. Dutch courage I guess. She stayed sober as was driving. Think she enjoyed me slowly showing the effects of cider. Luckily she found me cheeky and very entertaining. Resulting in a lovely end to the evening over the bonet of her car by the canal. I would say just dont drink to excess.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Given that I live in the sticks, then no, because I'm driving.

It wouldn't put me off if a meet had a drink as we chatted, but more than one would probably put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off. I don't want to meet people that need to be pissed to fuck me.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me.

Fair enough but most people wouldn't and we can only judge people we don't know on the basis of likelihood.

The likelihood of what?

Ok. You'd be assuming the need part, but I see your reasoning.

In general I think most people would be aware that if you are meeting someone for the first time and want to impress them drinking six to eight pints is not a good move.

Hence if you do drink that amount in that situation there is a good chance you need to.

Would anyone on here not be distinctively unimpressed if they met a bloke for a social and he Downed that amount?

I’d be somewhat impressed because if I drank that amount of beer I’d feel like a beached whale!

I'd be comatose...

Maybe I mix in innocent circles, but I can't imagine a woman getting the hots for a bloke who drinks pint after pint... "

6-8 pints certainly isn't attractive, but nor is an entire bottle of wine.

Even if the dude wasn't absolutely shitfaced after that amount, he'd certainly be stinking of beer and burping a lot.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

I am afraid it would, you might think you are good company after 6 or 8 pints, years working behind bars taught me you aren't. That's before we even get into the consent issues.

I understand and sympathise with having limited time to play- its why we can only really make daytime parties but if I want a night out with bevvies I go out with friends, if I want filthy sex I want all involved to be sober

(Kaz)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning fabbers, I was curious as to how many of you have a drink when having a meet, social or otherwise ?

I'm not talking slurred speach and falling over, Mrs might have 3 or 4 glasses of wine say and I'd maybe have 6-8 pints on a night out, sounds a lot but not for me tbh I would just be merry

Would this put you off a couple even if they where good company and attractive ?

3-4 glasses of wine and 6-8 pints??

That's excessive drinking even if it's only once in a while.

It would certainly put me off. 1 or 2 drinks while chatting is fine but then I very rarely drink anyway.

If I was meeting someone who was drinking that much, I'd think they had a problem with alcohol. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who’s judging?

No one's saying you have a drink problem. . Just that to most people 6-8 pints is a lot and feeling you would like to drink that much at a social with a stranger is a bit eyebrow raising.

As I say, someone who felt the need to drink that much at a social would certainly put us off and I think most people would be the same.

I could drink 6 pub measure JD and Cokes and still have my wits about me. "
the Jds watered down must be

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A coffee or a beer would be fine. Glass of wine. Not to excess, that’s rude and ignorant and I’m not.

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We usually have a few drinks with couples we meet. As you said it helps with the nerves for all involved. Not talking getting completely smashed though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its an evening meet in a pub or something, ill be having a beer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We usually have a few drinks with couples we meet. As you said it helps with the nerves for all involved. Not talking getting completely smashed though lol

We are the same, seems people didn't read my op properly, what we drink on a night out as a couple will be different to what we drink on a meet, I was just asking if people do have a drink when going on a social or if it's considered the wrong thing to do, depends on who your meeting as well I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually have a few drinks with couples we meet. As you said it helps with the nerves for all involved. Not talking getting completely smashed though lol

My meets from here have been more like fun dates and we have always had one or two bottles of wine. That’s a normal night out for me. I don’t meet just for sex so never done that. I only have a ‘date’ type experience. Lots of food, drink, music and maybe sex, depending on the mood.

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We enjoy a drink, a laugh and a giggle on our meets. We never meet with any expectations of sex nor do we feel obliged to jump in the sack with the people we meet. The aim is to have fun, get to know each other and see what happens

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually have a few drinks with couples we meet. As you said it helps with the nerves for all involved. Not talking getting completely smashed though lol

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you said social or otherwise but I think you can tell from peoples reaction that sex and too much alcohol don't mix really but their will always be exceptions to every rule

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In general terms, I drink little or nothing on meets to keep my wits about me. I don't judge those who drink, but I am aware of signs of intoxication, and I don't want to shag anyone who's not fully aware of what they're doing.

I sometimes come across profiles that say they won't meet people who don't drink because they only want to meet people who can have fun. I find this troubling too. I rarely drink (medication interaction: I can, but it's often not worth it). Each to their own etc, but I'm perfectly capable of having fun stone cold sober?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont drink awt but coffee or cola"

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

I find a small crate of lager chaser always puts me in the right frame of mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In general terms, I drink little or nothing on meets to keep my wits about me. I don't judge those who drink, but I am aware of signs of intoxication, and I don't want to shag anyone who's not fully aware of what they're doing.

I used to see someone a couple of years ago that didn’t really drink. We were on different wavelengths when we went out. I prefer someone that likes a few drinks, a complete non drinker would not be suited to me. I don’t drink tea or coffee either so coffee shop meets I’ve never really understood.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

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