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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone when having fun looked over and seen your partner playing with another and thought they ain't going to want me after playing with them.Ive never had the opportunity to swap with anyone I was just wondering that's all.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Wouldn’t be much of a partner then??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Never. For us seeing the other enjoying a sexual experience is no different to seeing them enjoying a great meal. It has no impact on our relationship we're just pleased to see each other having a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If those type of feelings come into it, they they really shouldn't be swinging.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always think I’m better. I’m good at flying in the face of facts.

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"If those type of feelings come into it, they they really shouldn't be swinging."

Categorically this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck! I feel inadequate when I see a man who's been into me, flirting with another woman now. Fab erodes confidence as much as it boosts it. Imo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her "

You’re over 6 feet tall.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her "

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her "

Just don't swing with her if you don't feel comfortable about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

You’re over 6 feet tall. "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a good cook, but when I went out with the ex he would REALLY enjoy a good meal. I wasn’t jealous of the chef. It was a nice change and we both got to enjoy something different. He wasn’t just with me because I made good food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just watch and learn a new skill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow. "

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope can honestly say never .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

In answer to the op . Never have I felt inadequate and I’m only average . My wife has had up to 11 inches and I don’t worry at all that she won’t want me afterwards . Our relationship is about so much more than sex , and swinging is just a hobby that we both enjoy . If either of us felt inadequate while swinging we would simply stop .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all . "

I agree. However they wouldn't leave a partner they loved just because a guy had a larger penis.

Mr N was lucky enough to experience being deep throated by a lady something I'll never be able to do but he's unlikely to leave me just because she can do it and I can't. Now if she could deep throat and cook well he might consider it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In answer to the op . Never have I felt inadequate and I’m only average . My wife has had up to 11 inches and I don’t worry at all that she won’t want me afterwards . Our relationship is about so much more than sex , and swinging is just a hobby that we both enjoy . If either of us felt inadequate while swinging we would simply stop ."

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"In answer to the op . Never have I felt inadequate and I’m only average . My wife has had up to 11 inches and I don’t worry at all that she won’t want me afterwards . Our relationship is about so much more than sex , and swinging is just a hobby that we both enjoy . If either of us felt inadequate while swinging we would simply stop ."

Definitely this, there's nothing else to add. We'd hope that those we play with think likewise, would hate to have that insecurity going on, and more so to be the object of that insecurity.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all .

I agree. However they wouldn't leave a partner they loved just because a guy had a larger penis.

Mr N was lucky enough to experience being deep throated by a lady something I'll never be able to do but he's unlikely to leave me just because she can do it and I can't. Now if she could deep throat and cook well he might consider it "

Yes , we have both had experiences over the years with people who may have done stuff we thoroughly enjoyed . But the sex is just a small part of it , as I said , and one particular aspect of it is never going to be the basis of wanting to leave someone over it .

The question is this , if someone got with someone not very well blessed , unless he is going to be a happy cuck , would it be a good idea to swing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck! I feel inadequate when I see a man who's been into me, flirting with another woman now. Fab erodes confidence as much as it boosts it. Imo."

Well you can only tell a chap to fuck off so many times before he acts on your advice.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all .

I agree. However they wouldn't leave a partner they loved just because a guy had a larger penis.

Mr N was lucky enough to experience being deep throated by a lady something I'll never be able to do but he's unlikely to leave me just because she can do it and I can't. Now if she could deep throat and cook well he might consider it

Yes , we have both had experiences over the years with people who may have done stuff we thoroughly enjoyed . But the sex is just a small part of it , as I said , and one particular aspect of it is never going to be the basis of wanting to leave someone over it .

The question is this , if someone got with someone not very well blessed , unless he is going to be a happy cuck , would it be a good idea to swing ? "

I don't think its a good idea to swing if you have any self esteem issues or a less than rock solid relationship.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all .

I agree. However they wouldn't leave a partner they loved just because a guy had a larger penis.

Mr N was lucky enough to experience being deep throated by a lady something I'll never be able to do but he's unlikely to leave me just because she can do it and I can't. Now if she could deep throat and cook well he might consider it

Yes , we have both had experiences over the years with people who may have done stuff we thoroughly enjoyed . But the sex is just a small part of it , as I said , and one particular aspect of it is never going to be the basis of wanting to leave someone over it .

The question is this , if someone got with someone not very well blessed , unless he is going to be a happy cuck , would it be a good idea to swing ?

I don't think its a good idea to swing if you have any self esteem issues or a less than rock solid relationship."

We absolutely agree on that

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

When I've met couples unless they like humiliation play then inadequate isn't something I've sensed ..it's always been about pleasure, another person being involved brings a different dimension to that pleasure

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her

Women mostly aren't that shallow.

There are plenty of women who look for average at least . And I don’t think that makes them shallow at all .

I agree. However they wouldn't leave a partner they loved just because a guy had a larger penis.

Mr N was lucky enough to experience being deep throated by a lady something I'll never be able to do but he's unlikely to leave me just because she can do it and I can't. Now if she could deep throat and cook well he might consider it

Yes , we have both had experiences over the years with people who may have done stuff we thoroughly enjoyed . But the sex is just a small part of it , as I said , and one particular aspect of it is never going to be the basis of wanting to leave someone over it .

The question is this , if someone got with someone not very well blessed , unless he is going to be a happy cuck , would it be a good idea to swing ?

I don't think its a good idea to swing if you have any self esteem issues or a less than rock solid relationship.

We absolutely agree on that "

That's twice in the last six months! People will talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck! I feel inadequate when I see a man who's been into me, flirting with another woman now. Fab erodes confidence as much as it boosts it. Imo.

Well you can only tell a chap to fuck off so many times before he acts on your advice....."

Eh? Who told you I told them to fuck off?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Oxford is about half way for you agreeing couples....

Ps. Usual pics, eh? Eh? Nudge nudge wink wink

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am guessing no one would know exactly how you are going to feel the first time you swing. I am guessing there are people about who didn't go in for a second go

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

When I was swinging with a partner it never even crossed my mind. I was happy for them to have as much fun as they could.

It was a major turn on to be honest.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Has anyone when having fun looked over and seen your partner playing with another and thought they ain't going to want me after playing with them.Ive never had the opportunity to swap with anyone I was just wondering that's all."

No and if you do then you should really reconsider what you are doing

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Thanks for the replies.i was just wondering because I'm not very big and if I found a partner to swing with think I would struggle to keep her "

If you were in a relationship the playing with others is an extra, it isn't normally to replace your partner. She will have chosen you to be in her life for a reason

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I am guessing no one would know exactly how you are going to feel the first time you swing. I am guessing there are people about who didn't go in for a second go"

We know of quite a few couples who have only swung the once .

We also know of a few who swung once and then split up .

And we also know a few where after the once , one of them still swings and the other doesn’t . And yes , they do it behind the other ones back !

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