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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes seems girls like furry potatoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only met one person so far and I'd say we are pretty evenly matched. I've been approached by some very very fit guys and I can't help but wonder why?!?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Yeah. My chap is punching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on here, but yes, my long term partner is leagues above me in many ways. My daughter thinks he has a Shallow Hal problem and doesn't see the physical me.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit "

For me you’re only a few tatts away from perfection peach, you’re pretty blessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only met one person so far and I'd say we are pretty evenly matched. I've been approached by some very very fit guys and I can't help but wonder why?!?"

Urm i can buys love raibow sox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your green t shirt looks like a Star Trek uniform.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Yes seems girls like furry potatoes "

They must be too proud for specsavers. We have to capitalise on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only met one person so far and I'd say we are pretty evenly matched. I've been approached by some very very fit guys and I can't help but wonder why?!?"

You have seen you pics havn't you?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit

For me you’re only a few tatts away from perfection peach, you’re pretty blessed"

Oh my

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Yeah. My chap is punching "

As is mine.

Erm, no to the OP. Well maybe that thought pops in every now and again but sometimes attraction can't be explained down to the minutiae and there's no point in trying to do so. The sex is great, both parties are happy. I just go with it.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I did untill someone told me there aren't a lot of ladies here from my area... charmer

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"OP, your green t shirt looks like a Star Trek uniform."

Haha I should be thankful it’s not red then

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Yeah. My chap is punching

As is mine.

Erm, no to the OP. Well maybe that thought pops in every now and again but sometimes attraction can't be explained down to the minutiae and there's no point in trying to do so. The sex is great, both parties are happy. I just go with it.

"

Ya to this

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Yeah. My chap is punching

As is mine.

Erm, no to the OP. Well maybe that thought pops in every now and again but sometimes attraction can't be explained down to the minutiae and there's no point in trying to do so. The sex is great, both parties are happy. I just go with it.

"

I just go with it too. No complaints here, I just wondered how common it is here for people to just click with the most unlikely people

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Lots but mainly cus they are hot, swear blind they are straight and can't get enough of me lol

I guess it helps i am straigh forward lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I know for a fact some of the men messaging me wouldn't look at me twice in the street. I'll suck it up though, someone has to

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I’ve never really thought about it. I probably will now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think there’s such a thing as ‘punching’, different people find different things attractive. Sometimes you find those align.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Yep I know for a fact some of the men messaging me wouldn't look at me twice in the street. I'll suck it up though, someone has to "

Are you sure? Maybe if you looked back occasionally you’d notice they waited for you to pass

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit "

Why wouldn’t someone want to message you? Yes I know I might be biased.

XX

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"I’ve never really thought about it. I probably will now though "

It is a strange thing if you analyse it from a physchological perspective. The openness of the site and the removal of imagination often opens up this realm where you are alot more attentive and allows people to connect in ways they usually wouldn’t see.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes. Indeed.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit

Why wouldn’t someone want to message you? Yes I know I might be biased.

XX"

He's mega hot. I'm me.

You know when the balance is a little skew whiff

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Nope.. never give it a thought.. although my hypnotism skills may have something to do with it .. look into my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes I do, though attraction is a complicated thing x

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

I'm in precisely this position at the moment. I cannot for the life of me see what I'm doing right !

Will just enjoy it at long as it lasts...

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit

Why wouldn’t someone want to message you? Yes I know I might be biased.

XX

He's mega hot. I'm me.

You know when the balance is a little skew whiff "

Your gorgeous in every way. So no I can’t see what you mean.

XX

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By *r Potato HeadMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yes seems girls like furry potatoes "

Do they, my luck is in....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But while they still want to meet me I'll just keep going with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

No we are all equal on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much meet, but chat to and exchange pics and vids, yeah, I wonder why the hell they chose me when there’s tons of gym fit guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Indeed. "

I wouldnt know anyone wouldnt find you delicious muppets if they dont

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve met some gorgeous guys over the last 12 years, some on this site and some from another site, a few times I did wonder why they would be interested in me but we had great times and a lot of repeat meets so I couldn’t of been as bad as I thought

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Not so much meet, but chat to and exchange pics and vids, yeah, I wonder why the hell they chose me when there’s tons of gym fit guys on here."

Some of us ladies prefer a man like you than a gym fit guy

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

I never really wonder about this. When repeat meets are arranged its clearly because it was great for us both. You actually just know very early on if it has the potential to blossom into something regular

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

The ladies who posted 'yes ' in response to the thread header have all received oh but you're beautiful type platitudes.. I don't know the ladies concerned.. I'm sure they are deserving of them.

Guys that have said similar as those ladies.... nothing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not so much meet, but chat to and exchange pics and vids, yeah, I wonder why the hell they chose me when there’s tons of gym fit guys on here.

Some of us ladies prefer a man like you than a gym fit guy "

I’m almost sure there’s a compliment in there somewhere, I’ll take it

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Can't say I've ever thought about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because pooch is so handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they want to meet again for more sex, not because i’m anything special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No comment loll

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

When I first stepped into all *this* I must confess it somewhat bemused me that I got any attention, as I'd never thought of myself as particularly attractive physically or otherwise - over time though I've come to accept that attraction is in the eye of the beholder and not the beholdee and that if people like me, they like me plain and simple, no punching involved

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I’m frequently surprised by the fact that hot guys want to see me more than once.

Absolutely not complaining though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often. I try not to over think it through. I just run with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ladies who posted 'yes ' in response to the thread header have all received oh but you're beautiful type platitudes.. I don't know the ladies concerned.. I'm sure they are deserving of them.

Guys that have said similar as those ladies.... nothing..

"

Well there’s an obvious answer to the reasoning behind it...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"The ladies who posted 'yes ' in response to the thread header have all received oh but you're beautiful type platitudes.. I don't know the ladies concerned.. I'm sure they are deserving of them.

Guys that have said similar as those ladies.... nothing..

Well there’s an obvious answer to the reasoning behind it... "

The men aren't as beautiful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m frequently surprised by the fact that hot guys want to see me more than once.

Absolutely not complaining though!"

Probably those lips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ladies who posted 'yes ' in response to the thread header have all received oh but you're beautiful type platitudes.. I don't know the ladies concerned.. I'm sure they are deserving of them.

Guys that have said similar as those ladies.... nothing..

Well there’s an obvious answer to the reasoning behind it...

The men aren't as beautiful? "

I was thinking more that people are carefully formulating responses as we speak to help raise the egos of these poor forlorn and forgotten fellows....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theresa may if far better looking than george Clooney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking! "

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

My natural default setting is to be terribly self deprecating. It's probably a defence mechanism - kind of like I'll get in there first before someone else has the chance to insult me because I don't possess much self confidence. So, yes, I do find it hard to accept that good looking repeat/regular meets find me genuinely attractive and tend to feel incredibly flattered when they want to see me again.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"It's because pooch is so handsome "

Yes he's a handsome hound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I'm saying is, when I'm straddling a hot, naked body, all I'm thinking is "Oh mama, I'm gonna have my fill of this one"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they want to meet again for more sex, not because i’m anything special.

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Bingo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Every fucking time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find my sexy sleeping rag helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends"

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"The ladies who posted 'yes ' in response to the thread header have all received oh but you're beautiful type platitudes.. I don't know the ladies concerned.. I'm sure they are deserving of them.

Guys that have said similar as those ladies.... nothing..

Well there’s an obvious answer to the reasoning behind it...

The men aren't as beautiful?

I was thinking more that people are carefully formulating responses as we speak to help raise the egos of these poor forlorn and forgotten fellows...."

Ahhh that'll be it... the sceptic in me was thinking of a different reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I can't pull a Christmas cracker in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think there’s such a thing as ‘punching’, different people find different things attractive. Sometimes you find those align.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's mainly because they like to walk my dogs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. I can't pull a Christmas cracker in real life "

That's how you get the bum licky comments right?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Not so much meet, but chat to and exchange pics and vids, yeah, I wonder why the hell they chose me when there’s tons of gym fit guys on here.

Some of us ladies prefer a man like you than a gym fit guy "

You mentioned gym fit I was just repeating your words

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby


"I’m frequently surprised by the fact that hot guys want to see me more than once.

Absolutely not complaining though!

Probably those lips"

I was hoping it was my awesome skills in the bedroom, but I’ll take that

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Yep. I can't pull a Christmas cracker in real life

That's how you get the bum licky comments right? "

I’m sure your pfp does that better than words. Most people tend to read fab like a kipper book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. I can't pull a Christmas cracker in real life

That's how you get the bum licky comments right? "

You know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Often. I try not to over think it through. I just run with it. "

Answer of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think that but the few meets that I have had always wanted more so I just go with it and keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house "

All the great artists are unappreciated in their time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house

All the great artists are unappreciated in their time"

*sniff* you're right...you're right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. I can't pull a Christmas cracker in real life

That's how you get the bum licky comments right?

You know it "

After 6 years I'm finally getting the hang of what I should and shouldn't say on the forum! Yay! Go me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m punching atm (imo). Although Mrs G says she is. Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only met one person so far and I'd say we are pretty evenly matched. I've been approached by some very very fit guys and I can't help but wonder why?!?"

I’ve met three men from fab and I’m in the same boat. One of them is absolutely beautiful, and I don’t get why he wants to fuck me?! But he’s been coming back for a year now. Must be doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house

All the great artists are unappreciated in their time

*sniff* you're right...you're right! "

I appreciate your plump pillows regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house

All the great artists are unappreciated in their time

*sniff* you're right...you're right!

I appreciate your plump pillows regularly "

Not even close to being the same thing drummerboy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much "

Don't talk about my peach like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Occasionally, but by the same token, why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much

Don't talk about my peach like that "

Proper scraping bottom of the barrel with that one

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back?

Occasionally, but by the same token, why not? "

Why not indeed. I just have a curious nature and enjoy deciphering the psychology behind everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much "

Is that because of your black eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much

Is that because of your black eye "

You know what mate? Being me is honestly more of a curse than a gift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People come back to me for the LOLZ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm attractive yet have low confidence. I met a guy in November and I could see from his pics he was attractive but in the flesh, my god, he made me feel intimidated cos he was so good looking. Made me feel all nervous and felt like I couldn't be my best self. He even said I don't get why you're so nervous when I've met birds no where near as hot as you and they were confident as fuck!

Moving forward with any guy I meet in the future I'm just gonna go into it with I don't give a shit attitude, and just be myself and have more confidence.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"I'm attractive yet have low confidence. I met a guy in November and I could see from his pics he was attractive but in the flesh, my god, he made me feel intimidated cos he was so good looking. Made me feel all nervous and felt like I couldn't be my best self. He even said I don't get why you're so nervous when I've met birds no where near as hot as you and they were confident as fuck!

Moving forward with any guy I meet in the future I'm just gonna go into it with I don't give a shit attitude, and just be myself and have more confidence. "

Katt Williams done a sketch about this you should look it up, he hits the nail right on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking!

Or your sofa fort building skills #StuffOfLegends

My fort building skills are vastly underappreciated in this house

All the great artists are unappreciated in their time

*sniff* you're right...you're right!

I appreciate your plump pillows regularly

Not even close to being the same thing drummerboy "

Not so great for making forts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much

Is that because of your black eye

You know what mate? Being me is honestly more of a curse than a gift"

Oh i dont doubt it your powers of attraction are legendary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to keep them coming back, they say it's because of who and how I am.

I am sexually confident though and very adventurous and open minded. I put it down to that and I think confidence, above anything, is an extremely attractive trait to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along.."

Oh that's a bit cynical

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"I seem to keep them coming back, they say it's because of who and how I am.

I am sexually confident though and very adventurous and open minded. I put it down to that and I think confidence, above anything, is an extremely attractive trait to have."

Its the naughty look you give

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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

Oh that's a bit cynical "

It's based on observations over several decades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. No one is better than yourself so I don't see it as punching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I've met is punching. Starting to wonder why I lower my standards so much

Is that because of your black eye

You know what mate? Being me is honestly more of a curse than a gift

Oh i dont doubt it your powers of attraction are legendary "

At least some gets me

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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along.."
mostly agree with you on that

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"My natural default setting is to be terribly self deprecating. It's probably a defence mechanism - kind of like I'll get in there first before someone else has the chance to insult me because I don't possess much self confidence. So, yes, I do find it hard to accept that good looking repeat/regular meets find me genuinely attractive and tend to feel incredibly flattered when they want to see me again. "

This

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not looks wise as good looks dont really phase me but i do wonder why they keep coming back. Sone for 12years plus.

They are all such lovely people and get other meets but they keep coming back

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"I seem to keep them coming back, they say it's because of who and how I am.

I am sexually confident though and very adventurous and open minded. I put it down to that and I think confidence, above anything, is an extremely attractive trait to have.

Its the naughty look you give"

I'm just me

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Far more men like non hetero normative sex than women do, hence if a women is willing to engage in said type of sex. She can have her pick up of objectively attractive men who like non hetero normative sex.

As ever it's about supply and demand

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never put any store by ‘punching above’. If they’re in the bedroom with you and their cock is hard, you’re exactly what they want at that moment in time. There’s guys I think are gorgeous that other girls just don’t see, and guys they go googly-eyed over that I think are plain. If they mesaage you, they’ve seen something they like and therefore you’re evenly matched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep pushing forward, don't let self-doubt spoil the fun, keep positive. People are attracted to positive people..

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"Just keep pushing forward, don't let self-doubt spoil the fun, keep positive. People are attracted to positive people.. "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All i can say is its a good job im funny as fuck in person

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

Oh that's a bit cynical "

Very true though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never put any store by ‘punching above’. If they’re in the bedroom with you and their cock is hard, you’re exactly what they want at that moment in time. There’s guys I think are gorgeous that other girls just don’t see, and guys they go googly-eyed over that I think are plain. If they mesaage you, they’ve seen something they like and therefore you’re evenly matched."

Yep! Pretty much my thinking too (although not necessarily the cock thing) if someone has made contact then they like something about you, if they keep coming back then they like you. Trying to find reason in it will just diminish the fun

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

Oh that's a bit cynical

Very true though."

If thats a common reoccurring problem you’re not meeting the right people. Some women are far too quick to slate guys yet there are plenty of women on here who have kept a man for many years. I’d say the opinion is invalid. Don’t blame the men just take a look at your own searching process, somewhere along the line you must be going wrong to arrive at such a conclusion

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"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan."

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me

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"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me"

Ot if they were a boomerang and couldn't stay away.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me

Ot if they were a boomerang and couldn't stay away. "

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"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me

Ot if they were a boomerang and couldn't stay away. "

If I tossed someone on a meet it’s not because I want them to go...

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over a year ago


"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me

Ot if they were a boomerang and couldn't stay away.

If I tossed someone on a meet it’s not because I want them to go... "

Come again?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet..

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Ive had all sorts of offers from many handsome guys however sex is just sex you are often just one of many. Im sorry but there's nothing that special in that. Its easy to return for just sex but if you're looking for something a bit more well thats a different story all together. We are only good until the best shining one appears.

I dont feel Ive punched above todate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go out with women way out of my league, I like the feeling you could lose them at any moment, keeps you on your toes.

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I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it."

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship"

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "
doubt you have that trouble your well fit x

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point.."

I never mentioned emotions

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? doubt you have that trouble your well fit x"

It’s all a facade its my face that lets my body down in photo’s. In person my eyes make up the shortfall as that’s usually what people comment on

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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Well you seem lovely xx

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over a year ago


"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

Oh that's a bit cynical

Very true though.

If thats a common reoccurring problem you’re not meeting the right people. Some women are far too quick to slate guys yet there are plenty of women on here who have kept a man for many years. I’d say the opinion is invalid. Don’t blame the men just take a look at your own searching process, somewhere along the line you must be going wrong to arrive at such a conclusion "

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions "

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn.."

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory. So please elaborate for me On why you keep correlating my age to my experience because I don’t comprehend how you are unable to factor in any kind of mental stimulation into sex without it in your mind meaning it has to be emotional.

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Honestly? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit "

Your not so bad yourself.

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory. So please elaborate for me On why you keep correlating my age to my experience because I don’t comprehend how you are unable to factor in any kind of mental stimulation into sex without it in your mind meaning it has to be emotional."

Ok this will be some hard truths... so this isn’t slating anyone but it’s my experience with swinging...

People will say anything in the moment to get what they want. You will start to become cynical because of the lies people tell you in the heat of the moment.

Most people will tell you they want a long term connection, then will drop you when the next best thing comes along... some will tell you they want to be friends and see you at a party and ignore you.

If you have spent a long time making a connection it will hurt your soul. If you just enjoyed your little time together . You can laugh this event off.

I’m not a cold person at all. I have many great sex partners that I have fun with. I just don’t call them friends because they are not my friends. We have a great time in each other’s company and that is it.

Your swinging journey has just begun... let’s have this conversation in 10 years....

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over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

I spend a lot of time walking around town and thinking this, which does not good for my self esteem

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over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "
If you think about this place and responses to messages choosing to message someone who Is absolutely stunning here would be futile don't you think but outside of here I chat to anyone not with hope but certainly without fear, so in answer to your question I've pulled a few who might be considered above my weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me

Ot if they were a boomerang and couldn't stay away.

If I tossed someone on a meet it’s not because I want them to go... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fish in a barrel lol im staying out of it

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Men will almost always come back for what they perceive as easy sex - until the next shiny thing comes along..

Oh that's a bit cynical

Very true though.

If thats a common reoccurring problem you’re not meeting the right people. Some women are far too quick to slate guys yet there are plenty of women on here who have kept a man for many years. I’d say the opinion is invalid. Don’t blame the men just take a look at your own searching process, somewhere along the line you must be going wrong to arrive at such a conclusion "

Thank you for telling me that your experiences trump my own and that I'm doing the searching thing wrong.

So lovely of you.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I think that they keep coming back because they know that it's guaranteed sex - a back up plan.

That’s a very bleak view. I would only meet someone again if I like them and wanted to be around them, I’m sure that there are many people that feel the same as me"

However, that is my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok serious post this time. I assume when someone comes back for more it's because the whole set up works... the attraction, convenience, the lack of drama, the sex etc. I would refuse to meet again if I thought it was anything more than that. In that type of scenario where 2 people are meeting for a mutually sexy time, I'm not really sure where "leagues" and "punching above your weight" comes into it.

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over a year ago


"Ok serious post this time. I assume when someone comes back for more it's because the whole set up works... the attraction, convenience, the lack of drama, the sex etc. I would refuse to meet again if I thought it was anything more than that. In that type of scenario where 2 people are meeting for a mutually sexy time, I'm not really sure where "leagues" and "punching above your weight" comes into it.

"

So no. I don't wonder what keeps them coming back. Ever.

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over a year ago


"Ok serious post this time. I assume when someone comes back for more it's because the whole set up works... the attraction, convenience, the lack of drama, the sex etc. I would refuse to meet again if I thought it was anything more than that. In that type of scenario where 2 people are meeting for a mutually sexy time, I'm not really sure where "leagues" and "punching above your weight" comes into it.

"
you look very sexy I'm sure they come back purely for that reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met anyone on here who wants to come back, so no

I do wonder how I've managed to keep hubby for so long though...must be my cooking! "
because you look awesome , do not underestimate yourself xxx

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"Yep I know for a fact some of the men messaging me wouldn't look at me twice in the street. I'll suck it up though, someone has to "

I would your pictures are stunning

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west

Fab can be a strange place!

When we joined both Mr & I had ideas of who we’d like aesthetically. However since attending socials we find we are drawn to completely different people to what we first thought we’d find attractive!

And I’m sure this is the same for many others.

If a couple can chat, laugh and not take things too seriously , that for us is attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

Yep - she’s far too good for me and I’m thankful every morning when I wake up and she’s still there for me

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory. So please elaborate for me On why you keep correlating my age to my experience because I don’t comprehend how you are unable to factor in any kind of mental stimulation into sex without it in your mind meaning it has to be emotional.

Ok this will be some hard truths... so this isn’t slating anyone but it’s my experience with swinging...

People will say anything in the moment to get what they want. You will start to become cynical because of the lies people tell you in the heat of the moment.

Most people will tell you they want a long term connection, then will drop you when the next best thing comes along... some will tell you they want to be friends and see you at a party and ignore you.

If you have spent a long time making a connection it will hurt your soul. If you just enjoyed your little time together . You can laugh this event off.

I’m not a cold person at all. I have many great sex partners that I have fun with. I just don’t call them friends because they are not my friends. We have a great time in each other’s company and that is it.

Your swinging journey has just begun... let’s have this conversation in 10 years....

"

You’re really not understanding this I don’t think. Have you considered that maybe when you meet these people in different social circles they may be seeking someone else? I mean what are you expecting from people? People want to explore, they’re not bound to you. If you meet them somewhere outside of your planned endeavours they’re likely there seeking something which doesn’t include you at that moment. If I’m honest it sounds like you’re getting way too caught up on the fact that in your mind if you so much as speak to someone you have to have some form of relationship that includes emotions. You don’t.

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over a year ago

Never had a meet off here so guess I must always be punching above my limit with who I message.

I always feel lucky with partners and always believe they above my station due to looks and intelligence

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Fab can be a strange place!

When we joined both Mr & I had ideas of who we’d like aesthetically. However since attending socials we find we are drawn to completely different people to what we first thought we’d find attractive!

And I’m sure this is the same for many others.

If a couple can chat, laugh and not take things too seriously , that for us is attractive "

I mentioned this loosely earlier, the site gets a lot of stick but when you realise the value in the way you are able to strip back so much of the usual things that are drilled into your head as what to search for and how socially acceptable things are deemed you often get on well with people. Not just sexually but mentally. I have a few friends I’ve known and frequently chatted to for roughly two years now from here and we’ve never met, yet on a non sexual level we just get on so well and I’d never have taken that time if not for the forums.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship"

You are thoughtful and quite insightful, but I would disagree with you here - getting to know someone, sharing of yourself, having sex, does indeed mean you form a relationship of some kind, even if it is one without attachment or obligation (though to my mind any connection, particularly sexual brings with it a duty of care).

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory. So please elaborate for me On why you keep correlating my age to my experience because I don’t comprehend how you are unable to factor in any kind of mental stimulation into sex without it in your mind meaning it has to be emotional.

Ok this will be some hard truths... so this isn’t slating anyone but it’s my experience with swinging...

People will say anything in the moment to get what they want. You will start to become cynical because of the lies people tell you in the heat of the moment.

Most people will tell you they want a long term connection, then will drop you when the next best thing comes along... some will tell you they want to be friends and see you at a party and ignore you.

If you have spent a long time making a connection it will hurt your soul.

"

This is a point that the majority fail to understand. This must be done with respect and kindness in my view.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory. "

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts.

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Having had two fwb with whom I had what I call a connection (ie like minds, enjoying each others company, not just great sex) it's my humble opinion that stopping seeing them will affect you. However, we were always on the strict understanding that either could walk away at any time, no recriminations. It's not like breaking up with a life partner, more like a close friend emigrating. Adults can deal with this.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory.

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts."

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached. You agree to the nature of things and the fact it is subject to change. A mental connection is essential and I don’t see how people can indicate you’re better off avoiding it, especially given so few want NSA. As you said it’s purely just sex without it so I just wanted clarity on how avoiding any form of development benefits anyone. If as an adult people can’t give a little without compromising themselves probably shouldn’t be here. As long as there’s respect between two parties any potential for hurt is minimised but I’m sure it dissipates if things do change

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"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory.

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts.

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached. You agree to the nature of things and the fact it is subject to change. A mental connection is essential and I don’t see how people can indicate you’re better off avoiding it, especially given so few want NSA. As you said it’s purely just sex without it so I just wanted clarity on how avoiding any form of development benefits anyone. If as an adult people can’t give a little without compromising themselves probably shouldn’t be here. As long as there’s respect between two parties any potential for hurt is minimised but I’m sure it dissipates if things do change"

I think it's somewhat disingenuous to say that all people can "connect" without emotional attachment, it's easy for some and impossible for others. Sounds to me like a get out clause "but I told you it was NSA", yes, we are all adults but we are also under the influence of our emotions.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory.

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts.

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached. You agree to the nature of things and the fact it is subject to change. A mental connection is essential and I don’t see how people can indicate you’re better off avoiding it, especially given so few want NSA. As you said it’s purely just sex without it so I just wanted clarity on how avoiding any form of development benefits anyone. If as an adult people can’t give a little without compromising themselves probably shouldn’t be here. As long as there’s respect between two parties any potential for hurt is minimised but I’m sure it dissipates if things do change

I think it's somewhat disingenuous to say that all people can "connect" without emotional attachment, it's easy for some and impossible for others. Sounds to me like a get out clause "but I told you it was NSA", yes, we are all adults but we are also under the influence of our emotions."

I think you miscontrue my point that NSA is not what most of us seek. We need the mental stimulation, but equally it’s foolish to expect things to remain the same. People have lives outside of the site and more often than not people’s individual development and exploration will cause one party to outgrow the other. That’s simply being mature about the situation and equally being understanding of it too, there’s always a chance that someone will take a bit of a hit but you have to just be as mindful as possible and always have the mindset that it is likely to change wether that be in the near future or otherwise

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Can everyone stop dissing NSA now, thank you kindly

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory.

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts.

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached. "

Well that's a much bigger question, and depends on the psychology of the people involved.

Some will never become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Some will always become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Others might avoid becoming attached in 9 out of 10 cases and then number 10 gets them intensely and deeply hooked by the short and curlies!!

ALL of these are part of the human experience, surely as a student of human psychology you can see this?

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Can everyone stop dissing NSA now, thank you kindly "

Haha there’s nothing wrong with it. Although one time usually doesn’t allow proper exploration

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

How do you work out whether you punching Up Or Down with some one ?

Is it looks money education? That makes one person better than another.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Can everyone stop dissing NSA now, thank you kindly

Haha there’s nothing wrong with it. Although one time usually doesn’t allow proper exploration "

Who said NSA only has to be one time

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over a year ago


"Can everyone stop dissing NSA now, thank you kindly

Haha there’s nothing wrong with it. Although one time usually doesn’t allow proper exploration

Who said NSA only has to be one time "

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"I think people are confusing sex with a relationship.... there is no such thing as punching above your weight....

If a man or woman is repeatedly having sex with you without any type of relationship. It means you’re are a great sex partner. It’s all about sex and if you try to push for more , you will always lose them...

A example of this is a long term sex partner I have. I don’t know her name , where she lives , or even have a picture of her. She only texts me “ What’s up “ . If I’m available , I answer she comes over . Walks in no talking, we have sex. She uses the bathroom and leaves.

This happens once every six months and has been happening for 6 years.

She is beautiful from Eastern Europe.. I know this because she has a accent and always shows up dressed elegant...

I have never texted her first , asked her any personal questions, and if I’m busy I don’t answer...

So I think she likes having sex with me not because of my looks or cock but just because it’s convenient .

Sometimes in life just try to enjoy the experience and don’t over think it.

I disagree. Not much of the site want NSA, a lot of us value a mental connection. That is not a relationship but it does require you getting to know the person and that is what stops it from being just sex to being great sex.

There’s no confusion, I speak for myself here but I could not know a womans body entirely if I couldn’t grasp her mind first. So getting to know the woman first is critical, but I am in no way looking at women I meet with the notion of getting in a relationship. Personally I feel the spirit of this lifestyle is about just that. Getting to know people and exploring, the getting to know people part seems like the real reason behind this site. After all given the nature of it surely you want to have a good idea of the things someone is into, the way they conduct themselves and even the things they value. How can you be respectful if you don’t speak to the people?

It seems we are here for very different reasons but there’s a lot more to consider than the belief that getting to know someone means relationship

I firmly believe that a persons actions speak more loudly than words. With that being said I will always fit into peoples lives the way they want me too..

Let’s take this woman for instance... if she wanted me to know more about her she would share it. I don’t think it would work if we changed it. As of now we have a unique relationship, that works. If it became emotional, it wouldn’t...

I have a few years on you in the swinging world and let me share something with you. Not getting emotionally attached with someone will spare you heartache in the future...

When you start dating people that you met for casual sex it becomes a mine field when you have to lie to your friends and family about how you met. Also when it’s casual sex you just meet for great sex and laughs. When you become emotionally invested, you have to be there for real world problems. So ask yourself...

Do you want to be invited to just the party’s ?

Or

Do you want to be invited to the hospital stays , court visits and funerals?

Everyone will swing differently but I’ve had great success by believing in the mantra “ enjoy the ride until it’s over “ because it will always be over at some point..

I never mentioned emotions

You don’t think the more time you spend getting to know someone.... emotions don’t come into play....

Young padawon , you have a lot to learn..

I believe you are the one with learning to do. If you are not emotionally confident enough and are not able to see that swinging is very much about living for a moment and being able to give to that moment without becoming attached then you have learning to do. You keep referring to my age yet with the way you speak you appear cold and unable to connect without developing emotional attachment so I believe you are equally failing to understand that one aspect of swinging which i would say is pretty important is polyamory.

But the very definition of polyamory is multiple sexual RELATIONSHIPS! Lots of sex without that is just shagging around, or maybe swinging within certain contexts.

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached.

Well that's a much bigger question, and depends on the psychology of the people involved.

Some will never become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Some will always become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Others might avoid becoming attached in 9 out of 10 cases and then number 10 gets them intensely and deeply hooked by the short and curlies!!

ALL of these are part of the human experience, surely as a student of human psychology you can see this?"

Of course, which is why I fail to understand how the solution is to avoid it altogether. Pyschologically you will always receive a few cracks, I know people will be damaged in a variety of ways thus leading to different emotional responses but there’s no avoiding that. The only solution is simply to be understanding and respectful of their emotional needs. But then again how can you anticipate this upon meeting someone? Many people with psychological issues have had them for many years and are exceptionally good at hiding them. Then they manifest themselves in a multitude of ways but if that is the case then surely the best thing you can do is call it off before you give them the notion that you can offer them what they are latching onto. It is my own personal belief that all you can do in that situation is to be as kind as possible. It’s not necessarily a bad thing for them because if you do things the right way you can allow them to see the qualities they are drawn to and it will allow them to better understand themselves going forward. It’s always going to be a minefield but as you use the word ‘damaged’ I ask you this. If we all took a step away from any kind of mental stimulation even those who are ‘damaged’ would also never be fixed.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached.

Well that's a much bigger question, and depends on the psychology of the people involved.

Some will never become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Some will always become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Others might avoid becoming attached in 9 out of 10 cases and then number 10 gets them intensely and deeply hooked by the short and curlies!!

ALL of these are part of the human experience, surely as a student of human psychology you can see this?

Of course, which is why I fail to understand how the solution is to avoid it altogether. Pyschologically you will always receive a few cracks, I know people will be damaged in a variety of ways thus leading to different emotional responses but there’s no avoiding that. The only solution is simply to be understanding and respectful of their emotional needs. But then again how can you anticipate this upon meeting someone? Many people with psychological issues have had them for many years and are exceptionally good at hiding them. Then they manifest themselves in a multitude of ways but if that is the case then surely the best thing you can do is call it off before you give them the notion that you can offer them what they are latching onto. It is my own personal belief that all you can do in that situation is to be as kind as possible.

"

No argument from me there.

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By *wingfellow OP   Man
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"

Ok so maybe it wasn’t worded the best, but simply put my point is I don’t understand why people are unable to invest without becoming overly attached.

Well that's a much bigger question, and depends on the psychology of the people involved.

Some will never become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Some will always become attached because they are emotionally damaged.

Others might avoid becoming attached in 9 out of 10 cases and then number 10 gets them intensely and deeply hooked by the short and curlies!!

ALL of these are part of the human experience, surely as a student of human psychology you can see this?

Of course, which is why I fail to understand how the solution is to avoid it altogether. Pyschologically you will always receive a few cracks, I know people will be damaged in a variety of ways thus leading to different emotional responses but there’s no avoiding that. The only solution is simply to be understanding and respectful of their emotional needs. But then again how can you anticipate this upon meeting someone? Many people with psychological issues have had them for many years and are exceptionally good at hiding them. Then they manifest themselves in a multitude of ways but if that is the case then surely the best thing you can do is call it off before you give them the notion that you can offer them what they are latching onto. It is my own personal belief that all you can do in that situation is to be as kind as possible.

No argument from me there."

My wording isn’t always the best lol. I know what I mean to say but often gets misconstrued, I blame lack of sleep and pain for the lapse. I got there in the end haha

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit "

Married and playing away. Knew there was a catch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No coz I'm awesome.

I have just received a message though that's made me think it must be a wind up he's so fit

Married and playing away. Knew there was a catch."
damn right your awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just look at myself in the mirror and understand why they come back

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I don't punch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just look at myself in the mirror and understand why they come back "
omg need me to widen that door frame so you can get out?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I just look at myself in the mirror and understand why they come back omg need me to widen that door frame so you can get out? "

Is his cock THAT big?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I just thank them for not going to specsavers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just look at myself in the mirror and understand why they come back omg need me to widen that door frame so you can get out?

Is his cock THAT big? "
is that what he thinks with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

I just thank them for not going to specsavers."
awwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup..I swear im the one they dare their mates to message..pull the fat ugly bird etc..so i politely decline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever just meet someone on here and wonder how on earth you manage to keep them coming back? "

They don't come back.

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