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Could you go back to vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Could you, would you, leave swinging behind? I left recently for a brief time. Totally vanilla for a couple of months, but had something great to distract me. Don’t know how I’d have felt after a few months tho. Are we trapped here for life, or until we exceed everyone’s age range?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think I could to be honest

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I could probably give up swinging per se, but not the aspect of the openness which comes with a relationship born on Fab.

Being able to openly comment on hotties, or message SSS if I’ve had a fit workman come round etc is a huge bonus of our relationship which I would never want to lose.

TB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been in vanilla relationships that were kinkier than some meets ive had off here so who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy with kinky monogamy...

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

No I mention to people about Pandora’s box and the phrase that the lid has been lifted. For me, the lid went missing long ago.

I’ve tried to compromise when I’ve met someone I thought I could handle being the only one. It usually goes the way of them becoming jealous and possessive. I’ll stick to my open/poly relationships thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I am still vanilla lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I'm not a Swinger.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

For the right person ..yep..

With that person there maybe an opportunity to return together ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger. So yes quite easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though "

Why would you have to leave the forums, just because you are monogamous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No always preferred chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla..."
exactly

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though

Why would you have to leave the forums, just because you are monogamous?"

Some partners would consider it to be “micro cheating” no I didn’t make that up, it’s a thing apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though

Why would you have to leave the forums, just because you are monogamous?

Ha ha, I've had better offers on hobby websites!

Some partners would consider it to be “micro cheating” no I didn’t make that up, it’s a thing apparently "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though

Why would you have to leave the forums, just because you are monogamous?"

Because the urge to harmlessly flirt, would be too much of a temptation, as I do it naturally. To have someone I'm with see that, may be difficult for them to read. If they understood that there was no hidden meaning in it though, I'd happily stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could you, would you, leave swinging behind? I left recently for a brief time. Totally vanilla for a couple of months, but had something great to distract me. Don’t know how I’d have felt after a few months tho. Are we trapped here for life, or until we exceed everyone’s age range?"
I think I already have

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"No I mention to people about Pandora’s box and the phrase that the lid has been lifted. For me, the lid went missing long ago.

I’ve tried to compromise when I’ve met someone I thought I could handle being the only one. It usually goes the way of them becoming jealous and possessive. I’ll stick to my open/poly relationships thank you. "

I'm very sceptical that anything more than 25% of couples who have been swinging for more than 2 years, could ever really quit. I know they claim they could but the reality is that your threshold for excitement and stimulation gets lifted and won't go back. Read about the lengths long-term male porn stars have to go to, in order to get a boner if you want a good example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though

Why would you have to leave the forums, just because you are monogamous?

Because the urge to harmlessly flirt, would be too much of a temptation, as I do it naturally. To have someone I'm with see that, may be difficult for them to read. If they understood that there was no hidden meaning in it though, I'd happily stay "
cmon if you're a flirt you're a flirt....... I'm a flirt and have flirted all my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here?? "

Probably because there is mo agreement on what a swinger is..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here?? "

To sweep the floors and lock up at the end of the night

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No with a capital N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell NO

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Could you, would you, leave swinging behind? I left recently for a brief time. Totally vanilla for a couple of months, but had something great to distract me. Don’t know how I’d have felt after a few months tho. Are we trapped here for life, or until we exceed everyone’s age range?"

We often take a break , go vanilla for a few weeks or months and then get back into it . To be honest this break we are on is the best , and I really think we could easily leave it all behind .

The thing to remember is this , we are a couple who are still madly in love with each other . We swing because we can , and it scratches an itch . We’ve done just about everything possible in the seven years plus that we’ve been swinging for . The lifestyle is a fickle thing , meaningless , shallow and full of pretentious and backstabbing people . Real friends and people who truly matter are few and far between in this game .

So yeah , I think we could and will leave it all behind .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here??

Probably because there is mo agreement on what a swinger is.."
somebody asked this the other day and quinticentially it's tarzan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!"
you on any other sites she of few words?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno what that is but i know its my fave icecream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dip into both worlds at the moment, but it seems the vanilla side is winning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here?? "

To stick my dick in different women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!you on any other sites she of few words? "

No, none at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!you on any other sites she of few words?

No, none at all. "
ahhhh OK just checking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!you on any other sites she of few words?

No, none at all. "
didn't think so because she's a right chatterbox person I'm thinking of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!you on any other sites she of few words?

No, none at all. didn't think so because she's a right chatterbox person I'm thinking of "

I'm definitely not that person because I'm 100% not on any other sites but I can be a chatterbox at times.

Although I'll be extremely quiet at 7pm tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes!you on any other sites she of few words?

No, none at all. didn't think so because she's a right chatterbox person I'm thinking of

I'm definitely not that person because I'm 100% not on any other sites but I can be a chatterbox at times.

Although I'll be extremely quiet at 7pm tonight "
Ha is wonderland in England then

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Im not a swinger so yes I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sexual preferences/kinks are perhaps non vanilla however my lifestyle preferences are for a monogomous relationship, which some may consider vanilla. So if I could find an equally kinky fkr then vanilla lifestyle here I come.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla..."

I can see why the phrasing of my post might lead you think I was suggesting not swinging meant vanilla, but you have a good point and I hadn’t meant that. I was thinking more of monogamy vs swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here??

To stick my dick in different women "

So eloquently put

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I couldn’t go back to monogamy. Well. Playing at monogamy. So nope. I could live without Fab but not without a very active love life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here??

To stick my dick in different women. Next to candle light

So eloquently put "

Is that better?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think if I ever entered into a relationship again I’d find it hard not to try and convert them to the dark side after a suitable interval.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we could give it up and have recently talked about it. But for the moment we enjoy it, if ever it became a chore or the excitement went then we’d leave x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I never was vanilla..

Being bi I had girlfriends before i had boyfriend's and always had 2 or 3 partners on the go at any one time... thats men and women ... after my marriage ended i thought that swinging sites would be the best place to meet likeminded singles and i was right..

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We've been pretty vanilla for almost 2 years... We still socialise with long-term friends but not really felt the need for more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been bi curious and always had kinky fantasies..which I think has led me into swinging...not sure if I could do it if I was with someone other than my now partner though...hard to find someone who wants this kind of lifestyle too I guess... k (fem) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a cat in hells chance that I could go back to vanilla. Why would anyone want to when you can have this much fun having a swinging lifestyle.

Mu ideal would be to have a partner who would swing with me, but that seems rarer than rocking horse poo unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a cat in hells chance that I could go back to vanilla. Why would anyone want to when you can have this much fun having a swinging lifestyle.

Mu ideal would be to have a partner who would swing with me, but that seems rarer than rocking horse poo unfortunately."

Bullseye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a cat in hells chance that I could go back to vanilla. Why would anyone want to when you can have this much fun having a swinging lifestyle.

Mu ideal would be to have a partner who would swing with me, but that seems rarer than rocking horse poo unfortunately."

I only enjoy this lifestyle with a partner. Does nothing for me as a single person. No way would I want just a vanilla relationship again, the search continues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair tho iv not experienced enough to deside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never left vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly enough me and Lucy was talking about this the other night.

If me and Lucy broke up, I’d give up swinging when I get a new partner, yes I enjoy the whole swinging life but it wasn’t my idea in the first place, I just go along with it. Mainly due to the people who swing tend to be nicer, down to earth people. Oh I also get to fuck people that are just as twisted as me in the bedroom, floor, shed, pool, hot tub, car, motorcycle etc. Yolo I guess.

Lucy said she would continue and wouldn’t date a man or woman that doesn’t like the whole swinging life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but as I now single and lack of sex life for years i wouldn't be missing much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here??

Probably because there is mo agreement on what a swinger is.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could you, would you, leave swinging behind? I left recently for a brief time. Totally vanilla for a couple of months, but had something great to distract me. Don’t know how I’d have felt after a few months tho. Are we trapped here for life, or until we exceed everyone’s age range?

We often take a break , go vanilla for a few weeks or months and then get back into it . To be honest this break we are on is the best , and I really think we could easily leave it all behind .

The thing to remember is this , we are a couple who are still madly in love with each other . We swing because we can , and it scratches an itch . We’ve done just about everything possible in the seven years plus that we’ve been swinging for . The lifestyle is a fickle thing , meaningless , shallow and full of pretentious and backstabbing people . Real friends and people who truly matter are few and far between in this game .

So yeah , I think we could and will leave it all behind . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla...

I can see why the phrasing of my post might lead you think I was suggesting not swinging meant vanilla, but you have a good point and I hadn’t meant that. I was thinking more of monogamy vs swinging."

I could be monogamous again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m no different if I meet someone on here or outside of it

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Any minute. Vanilla is yum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit confused why 2 people have replied to this thread saying they are not swingers??..... why are they on here?? "

I'm not sociable enough to be a swinger, and I like sex with both parties in the couple, not just the women. I'm only here for the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I could as I don't class my self as a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and I'm here because I miss sex

its that simple, and as I'm not looking for a ltr at this moment in time fab works for me

People have the right to use fab how they wish regardless of the " fab is a sex,swingers site" thrown at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I'm happy with kinky monogamy..."

I’ve had this, it was. Some of the kinkiest sex I’ve had.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult. "

It’s not an insult. It’s just regular sex with nothing slightly kinky or adventurous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult. "

it always makes me think of ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult.

it always makes me think of ice cream "

I guess it is, I like chocolate or strawberry, something a little more exciting than regular vanilla flavour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult.

It’s not an insult. It’s just regular sex with nothing slightly kinky or adventurous. "

So you don't necessarily have to have an open relationship /swing etc to not be vanilla?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The lifestyle is a fickle thing , meaningless , shallow and full of pretentious and backstabbing people . Real friends and people who truly matter are few and far between in this game .

So yeah , I think we could and will leave it all behind . "

Wow, never thought I'd hear you say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult.

It’s not an insult. It’s just regular sex with nothing slightly kinky or adventurous.

So you don't necessarily have to have an open relationship /swing etc to not be vanilla?"

No, not at all. It can be anything slightly kinky or out of the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not entirely sure what vanilla is. I hear it all the time and it just sounds like an insult.

It’s not an insult. It’s just regular sex with nothing slightly kinky or adventurous.

So you don't necessarily have to have an open relationship /swing etc to not be vanilla?"

General vanilla sex or conventional sex is sex that doesn’t involve BDSM, kink or fetishism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla...

I can see why the phrasing of my post might lead you think I was suggesting not swinging meant vanilla, but you have a good point and I hadn’t meant that. I was thinking more of monogamy vs swinging."

With the right person I could walk away tomorrow without backward glance. But that's not really about vanilla it's about finding that person who feels like home....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla doesn't exist life here there on anywhere is life this is a meeting point

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I really don’t think I could

I don’t beet often but everytime I think I’ve had enough I get that naughty little devil on my shoulder saying

‘Hmmmm he’s fit , message him back’

Then I’m hooked again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don’t think I could

I don’t beet often but everytime I think I’ve had enough I get that naughty little devil on my shoulder saying

‘Hmmmm he’s fit , message him back’

Then I’m hooked again lol "
but that's you thats your person........you have always been that person....... Sexy, great figure and naughty nothing changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair tho iv not experienced enough to deside"

Yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanilla doesn't exist life here there on anywhere is life this is a meeting point "

What ?!

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I've never left the NORMAL World.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never left the NORMAL World. "

I dunno, you’ve got a tache and wear Hawian shirts !

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

No,monogamy is not for me and never has been.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I've never left the NORMAL World.

I dunno, you’ve got a tache and wear Hawian shirts !"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never left the NORMAL World.

I dunno, you’ve got a tache and wear Hawian shirts !"

Hawaiian

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Vanilla? Never..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. I enjoy kink too much. I'm happy to give up other men but not other woman

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By *ouchyfeelyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope, I've tried monogamy and it's over rated. We as a species aren't predisposed to mate for life like swans. Monogamy is a societal construct - akin to the way casual racism/homophobia used to be acceptable as light entertainment or "comedy". As a species we've come a long way but we've got a lot further to go. In all sincerity (because sites like fab exist) I know we'll get there though. We just need to work together and be more tolerant of one another's differences. You, lovely fabbers are (mostly as far as I can gather) way ahead of the curve on this. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say but it sounded dead clever in my head, my brain and also my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No monogamy isn’t for me and I don’t want to give up kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair tho iv not experienced enough to deside

Yet "

Indeed 6 and a bit days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanilla doesn't exist life here there on anywhere is life this is a meeting point

What ?!"
the label vanilla doesn't exist, this is a website for meeting people the same as any other

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Tried it, didn't like. The relationship failed coz he cheated. Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find swinging to be like visiting a ice cream shop and sampling all the flavors...

It’s great fun for a time but you can’t live on ice cream alone...

The last relationship I was in started on a swinging site.. We didn’t do the swinging Couples thing we just enjoyed each other...

I think this only works if you both have hit the swinging wall...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn’t see me for dust.

All this vanilla/non vanilla malarkey is codswallop in my opinion.

You can have an amazing sexually satisfying relationship with someone who doesn’t do the whole swing thing. You just got to find that someone who is as filthy as your are and whose sex drive matches your own.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Nope, I've tried monogamy and it's over rated. We as a species aren't predisposed to mate for life like swans. Monogamy is a societal construct - akin to the way casual racism/homophobia used to be acceptable as light entertainment or "comedy". As a species we've come a long way but we've got a lot further to go. In all sincerity (because sites like fab exist) I know we'll get there though. We just need to work together and be more tolerant of one another's differences. You, lovely fabbers are (mostly as far as I can gather) way ahead of the curve on this. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say but it sounded dead clever in my head, my brain and also my mind. "

I'm definitely hard wired for monogamy quite naturally thanks.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Why does not being on fab equate to being vanilla...

I can see why the phrasing of my post might lead you think I was suggesting not swinging meant vanilla, but you have a good point and I hadn’t meant that. I was thinking more of monogamy vs swinging.

With the right person I could walk away tomorrow without backward glance. But that's not really about vanilla it's about finding that person who feels like home...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You wouldn’t see me for dust.

All this vanilla/non vanilla malarkey is codswallop in my opinion.

You can have an amazing sexually satisfying relationship with someone who doesn’t do the whole swing thing. You just got to find that someone who is as filthy as your are and whose sex drive matches your own.

"
This, some sense at last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I never thought I could give up the lifestyle at one point it was my life.

But I haven’t had a meet since dec 15 and no plans or urges too

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

I get bored of vanilla sex now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm far to Rum and Raisin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You wouldn’t see me for dust.

All this vanilla/non vanilla malarkey is codswallop in my opinion.

You can have an amazing sexually satisfying relationship with someone who doesn’t do the whole swing thing. You just got to find that someone who is as filthy as your are and whose sex drive matches your own.

"

I agree, I hate this reverse snobbery to vanilla sex, like yeah I’m way to kinky to be having regular sex with someone I love. All these blokes thinking they’re Christian Grey, it’s just embarrassing. The best sex is just being in the moment, whatever type of sex that is, it doesn’t matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm far to Rum and Raisin "
God I love rum n raisin gellato

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One of the concerns I have is what would happen if the going hot hard in the relationship. How hard would it be to stay away from some cheap thrills on here?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I could go back to monogamy quite easily but I'd need a bit of kink in the relationship for sure

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I would give up swinging if I found the right partner, was madly in love with her, and we had the hottest, kinkiest, sex. Then, there would be no need for anyone else. I'm still looking.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I would give up swinging if I found the right partner, was madly in love with her, and we had the hottest, kinkiest, sex. Then, there would be no need for anyone else. I'm still looking. "

You're not swinging now if that's your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You wouldn’t see me for dust.

All this vanilla/non vanilla malarkey is codswallop in my opinion.

You can have an amazing sexually satisfying relationship with someone who doesn’t do the whole swing thing. You just got to find that someone who is as filthy as your are and whose sex drive matches your own.

I agree, I hate this reverse snobbery to vanilla sex, like yeah I’m way to kinky to be having regular sex with someone I love. All these blokes thinking they’re Christian Grey, it’s just embarrassing. The best sex is just being in the moment, whatever type of sex that is, it doesn’t matter."

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I never left it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it bad that I view swinging as vanilla anyway? ......I’ve been doing this too long

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it bad that I view swinging as vanilla anyway? ......I’ve been doing this too long "

Not swinging vs vanilla, swinging vs monogamy. How would you feel about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it bad that I view swinging as vanilla anyway? ......I’ve been doing this too long

Not swinging vs vanilla, swinging vs monogamy. How would you feel about that?"

I already know his answer to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only difference going vanilla would make is that I'd have more free time, due to not being on tbe Fab forums. It wouldn't change my sex life a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it bad that I view swinging as vanilla anyway? ......I’ve been doing this too long

Not swinging vs vanilla, swinging vs monogamy. How would you feel about that?

I already know his answer to that "

Shhhh ..... but yes you know lol! Monogamy is not for me....possibly why I would always choose tapas/mezes.... sharing is caring!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I have. Met and moved in with a woman of same age that is simply fucking me crazy. I’m doing my best to keep up (no pun) and certainly enjoying it. So, right now, apart from looking at the forum my swinging activity is over. Don’t have the inclination or indeed energy to meet.

How long can it last though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think leaving this site and not swinging would always equal vanilla. There can still be plenty of kink with a one on one regular partner. I could easily leave here, if i found that someone special. I would miss the forums though "

Been in a vanilla relationship for years now, wasn't supposed to be, and isn't totally we still meet a few couples and one very sexy single woman occasionaly. But since my wife's work put 800 miles between us most of the time, when we do get together there isn't room for others.

But I missed the forums, so drifted back here as a non meeting single bloke. Just so I can banter with you lot.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Question: Could you, would you, leave swinging behind?

Answers: ~95% from non-swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the girl is from madagascar, yes I could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In terms of monogamy vs swinging there’s absolutely no way that I could go back to that lifestyle. Monogamy simply isn’t for me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The only difference going vanilla would make is that I'd have more free time, due to not being on tbe Fab forums. It wouldn't change my sex life a bit."

Oh I'd never leave the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the girl is from madagascar, yes I could. "

And a hippo?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If the girl is from madagascar, yes I could.

And a hippo?"

You called?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a cat in hells chance that I could go back to vanilla. Why would anyone want to when you can have this much fun having a swinging lifestyle.

Mu ideal would be to have a partner who would swing with me, but that seems rarer than rocking horse poo unfortunately.

I only enjoy this lifestyle with a partner. Does nothing for me as a single person. No way would I want just a vanilla relationship again, the search continues. "

Same here. Was on as a single before and it's just not for me. The fun and pleasure for me comes with my partner being involved. And we love it so don't think we'd ever go back...

Mrs

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a cat in hells chance that I could go back to vanilla. Why would anyone want to when you can have this much fun having a swinging lifestyle.

Mu ideal would be to have a partner who would swing with me, but that seems rarer than rocking horse poo unfortunately.

I only enjoy this lifestyle with a partner. Does nothing for me as a single person. No way would I want just a vanilla relationship again, the search continues.

Same here. Was on as a single before and it's just not for me. The fun and pleasure for me comes with my partner being involved. And we love it so don't think we'd ever go back...

Mrs"

Yeah, my pleasure is watching and being watched. I can do one on one sex through my regular life, I don’t need fab for that but to meet a like minded guy for more would be perfect.

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview


"Could you, would you, leave swinging behind? I left recently for a brief time. Totally vanilla for a couple of months, but had something great to distract me. Don’t know how I’d have felt after a few months tho. Are we trapped here for life, or until we exceed everyone’s age range?"
Nope. I have left it too long as it is. Yes, I guess I will be out of everyone's age range soon, but until then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never left any of the ice cream flavours love them all except toffee

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