FabSwingers.com forum: Work colleague part 2!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Other one is full and advice is appreciated greatly.

Update: just seen him in Asda on the self serve, I was buying Tena lady for the woman I look afters elderly mother.

He was on the one right next to me as well and had already said hello. I didn't want to get them out the basket so I said ahh I forgot to grab cereal and I walked off. He said when you working next and I said saturday and Sunday right ta-ra, he said yeah see you soon ta-ra

Right so he knows I'm working Saturday and Sunday so we'll have to see if he comes in and trains.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Will you lick his sweaty balls after?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Erm... what's the advice you're wanting? You should do a little recap at the top of each installment.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Don't let the opportunity pass you bye.

Kids will be going back to school before you know it and you still be like 'does he like me / do sent he'.

Find out. You only see him every 10 days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool story bro... err sis

Sounds utterly sizzling with erotic chemistry

Did you pick up a can of sardines whilst you were there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... what's the advice you're wanting? You should do a little recap at the top of each installment."

'previously on...'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cool story bro... err sis

Sounds utterly sizzling with erotic chemistry

Did you pick up a can of sardines whilst you were there?

I'm sorry I have nothing raunchy to report! Don't you think I'd like to update you all saying how I went to his office and he asked me to tie his laces and whilst I was kneeling on the floor he flopped his cock out of his shorts for me to suck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cool story bro... err sis

Sounds utterly sizzling with erotic chemistry

Did you pick up a can of sardines whilst you were there?

It's just painful watching you hedge around it like a dilly dallying female version of stuttering Hugh Grant. The longer a lust is unexpressed the less likely it is it'll ever be acted upon. Just ask the guy if he'd like to meet for a drink some time. Move the thing forward. And stop worrying about his feelings. Fuck the guy already!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Erm... what's the advice you're wanting? You should do a little recap at the top of each installment.

'previously on...' "

Yeah! Like that. Exactly like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cool story bro... err sis

Sounds utterly sizzling with erotic chemistry

Did you pick up a can of sardines whilst you were there?

I'm not worried about his feelings though, I'm worried about mine if he rejected my offer. It would be more embarrassing having to face him if he says no to a drink or any kind of offer I make. That's why I'm giving all these minute details, need to make sure as much as possible that he won't say no, if there's a chance he will, I won't ask him.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just posting to keep track.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Will you lick his sweaty balls after?

Oh and yes, much yes, any of his creases I'll lick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cool story bro... err sis

Sounds utterly sizzling with erotic chemistry

Did you pick up a can of sardines whilst you were there?

Easy. Just ask him if he fancies a drink sometime. If he says no pretend you only meant a coffee and to ask about some random thing at the gym. If he says yes make it any evening drink. If he can't make that or looks uncomfortable with the idea back down to a coffee again and just treat it as vanilla. If he's ok with evening drink turn up looking hot and flirt a little. If he seems uncomfortable back off. If not let it go with the flow. Get touchy. If he likes it carry on. If not back off.

At any point you can back off and he'll never really know what your intentions were. Plausible deniability. Compare that to asking him to fuck and then being rejected... ouch!

People accuse me of overthinking everything. I merely chew through thoughts on here. In real life I'm really quite straight forward and pursuant. It's not rocket science.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Roll on Saturday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what, fair play you've done well out of this dilemma, how may threads dedicated to it ?...

Just fucking tell him you think he's attractive, you'd like to fuck him but if he doesn't feel the same then no hard feelings and move the fuck along...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Other one is full and advice is appreciated greatly.

Update: just seen him in Asda on the self serve, I was buying Tena lady for the woman I look afters elderly mother.

Right so he knows I'm working Saturday and Sunday so we'll have to see if he comes in and trains. "

Hmmm. I think this could be read, by him, as mixed messages. You're so busy concentrating on trying to gauge what he might be thinking you're not considering your own actions clearly.

You could have stayed and got the shopping. If he noticed the Tena Lady then you deal with that with the logical answer that is the truth or make a joke about it being necessary to have some at hand when he's around.

Running off could look like you don't want to be around him outside the gym setting.

Stop torturing yourself, and us, and make a move.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Other one is full and advice is appreciated greatly.

Update: just seen him in Asda on the self serve, I was buying Tena lady for the woman I look afters elderly mother.

Right so he knows I'm working Saturday and Sunday so we'll have to see if he comes in and trains.

Hmmm. I think this could be read, by him, as mixed messages. You're so busy concentrating on trying to gauge what he might be thinking you're not considering your own actions clearly.

Running off could look like you don't want to be around him outside the gym setting.

Stop torturing yourself, and us, and make a move.

The voice of reason !

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Seriously.

I think you are over-thinking it, but I get that you don't want to be rejected.

Unless he's not into women, or already taken, chances are that, unless you are known for being "high maintenance", he'd be up for "it"... whatever "it" is.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m not sure if this has been asked already on the previous threads on this, but is the chap in question quite shy? If so, you may have to instigate proceedings a little more overtly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"unless you are known for being "high maintenance""

Uh oh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you not lure him in with a roast dinner!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not trying to torture anyone by posting about this, I just want as much advice as possible so I don't lose face by making advances on someone that may not be welcomed.

I don't think he thinks I'm high maintenance as he only knows me in work where I'm always laughing with whoever is around or him and flirting with him. He's a nice normal guy from what I can tell, don't think he's too laddy but then I don't know him outside of work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can you not lure him in with a roast dinner!? "

I know how I'd get you to have a date with me. Tell you I've got the goose fat in and I've fluffed my potatoes, and to make extra sure I'd bake some of my Ferraro Roche cupcakes.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

You missed yr chance at the supermarket shoulda gone for a coffee milkshake and a bun

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I'm not trying to torture anyone by posting about this, I just want as much advice as possible so I don't lose face by making advances on someone that may not be welcomed.

Ok, then I think a neutral "drink invite" like that guy up there said is the best way, and see how it goes after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should have got them out. If he noticed you should have said “they’re not for me, i’m tighter than a nuns chuff” winked and walked off.

He’d be wondering about that ALL night!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not trying to torture anyone by posting about this, I just want as much advice as possible so I don't lose face by making advances on someone that may not be welcomed.

Others will offer you other advice for the sakes of amusement. But the plausible deniability approach I suggested in my previous to one post is honestly the best way to approach this situation. It's fun to thrash it around. But I can't see why it's not clear to you that just asking him for a drink isn't a big deal and, if you can think of a work related question to ask, you can always make out that you meant for a coffee and to ask him that question if he declines or acts weird.

If that's not how you're going to approach this why not? And what are you angling on doing instead?

By making it into something big you're making it weird

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I'm not trying to torture anyone by posting about this, I just want as much advice as possible so I don't lose face by making advances on someone that may not be welcomed.

If that's not how you're going to approach this why not? And what are you angling on doing instead?

By making it into something big you're making it weird "

This guy.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it "

YES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you not lure him in with a roast dinner!?

I know how I'd get you to have a date with me. Tell you I've got the goose fat in and I've fluffed my potatoes, and to make extra sure I'd bake some of my Ferraro Roche cupcakes. "

I'm so gonna google these cupcakes

Oh! And good luck with the fella thing OP

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Do you want to date him or is it just sex ?

If I didn't want to date someone but was attracted to them enough to have sex I wouldn't be to flirty in case I give them the wrong impression, He maybe playing it cool for them reasons and waiting for you to make the move, Trying to work out your motives, Does she want to date me or just have sex,

Ask a question about what he done at the weekend/doing anything exciting this weekend or a local restaurant saying have you been there with your "girl friend" etc and see where the conversation goes from there

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm not trying to torture anyone by posting about this, I just want as much advice as possible so I don't lose face by making advances on someone that may not be welcomed.

If that's not how you're going to approach this why not? And what are you angling on doing instead?

By making it into something big you're making it weird "

Cos that's not weird is it the work related question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know he's single now though. He said it's all done with his ex.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Message him now on Facebook saying hi. Do it.

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

The next time you’re in close proximity to him with nobody within earshot, just tell him this hot weather is making you feel like doing something naughty. Then do that sexy biting your bottom lip thing that sexy ladies do. If he isn’t snogging your face off and dry humping your lady bits within 2 heartbeats, then he’s sexually retarded and probably wouldn’t be receptive to the tonging of the fartpipe suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask him when he wants u to sit on his face

No man could resist that

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

We've all been rejected at some point in our lives.. it's a normal part of it..

If you're so worried he'll say no you'll never ask..cos you know what he just might say no..given the few words on here about the situations no one can say if he's into you or not..

If you're concerned about the he rejected me .. after at the gym.. think how bad itd be if he's said yes you fuck and then don't see each other again until you're at the gym..double awkward ..me I never mix business and pleasure..

Either way you'll need to ask it seems he's not going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve read most of what you’ve been up to with regards this fella and in all honesty... if he’s not put it on you by now, he’s either already spoken for or he’s not interested.

Hopefully I’m wrong and your plan comes together, either way good luck with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... what's the advice you're wanting? You should do a little recap at the top of each installment."

Omnibus edition.

I'm loving this story OP. He'd better turn up this weekend.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

"what are the main signs that a guy is interested?"

If his winkie points up in the air, he's interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it "

Yes, if he turns you down then at least you’ll know, no shame in it. I doubt very much he will, why would he. Trust your instinct, it’s seldom wrong, if you get the feeling he fancies you then he probably does. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Message him and you could be tongue deep in arse by the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?"

He will say yes, when you ask him for a drink. That’s how you’ll know.

Good luck, I have a good feeling and hope that he likes you and that you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how lovely it is to take that leap of faith and see. Ask him. There is absolutely nothing to lose. He will feel flattered regardless of outcome, and I know you can pull through if it is a no, if I say, if. You will be okay even if it’s not the outcome you want as you’re strong, and you have worked on addressing your reactive side, and you’ve had greater hurts and coped. The one thing that is certain is that if you don’t take the risk, you won’t know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?"

He should ask you out! Flirt with him next time. Don't worry about whether he likes you or not. Make it clear you like him.

I'm kind of with Laceyandsam- wondering what the heck he's waiting for.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?

He should ask you out! Flirt with him next time. Don't worry about whether he likes you or not. Make it clear you like him.

I'm kind of with Laceyandsam- wondering what the heck he's waiting for.

Maybe he's not into her in that way..

"what he's waiting for" .you're saying like a guy has to fancy the lady...maybe he don't fancy her.. jeez if this were a guy there'd be a vastly different response ..

I thought we were adults on here seems more like a playground ..

I know get your friend to ask him out for you..or the 100% guaranteed sure fire way you know a guy fancies a girl.. the shoulder punch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?

He should ask you out! Flirt with him next time. Don't worry about whether he likes you or not. Make it clear you like him.

I'm kind of with Laceyandsam- wondering what the heck he's waiting for.

Maybe he's not into her in that way..

"what he's waiting for" .you're saying like a guy has to fancy the lady...maybe he don't fancy her.. jeez if this were a guy there'd be a vastly different response ..

I thought we were adults on here seems more like a playground ..

I know get your friend to ask him out for you..or the 100% guaranteed sure fire way you know a guy fancies a girl.. the shoulder punch.

You misunderstand me. I am agreeing with you in that if he was bothered he would have asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask him out for a drink OP! Worst thing that'll happen is he'll reject you, then you can put on your big girl pants and move on.

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By *xywelshguyMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Fuck i know what id do if i had someone as hot as u flirting with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's harder because this is where I work sometimes but it's also his main job and he has a better job than me.

If this was a guy on here I'd have asked him by now, I'm not backwards when coming forwards like.

Just have to look at the signs. I flat out asked him if things were sorted with his bird when I saw him 2 Fridays ago, he said nah it's done now, I said you could shag in here on about his office cos it had a bolt on the inside door, he said yeah we could but then I changed the subject to sandwiches and then left!

Like I wouldn't be offended if a guy said to me fancy getting some food or something so he shouldn't be offended if I ask him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck i know what id do if i had someone as hot as u flirting with me

Haha I know that sun bed shop, that's Carl's place in Porthcawl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's harder because this is where I work sometimes but it's also his main job and he has a better job than me.

If this was a guy on here I'd have asked him by now, I'm not backwards when coming forwards like.

Like I wouldn't be offended if a guy said to me fancy getting some food or something so he shouldn't be offended if I ask him. "
if this Guy is yr senior and has an ounce of self preservation he’s probably wary of stepping over the line. Imo your better off talking more about dating than fucking in an office.

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By *xywelshguyMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Ahh the photo on my profile? Got me thinking there 4 a minute

Lol

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"It's harder because this is where I work sometimes but it's also his main job and he has a better job than me.

If this was a guy on here I'd have asked him by now, I'm not backwards when coming forwards like.

Like I wouldn't be offended if a guy said to me fancy getting some food or something so he shouldn't be offended if I ask him. "

all this if he was on here I'd ask him ..real world is no different to here.. my last comment its getting a bit tedious ..

Two choices ..

1. ask him

2. don't..

There's an old saying. I said it ^^^ up there as well..

never mix business and pleasure..

it's a recipe for disaster.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's harder because this is where I work sometimes but it's also his main job and he has a better job than me.

If this was a guy on here I'd have asked him by now, I'm not backwards when coming forwards like.

Like I wouldn't be offended if a guy said to me fancy getting some food or something so he shouldn't be offended if I ask him.

all this if he was on here I'd ask him ..real world is no different to here.. my last comment its getting a bit tedious ..

Two choices ..

1. ask him

2. don't..

There's an old saying. I said it ^^^ up there as well..

never mix business and pleasure..

it's a recipe for disaster.

Real world is completely different to here. On here men want to meet and want to have sex and in the 8 years I've been here I've got a 100% success rate of securing meets, what happens after the meet is another story but every man I've wanted to meet on here I have.

Real world situation is someone I have to work with and will have to see again regardless if he says yes or no.

It's been two weeks since I've had the all clear that he's single and the opportunity to approach him without stepping on anyone's toes, if me asking people on here for advice, people who I have known for a long time is tedious then don't read my shit.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

If you don't want to ask him straight out just say that you are in town with your mates at the weekend, mention a couple of bars they you go and say if you are out come and say hello,

or you could just say your hot if I wasn't working here I would be all over you

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Will you lick his sweaty balls after?

Oh and yes, much yes, any of his creases I'll lick. "

Nowt wrong with getting your nose in a sweaty arse crack. Get him on the rowing machine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you not lure him in with a roast dinner!?

I know how I'd get you to have a date with me. Tell you I've got the goose fat in and I've fluffed my potatoes, and to make extra sure I'd bake some of my Ferraro Roche cupcakes. "

That’s basically my perfect Sunday! What guy could refuse that!?!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Will you lick his sweaty balls after?

Oh and yes, much yes, any of his creases I'll lick.

Nowt wrong with getting your nose in a sweaty arse crack. Get him on the rowing machine

Some people do have strong stomachs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We should grab a coffee or drink sometime"

You're not even asking him out. Just putting the statement out there for him to respond. If he picks coffee he may not be interested. If he picks drink he may be.

"What works better for you lunchtime or evening?"

If he picks lunch he may be thinking platonic. If evening maybe more naughty. Notice how the language is about what works, not flirtatious. This keeps up a platonic vibe that allows you to play the plausible deniability card.

At each step you're not actually leading him into something sexual. You're just giving him options, one of which positions him ever nearer to it. Any man who fancies you will always pick the option that gets him nearer to sex. If he accuses you of asking him out or trying to bed him back off and fain to be totally platonic. Guys are used to misreading women. So he'll probably buy it. If he does this in a flirtatious way, however, mirror that back and ask "what if I was?"

You can totally keep up a platonic vibe right up to the point where you start touching him and he starts touching you back. When you've got that that's a green light and you really need to go for it.

It's a wonderful game of cat and mouse that either leads to sex or doesn't. All you've got to do is keep opening the next door for him to walk through. At the moment all you've been doing is opening them then shutting them and running away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I couldn't wait till the weekend so yesterday evening sent him a message on Facebook but it's not been responded to or even read! We aren't Facebook friends though so dunno if you get notifications if you get messaged by someone you're not friends with?

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I couldn't wait till the weekend so yesterday evening sent him a message on Facebook but it's not been responded to or even read! We aren't Facebook friends though so dunno if you get notifications if you get messaged by someone you're not friends with?

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!"

If you aren't friends it might go to a different place on your messages. I found it last year by accident.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!"

I gave you this advice about 2 weeks ago I think. He will get a notification and may have read it without opening it. I don't see what you stand to lose.

If he decides not to take this path it's him who stands to lose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!"

What did your message say? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!

If you aren't friends it might go to a different place on your messages. I found it last year by accident."

Yep this. Pretty sure it goes to a different inbox that isn't obvious. He probably won't know he has a message if you're not friends OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have facebook messenger, because it’ll show up on there as you having a notification, then tou click on it thinking it’s a friend, then you realise that it’s not a friend and then you investigate.

Maybe he doesn’t use it that much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he has seen it and just not looking at it then I blame everyone who said to send a message!"

(there wasn't a face palm emoji)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I went in briefly to print some stuff (it's something I've done many many times before) just said did anyone moan about me printing stuff?

I sent the same message to the two other guys that were there as well cos it was something I genuinely wanted to know!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Any news ?? Nearly the weekend are you excited ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any news ?? Nearly the weekend are you excited ?"

I'm imagining op's next mode of attack will be to dress up as a human sized banana, hop into his office on one leg, ask him if he prefers the Welsh or Scottish mountains, before hopping quickly out without waiting for his answer. You know... nothing too weird

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Have you seen yourself? Of course he wants to fuck you. Might not be able to, but yes he does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any news ?? Nearly the weekend are you excited ?

You think what I sent him was too weird then? I was going with something I'd ask anyone but was just wanting to open the line of communication!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I went in briefly to print some stuff (it's something I've done many many times before) just said did anyone moan about me printing stuff?

I sent the same message to the two other guys that were there as well cos it was something I genuinely wanted to know! "

Reckon he'd get jealous if you started flirting with either of the other two or anyone else for that matter? Not even flirting just talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went in briefly to print some stuff (it's something I've done many many times before) just said did anyone moan about me printing stuff?

I sent the same message to the two other guys that were there as well cos it was something I genuinely wanted to know!

Reckon he'd get jealous if you started flirting with either of the other two or anyone else for that matter? Not even flirting just talking"

I think he'd know I was being insincere if I flirted with one of the two other guys! I don't want to make him jealous or anything though. Don't really need to, I got hit on the last day shift I worked when he was there, a guy came in and was talking to me a lot, asking if I was single and I had to say yes cos I am but it wasn't an invitation for him to ask if he could take me out, the guy I fancy was just standing there open mouthed and when this guy went in the changing room he said god he was ballsy. Then I went out to my car to have a puff on my pipe and this customer came outside and was talking to me by my car which you can see the car park through the windows of the gym, guy I fancied knocked the window then came outside and shouted that the phone was ringing but when I came in it wasn't, but that's because the guy I fancy could see how awkward I felt cos this customer guy was quite letchy and it was obvious I looked uncomfortable. Any other male that I worked with who had witnessed that would have done the same thing.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Is he your boss ? Above you in the pecking order? Perhaps he was Politely telling you to get back to work .

I can’t tell you what picture you puffing in a pipe brings to mind

lol having had a grandad who pipe smoked for years . What baccy do you favour ? Doesn’t it play havoc with teeth and breath ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is he your boss ? Above you in the pecking order? Perhaps he was Politely telling you to get back to work .

I can’t tell you what picture you puffing in a pipe brings to mind

lol having had a grandad who pipe smoked for years . What baccy do you favour ? Doesn’t it play havoc with teeth and breath ? "

Haha not a real pipe, I meant my vape thing I call it my pipe and I puff spearmint eliquid. Umm he's not my boss as such he's just on more money and his job is more important, plus I was on my break and the phone wasn't even ringing. He's employed under the companies umbrella but is kind of separate to the general staff as he doesn't answer to anyone in my building he comes to it 3x a week but moves around all the different sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went in briefly to print some stuff (it's something I've done many many times before) just said did anyone moan about me printing stuff?

I sent the same message to the two other guys that were there as well cos it was something I genuinely wanted to know!

Reckon he'd get jealous if you started flirting with either of the other two or anyone else for that matter? Not even flirting just talking

Love it when menfolk look after their friends.

Cool new name OP!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

TODAY'S TE DAY !! Waiting with bated breath

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think it's time I knocked this idea on the head!

He came in to use the gym, I said I'd sent him a message on Facebook, he said he didn't get anything (probably cos we aren't Facebook friends) little brief chat about work related things. He went back and forth the changing room to the gym a couple of times. As he was leaving going out the door he said see you later and waved, I was trying to hurry up scanning a customers card and get them out the way as he's dissapearing out the door, I called his name and waved him over to my desk, he came back and said yeah, I said I don't know what I wasn't going to say and he laughed, I said what you doing tonight and he said he's going to north Wales with the boys for a stag do, said what are you doing tonight, partying is it, I said nooo just chilling, and that was that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He won't say no when u ask him outright

I would put money on you getting a yes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He won't say no when u ask him outright

I would put money on you getting a yes!

Right, next time I see him I'm gonna ask to do something with him. I'm gonna write a story in stories & fantasies section about what I'd do for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss Aqua you are one sexy lady he’d be a fool to turn you down

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

She hasnt asked him yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had a notification he added me on FB messenger, but no message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had a notification he added me on FB messenger, but no message! "

Not yet! Accept the message and send a wave

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Just had a notification he added me on FB messenger, but no message! "

He's probably trying to think of something impressive to say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well nothing came through. I've got to work with him Friday. Is it worth messaging or just do something in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well nothing came through. I've got to work with him Friday. Is it worth messaging or just do something in person? "

Drop him a message to get the ball rolling, just a hi, I see we are friends now. You’re a bright girl, gauge his response, within half an hour you’ll be talking filth to each other. I guarantee it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well nothing came through. I've got to work with him Friday. Is it worth messaging or just do something in person? "

Give up

Play it cool

If he wants you, you’ll know.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Well nothing came through. I've got to work with him Friday. Is it worth messaging or just do something in person?

Give up

Play it cool

If he wants you, you’ll know."

Yep I'll go with this now,stop torturing yourself. If he wants you he knows where you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Soo tomorrow is the day, I'm doing an afternoon shift so will have the last 2.5 hours with him. Might go in 20 mins early as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it "

If you’re not friends with him, don’t

If you know his next shift

Go buy two coffe

One for him one for you

Just give it to him and say

Thought of you when I was in line

Walk away then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

If you’re not friends with him, don’t

If you know his next shift

Go buy two coffe

One for him one for you

Just give it to him and say

Thought of you when I was in line

Walk away then "

Working tomorrow pm, will catch his last 2.5 hours. I could offer to make him a tea I suppose. The coffee machine is rank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

If you’re not friends with him, don’t

If you know his next shift

Go buy two coffe

One for him one for you

Just give it to him and say

Thought of you when I was in line

Walk away then

Working tomorrow pm, will catch his last 2.5 hours. I could offer to make him a tea I suppose. The coffee machine is rank. "

Whatever drinks you make, don’t make it too sweet.

Don’t forget to add chloroform. Works very well if you want him your’s

Jk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolute melt

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

If you’re not friends with him, don’t

If you know his next shift

Go buy two coffe

One for him one for you

Just give it to him and say

Thought of you when I was in line

Walk away then

Working tomorrow pm, will catch his last 2.5 hours. I could offer to make him a tea I suppose. The coffee machine is rank. "

Rim the cup like us blokes do when we make the cuppas

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

How long until we know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How long until we know?"

I don't start till 2.

Should I just ask what he's doing on the weekend and then just invite myself to wherever he's going?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"How long until we know?

I don't start till 2.

Should I just ask what he's doing on the weekend and then just invite myself to wherever he's going?"

I think you shouldn't start overthinking it again.

See him, judge when the moment is right and tell him you're interested in his body. If he pauses, shrug it off and say that a drink together would be nice anyway.

Do not run away when he is being flirtatious and interested. He probably doesn't know how to read your actions unless he's followed these threads.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long until we know?

I don't start till 2.

Should I just ask what he's doing on the weekend and then just invite myself to wherever he's going?"

Yeah. I'll come along too. It'll be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture a valley. On either side are perilous rocky cliff faces, hazardous bogs, and thick thorny bushes. In the middle is a modest little path with a single yet easily surmountable stile that needs hurdling before you can pass through easily to the other side.

You've pretty much explored most of the worst ways to go about this. Scrambled up ridiculous escarpments. Got hopelessly stuck in thick gloopy mud. Why not just take a deep breath and pluck up the courage to finally just go up to that stile and try hurdling it?

Just ask the guy if he'd like to meet for a drink some time.

Alternatively you could carry on making a complete ass of yourself by trying to do it in the weirdest clunkiest most ass backwards reverse engineered way possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long until we know?

I don't start till 2.

Should I just ask what he's doing on the weekend and then just invite myself to wherever he's going?"

What if he wants some alone time?

Can you withstand him talking about his problems?

Or do you prefer to be around him when he’s happy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right I know I'll get called a shit house but I just didn't get the opportunity. There were other people in reception with me whilst he was there. I asked his plans for later and he is going out for a meal for someone in his teams leaving do. He asked what my plans were the rest of the weekend, I said nothing, he asked if I was still with that army guy (the guy I was meeting around Xmas time) I said no that's done, he asked if I was still on those dodgy sites (he knew I was on a dating site but not what this was called) I said no. I genuinely was gonna ask him before he left but then like 5 mins before I had loads of customers then a phone call, he did hang around for a few minutes but when the phone went he waved and was off!!!

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I know I'll get called a shit house but I just didn't get the opportunity. There were other people in reception with me whilst he was there. I asked his plans for later and he is going out for a meal for someone in his teams leaving do. He asked what my plans were the rest of the weekend, I said nothing, he asked if I was still with that army guy (the guy I was meeting around Xmas time) I said no that's done, he asked if I was still on those dodgy sites (he knew I was on a dating site but not what this was called) I said no. I genuinely was gonna ask him before he left but then like 5 mins before I had loads of customers then a phone call, he did hang around for a few minutes but when the phone went he waved and was off!!!

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs. "

He definitely has a thing for you.

It’s clearly mutual especially he waited and waved.

It’s up to you if you’re ok with honest lies. Ask your colleagues to find out when is his next shift. Gonfind him, or drop him something along with your number so that he could contact you.

Also, don’t ever tell a man you have nothing to do. Make something up, but you have some free time(then drop the line: would you like to go grab a coffee?)

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over a year ago

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs. "

Sounds to me like maybe he’s building up to asking you! Maybe he’ll Facebook message this weekend (or tonight when he’s had some Dutch courage?!)

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Just drop back in when you know he's there, pretend you've lost something, get him to help you look.

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By *emini1637Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Im just posting so I can keep updated on your progress, it's edge of the seat stuff

Life is too short, just take the bull by the horns and ask him! If he says no just be brave and grown up when you see him next and move on x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs. "

Send him a message saying you're sorry you didn't get to see him properly before he left because you wanted to ask him something. When he bites, tell him that you can't wait until your next shift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is more exciting than Days of our Lives. I can't wait for the next update; I'm rooting for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs.

Send him a message saying you're sorry you didn't get to see him properly before he left because you wanted to ask him something. When he bites, tell him that you can't wait until your next shift.

I sent him a message. Said if you're stuck getting back from town (he was getting a train back but it didn't stop at the small station where we live) I said ring me and I'll get you and I gave my number. No kiss!

He messaged back at 2am saying didn't take my phone out, thanks for offering to pick me up x then another message saying you're a good one Xx

But I only saw it when I woke up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d leave it now. You’ve messaged him. You’ve given him your number. If he’s interested let him show it cos he appears to be really, really slow on the uptake!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Other one is full and advice is appreciated greatly.

Update: just seen him in Asda on the self serve, I was buying Tena lady for the woman I look afters elderly mother.

Right so he knows I'm working Saturday and Sunday so we'll have to see if he comes in and trains. "
omg he'll be chomping at the bit

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Be careful..you don't want to sound cheap and desperate..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d leave it now. You’ve messaged him. You’ve given him your number. If he’s interested let him show it cos he appears to be really, really slow on the uptake!!!"

I agree. Sorry OP. Leave it for a month and see if he gets in touch before your next shift in August.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be careful..you don't want to sound cheap and desperate.."

Good call

Op, leave him for now. Let him make the effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be careful..you don't want to sound cheap and desperate.."

Shit, offering to give him a lift makes me sound cheap and desperate? We literally live 2 minutes away from each other, like two streets away, plus I'd told him earlier that I'd only be in my friends watching films till late. Shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs.

Send him a message saying you're sorry you didn't get to see him properly before he left because you wanted to ask him something. When he bites, tell him that you can't wait until your next shift.

He messaged back at 2am saying didn't take my phone out, thanks for offering to pick me up x then another message saying you're a good one Xx

But I only saw it when I woke up! "

Now that is certainly a development - messaging you at that time of the morning shows that he certainly is interested. Very good sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be careful..you don't want to sound cheap and desperate..

I don’t think she meant that.

It’s all good so far.

Don’t think about it anymore

You did great, it’s now his turn;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs.

Send him a message saying you're sorry you didn't get to see him properly before he left because you wanted to ask him something. When he bites, tell him that you can't wait until your next shift.

He messaged back at 2am saying didn't take my phone out, thanks for offering to pick me up x then another message saying you're a good one Xx

But I only saw it when I woke up!

Now that is certainly a development - messaging you at that time of the morning shows that he certainly is interested. Very good sign

I tend to disagree.

Messaging at that time is prime booty call time.

Messaging her in the morning on her mobile number would be a true show of interest and it would start up a bit of communication between the two of them.

To me, he’s either really slow on the uptake or he’s a player.

Which is why i’d now leave the ball in his court. If he’s interested he’ll let you know.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Trying to find original thread anyone have the title handy please .

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over a year ago

Thing is I haven't got any shifts to do now cos it's not my main job. Can probably pick some up august time to cover holidays.

I do know one thing though, I make him laugh a lot like proper belly laughs.

Send him a message saying you're sorry you didn't get to see him properly before he left because you wanted to ask him something. When he bites, tell him that you can't wait until your next shift.

He messaged back at 2am saying didn't take my phone out, thanks for offering to pick me up x then another message saying you're a good one Xx

But I only saw it when I woke up!

Now that is certainly a development - messaging you at that time of the morning shows that he certainly is interested. Very good sign

I tend to disagree.

Messaging at that time is prime booty call time.

Messaging her in the morning on her mobile number would be a true show of interest and it would start up a bit of communication between the two of them.

To me, he’s either really slow on the uptake or he’s a player.

Which is why i’d now leave the ball in his court. If he’s interested he’ll let you know."

I can see your view point and appreciate that some people are like that but I tend to disagree.

From my own view point / past experience when I’ve teally liked someone but not had the confidence to do something about it I’ve ended up messaging to try and strike up a convo after a couple of beers. Usually later in the night. Granted, not the most suave of approaches ...

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply with something like ‘hope you had a good night x’ and leave it there, if he replies something like ‘yeah good thanks!’ Don’t reply, if he carries on the conversation, get in and about it

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

He's going to wake up with a raging after booze boner.

He's going to knock one out, he might think of you though. But then he's going to put the phone down and not message. Due to the contents of his nuts being inside one of his gym socks.

Start seeing what else is out there, and turn this guy into the back up.

Whatever you do, don't chase him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He's going to wake up with a raging after booze boner.

He's going to knock one out, he might think of you though. But then he's going to put the phone down and not message. Due to the contents of his nuts being inside one of his gym socks.

Start seeing what else is out there, and turn this guy into the back up.

Whatever you do, don't chase him"

Oh my god, what!? This is the first guy I've been interested in from the real world, doesn't know about this place, won't see me like guys see me on here and that's just good enough to fuck. He seemed loyal when he was with his ex cos he used to walk away to his office if ever the other people and myself were laughing about sexual stuff. He never used to speak to me in the manner that we do now whilst he had a bird. I'd heard him speaking to the other guys that I work with about how he'd gone on stag do's (whilst with his ex) and said how they'd been to a lap dancing bar but he said he was allowed to go but didn't get a dance, that was just male banter years ago, wasn't for my benefit, he seems like a genuine decent guy.

Now you're saying to stick a pin in him and forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's going to wake up with a raging after booze boner.

He's going to knock one out, he might think of you though. But then he's going to put the phone down and not message. Due to the contents of his nuts being inside one of his gym socks.

Start seeing what else is out there, and turn this guy into the back up.

Whatever you do, don't chase him

Now you're saying to stick a pin in him and forget it. "

Every time I read the thread you keep answering your own questions my lovely as you seem quite taken by him ... just ask him out right if he would like to grab a drink / bite to eat.

After all, you have an opening now with the replies messages. And he thinks that you are a good one.

If you never try, you never know. Good luck! X

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"He's going to wake up with a raging after booze boner.

He's going to knock one out, he might think of you though. But then he's going to put the phone down and not message. Due to the contents of his nuts being inside one of his gym socks.

Start seeing what else is out there, and turn this guy into the back up.

Whatever you do, don't chase him

Now you're saying to stick a pin in him and forget it. "

He sounds loyal. It could be just that, perhaps he's started to sow the seeds in another field.

He might just be a really nice chap that doesn't want to text two ladies at once. You might be his 2nd choice and there's nothing wrong with that, right now.

He's deffo worth time as so many have suggested, if it's going to happen it's for him to do that.

fate and time sort just about every situation out.

That could be today, this week or who knows, at the Christmas party.

In regards to him knocking one out while slightly hungover / still tipsy it's not a bad thing if he does think of you (not that you'd know) and it doesn't put him in the same bracket as blokes from here.

It's real for him, fantasy for us.

In the meantime you can't press pause on life.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Ps. No, not a pin in him and forget it.

Just carry on as you were before you had these bum/tongue thoughts.

It's a waiting game but while the ball is in his court it don't mean you have to just sit there and wait for him to hit it back.

Your better than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While all that's going on in your head, he's doing exactly the same thing. Avoiding asking you out for fear of rejection.

Unless one of you makes it plainly clear that they fancy the arse off the other, you'll be stuck in a loop of 'will he or won't he'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ps. No, not a pin in him and forget it.

Just carry on as you were before you had these bum/tongue thoughts.

It's a waiting game but while the ball is in his court it don't mean you have to just sit there and wait for him to hit it back.

Your better than that"

I've had these thoughts for a couple of years they've just gone stronger now I know he's single. I don't like thinking I'm the second choice.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just make sure you have no regrets either way.

You can't regret what you have done so far from what I can see.

You might not be 2nd chance at all so don't let that stick in your head I'm only guessing as to why he hasn't gone in two footed so far.

He might be having time off from females. He might message you in the next hour. Who knows?

Just make sure you ain't staring at your phone waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask him for a drink for goodness sake.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Be careful..you don't want to sound cheap and desperate..

I don’t think she meant that.

It’s all good so far.

Don’t think about it anymore

You did great, it’s now his turn;)"

This. You sent a friendly, neighbours message. Desperate would be offering to do more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask how his evening was and get a conversation going. If he responds with something close ended, just don’t bother replying. Absolutely no harm in asking, and hopefully the conversation will flow. I don’t think it seems desperate at all

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"He's going to wake up with a raging after booze boner.

He's going to knock one out, he might think of you though. But then he's going to put the phone down and not message. Due to the contents of his nuts being inside one of his gym socks.

Start seeing what else is out there, and turn this guy into the back up.

Whatever you do, don't chase him

Now you're saying to stick a pin in him and forget it. "

This now sounds like you want more than just sex, which is where this started. If that's the case then suggest a drink and take it slowly.

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By *otwife and the HubbyCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?"

Just look at your public pics you have on here, he is definitely interested.....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ps. No, not a pin in him and forget it.

Just carry on as you were before you had these bum/tongue thoughts.

It's a waiting game but while the ball is in his court it don't mean you have to just sit there and wait for him to hit it back.

Your better than that

I've had these thoughts for a couple of years they've just gone stronger now I know he's single. I don't like thinking I'm the second choice. "

Stop now! I've forgotten the word we're supposed to use but that's what I'm shouting. Don't turn into that intense, all or nothing you that makes you miserable and drives people away.

You're constructing your future together when you need to live in the now.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Word of warning...he thinks that you wear tena ladies

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Shall I just send a message on Facebook, fuck it

YES

God no

Don't worry, thought better of it! Haven't done that. Will just have to do something next time I see him. But enough about what I should do, what are the main signs that a guy is interested?

Just look at your public pics you have on here, he is definitely interested..... "

All the threads are littered with this. It's as if men can only have one response to the OP. Men don't all like the same things.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Word of warning...he thinks that you wear tena ladies

I know you're trying to lighten the thread but you know the OP better than that.

OP, please laugh at this and don't dwell on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ps. No, not a pin in him and forget it.

Just carry on as you were before you had these bum/tongue thoughts.

It's a waiting game but while the ball is in his court it don't mean you have to just sit there and wait for him to hit it back.

Your better than that

I've had these thoughts for a couple of years they've just gone stronger now I know he's single. I don't like thinking I'm the second choice.

Stop now! I've forgotten the word we're supposed to use but that's what I'm shouting. Don't turn into that intense, all or nothing you that makes you miserable and drives people away.

You're constructing your future together when you need to live in the now."

YAZOO!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Get him to come round and look at your lawn mower or something . Offer him a drink and get it on !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid op that I'd probably be utterly confused by you by now and quite put off asking you out. I think you've probably made one thing super clear to him... something weird is going on with you. What the heck that is?? We all know. But he doesn't. Weird women... I just tend to avoid them.

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm afraid op that I'd probably be utterly confused by you by now and quite put off asking you out. I think you've probably made one thing super clear to him... something weird is going on with you. What the heck that is?? We all know. But he doesn't. Weird women... I just tend to avoid them.

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit "

Wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf"

I'm only being honest based upon what the op has told us. If a woman was cool and normal I'd expect her just to ask if I fancy a drink sometime. I'd have expected that to have happened ages ago on one of the previous threads. That's just what normal people do when they're interested in each other. The fact that he hasn't himself already done this is likely down to having just come out of a long term relationship followed swiftly by the fact that the op seems to be acting weird. Normal people don't ask weird acting people to have a drink. They can tell there's something odd going on and sense that the innocent issue of going for a drink may get blown up into something good or bad that they'd rather not get involved in. It is, after all, *just a drink*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

But she hasn’t done anything weird? Yes she ran away from him in a shop but who doesn’t forget things when shopping? If I bumped into someone from work and they said ‘oh I’ve forgotten something’ I wouldn’t think anything of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

As with all forum posts, all I can respond to is what's been described. The op's posts, from my point of view, have consistently detailed weird little things like running away mid conversation etc that appear to me to be forming a pretty weird picture. Now she's offering him a lift home from some do he's gone to and given him her number. That's *definitely* not an invitation to use her number to phone her and ask her out. So now he has this woman's number, knows she must be interested or something, but can't really use it. Awkward! Remember... the op hasn't even gone and had a drink with this guy yet. So this is just some random woman from work who's suddenly offered to be a taxi service if he needs it.

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

My advice op is chill. Don't do anything more. Try to take this guy off that pedestal you've put him on. And try acting natural for a change. After all... you don't need this guy right? He was going to be "just a fuck" wasn't he?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

How is it weird because I haven't asked him to come for a drink with me yet? Yesterday neither of us could speak for like 2 minutes cos I was trying to tell him a story but couldn't talk cos I was laughing so much and he was pissing himself cos I was trying to tell him about when my daughter and I saw one of the male lifeguards walking to work and he had cowboy boots on and denim jeans and denim jacket, was trying to say how we were in the petrol station and my daughter said look mam there's a cowboy and I said that's not a cowboy that's **** from the pool! It was funny cos he was there and saying nothing wrong with my cowboy boots but me and the guy I fancy were weak laughing, every time we speak we're usually laughing.

But yeah he might sense I'm not normal but then I'm not normal and can't pretend to be, but I'm a nice person

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over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

But she isn’t just some ‘random woman from work’. They get on, they have a laugh and banter, they bond and chat. Clearly get on well enough to discuss relationships. Which is pretty amazing considering she doesn’t work there normally. If some random woman from work who he didn’t chat with, laugh with etc gave him his number, I’d understand why it would be weird. But it’s not

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Now that I know he's a near neighbour I wonder if that is holding him back? Work is close but home is even closer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think I know, I messaged him back after he sent those two messages and I just checked and they've been read now. Jesus, I'm absolutely shit at reading signals then cos I felt like he was a tiny bit keen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now that I know he's a near neighbour I wonder if that is holding him back? Work is close but home is even closer.

People of either gender respond positively to clarity and easiness. If a woman breezes into my life, we connect, she says she likes me and we should go for a drink some time, it's just so easy and clear. There are no impediments and nothing odd tasting. It's very very easy to just go with the flow.

If the same woman intermittently dashes into my life, hints at something, then runs off giggling... and does this over and over again. It just builds up a patina of unnaturalness where it doesn't seem either easy or flowing or clear.

I don't know if this is what's going on with the op. But it feels like it is. It's nice that they seem to connect and have a good laugh. So I don't think the op has totally ruined her chances with him yet. But he's probably a bit confused. So, like others, I'd advise she chill now, try to calm down, and try acting with a bit more consistency and clarity. Make it easy for him to ask her out and eventually he probably will

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah think I know, I messaged him back after he sent those two messages and I just checked and they've been read now. Jesus, I'm absolutely shit at reading signals then cos I felt like he was a tiny bit keen!"

He might just be hungover!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now that I know he's a near neighbour I wonder if that is holding him back? Work is close but home is even closer.

Good luck

Look mate I ain't a giggly kind of person, nothing giggly oozes from my personality at all. If anything im quite cold, like when there was a guy kicking off last year cos the smiths machine wasn't working in the gym, wasn't the guy I fancied that chilled the situation out, no it was the receptionist, me, had to go in and tell him to fuck off and get out when he threw a dumbbell and smashed a mirror. So nothing hehe giggly comes from me, this guy knows I'm 2nd degree black belt kickboxer, I'm the one that has to go in and get the spiders out of female changing rooms and there's the running joke between employees that (aside from that time last year when I was there) I never seem to be around when customers kick off.

At the self serve I didn't even run of giggling I didn't want to be next to him scanning a pack of fucking maxi pads so I said hello and then said shit I forget to grab porridge and went.

Yeah I have a laugh with him but I laugh with everyone I'm around because I am funny, I'm quick and just naturally witty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him out now!

You said yourself that you're not in work for quite some time. IF, IF he said no, there's a period of time where you won't see each other anyway so can lick your wounds in peace. Then laugh it off when you see him next.

All this dancing around the issue just seems to be torturing your mind.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ask him out now!

All this dancing around the issue just seems to be torturing your mind.

This. If you don't ask, you'll never know. "

It's also coming across as a bit obsessive on your part OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is precious. If you like him, just follow the advice. If he's such a catch, he won't stay single for long...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Perhaps if you bump into each other again, ask if he'd like a coffee/drink or something to catch up if your not seeing him for a while? Keep it light and casual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

Sorry but I agree with this guy 100% the flirting and the things you talk about, he knows your on "dodgy" sites, the random texts, the offer of a lift home, the texting him back, sorry but it is coming off a bit desperate and unnatural. I do think that's the reason he's not asked you out. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

"
I say just strip naked in front of him and get it done..... Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

I say just strip naked in front of him and get it done..... Sorted

Going by her previous reaction to things that's highly possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

I say just strip naked in front of him and get it done..... Sorted

Going by her previous reaction to things that's highly possible

"
It's probable I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this drama is a bit like the goings on of a 14 year old in a school class....Esp the seeking approval/look at me I'm so fantastic undercurrent...

Needing validation from an internet group.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All this drama is a bit like the goings on of a 14 year old in a school class....Esp the seeking approval/look at me I'm so fantastic undercurrent...

Needing validation from an internet group.....

"
Hey look I'm here threads are common here, she has a gorgeous figure and I imagine a lot of admirers just not the guy at the gym damnit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

I think you're right.

Can we just put this thread to bed now.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"All this drama is a bit like the goings on of a 14 year old in a school class....Esp the seeking approval/look at me I'm so fantastic undercurrent...

Needing validation from an internet group.....

Jealous much.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"All this drama is a bit like the goings on of a 14 year old in a school class....Esp the seeking approval/look at me I'm so fantastic undercurrent...

Needing validation from an internet group.....

Jealous much."

The first part was right but not the seeking approval/look at me I'm so fantastic undercurrent.

I wasn't seeking validation either, was just asking for advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...and close!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What!? Close damn you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you avoid weird men?

Perhaps we're both beginning to realise why these people have been weird?

You remind me of my weird creepy aunt who really really really wants me to visit her and just makes the whole thing so strongly desired that it's quite off-putting

I don't visit

Wtf

Maybe it really isn't happening like this. But that's how it's coming across on the forum. At least from this man's perspective.

Transparent jealousy of the OP.

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