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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

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with the love of my life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had both. I left my love because after 5 years he admitted to being asexual and I couldn’t carry on without the intimacy. I don’t have the life I did then, but I’m happy being independent and single.

I truly believe there will always be love. You just need to be hopeful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"
I think I've already chosen the 2nd option

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"

I just can't picture being with the love of my life and not having sex. For me the two are mutually exclusive. (Not counting the love of your life developing some illness where they couldn't of course as that's a different matter)

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s taken some very expensive counselling to help me get over a lack of intimacy, however my other half is perfectly happy with it.

Depends how you feel about it but people can be alarming different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

I think I've already chosen the 2nd option "

Me too. Other than the sex with multiple people bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

I think I've already chosen the 2nd option

Me too. Other than the sex with multiple people bit."
Yeah that bit was me just trying to show off and look cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't be the love of my life without the sex and intimacy. The love would fade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up the love of my life and financial stability. I wasn’t the love of his life so I left.

I’m getting option 2 by default and am enjoying

myself

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"

First option if it included family or not having family contact if making the break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2nd option..

Its good to share and love is overrated anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My cynical view is that the majority of "singles" on here aren't choosing.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"My cynical view is that the majority of "singles" on here aren't choosing.

"

That’s probably true, although for me your list would have to include the financial security of my partner and also the happiness of my kids.

That’s a much more difficult one to answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"
Hey you can live alone and have love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option 2 sounds favourite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m with the love of my life. I’d give up every penny just to stay with her.

I could live without the sex if I had to. The intimacy is intricate in who we are as a couple.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

show me the money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you measure happiness? Having lived without sex or any kind of sexual intimacy but with financial security for over 20 years I now have an ex who is my best friend and a realisation that the need for financial security over inflated. I might be bit skint from time to time but I'm much happier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My cynical view is that the majority of "singles" on here aren't choosing.

That’s probably true, although for me your list would have to include the financial security of my partner and also the happiness of my kids.

That’s a much more difficult one to answer."

Would your partner be happy if she knew you were cheating on her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo B

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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"

sex with multiple people, living alone and no love is my life and right now it is all I need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll join the ranks of others on here who have already endured option one and found it intolerable... the love just wilts without watering it with regular intimacy.

I don't like the second option though. So, even though I'm going to have to take it in this hypothetical scenario, I'd put a positive spin on it. I may not find love with another woman, but I'm going to love myself and this beautiful life I'm living

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Option one.

Sex with multiple people might create the illusion of intimacy but that's all it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that choose option B would have love though, in some form, from other sources even if not from a lover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had both. I left my love because after 5 years he admitted to being asexual and I couldn’t carry on without the intimacy. I don’t have the life I did then, but I’m happy being independent and single.

I truly believe there will always be love. You just need to be hopeful! "

Asexual how? Like no sex drive or no interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between being with the love of your life and being financially secure etc .. but no sex or intimacy.

Or sex with multiple people, living alone and no love?

"

Er, sorry but is just one or the other or is it pick and mix, can't quite work it out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a choice if you're in a relationship with no intimacy whatsoever. It's an empty and very painful existence if you love that person. You reach a point when separation is the only way to resolve the pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a choice if you're in a relationship with no intimacy whatsoever. It's an empty and very painful existence if you love that person. You reach a point when separation is the only way to resolve the pain. "

That I understand!

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