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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I've been paying it forward for about 30 years.

Someone at work helped me and, as a result, I was able to go on and fulfill my career potential. I'm sure life would have worked out, one way or another, without their kindness but I suspect it would have been much harder.

Have you been helped and feel, as I do, a sense of duty to pass that help on?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve been brought up to pay it forward regardless of whether you receive.

Being generous with time and resources can have it’s downfalls however it always seems to come back at some point if you’re patient enough. I recommended my friend for a job at my workplace today. I hope it doesn’t come back to bite me in the arse however it didn’t cost me anything except a little time.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I’ve been brought up to pay it forward regardless of whether you receive.

Being generous with time and resources can have it’s downfalls however it always seems to come back at some point if you’re patient enough. I recommended my friend for a job at my workplace today. I hope it doesn’t come back to bite me in the arse however it didn’t cost me anything except a little time. "

It can be a difficult balance between "no good deed goes unpunished" and gentle reward.

I know, because they have told me, that three people are still alive because of my pay it forward actions. I also know that it has cost me work and money.

I hope your good deed remains uncontroversial.

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent

I let a BMW out at the lights last week

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I let a BMW out at the lights last week "

Let's hope that the BMW driver does the same for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up the seat I was saving, to some elderly lady or man.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I gave up the seat I was saving, to some elderly lady or man. "

One day that seat will come back to you.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

No -I spend too much of my day trampling over other people in my desperate bid to get to the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it wasn't for the monetary kindness of a relative stranger I would not be where I am today, literally..

So I like to pay it forward by volunteering my time for any good cause, as i have plenty of it

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"No -I spend too much of my day trampling over other people in my desperate bid to get to the top "

Do you get them to bend over in height order to form steps?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If it wasn't for the monetary kindness of a relative stranger I would not be where I am today, literally..

So I like to pay it forward by volunteering my time for any good cause, as i have plenty of it"

Someone, somewhere, will be thanking you.

I love the Thank You spot on R4's Saturday Live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember the help I first got from people when tried to get into the local kink scene so try and pay forward by trying to help make the journey easier for others. Not the same for volunteering for good causes maybe but my way of paying forward.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"No -I spend too much of my day trampling over other people in my desperate bid to get to the top

Do you get them to bend over in height order to form steps?

"

As if there is any other way

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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Someone at work helped me and, as a result, I was able to go on and fulfill my career potential. I'm sure life would have worked out, one way or another, without their kindness but I suspect it would have been much harder.

Have you been helped and feel, as I do, a sense of duty to pass that help on?

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I've been paying it forward for about 30 years

I was always smart but being black, in the 60s and 70s your prospects were limited. My parents thought girls having an education was a waste of time: you didn't need education to clean and cook your husband's dinner.

When I married and had my first child my husband supported me emotionally and financially to return to full time education. Having my daughter made me realise the dead end jobs weren't enough, I had to succeed to encourage her. I went back to college and had inspirational teachers. Some of my classmates struggled and I helped them. My lecturer said I had an aptitude for teaching and said I should teach her evening classes. She then suggested I train to be a teacher, and I did. She encouraged me. Her face would light up at my achievements.

Every step up the ladder, my pride at seeing my own children graduate, my home...all due to a Russian woman who encouraged and supported me...something my own mother never did.

I've been paying it forward before paying it forward was a phrase.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I was always taught to pay it forward regardless of it coming back to me or not. My dad instilled a great sense on kindness in me. I will help wherever I can, in whatever way I can.

I'm finally in a really good place, having been a struggling single parent, caring for my grandparents until they died. I'm now in a job I love with the support of an amazing partner. I like to think karma has finally caught up with me and is being good to me.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I remember the help I first got from people when tried to get into the local kink scene so try and pay forward by trying to help make the journey easier for others. Not the same for volunteering for good causes maybe but my way of paying forward."

It's every bit as important. Helping people doesn't have to mean charity (except in the true sense of the word).

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

Someone at work helped me and, as a result, I was able to go on and fulfill my career potential. I'm sure life would have worked out, one way or another, without their kindness but I suspect it would have been much harder.

Have you been helped and feel, as I do, a sense of duty to pass that help on?

I've been paying it forward for about 30 years

I was always smart but being black, in the 60s and 70s your prospects were limited. My parents thought girls having an education was a waste of time: you didn't need education to clean and cook your husband's dinner.

When I married and had my first child my husband supported me emotionally and financially to return to full time education. Having my daughter made me realise the dead end jobs weren't enough, I had to succeed to encourage her. I went back to college and had inspirational teachers. Some of my classmates struggled and I helped them. My lecturer said I had an aptitude for teaching and said I should teach her evening classes. She then suggested I train to be a teacher, and I did. She encouraged me. Her face would light up at my achievements.

Every step up the ladder, my pride at seeing my own children graduate, my home...all due to a Russian woman who encouraged and supported me...something my own mother never did.

I've been paying it forward before paying it forward was a phrase."

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I was always taught to pay it forward regardless of it coming back to me or not. My dad instilled a great sense on kindness in me. I will help wherever I can, in whatever way I can.

I'm finally in a really good place, having been a struggling single parent, caring for my grandparents until they died. I'm now in a job I love with the support of an amazing partner. I like to think karma has finally caught up with me and is being good to me."

I don't believe in instant Karma but I do think positive and caring energy will attract similar energy. Enjoy feeling loved and fulfilled.

I think people make the mistake of assuming the person they have helped should repay them. That's not what it's about. Although, I have experienced joy at seeing the people I have helped thrive.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I always try and pay it forward. I’ve been brought up with that philosophy and try and help people as much as I can.

I also had a huge amount of help from a charity both financially and emotionally when someone in my life was seriously ill and spent time in a specialist hospital in England. I did my volunteer training after he was discharged from the hospital and 11 years later do case work for the charity. It’s a privilege to be able to help.

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