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By *ools47 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack. "

From the looks of your profile and your pics OP I would say more fool them.

These things happen don’t let it get you done.

Just be a bit more selective in the future

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future "

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)"

^^WSS except for the kicking bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree its horrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it knock your confidence because from your profile and pics it's definately their loss.

This place is full of wasters and as a genuine nice guy on here if I let the amount of times I get knocked back I'd be in a corner crying lol.

Keep your chin up xx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry to read this

What peach said is true

If they stood you up please report them

Big hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack. "

One breathtaking meet will soon see it back. Don't give up.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

The stupidity of the male species never fails to surprise me on here. Please don't think all men are like them, they're not. There are some lovely gentlemen on here.

I hope you hadn't gone to too much trouble only to be let down?

I always made sure I was going somewhere anyway and if they turned up it was a bonus when arranging meets... So I'd be popping into town for something and arrange a coffee.... I'd go for my coffee and if they were a no show it was no great loss.

It's hard to not take it personally when it happens but really these plonkers wouldn't have shown up for anyone.

Do something nice for yourself today xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)"

How is it insulting dudette?

We all dedide who we meet therefore when a meet doesn’t happen both parties actually shoulder the blame. You cake have a failed meet if you didn’t arrange the meet.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)

How is it insulting dudette?

We all dedide who we meet therefore when a meet doesn’t happen both parties actually shoulder the blame. You cake have a failed meet if you didn’t arrange the meet."

It's insulting because you said "just be a bit more selective in the future"

That's saying "you weren't selective enough, so you've kinda brought it on yourself"

Some motherfuckers are expert in deception and you'd need to be all MI5 to suss it. I think it's a cunty thing to happen and you're adding insult to injury

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By *ools47 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)"

Please don't kick me there

Thanks for your kind words xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack. "
Hey its not about you it's about them, don't let it affect you please.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)

Please don't kick me there

Thanks for your kind words xx

"

I'm just being honest beaut, it speaks volumes about them and their fucked up views

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By *ools47 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

Thanks guys x

I've reached out to someone I meet regularly to set something up

He'll soon get me back on par.

So frustrating though, I thought I had a pretty strict process but guess some guys can just find their way through xx

Guess not everyone is made for or understands the swinging life, I love this lifestyle so won'the let one crappy 24 hours knock me off the horse completely xx

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By *ndecidedMan
over a year ago

London

They probably haven't been with a woman for a whole and chickened out. Don't take it personally, it's not you

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By *llysonMacWoman
over a year ago

Hanley


"

How is it insulting dudette?

We all dedide who we meet therefore when a meet doesn’t happen both parties actually shoulder the blame. You cake have a failed meet if you didn’t arrange the meet."

Wow!

So, I was stood up last week after arranging a mutually convenient time and a mutually convenient location. I checked in the day before to confirm it was still good.. I stood outside waiting for the guy to show.. he didn't. No message no apology nothing. How can i possibly be to blame? What more do I need to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey buddy it's all part and parcel of being on here . Sorry to hear you have been let down . It's easy to say but let it go and move forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell craziness, really sorry to hear this. I had one too

Glad you reached out to your reliable friend hope that puts a smile on your face x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack. "

Happened to me too, about 4 weeks ago. It bothered me more than it should have.

Luckily I’ve met some lovely men recently and my confidence is restored again.

Keep smiling xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just be a bit more selective in the future

Ignore that, it's insulting. Please don't assume she wasn't being selective dude, it's rude and simply adds to the confidence being knocked.

Some people can get round the barriers we put up in our "wanker radar"

It does happen chick, it's shit, they don't think of the consequences.

Happened to me a few times, video called, went through the usual channels of sussing out a fantasist. Down to the point they tell you they're 5 mins away....

Don't blame yourself (or I'll kick you in the fanny)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is certainly not you OP...it is just the way this site has become with all the time wasters, pic hunters and sloppy fkrs.

Head up...tits out .... on to the next search x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let your confidence go. It’s not you. Some people just don’t seem to have a sense of decency. And they ruin it for us decent chaps out here!

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Feeling your pain OP... Sprung for hotel, drove 80 miles and she is a no show it seems... So it's not just the blokes on here it seems xx

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Ah it happens. Just dust yourself off and crack on.

I had worse than a no show once. He drove to meet me at work. Pulled into the carpark and drove off

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Feeling your pain OP... Sprung for hotel, drove 80 miles and she is a no show it seems... So it's not just the blokes on here it seems xx"

Is she a she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing will knock your confidence on here more than being let down twice in 24 hours.

Seems my good judge of character is out of whack. "
shame about you max age, I would definitely have turned up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah it happens. Just dust yourself off and crack on.

I had worse than a no show once. He drove to meet me at work. Pulled into the carpark and drove off "

What a cockjocky

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester


"Ah it happens. Just dust yourself off and crack on.

I had worse than a no show once. He drove to meet me at work. Pulled into the carpark and drove off "

Should have smelled a rat when I had to pay for hotel.... The pisser is the 3 hour round trip....

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"Ah it happens. Just dust yourself off and crack on.

I had worse than a no show once. He drove to meet me at work. Pulled into the carpark and drove off

What a cockjocky"

Meh. At least he turned up! I may not be for everyone and that’s fine.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

The responses when a guy posts something similar are vastly different to when a lady posts..

Delete, block, report, move on..

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