FabSwingers.com forum: Do you meet people from the forum?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We would... Why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if i can help it.

Distance and lack of time and the lack of inclination to travel said distance being the primary factor.

And to be honest, all the forum flirting with other women would get on my tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t met anyone but I’d meet a certain few

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I have done yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done yes, some good friends made from forum chats... but also likewise from non forum folk

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

They have all come from knowing them on the forum and the chat room,

You just get to see a little bit of their personality more then a few messages would show you

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Most of my meets have come about by flirting on the forums, and I'm a lazy fecker that doesn't send preemptive messages anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met lots of forumites and yes have played with some. The forums can be a good way of getting to know them x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have done in the past and would again. Why? We can't see any reason why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't ... YET

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would and hopefully will. They're same people as from messages. Forums only cover broader topics that may not come to discussion during messaging. So give deeper insight into personalities and mindset.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

I've met one guy.

I've found nearly everyone on the forums to be Midlands or up north.

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By *r Potato HeadMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes I've met a few, made some good friends from the forum.

Still a couple on the forum I want to meet as well, but distance can be a pain.

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

Yes/no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't have any desire to get involved in forum politics and in 6 years I've never seen anyone who regularly posts that I've wanted to meet. There have been occasional posters but they are a rare wonder of nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, because they don't want to.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Not yet, but I'm open to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, why not. Doesnt mean anything will happen other than a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes/no

Ss"

But we havent met..... yet!!

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I haven't yet, but there's a few i'm sure are great company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exclusively

Because we like to know that we have things in common and feel comfortable with anyone before even considering meeting.

We’ve only met one for anything more than a social though.

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

Oh yes, definitely

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

At one time id met almost every regular poster now i dont go to clubs or socials its rarely

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am looking forward to meeting one on 14 July.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I don't have any desire to get involved in forum politics and in 6 years I've never seen anyone who regularly posts that I've wanted to meet. There have been occasional posters but they are a rare wonder of nature. "

I love your shoes. Iron fist??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love your shoes. Iron fist??

Thanks... yes well spotted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

When I visit the forums I see many acting promiscuous however not many arrange to meet each other. It's always "I'd fuck you" yet makes no effort to go to meet.

Seems to be a home for flirts who can't handle anything more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would and hopefully will. They're same people as from messages. Forums only cover broader topics that may not come to discussion during messaging. So give deeper insight into personalities and mindset.

Mrs"

Mrs x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes via socials, if we get on maybe more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love your shoes. Iron fist??

Thanks... yes well spotted!

You're welcome. I've been after lammies but with a strap for agessssss

. Seems they're like gold dust!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Nope, wouldn’t dream of it. Ever!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I dont want to be just another one of many ticks on a hit list. The forums can make you feel this way. So I would but he would have to be something special or an occasional visitor.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I dont want to be just another one of many ticks on a hit list. The forums can make you feel this way. So I would but he would have to be something special or an occasional visitor.

I would like to go to a social though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have and would again. Its a good process of getting to know a person and sniffing out any homicidal tendencies before meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one outside of forums replies to my messages anyways, thankfully forum ladies are hot too

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I Haven't yet but I'd like to.

More chance of seeing someone's real personality and soh than you can ever get from a message.

Mind you that might work against me as my soh takes some getting used to

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Yes it’s quite a good angle to meet people sometimes. I’m also hoping to go to the next Northampton Social so will meet a few more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

Yes. If I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 2 off forums in 3 yrs. But then most on the forums tend to be light years away.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

What about dressing gown guy?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

and no I'm not meeting any of you lot you're all horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and no I'm not meeting any of you lot you're all horrible."

Glad you noticed.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"and no I'm not meeting any of you lot you're all horrible.

Glad you noticed."

I'm very observant you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes lots of friends from the forums that I've met at socials and parties...

My main squeeze I met from the forums

and I'm so glad I did

And spent today with some old forumites having lunch. Plus have a girly friend from fab who I've been friends with for years and she's met my family and is coming to stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about dressing gown guy?"

Hmm I'd rule myself out of the running there. I'm not a competitor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it wasn't for the forum I wouldn't have met one of my best friends, he is definitely one of my favourite people on this planet...he knows who he is...and had one of my favourite meets with another forumite...think he probably knows who he is too

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have met quite a few former forumites many now in hiding. Just a few still left posting these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a regular whom I found on the forum, as a result of a thread he started. There are 3 or 4 other guys whom I’m hoping our paths will cross at a club one day.

Mrs

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

Yes.

Why not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don’t meet anyone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"No, I don’t meet anyone "
you met me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I don’t meet anyone you met me"

Over four years ago. I’ve not met anyone since

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've made the best of friends, after chatting here, then meeting at a social.

I've met a couple of people that caught my eye on here too

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"No, I don’t meet anyone you met me

Over four years ago. I’ve not met anyone since"
ha ha ha. I put you off for life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one. "

Stick from who? What for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I don’t meet anyone you met me

Over four years ago. I’ve not met anyone sinceha ha ha. I put you off for life

Not by meeting you...but you did have a hand in me choosing not to meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sexually. Would socially. Wouldn't like the thought of my performance being discussed with others, would get majorly jealous of them meeting other people. Would just be a nightmare if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, but less than I have met off forum. I may even do so again. But that depends on two people wanting the same things with each other...and taking chances on there being something more than just forum or pm chat.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I've met people from the forum, I've met people not off the forum. Why limit yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you OP i have met people from the forum at the lounge social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?"

Stick from Females with bitchy or veiled catty remarks. They knew it hurt but it probably made them feel better. So childish though. Dan Berks used to tell me it was jealousy and happened a lot. I miss him and his wise words.

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

I have ...it was the second person I’ve ever met .....she was incredible...an amazing fuck ...I still Wank over our sessions now ....my only regret would be that she lived so far away ...I traveled up to fuck her ...she was well worth the effort

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Fingers in lots of pies Dana some guys are right fucking liers.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Why not ? Would be fun to meet and chat with like minded people x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Nope, wouldn’t dream of it. Ever!"

I'm know we met at a social!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

Dan was oh so wise wasnt he .... any silly veilled comments on forum or in pm should always be ignored ( easier said than done) but usually do stem from sour notes of jealousy... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Some.

The forums are a great filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have. They messaged me from the face pic Friday (possibly show your face) threads.

I would again if someone took my fancy, but the forums seem to be quite toxic at the moment.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I have met some lovely forum folk, most recently at the Manchester social. I think it’s difficult to maintain a level of privacy if you dabble on the forums a lot so I tend to keep things away from here but I wouldn’t rule someone out just because they go on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have. They messaged me from the face pic Friday (possibly show your face) threads.

I would again if someone took my fancy, but the forums seem to be quite toxic at the moment."

By meet I mean had sex with.

I've met a fair few at group socials too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met some lovely forum folk, most recently at the Manchester social. I think it’s difficult to maintain a level of privacy if you dabble on the forums a lot so I tend to keep things away from here but I wouldn’t rule someone out just because they go on the forums. "

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

You're going to get lots of men saying it's them now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping the ones I'd like to buy a drink, will turn up to _he secret tea party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

You're going to get lots of men saying it's them now

Nah... unlikely... it's still me!!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have met a few over the years and very nice they were too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've meet one for a one-to-one social and several from an organised social and would happily meet many more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm hoping the ones I'd like to buy a drink, will turn up to _he secret tea party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have. They messaged me from the face pic Friday (possibly show your face) threads.

I would again if someone took my fancy, but the forums seem to be quite toxic at the moment.

By meet I mean had sex with.

I've met a fair few at group socials too."

Ah, by meet I mean social. There is someone who uses the forum infrequently that I had sex with four and a half years ago, but we didn’t find each other on the forum. It was in one of the chat rooms.

That was the last time I had sex outside of a relationship.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

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i met a guy once innocently and unbeknown to me there was a three way cat fight going on about him. Noone said anything to me

i just meet who i like and bugger anyone else

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums. "

That’s exactly the point though ... people do talk. If you meet lots of people from the forums then the chances of that increases. That doesn’t happen away from the forums. You don’t need a verification for people to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done and continue to do so - all good fun

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

I tend to think that the forums are a pre-social engagement prior to any meet your lucky to have.

The threads the other person posts on, the comments, the personality in those comments can lead to that tipping point decision of making a personal approach rather than the social interaction within a group environment. But obviously only if they still fall within your criterion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done and continue to do so - all good fun

If I had a forum to do list.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work. "

You must have really upset em!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fingers in lots of pies Dana some guys are right fucking liers.

Sorry to hear that. It's not nice being lied to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

i met a guy once innocently and unbeknown to me there was a three way cat fight going on about him. Noone said anything to me

i just meet who i like and bugger anyone else"

Exactly. I wouldn't give a second thought about who people meet on here, and if someone was bothered that I met someone they had their eye on, tough.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

It wouldn't bother me who knew who I had sex with. Even if they told them I was a crap fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages"

How does forum posts mean you know them better than by messaging? I don't get that at all. All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

Dan Berks

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, I do. I also meet people away from the forums. It works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done and continue to do so - all good fun

If I had a forum to do list.....

You got one of those too Minxy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work.

You must have really upset em!!

I was only guilty of Fucking a Forumite and displaying a verification. I can't see why that would "upset" anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work.

You must have really upset em!!

I was only guilty of Fucking a Forumite and displaying a verification. I can't see why that would "upset" anyone. "

They wanted him and you got him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work.

You must have really upset em!!

I was only guilty of Fucking a Forumite and displaying a verification. I can't see why that would "upset" anyone. "

You live and learn huh?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

All of my meets have been with forumites and so's the next one I have planned in a couple of weeks which I am really looking forward to.

For me the forums are a great way of getting to see the person behind the profile with their filters turned off and get a feel for if they're the kind of person I'd like to meet and think there'd be a connection and chemistry with.

I also find the whole "cold" messaging thing well slightly cold and clinical and find it easier to spark a conversation via the forums than I do otherwise.

That said if I had a good feel for a non-forumite as a result of their profile alone I wouldn't totally rule out messaging them.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I have been to a few Forum Socials and I've also had private meets with a few Forumites. However, I must admit, I've taken some bloody stick from meeting them one on one.

Stick from who? What for?

I wish I knew which guys elicited such a response. I'd make it my purpose to meet them just to piss them all off

They also messaged some of the guys I had met even out of The Forums to get meets but their childish games didn't work.

You must have really upset em!!

I was only guilty of Fucking a Forumite and displaying a verification. I can't see why that would "upset" anyone. "
jealousy brings out a horrible attitude in some people

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people"

That's dedication for you. No one interests me that much to pay that much attention to their posts!

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I would want to know someone on a one-on-one basis before meeting. Seeing their posts also beforehand helps me identify if they are someone I could get on with or not

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people"

This

I think people let their guard down a lot more on the forums, so you tend to get to see the real them more or their posts match the way they interact one on one and back up your perceptions a little.

Personally I wouldn't want to meet someone that displayed different personas dependent on the medium as that would suggest an element of game playing, and that's just not for me.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

No you don’t and ppl assume you’ve ‘met’ ppl you haven’t

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people

That's dedication for you. No one interests me that much to pay that much attention to their posts!"

Its not really dedication its just some things they say stand out from what they have said previously, My memory is normally poor so it doesn't happen often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people

This

I think people let their guard down a lot more on the forums, so you tend to get to see the real them more or their posts match the way they interact one on one and back up your perceptions a little.

Personally I wouldn't want to meet someone that displayed different personas dependent on the medium as that would suggest an element of game playing, and that's just not for me."

Really? I think letting your guard down on a public forum opens you up to all sorts of vulnerabilities. That's not something I wish to hand to strangers. It's not about displaying a different persona it's about looking after yourself in this fucked up world.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

No you don’t and ppl assume you’ve ‘met’ ppl you haven’t

True

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I have absolutely no idea why people would want to meet me... probably duff me up after a sarcastic comment...

Seriously though, lovely meeting the peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not met up with anyone yet but got my fingers crossed x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people

This

I think people let their guard down a lot more on the forums, so you tend to get to see the real them more or their posts match the way they interact one on one and back up your perceptions a little.

Personally I wouldn't want to meet someone that displayed different personas dependent on the medium as that would suggest an element of game playing, and that's just not for me.

Yes really and I think there are a lot of people who do so subconsciously too or through blind ignorance - you only have to look at the number of threads where people are called out about something they've said that contradicts their profile for evidence of that.

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

Personally speaking I'd like to think the me you see on the forums is the same as the me represented by my profile, pictures and messages as well as in person. The only slight difference being the in person me is possibly not as outgoing as the one on-line when you first meet me but that's a social awkwardness thing as much as anything and one that soon disappears once I am comfortable in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a couple of ladies through forum posts, and hope to meet a couple more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would, but I havent meet anyone from the forum yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of people I've met have been from the forum.

Conversing with people on the forums says more about who they are than a random message in your inbox ever could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would, yes. For me it's because I would know them better by reading their posts - not just by one-on-one messages

I find over time their personality comes out through all the posts the make, Its only so long that they can keep up the persona they are trying to give people

This

I think people let their guard down a lot more on the forums, so you tend to get to see the real them more or their posts match the way they interact one on one and back up your perceptions a little.

Personally I wouldn't want to meet someone that displayed different personas dependent on the medium as that would suggest an element of game playing, and that's just not for me.

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

“That doesn’t happen away from the forums.” Okay. Try living in a less well populated area. Watch the bitchy statuses that fly around. Hear the chat about who’s pissed off at who for meeting who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent yet but if there was someone who i clicked with then yeah why not? No different than putting your name down for one of the social threads but as others have said how you put yourself across on here than real life can be different

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona. "

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed. "

Not assumed - interpreted differently based on what's written

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed.

Not assumed - interpreted differently based on what's written

You seem to be misinterpreting a lot tonight

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed.

Not assumed - interpreted differently based on what's written

You seem to be misinterpreting a lot tonight

I can only interpret what is put before me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed.

Not assumed - interpreted differently based on what's written

You seem to be misinterpreting a lot tonight

I can only interpret what is put before me

That's true. But the way you interpret it can be skewed to fit what you want to have been implied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a forum 'to do' list.. i meet people that interest me and who i have chatted with for a while, and thats usually people who have messaged from a search rather than from what I've posted on here.. although I wouldn't rule that out..

To put faces to names i attend the lounge socials but that doesnt mean i would go on to to fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You first (why yes/no) .....

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

Yes. I like to meet the people behind the words and funny pictures.

I've yet to meet someone from the forums I didn't like in real life, even if I've not really "gelled" with their forum persona.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And being "Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!" is "displaying a different persona" isn't it?

No I'm no different in real life. I'm guarded in real life too. Not sure how that's a different persona.

Ah I see - your statement:

"All you get from forum posts is how they want to be perceived by the public. My messages are far more intimate than that. Fucked if I let the real me on the forum!!!"

Must have misled me to believe otherwise

Doesn't mean a different persona though as you've assumed.

Not assumed - interpreted differently based on what's written

You seem to be misinterpreting a lot tonight

I can only interpret what is put before me

That's true. But the way you interpret it can be skewed to fit what you want to have been implied.

Or perhaps taken implication from a skewed way it was presented in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have. Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have.. and hope to again very soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and loved it, there’s a couple more I’m planning on meeting very soon!

MrsK x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

The only way people will know is if you verify each other, tell people or talk about it on the forums. I don't see why it's any different to meeting people who don't use the forums.

It doesn’t happen to me away from the forums. I don’t read status updates. I don’t ever look at local updates, I don’t generally meet people near to me ... but then I rarely meet. The people I have met from the forums have been absolutely lovely without exception. I speak as I find and I have never experienced any issues away from the forums. My lovely Mum used to say to me there is nothing to be gained from washing your dirty laundry in public

an old expression but I feel it’s correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met people from the forums before.

The forums are just another tool/filter for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have! Last week on a London visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would if we had a connection.

Would happily meet socially and make new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, because I want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there the best people on here usually so definatly as i feel like i know more about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met one or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv met all mine thrue the forums appart from the first meet on last account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few, yes

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I try not to, it causes trouble, but I keep doing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have done in the past and I will do in the future. I enjoy the level of interaction and understanding for the other person that you can get from the forums. Each time I’ve met a fellow forumite it’s been like meeting a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have. You can build up more of a rapport via the forum than you can with exchanging messages with profiles. Plus you probably have similar interests by way of the forum topic you have both commented on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes; some of my best meets have been with forum users; I think you get a much better insight into what makes each other tick by interacting on here.

*Sighs and gazes wistfully into middle distance.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh yes; some of my best meets have been with forum users; I think you get a much better insight into what makes each other tick by interacting on here.

*Sighs and gazes wistfully into middle distance....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Why is it fraught with difficulties? I don't understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just the one local guy

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

Yes

I have , great meets too social and play

You get a really good insight to what a persons like from forums!

Some have really put me off

Which has led me to then put them on my block list !!!

So works both ways for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends on all the elements in the equation,the person on the other profile I.e attraction distance,click chemistry well if your on the same page it could be worth meeting in person you might like them more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mainly socials atm, but would also for more than that and hopefully will soon.

Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

Do you mean play meet or meet at a social/party? They are very different. One can be more specific because you like them the other more about intriguing/interest.

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish

I love your shoes. Iron fist??

Thanks... yes well spotted!

Just gotta say...”Wow I love your shoes too”....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied. "

I think, though i could be wrong, that a lot of folk give a lot of flannel on here to get a shag. They over promise. They allude to you being “special” blah blah blah. And they do this to a lot of folk at the same time. Now amongst the lot they are over promising to, is going to be one or two who don’t appreciate being lied to, so it’ll kick off.

It all eventually catches up with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied.

It all eventually catches up with them."

Suppose I can see how that happens now you put it like that. Surely in that situation it should all be directed toward to man and not each woman taking digs at each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done on a few occasions and I have made some great friends from the forums.

I find its a better indication of their personality rarther than messaging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied.

It all eventually catches up with them.

Suppose I can see how that happens now you put it like that. Surely in that situation it should all be directed toward to man and not each woman taking digs at each other. "

But then the man wouldn’t meet them i’m guessing, whereas they’ve not invested any time in the other woman, she’s just competition.

You see a lot of men referencing “no drama queens” in their profile, so i’m guessing it goes on quite a lot in one way or another.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Do you meet people from the forum?

Why yes/ why no?"

I have met people from the forums and have made some fabulous friendships from it. I find the forums very useful in connecting with like minded individuals and can serve as a very useful filter.

Distance can be an issue, yes, and I realize many people don't have the patience, time or means to travel. For my part, I always make an effort for the people I genuinely like and have clicked with, and am quite happy to travel to meet them

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We haven’t done yet but there’s a few forumites that are now on our friends list to hopefully meet in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied.

It all eventually catches up with them.

Suppose I can see how that happens now you put it like that. Surely in that situation it should all be directed toward to man and not each woman taking digs at each other.

But then the man wouldn’t meet them i’m guessing, whereas they’ve not invested any time in the other woman, she’s just competition.

You see a lot of men referencing “no drama queens” in their profile, so i’m guessing it goes on quite a lot in one way or another.

Yeah it does. I had one guy block me on here because another woman stopped talking to him because he'd met me. And he seemed perfectly sane up till that point. I'm not interested in getting caught up in those types of silly games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

I know you are but I will be meeting others from the forum then.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

Although this is not new news, it still dissapoints me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

Although this is not new news, it still dissapoints me.

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

Although this is not new news, it still dissapoints me.

I know, I was hoping she would hold my hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

I know you are but I will be meeting others from the forum then. "

Ohhhh, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meet were from forum or chat room..

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Yes mainly socials atm, but would also for more than that and hopefully will soon.

Not sure why people would get annoyed or act up because someone has met someone else from a swinging site, unless some kind of exclusivity was implied. "

Simply put ... a lack of maturity and jealousy. It probably stems from miscommunication and interpreting things differently but the drama can play out on here. Even if exclusivity was implied I don’t think that should then lead on to humiliating people on the forums or by messaging, perhaps people should deal with it privately and walk away from it. But I’m just an observer and that’s my take on it ...

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I’ve met people from the forums. However, it’s fraught with difficulties and I’m finding it’s certainly easier not doing it.

Does that mean no frozen margaritas for us?

Oh no, we are definitely going to have the frozen margs

If we meet before the STP then you will be my first meet with a forumite.

I’m not going to the STP. I’m on holiday!

Although this is not new news, it still dissapoints me.

I know, I was hoping she would hold my hand. "

BEG gives good hugs too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got a carefully prepared list of forumites that we're working through, like a shopping list of lust if you will....

We have met lots of you and played with a few as we have with non forumites! And will do again soon fabbers!

Peach x

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