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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So back in 2016 around February I decided enough was enough and it was time to lose the extra and unnecessary weight I had put on over the years. I was almost 18st and XXL was the norm when it came to clothes shopping (which I always dreaded because, although I love nice clothes, nothing ever fit me or I could never get the size I needed).

I started by having fresh fruit shakes in the morning and salad for lunch and a light dinner. I used to take small walks every evening and I also did 20 sit ups and increased this to 40 and then 60 as the months went by. By the end of August 2016 I weighed 12st 7lbs and I was really happy. I felt great, everyone commented positively and my confidence in 6 months had grown.

I've maintained my weight well ever since and now I currently weigh 12st 12lbs. The only thing is is that I still look in the mirror and think I need to lose a tiny bit more. Everyone I know says I don't need to lose any weight, some say I need to put some on. Is it normal to still look in the mirror and still think you're that big version of yourself even though I've lost over 5st and have moved from XXL to medium and 38in waist to 30/32in waist.

Any words of advice would be helpful as would some of your weight loss stories. Thanks in advance all.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think it's pretty normal but I don't know for sure.

I'm never the same size when I look in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on the loss mate. I had a similar issue and lost weight. I came from a 42 inch waist to a 32.

I'm petrified of getting big again and I've been told that I have body dysmorphia as I'm never happy with it and always think I'm fat.

It's normal to feel like this after losing so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's totally normal and you won't listen to anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on the weight loss

Excellent achievement.

But just becareful. Believing you are fat when you are not can lead to disorders such as anorexia. Maybe concentrate on toning up rather than weight loss.

Set a goal, hit it, be happy with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well done on the loss mate. I had a similar issue and lost weight. I came from a 42 inch waist to a 32.

I'm petrified of getting big again and I've been told that I have body dysmorphia as I'm never happy with it and always think I'm fat.

It's normal to feel like this after losing so much."

Thanks mate. It's great to have lost the weight but I always think I need to lose just that tint bit more. I'm just glad I'm not the only one who feels this way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's totally normal and you won't listen to anyone else"

Yup, so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take it day by day and a meal at a time, if you think you need to lose more and know you have it to lose do it but don't become obsessed with it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I lost 12 and 1/2 stone. I had a terrible time for ages as i still saw the fat body in front of me. If you have close honest friends trust them. Mine started to tell me when i was going a bit to far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's totally normal and you won't listen to anyone else

Yup, so true."

Is true mate, I've lost a load of weight, nearly 9 stone and know exactly where you're coming from

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well done on the weight loss

Excellent achievement.

But just becareful. Believing you are fat when you are not can lead to disorders such as anorexia. Maybe concentrate on toning up rather than weight loss.

Set a goal, hit it, be happy with it."

Thanks pal, I really appreciate the advice. I've recently just started working on toning up so it's good to hear someone advise that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

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I lost a stone or two a couple of years back and I don't feel like I need to lose anymore but the fear of putting all the weight back on again is enough to make me want to exercise a bit harder and eat carefully, which has probably led to me losing more than I needed to. Having said that my bmi is 24.9 which is the upper end of healthy weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?"

Don't like it don't read it.. that easy

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?"
No. Just a forum called lounge where anything is discussed. If you just want sex chat its the forum below this

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"So back in 2016 around February I decided enough was enough and it was time to lose the extra and unnecessary weight I had put on over the years. I was almost 18st and XXL was the norm when it came to clothes shopping (which I always dreaded because, although I love nice clothes, nothing ever fit me or I could never get the size I needed).

I started by having fresh fruit shakes in the morning and salad for lunch and a light dinner. I used to take small walks every evening and I also did 20 sit ups and increased this to 40 and then 60 as the months went by. By the end of August 2016 I weighed 12st 7lbs and I was really happy. I felt great, everyone commented positively and my confidence in 6 months had grown.

I've maintained my weight well ever since and now I currently weigh 12st 12lbs. The only thing is is that I still look in the mirror and think I need to lose a tiny bit more. Everyone I know says I don't need to lose any weight, some say I need to put some on. Is it normal to still look in the mirror and still think you're that big version of yourself even though I've lost over 5st and have moved from XXL to medium and 38in waist to 30/32in waist.

Any words of advice would be helpful as would some of your weight loss stories. Thanks in advance all.

"
You have done really well I congratulate you,I am a fruit lover so should try it,you should be pleased with yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?No. Just a forum called lounge where anything is discussed. If you just want sex chat its the forum below this"

Boom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I lost 12 and 1/2 stone. I had a terrible time for ages as i still saw the fat body in front of me. If you have close honest friends trust them. Mine started to tell me when i was going a bit to far"

My close mates and family all say not to lose and more and that I am not fat. I used to think they used to say it just so I don't be harsh on myself but now I'm realising that I'm not overweight but I'm just a bit critical of myself lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?

Don't like it don't read it.. that easy "

Haha, my thoughts exactly.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op you should be strutting around in your new clothes admiring yourself in every mirror you go by

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?No. Just a forum called lounge where anything is discussed. If you just want sex chat its the forum below this"

Haha, brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?No. Just a forum called lounge where anything is discussed. If you just want sex chat its the forum below this"

They've got apple fuckers in there, bit too wierd for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So back in 2016 around February I decided enough was enough and it was time to lose the extra and unnecessary weight I had put on over the years. I was almost 18st and XXL was the norm when it came to clothes shopping (which I always dreaded because, although I love nice clothes, nothing ever fit me or I could never get the size I needed).

I started by having fresh fruit shakes in the morning and salad for lunch and a light dinner. I used to take small walks every evening and I also did 20 sit ups and increased this to 40 and then 60 as the months went by. By the end of August 2016 I weighed 12st 7lbs and I was really happy. I felt great, everyone commented positively and my confidence in 6 months had grown.

I've maintained my weight well ever since and now I currently weigh 12st 12lbs. The only thing is is that I still look in the mirror and think I need to lose a tiny bit more. Everyone I know says I don't need to lose any weight, some say I need to put some on. Is it normal to still look in the mirror and still think you're that big version of yourself even though I've lost over 5st and have moved from XXL to medium and 38in waist to 30/32in waist.

Any words of advice would be helpful as would some of your weight loss stories. Thanks in advance all.

You have done really well I congratulate you,I am a fruit lover so should try it,you should be pleased with yourself"

Thank you. You must try it. I used to get all sorts of fruits and make shakes. Perfect weather for it right now. Good luck with it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I lost 12 and 1/2 stone. I had a terrible time for ages as i still saw the fat body in front of me. If you have close honest friends trust them. Mine started to tell me when i was going a bit to far

My close mates and family all say not to lose and more and that I am not fat. I used to think they used to say it just so I don't be harsh on myself but now I'm realising that I'm not overweight but I'm just a bit critical of myself lol."

I was chatting to a woman in the changing rooms of the pool we go to. She said she hated herself and meant she hated how she looked as she'd been overweight since she was 7. What I saw was a well groomed woman, with a good eye for colour and nice clothes. What she saw was a fat woman. I don't know how you change that mind set but is it worth years of self doubt and low self esteem?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have I logged onto mumsnet by mistake?No. Just a forum called lounge where anything is discussed. If you just want sex chat its the forum below this

They've got apple fuckers in there, bit too wierd for me."

Admittedly I saw that post and thought WTF! There's some strange people here hey? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you should be strutting around in your new clothes admiring yourself in every mirror you go by "

Haha, thanks gorgeous

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Its probably better to focus on your body composition than your weight. Rather than weighing your self on the scales, stand in front of a full length mirror sideways and straight on and asses your self that way. Work on reducing your body fat percentage if you think you need to.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Its probably better to focus on your body composition than your weight. Rather than weighing your self on the scales, stand in front of a full length mirror sideways and straight on and asses your self that way. Work on reducing your body fat percentage if you think you need to. "

Works in theory but when your eyes don't show you the true reflection in the mirror, it's kinda pointless

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Its probably better to focus on your body composition than your weight. Rather than weighing your self on the scales, stand in front of a full length mirror sideways and straight on and asses your self that way. Work on reducing your body fat percentage if you think you need to.

Works in theory but when your eyes don't show you the true reflection in the mirror, it's kinda pointless "

Measuring weight is unreliable, in the the same day it can fluctuate. If say someone's purley going on aesthetics then the eyes is mostly what you got to use.

Take pictures as you go along, so the difference is visible, but if people need something to measure, then measure body fat percentage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its probably better to focus on your body composition than your weight. Rather than weighing your self on the scales, stand in front of a full length mirror sideways and straight on and asses your self that way. Work on reducing your body fat percentage if you think you need to.

Works in theory but when your eyes don't show you the true reflection in the mirror, it's kinda pointless "

Look at your reflection though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor Barbie.

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west

When a lot of people lose weight, that have been overweight for many years... it takes a while for your brain to catch up.

Ultimately you’ve hit your goal and your pleased... but you still visualise that overweight person in the mirror .

Look at the positives you’ve achieved... weight loss, fitness, healthier skin etc.

It’s all about mindset. There are changes you can make without losing weight.

You could start resistance training to build some lean muscle, this would help ‘tone’ you up.

Be proud of yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When a lot of people lose weight, that have been overweight for many years... it takes a while for your brain to catch up.

Ultimately you’ve hit your goal and your pleased... but you still visualise that overweight person in the mirror .

Look at the positives you’ve achieved... weight loss, fitness, healthier skin etc.

It’s all about mindset. There are changes you can make without losing weight.

You could start resistance training to build some lean muscle, this would help ‘tone’ you up.

Be proud of yourself! "

Thanks, I'm very pleased with my achievement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I would say for your height you will be the perfect weight. ..don't get caught in the lights

And we'll done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op I would say for your height you will be the perfect weight. ..don't get caught in the lights

And we'll done "

Thanks for the advice, much appreciated

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Great achievement mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the magazines and everything encourages us to lose weight constantly without any consideration for being healthy. I had to give up on dieting because diet culture caused me an eating disorder and seriously bad relationship with food. Be careful and make sure you focus now on being healthy and loving your body at whatever size/weight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great achievement mate "

Cheers dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the magazines and everything encourages us to lose weight constantly without any consideration for being healthy. I had to give up on dieting because diet culture caused me an eating disorder and seriously bad relationship with food. Be careful and make sure you focus now on being healthy and loving your body at whatever size/weight."

Thanks Rach x

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