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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
"Well said or men what to dominate me and that is never going to happen. Nore do I want anal,bareback or derogatory terms | |||
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
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"And even for women who are subs, it's like hi, I'm a person too, please treat me with respect. There's protocol here to make sure no one gets hurt or boundaries aren't crossed. Opening with fantasies about what violence you'd like to inflict on me, even if it's something I'm into... this tells me you don't have the common sense necessary to be trusted with my vulnerability! (BDSM can absolutely be an opener, but "I'd like to x your y" makes me run for the hills. "I'm into x, might you be too?" is a message I'll react more positively to) " This, exactly this. It's worrying how many people can't tell the difference between bdsm and sexual abuse. Rule of thumb, if you haven't been offered someone's submission, it's sexual abuse. | |||
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Like Ronnie said ,never assume. | |||
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"Honestly any sort of sexual assumptions have me eye rolling. Whatever happened to a simple hello, rather than telling us how we're going to get our back doors smashed in "Oh that's a favourite of mine. Last one I replied "OK, but only after I've smashed yours in first" He blocked me *Sob | |||
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"Wow. Your tattoos are awesome   "Indeed they are | |||
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The ones that have read it and still message have a better understanding of what I want so the quality has gone up *yay
As for the bdsm thing, I get a lot of ‘I want to be your sub and I’ll do anything!!!’
oh you poor soul, no you won’t do anything, I have a twisted mind and you’re about to run for the hills | |||
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"Taking about actually reading profiles I not convinced on telling too much about how you like your sex is advantageous. If you do men (if they actually bother to read your profile) will modify their messages to tell you what they think you want to hear to get laid. So better to leave this ambiguous to help the filtering process. Let the wrong men assume how you want to be seen to and bin them. Wait till you hold a conversation with someone who actually shares some sexual compatability. This way you'll know what they are saying is authentic and not just what they think you want to hear. I'm going to hazard a guess that after this thread you get a few more better and less assuming messages." Very true! | |||
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"Taking about actually reading profiles I not convinced on telling too much about how you like your sex is advantageous. If you do men (if they actually bother to read your profile) will modify their messages to tell you what they think you want to hear to get laid. So better to leave this ambiguous to help the filtering process. Let the wrong men assume how you want to be seen to and bin them. Wait till you hold a conversation with someone who actually shares some sexual compatability. This way you'll know what they are saying is authentic and not just what they think you want to hear. ..."  | |||
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
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"And even for women who are subs, it's like hi, I'm a person too, please treat me with respect. There's protocol here to make sure no one gets hurt or boundaries aren't crossed. Opening with fantasies about what violence you'd like to inflict on me, even if it's something I'm into... this tells me you don't have the common sense necessary to be trusted with my vulnerability! (BDSM can absolutely be an opener, but "I'd like to x your y" makes me run for the hills. "I'm into x, might you be too?" is a message I'll react more positively to) " Agree. I’m a submissive and there are so many plastic doms on here I’ve found in my 2 weeks of joining. They message automatically assume I should be serving them and doing as they say in a message! One even mentioned putting his foot in my face and flushing my head down a toilet “like a good sub” I had to politely tell him that’s not how it works and boundaries should be set before anything, and also that every sub has different limits. Many forget that the control actually is always with the submissive as they have the safeword and any good dominant will respect a subs wishes, her safe words and what limits she sets. | |||
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"And even for women who are subs, it's like hi, I'm a person too, please treat me with respect. There's protocol here to make sure no one gets hurt or boundaries aren't crossed. Opening with fantasies about what violence you'd like to inflict on me, even if it's something I'm into... this tells me you don't have the common sense necessary to be trusted with my vulnerability! (BDSM can absolutely be an opener, but "I'd like to x your y" makes me run for the hills. "I'm into x, might you be too?" is a message I'll react more positively to) " Couldn't agree more - Well Said! | |||
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"As a sub if I had a message like that they wouldn't get chance to send me another. The guy I allow to dom me built up to being able to demand what he wants but that was built with a lot of trust on both our parts. " ^^^^^ this completely... I want to explore my sub side but that will only be done if I find someone I completely trust and have built that rapport and connection with... as a first message if someone sent that they would be blocked... you have to get the basics right.. and the rest would follow!!! X | |||
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"I like these type of messages. It makes it far quicker to know it's someone I would definitely not want to meet. I see it as another filtering tool. In fact, anyone who sends a first message, telling me what they'd like to do to me sexually, already let's me know I don't need to know anymore about them "Hey I'm a gent and messages like that never enter my head let alone pen to paper or text to send box | |||
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
"Do reply to them and say that I like to tell the ones who want to fuck me in the ass and who want to spank me its them first tend to back away into their corner again | |||
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"I like these type of messages. It makes it far quicker to know it's someone I would definitely not want to meet. I see it as another filtering tool. In fact, anyone who sends a first message, telling me what they'd like to do to me sexually, already let's me know I don't need to know anymore about them "This is very true | |||
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"I'm naturally submissive and passive by nature and my man is dominant. He doesn't feel he has to use force or exert his manliness on me every time we have sex. Quite often it's sensual and passionate. " The most important things about D/S is the trust and sensuality in my opinion. Never about force. | |||
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"I like these type of messages. It makes it far quicker to know it's someone I would definitely not want to meet. I see it as another filtering tool. In fact, anyone who sends a first message, telling me what they'd like to do to me sexually, already let's me know I don't need to know anymore about them "Exactly! | |||
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
"Oh I get that all the time but my answer is usually short and mean . “ first let me stick my foot in your ass and move in and out few times ... then we can play your games !” I’m usually blocked or called a weirdo Ha ha ha | |||
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"I don't usually rant on forums, but this week was a particularly bad week when it comes to men who naturally assume all women are submissive, who think it's OK to hold me down while I scream, and fuck me until I beg them to stop. Every time I see such a message I want to reply with how much I want to hold them down and kick them in the balls until they scream and beg me to stop, just to give them an idea of how appealing their desires are to me. Please don't assume women want to be sexually abused. That is not OK. Read profiles before you message with abusive suggestions. Be a decent human being.
Oh I get that all the time but my answer is usually short and mean .
“ first let me stick my foot in your ass and move in and out few times ... then we can play your games !”
I’m usually blocked or called a weirdo
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"I hate this too! The assumption all woman like being spanked annoys me most-spank me and I'll break your fingers is my usual reply! " so aggressive | |||
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