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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Firstly this Is a reflection from a certain dating site. We all go on initial attraction and compatibility, I know almost 100% if we are compatible from a picture , I can just tell how the picture (s) are took the surroundings, the whole thing basically to me shows me an insight to that person.

Am I shallow or am I trusting my instincts ? I tend to put myself in the place of the person and why would he take a picture like that ? I’m very deep and always look beyond the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beyond the what?

Don’t leave me hanging....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it works for you, why would it make you shallow?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always analyse (no pun intended yet) the pictures of people who I'd like to analyse (pun intended).

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I Don't Think You Are shallow but I do think you are wrong on certain aspects.

Yes attraction is important but what good is a pretty face if nothing but drivel comes out of it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry my bad! I meant to say does it make you a shallow person or do you trust your instincts? And yes sometimes you can judge a book by its cover if the cover they choose to show to the world, you know you won’t be compatible. Sorry hard to explain

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What does my profile picture tell you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im the same. Go on instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does my profile picture tell you? "

That you love marmite and Celine Dion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a hell of a lot more to attraction than looks alone, yeah you can look at somebody and say if they’re good looking or not but there’s much more to it than that. Most of attraction is sub conscious I think. I’ve met people I wouldn’t look twice at but the more I get to know them the more attractive they become. Things like their smell, mannerisms, the way their lip curls, the way they laugh or move, the little quirky things they do. You can only judge so much by a photo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does my profile picture tell you? "

That you’ve carefully chose your pictures to reflect your personality, cheeky, yet reserved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Substance over style for me.

Pictures are one dimension of a person. Now dont get me wrong. Im not saying i dont look at a picture and think phour there hot. Or christ on bike that bedrooms a tip. But i wouldnt know if they were soemone i would have an interest in just by a picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a hell of a lot more to attraction than looks alone, yeah you can look at somebody and say if they’re good looking or not but there’s much more to it than that. Most of attraction is sub conscious I think. I’ve met people I wouldn’t look twice at but the more I get to know them the more attractive they become. Things like their smell, mannerisms, the way their lip curls, the way they laugh or move, the little quirky things they do. You can only judge so much by a photo. "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There’s a hell of a lot more to attraction than looks alone, yeah you can look at somebody and say if they’re good looking or not but there’s much more to it than that. Most of attraction is sub conscious I think. I’ve met people I wouldn’t look twice at but the more I get to know them the more attractive they become. Things like their smell, mannerisms, the way their lip curls, the way they laugh or move, the little quirky things they do. You can only judge so much by a photo. "

I was more meaning if you got sent a message for instance and viewed their pictures, and certain things put you off! Would that make you think your incompatible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it depends on what you want from that person. If you’re looking to date, then the state of the flat could indicate someone who isn’t today and that may put you off.

If it’s someone for NSA sex, then does it matter so much?

The trouble is, so may are on Fab using it as a de facto dating site.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What does my profile picture tell you?

That you’ve carefully chose your pictures to reflect your personality, cheeky, yet reserved. "

Remarkably accurate. I’m impressed.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What does my profile picture tell you?

That you love marmite and Celine Dion "

Remarkably inaccurate. I’m incensed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does my profile picture tell you?

That you love marmite and Celine Dion

Remarkably inaccurate. I’m incensed. "

I do try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?"

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,"

Well that’s more than just judging by the photos alone. If the sexiest girl on earth messaged me saying “hi, fancy coming round and stuffing a frozen leg of lamb up my arse” then yeah, that would put me off and I’d be thinking that we weren’t all that compatible. I like my lamb roasted. x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,"
if its working for you why change it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,if its working for you why change it"

Its not working for me that’s the thing! Im wandering if I’m too harsh. (Not on fab) on dating sites. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,

Well that’s more than just judging by the photos alone. If the sexiest girl on earth messaged me saying “hi, fancy coming round and stuffing a frozen leg of lamb up my arse” then yeah, that would put me off and I’d be thinking that we weren’t all that compatible. I like my lamb roasted. x"

That’s what I mean! So do we all not judge pics and not give a hoot or do you read into other things also ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,

Well that’s more than just judging by the photos alone. If the sexiest girl on earth messaged me saying “hi, fancy coming round and stuffing a frozen leg of lamb up my arse” then yeah, that would put me off and I’d be thinking that we weren’t all that compatible. I like my lamb roasted. x

That’s what I mean! So do we all not judge pics and not give a hoot or do you read into other things also ?"

I can only speak for myself but it would be hard to ignore a message that made you cringe or spew regardless of how good a photo is. I would look further than just a photo alone tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont agree with you. I dont think your shallow. How is this compatability based on a picture working out for you?

For instance. If a guy messaged me and I found him attractive , yet if I looked at his pictures and just certain aspects made me think he’s definitely not compatible with me, or if how he messaged me. I’m quandering here,if its working for you why change it

Its not working for me that’s the thing! Im wandering if I’m too harsh. (Not on fab) on dating sites. X"

Maybe try chatting to all the ones that don't make you cringe. Then see if you get on.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The cover of the book might be what initially draws you to pick it up and start reading it - but if the contents aren't of interest then it wasn't the book for you

#GeminiManDoesProfound

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