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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending big hugs. Take a deep breathe, and be strong, it's the last thing you can do for your friend, take pride in it.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm just absolutely shutting it now. Everyone watching. What if I can't lift? What if I drop him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be heavy but listen to the advice from the pallbearers and it should be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't don't worry the funeral directors will help you lift and will make sure you are stable before you try. My mum was carried by her teenage grandchildren as they all wanted to do it. BUT If you can't do it don't worry it won't matter the funeral directors will have full staff to take over so just see how you feel and tell the funeral directors your worries. Big hugs

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now "

I'm sorry for your loss xx Usually there are enough people helping carry that the load isn't too much, emotionally I can imagine it will be one of the hardest things you'll do though. Seek comfort in those around you, who will be sharing your feelings x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Man I could cry

Just so so nervous thank you

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

It’s heavier than you think it’ll be but the funeral people keep you sorted.

Be strong dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My female cousin was one of 6 pall bearers for her mum. The weight is distributed between you, you'll be fine.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That's heartbreaking sorry to hear that.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now "

Carried my Mothers coffin at her funeral. It’s not as hard as you think. Also the undertakers explain everything to you. Yes I was nervous too but once I started carrying it, I was OK.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I helped carry my dad in. It is heavy but there's no need to be nervous as you'll have lots of people around to help. Wishing you all the best

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By *wosWoman
over a year ago

east london

You will be fine. .

My boys carried their dad...and if they can manage it without causing drama and chaos. ..anyone can ..

The undertakers will be on hand to help if need be. .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wanna be proud as I walk not make a tit of myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was gonna do it for my moms coffin but decided against it on the day

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Just wanna be proud as I walk not make a tit of myself"

You won’t. It will be OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He won't be too heavy for 4 or more of you. Think of it as you last chance to give your pal a hug. Many don't get that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hope so thanks for your confidence

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Just wanna be proud as I walk not make a tit of myself"

Big breath. You will be ok. And even if you stumble I bet your mate would find it funny and be having a little laugh x

Hug of support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now "

Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now

Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest."

Thats a lovely idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanna be proud as I walk not make a tit of myself"

I understand your worries and concerns OP, a lot of emotions flying around. As others have said the funeral directors will help and the weight will be distributed between you all. I’m so sorry to read of your loss, it’s a hard and heavy thing to bear emotionally

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My dad and uncles wanted to carry my mum in but the undertakers advised against it, they didn't carry it either it was pushed in as my mother was heavy.

You'll be okay op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for you kind words an support. Just hope it goes as well as can be

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now

Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest."

Those are lovely word's.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now "

You will be very proud to carry your best friend and don't worry. My nephews carried their Grandma , my mum, along with other members, of the family ,they cried all the way into church. I was so proud of them, as would my mum have been. Cherish the moment...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now

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thank you just so nervous even more so now we a few hours away from it

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By *rouble1110Woman
over a year ago

Cleveland

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now

thank you just so nervous even more so now we a few hours away from it"

You are bound to be nervous it's a big thing to do for your friend and you're obviously emotional too, but you will be absolutely fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thought.... I'll need that one day. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did it go?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It went absolutely perfect.

Proudest thing I've done. Was heavy was daunting but once we lifted onto shoulders all that dread went away.

Thank you everyone. Thanks for your words an support

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So pleased to hear it went well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the hardest things to do are also the best things... sending big hugs xx

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Glad it went ok for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It went absolutely perfect.

Proudest thing I've done. Was heavy was daunting but once we lifted onto shoulders all that dread went away.

Thank you everyone. Thanks for your words an support"

Glad it went well OP

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

So glad it all went well for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad it went well. I lost both my closest friends by the time I was 22. I stopped making friends after that. Don't make that mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your friend . You will be fine others will be carrying him with you I gather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in for an emotional day today.

Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?

Is it hard? Heavy?

I'm really nervous now "

I’ve done it a fair few times, it is quite heavy but the undertakers will decide if it requires 4 or 6 bearers, the weight is spread over all of you, get yourselves in height order, it’s not difficult and I have always seen it as an honour to do. Good luck and don’t worry, you’ll be reet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So glad it went well for you OP x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Hope your OK xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about the OP's loss but it seems mighty strange to post updates on a casual sex site full of internet strangers.

I can't be the only one thinking this?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Sorry to hear about the OP's loss but it seems mighty strange to post updates on a casual sex site full of internet strangers.

I can't be the only one thinking this?"

I think you might be, it's a general forum.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP. Glad it all went well.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Done it for my dad and my uncles.

Funeral directors will help.

The strength you will need most is emotional strength.

Take heart from the fact that you will be helping him on his final journey.

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