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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbish im a nice bloke i get meets just an excuse some guys use

To moan and winge

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Everyone knows that women like bad boys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too nice to comment sorry..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, it's ridiculous and not true at all in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone knows that women like bad boys. "

Really!!!???!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually kinda see it. I'm not generally attracted to overly nice guys. By that I mean the type who try too hard though, like they fuss too much, I don't like being fussed over.

I like a nice guy with a bit of bite. Not a pushover. I don't want to be treated like a princess all the time, I like a challenge.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I am nice. But can be bad,very bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are"

I agree.

I find men who bang on about how nice they are or how nice women should be a little bit creepy.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I actually kinda see it. I'm not generally attracted to overly nice guys. By that I mean the type who try too hard though, like they fuss too much, I don't like being fussed over.

I like a nice guy with a bit of bite. Not a pushover. I don't want to be treated like a princess all the time, I like a challenge. "
i agree. Nice guys dont have to be pushovers. But to me thats not being nice its trying to hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually kinda see it. I'm not generally attracted to overly nice guys. By that I mean the type who try too hard though, like they fuss too much, I don't like being fussed over.

I like a nice guy with a bit of bite. Not a pushover. I don't want to be treated like a princess all the time, I like a challenge. "

Theres being nice and being pathetic

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are"

100% yes, it's a total cop out.

Nice translates to: "I'm a pussy and I don't know how to approach women properly, so i sort of linger around them and don't make my intentions clear, then i get pissy with them because they friend-zone me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a cop out excuse.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are"

Guys who constantly say ‘I’m a nice guy’ are justifying themselves too much as in ‘thou doth protest too much’. We don’t need them telling us they are nice, we will discover if they are or they aren’t!

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are

Guys who constantly say ‘I’m a nice guy’ are justifying themselves too much as in ‘thou doth protest too much’. We don’t need them telling us they are nice, we will discover if they are or they aren’t! "

Couldn't agree more

Well said

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight? "

that's your job

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job "

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nice guys finish last" basically translates into "guys who let everyone else go in front of them finish last" Don't be a fucking doormat

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally I think it's just another thing that some guys use to justify to themselves why they can't get meets - there's a brand of single guy on here who seems to want to blame anything/anyone but themselves for their lack of "success" from the site, rather than realising their expectations are too high, their profile/pics too crap and their messages not up to scratch as being the reason

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Fucks sake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fucks sake "

Are you nice or an arsehole?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight? "

No! GOT A PROBLEM WITH THAT?!?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Fucks sake

Are you nice or an arsehole? "

I believe your should represent yourself honestly to women and gauge their reaction quickly. The stronger your personality then the more you will click with someone when they like you. Naturally other women will think you're (I'm) an asshole but a quick 'no' is not a bad result in my book. A slow 'no' is the only bad result and that's what "nice guys" are always bitching about. Normally because they try and be all things to all women.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

No! GOT A PROBLEM WITH THAT?!? "

Come on, you must have read one dating book that told you to be nice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fucks sake

Are you nice or an arsehole?

I believe your should represent yourself honestly to women and gauge their reaction quickly. The stronger your personality then the more you will click with someone when they like you. Naturally other women will think you're (I'm) an asshole but a quick 'no' is not a bad result in my book. A slow 'no' is the only bad result and that's what "nice guys" are always bitching about. Normally because they try and be all things to all women. "

I agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce. "

There is - and there's also a difference between calling yourself "nice" and someone else deciding you are based on interaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are"
I was actually told by someone who contributes quite regularly that I was too nice to meet, I took it as a thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

No! GOT A PROBLEM WITH THAT?!?

Come on, you must have read one dating book that told you to be nice? "

Only "How to get a new arse ripped by being a wet fucking lettuce"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a nice arsehole an struggle to get anyone to meet me! I should really have both angles covered there like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

There is - and there's also a difference between calling yourself "nice" and someone else deciding you are based on interaction "

It is a bit weird calling yourself nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves? "

They’re too nice to say

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce. "

What is it?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves?

They’re too nice to say"

That does actually make sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

What is it? "

Wet lettuces have a limp handshake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves?

They’re too nice to say

That does actually make sense! "

Ok. If you want to psychoanalyse this... in reality guys who say this aren't advertising themselves as nice... that's not really much of an advert is it... the comment is more about sexy women ending up with total tossers. Any women care to verify if that's a trend or not and if so why?

There Broken... perhaps we can argue about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

What is it? "

One gets a shag and the other doesn't.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

There is - and there's also a difference between calling yourself "nice" and someone else deciding you are based on interaction

It is a bit weird calling yourself nice. "

Exactly! But as the OP pointed out there are plenty that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would class myself as a nice guy, amongst lots of other things too. As pointed out previously it’s not something I bleat on about, people will discover it if they get to know me.

I certainly don’t agree with the whole ‘too nice’ thing. It denotes a lack of confidence or directness, neither of which are attractive qualities.

People use it as an excuse or as a way of trying to manipulate people ‘I’m nice and you don’t want to meet me so therefore you’re not nice’.

Guilting someone into meeting isn’t nice by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who calls themselves "nice" isn't really and they are just trying to convince others of it.

There are plenty of guys who are genuinely nice and don't need to go round proclaiming it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok just checked my profile and I've officially described myself as a nice guy haha Why? Is it because I'm nice and that describes who I am? No. It's because I'm not a fucking weird inconsiderate messed up nut job that's why. To be honest, I've been on here and the dating sites long enough to know that's something that can't be taken as a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would class myself as a nice guy, amongst lots of other things too. As pointed out previously it’s not something I bleat on about, people will discover it if they get to know me.

I certainly don’t agree with the whole ‘too nice’ thing. It denotes a lack of confidence or directness, neither of which are attractive qualities.

People use it as an excuse or as a way of trying to manipulate people ‘I’m nice and you don’t want to meet me so therefore you’re not nice’.

Guilting someone into meeting isn’t nice by the way! "

I struggle with directness, mostly because I don't wanna come across as disrespectful and I'm not sure how to toe the line without crossing it.

I've got confidence online because I'm not face to face with someone, it's just in real life I have social anxiety. There might be an awkward silence for a few seconds but once I get talking I'm usually okay.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"There’s a diffence between being nice and being a wet fucking lettuce.

There is - and there's also a difference between calling yourself "nice" and someone else deciding you are based on interaction

It is a bit weird calling yourself nice. "
i think its weird as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves? "

They're too nice to argue, they would crack their smile

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are I was actually told by someone who contributes quite regularly that I was too nice to meet, I took it as a thanks but no thanks"
why do you think they got the impression you where to nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a problem with people describing themselves as nice. However I do get irritated with the commonly held view that nice guys dont get meets. That always come across to me as a backhanded way of saying the guys who do get meets aren’t nice. And I dont know why that would be assumed. I also don’t like the way self proclaimed nice guys think their attribute is a rarity and get all arrogant and pompous about it, when in reality it’s not that hard to find well mannered respectful guys on Fab.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are I was actually told by someone who contributes quite regularly that I was too nice to meet, I took it as a thanks but no thankswhy do you think they got the impression you where to nice"
if I knew that I would be like Mel Gibson in what women want

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are I was actually told by someone who contributes quite regularly that I was too nice to meet, I took it as a thanks but no thankswhy do you think they got the impression you where to nice if I knew that I would be like Mel Gibson in what women want"
it was probably just a polite way of letting you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When guys say they cant get meets cause there to nice. Does anyone else think this is a cop out and disrespectful to women like we all go round chosing arseholes to meet. Ive always found guys that are nice just are and dont have to keep bleating on about how nice they are I was actually told by someone who contributes quite regularly that I was too nice to meet, I took it as a thanks but no thankswhy do you think they got the impression you where to nice if I knew that I would be like Mel Gibson in what women wantit was probably just a polite way of letting you down"
my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, can't someone disagree so we can have any argument about something tonight?

that's your job

Recently it's all threads i actually agree with the majority, like this one and the maternity leave one. How boring is that.

I know there are a lot of dickheads who call themselves a 'nice guy' and complain about women's choices - why haven't they come out to defend themselves? "

You should stick your head in the Scottish forum...they're usually hanging out there in abundance

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Nice is the flip side of a passive aggressive reaction to rejection so fits UK culture pretty well.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Fly my pritties, fly: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/771171

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, the more someone bleats on about being nice the more I think they are trying to convince themselves. I find it plain scary and I see Jack Nicolson's face grinning through a hacked up door at me.

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