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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make my self feel guilty!

For wanting to meet new genuine sexy guys for long term friendships with benefits. And the fat 51 year old in me tells me to grow up and be real.

Constant inner battle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of other people try to put their own insecurities onto others and try to pressure you into feeling a certain way through guilt and manipulation.

Just do what is right for you. I don’t feel guilty for my successes or for doing what is right for me.

If I’ve inadvertently hurt someone through my actions though, I do feel guilty and will do whatever I can to make reparations

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nowadays nothing. I think that if I'm not conforming to someone else's expectations and they can't understand that I'm different to them its basically tough on them.

My mother was pretty good at guilt tripping me until I was in my twenties. Then I cottoned on.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't do guilt. I try my best, and that's good enough.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Nope not at all I like my own company from time to time and if someone wants to manipulate me with a guilt trip because I choose not to interact then they're wasting their own time and emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing...

Live and let live i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing...

Live and let live i say"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel guilty when I endulge in chocolates! But regarding other things no! I don't want to hurt people. I just want to be myself and I won't be someone else ! Family and friends will respect me and I do the same . Pressure will not work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I feel more guilt from myself than others. I work full time and spend the rest of time running after the children, shopping or catching up with chores the rest of the time. I feel guilty for wanting to do something for myself, because the there is always something else to be done or I should be spending time with the children.

I'm also the breadwinner in the home to, so as well as time I feel guilty about spending money on myself; again there is always something for the house or children needed. Though we chose and it remains our preference to have a parent at home until they are all at secondary school, after 15 years of doing it I feel incredibly selfish for wanting more/better than we currently have.

And now I feel bad for moaning

Ginger

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm made to feel guilty about the way I look, and about me going out and living my life.

I don't know why people have to slate others and put other people down. It's childish and pathetic and makes them look bitter and jealous.

We are each our own person to do as we wish in our lives, so I get on and live my life how I wish, and stick 2 fingers up to the jealous people.

Now how I look, they do have a point as I need to loose weight, but why people have to make such derogatory comments is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?"

I would never go out of my way to hurt or make someone feel small. If I unintentionally do, I feel guilty. I find most people I interact with feel the same.

I like a quite spot and, those that know me know I'm not being rude, they accept that it's just me and don't lay any guilt trips on me. I very rarely get to spend time at home all to myself so relish the opportunity sometimes to stay in and crank my guitar up to 11, even if I miss a good party.

I've never agreed with the masses for the sake of getting on, I only agree with people if I think they are right (I realise that doesn't make them right).

People still ridicule and try to make out I'm the silly one for being a vegetarian. I've been a vegetarian for 32years, I've heard it all and am still listening to it now... I couldn't give a fuck, it's water off a ducks back.

My passion for things... some appreciate it, some don't. I admire passion in other people, as long as it isn't borderline extremism and they're prepared to listen as well as talk.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life? "

Nop

" Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot? "

Nop

" Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses? "

Definitely not

" Frowned upon for your passion? "

Not that i no of

" What are you made to feel guilty of by others?"

I don't let anyone make me fill guilty.

I am hoo i am and i like wot i like. If sumone don't like that well I'm not changing just cos of sumones opinion unless I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

..."

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel guilty when I endulge in chocolates! But regarding other things no! I don't want to hurt people. I just want to be myself and I won't be someone else ! Family and friends will respect me and I do the same . Pressure will not work . "

This for me too.

I have a friend that used to make me feel guilty, but then I realised that he was doing the same thing that he made me feel horribly guilty about and it was like a massive weight had been lifted off me.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

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Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant. "

And these were the scenarios I was thinking of.

Christmas...I enjoy it. But I hate being called a humbug because I didn't fancy coming along to a do with people I have nothing in common with, pretending to have a great time. I'm perfectly happy, but why am I a humbug because I didn't do what they wanted !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a Catholic. We wrote the book on guilt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant.

And these were the scenarios I was thinking of.

Argh Christmas!! I love it for the first 6 weeks. But hate the actual day and can't wait for it to be over.

I'm such a miserable cow, people have mostly stopped asking me to go to events.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant. "

They got up and left. Some people tried to make me feel bad but my wife backed me up and that's all that mattered to me. She'd also been on her phone, messaging me mainly. We had a nice dinner once they'd fucked off and left.

One family member tried to make me feel bad. I just told them that the situation happened because they didn't have the balls to tell their friends that it was a family dinner and they weren't invited.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I'm a Catholic. We wrote the book on guilt!"

Which nobody actually follows properly, except the one family you see in every church with 8 kids who did everything to the letter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope not at all I like my own company from time to time and if someone wants to manipulate me with a guilt trip because I choose not to interact then they're wasting their own time and emotions. "

Exactly this ^^^ enjoy my own life and let others enjoy theirs! When I make mistakes, own them and it's up to me to put right!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When I was a teenager my parents had the same man for dinner every week. I used to go out when he came round and he always made a fuss saying I shouldn't go out when they had "guesties". I still went out. I didn't invite him.

Looking back on his actions during that time I can't believe my parents were so stupid.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant.

And these were the scenarios I was thinking of.

Argh Christmas!! I love it for the first 6 weeks. But hate the actual day and can't wait for it to be over.

I'm such a miserable cow, people have mostly stopped asking me to go to events.

You don't choose your family members. If i could, I would have chosen ones with some sort of self awareness of what a tedious conversation sounds like. One particular highlight from last Christmas:

"So did you drive her today?"

Me: "yes"

"In your car or hers?"

"My car"

"Which road did you come down"

"I don't know the name, i just do what the sat nav says"

"What was the speed limit?"

Honestly sometimes it feels like a prank show where someone is trying to piss you off to see at what point you snap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Someone tried to dress me down over the fact I was using my phone at a (group) dinner last year. I didn't feel guilty. In fact i told them that:

A. They were monopolising the conversation

B. Everything they were saying was boring

C. They'd invited themselves to the dinner and I wouldn't have come if i knew they were invited

That's just how we roll

...

Was it a work's do? I never imagined you'd have friends.

I'd love to buy you a beer.

Make it a JD and and I'm there.

No it was a family thing, those people weren't family and hence I felt victim to a bait and switch, my heart sort of sank the moment they sat at the table.

Ugh I feel your pain. Hate those situations. I bet the air was tense after you said it. Brilliant.

And these were the scenarios I was thinking of.

Argh Christmas!! I love it for the first 6 weeks. But hate the actual day and can't wait for it to be over.

I'm such a miserable cow, people have mostly stopped asking me to go to events.

You don't choose your family members. If i could, I would have chosen ones with some sort of self awareness of what a tedious conversation sounds like. One particular highlight from last Christmas:

"So did you drive her today?"

Me: "yes"

"In your car or hers?"

"My car"

"Which road did you come down"

"I don't know the name, i just do what the sat nav says"

"What was the speed limit?"

Honestly sometimes it feels like a prank show where someone is trying to piss you off to see at what point you snap. "

I'll ask you all these when we have a beer.

Changing the subject works great. Ask them the same questions.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?"

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

People are always trying to make me feel guilty. They laugh at me because I use linen napkins at work, giggle because I have proper cutlery. Imply that I shouldn't have semi- retired early because decent people work hard. Tell me I shouldn't drink so much coffee, eat so much cake, wear more/less make up, dress more age appropriately...the list goes on.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong."

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things "

Which two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do guilt. I try my best, and that's good enough.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I don't do guilt. I try my best, and that's good enough.

ditto

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’ve never been a sheep, I’ve always done my own thing. I’ve encouraged my children to do the same. I love individuality in ppl and their quirks.

Not agreeing with the crowd has been met with passive aggression at times. Ppl within a particular group recently thought that would make me fall into line. Not a chance, this is the person who in secondary school used to tell the tough girls that smoked that it was a bad idea. My friends used to stand open mouthed but the girls that smoked respected the fact I stood up to them. Funnily enough one of the girls has recently stopped smoking, she messaged me on Facebook, ‘you were right, are you happy now?’ It made me chuckle.

I’m happier doing what’s right for me but I recognise that’s not right for everyone else. I may not agree with others choices but making them feel guilty isn’t the right thing to do. Nor is using passive aggressiveness to coerce them. I’d rather state my opinion and reasoning then ppl either accept it or they don’t.

I have been made to feel guilty in a personal relationship. The person knew that my children are the only thing that could be used to manipulate me. It’s changed how I respond to situations in relationships, that upsets me. I don’t want to think of others badly because of previous experiences.

Inflicting feelings of guilt on others is a deplorable thing and can cause irreparable damage.

I read this somewhere once, I think it’s very poignant.

‘I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel guilty that im an awkward twat who usually too busy to meet people so sometimes must say no

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’ve never been a sheep, I’ve always done my own thing. I’ve encouraged my children to do the same. I love individuality in ppl and their quirks.

Inflicting feelings of guilt on others is a deplorable thing and can cause irreparable damage.

I read this somewhere once, I think it’s very poignant.

‘I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves’

That came from the heart Pink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel guilty all by myself over things I can't control but feel I should.

I have really great and understanding people in my life which is probably worse because I feel the guilt I imagine they should make me feel but don't.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

Which two? "

The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

Which two?

The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine. "

Phew whittled it down to one

Non combative question. Why would you rip on me for being retired, if I was?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I feel guilty all by myself over things I can't control but feel I should.

I have really great and understanding people in my life which is probably worse because I feel the guilt I imagine they should make me feel but don't. "

Blimey. That must be a burden

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

Which two?

The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine.

Phew whittled it down to one

Non combative question. Why would you rip on me for being retired, if I was? "

Personally i use a lot of contractors who are semi retired. I always tell them I am saving them from boredom and they struggle to fill their time without me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

Which two?

The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine.

Phew whittled it down to one

Non combative question. Why would you rip on me for being retired, if I was?

Personally i use a lot of contractors who are semi retired. I always tell them I am saving them from boredom and they struggle to fill their time without me. "

Yes that's pretty much what people say to me.

I manage to fill the rest of my days with bingo and macrame

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?

I see what you mean now. I misunderstood initially.

A lot of it is because people lack the imagination to realise that if someone is different to them it doesn't mean they're doing something wrong.

To be fair to them, I'd rip on you for two of those things

Which two?

The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine.

Phew whittled it down to one

Non combative question. Why would you rip on me for being retired, if I was?

Personally i use a lot of contractors who are semi retired. I always tell them I am saving them from boredom and they struggle to fill their time without me.

Yes that's pretty much what people say to me.

I manage to fill the rest of my days with bingo and macrame

I bet they spend their days just praying for the phone to ring

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over a year ago

No one can make you feel anything.

Unless you let them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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The napkins. I was going to say retired, but realised you put semi-retired and that's fine.

Phew whittled it down to one

Non combative question. Why would you rip on me for being retired, if I was?

Personally i use a lot of contractors who are semi retired. I always tell them I am saving them from boredom and they struggle to fill their time without me.

Yes that's pretty much what people say to me.

I manage to fill the rest of my days with bingo and macrame

I bet they spend their days just praying for the phone to ring"

Pretty much but I manage to pass the time embroidering linen napkins...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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"No one can make you feel anything.

Unless you let them?"

With something like this I agree but another person's actions can make you feel hurt or sad

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"No one can make you feel anything.

Unless you let them?

With something like this I agree but another person's actions can make you feel hurt or sad "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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I used to have a terrible guilt that i hadnt breast fed my son and given him the best start in life. I was surrounded everywhere by breast is best. He was 8 weeks prem and had to be tube fed i didnt have a say in the matter but for years i carried the guilt round with me

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A few years ago I told my friends who work at Tesco that I want to be a writer and that it's the one thing I really want to do as a career.

So I asked them if they wanted to do something other than work at Tesco, if they had aspirations to do more with their life. I wasn't trying to be a dick, but they flipped it and made out I was saying they weren't good enough, almost as if I was accusing them of being losers (I wasn't) for not having aspirations and dreams.

It made me feel like I shouldn't rise above my station as a cleaner and that I should never strive to do something with my life. It felt like they were saying ''this is your lot, just like ours, be happy with it''.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

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"A few years ago I told my friends who work at Tesco that I want to be a writer and that it's the one thing I really want to do as a career.

I've had that so much in the past. Inverse snobbery is rife, whatever you say will get twisted. Eventually it becomes impossible to have a conversation with those people. That was my experience of working in a supermarket as a student. Other minimum wage jobs didn't have the same problem for whatever reason, but supermarkets are full of this view.

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"A few years ago I told my friends who work at Tesco that I want to be a writer and that it's the one thing I really want to do as a career.

Have you embarked on a career as a writer?

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"A few years ago I told my friends who work at Tesco that I want to be a writer and that it's the one thing I really want to do as a career.

Have you embarked on a career as a writer?"

Yes and no. I'm an amateur screenwriter, I write or try to write everyday, but I haven't put my work out there, so I guess it's more of a hobby at the moment.

Honestly it feels like it's always going to be a hobby. I don't think I'm good enough to really try and make it as a professional screenwriter. I want to, but I don't know something holds me back. Most amateur screenwriters have to be fucking special to sell one of their scripts and I don't think I have what it takes unfortunately. We'll see.

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"A few years ago I told my friends who work at Tesco that I want to be a writer and that it's the one thing I really want to do as a career.

Have you embarked on a career as a writer?

Yes and no. I'm an amateur screenwriter, I write or try to write everyday, but I haven't put my work out there, so I guess it's more of a hobby at the moment.

I don't think many writers make a full time living from it. Writing for its own sake can be a pleasure though.

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over a year ago

" Made to feel. Not if you actually feel guilt, but the influences in your life?

Are you made to feel guilty for not wanting to socialise with every one, but prefer to dissapear to a quiet spot?

Pressured to agree with popular choices and ridiculed for not following the masses?

Frowned upon for your passion?

What are you made to feel guilty of by others?"

Nobody *makes* me feel guilty but I manage to do it all by myself without too much help

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