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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever.

Been single 16/17 months now longest I ever have been on my own n starting to think this may be it for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally no. I have been single for 10 years, and plan to stay that way

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By *anclassWoman
over a year ago

manchester

yes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your only bloody 39. I didnt meet my life partner till i was 40

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes


"Hoping what they say is true and life begins at 40 lol "

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Ive been single 10 years and yes sometimes you start to think it will be forever

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury


"Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever.

Been single 16/17 months now longest I ever have been on my own n starting to think this may be it for life "

You're only 39 and a good looking woman. In 16 or 17 years yes start to worry.

There are lots of posts about finding that special someone on here recently.

My thinking is that if you don't find what you're looking for in the places youve looked Then maybe you're looking in the wrong places?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been single 10 years and yes sometimes you start to think it will be forever "

U wont be i know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever.

Been single 16/17 months now longest I ever have been on my own n starting to think this may be it for life "

Can't see why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always, I get told I'm a good looking lad with a cracking personality but this is always from my mates other halfs.

I've focussed on my career perhaps too much over the past few years and I've set myself the target to really put myself out there and find someone now.

Fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What will be will be.... don’t worry, be happy...

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

3yrs of being single and getting fed up with it. All the usual dating sites are a waste of time and pretty much given up trying for meets on here. Mainly come on just for a mooch and browse the forums. Feels a lot harder to meet people these days.

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

Aww I am happy.... just so many friends around me at mo lived up...married, babies etc.... made me philosophise over it all I think.

and it was my own choice to end my relationship and become single lol.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aww I am happy.... just so many friends around me at mo lived up...married, babies etc.... made me philosophise over it all I think.

and it was my own choice to end my relationship and become single lol..... "

Sure you'll be snapped up, if that's what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. All the time. I've been single for almost 10 years now.

This time next month I'll be closer to 50 than I am to 20. I'm pretty sure my space on the shelf is now for life.

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

At some point yes..... hope so lol

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I was single for 13 years after I divorce my ex. Just didn't want anyone in my kids lives. I had loads of fun swinging though, lots of FWBs and FBs.

Stop looking for the one and enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. All the time. I've been single for almost 10 years now.

This time next month I'll be closer to 50 than I am to 20. I'm pretty sure my space on the shelf is now for life. "

Having had a sneaky peak at your profile... I suddenly have felt no injection of hope into my love life..

God bless you lol

Great profile btw x

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

I actually didn’t honestly think I’d been looking .....

but met prob 2 men on here now that I’ve really fancied and thought ooooh I’d love to come home to u every night... lol

I’ll stop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually didn’t honestly think I’d been looking .....

but met prob 2 men on here now that I’ve really fancied and thought ooooh I’d love to come home to u every night... lol

I’ll stop lol

Go for it if it's what you'd like.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy to be on the shelf, as I enjoy my freedom far to much, and I accepted that I was going to be single a long time ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy to be on the shelf, as I enjoy my freedom far to much, and I accepted that I was going to be single a long time ago "

Fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy to be on the shelf, as I enjoy my freedom far to much, and I accepted that I was going to be single a long time ago

Fair play "

Always play fair and fast

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. Each day is great and I'll be single or in a relationship at the right times - there's no rush in life, just live it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy to be on the shelf, as I enjoy my freedom far to much, and I accepted that I was going to be single a long time ago

Fair play

Always play fair and fast "

Fair play... sometimes slow works just a good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love and a relationship can come along at any time. Just be visible and who knows?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy to be on the shelf, as I enjoy my freedom far to much, and I accepted that I was going to be single a long time ago

Fair play

Always play fair and fast

Fair play... sometimes slow works just a good "

If I ever decide to take it easy...

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At age nearly 52,living in a small town and,quite frankly,being a bit of a niche taste,I pretty much feel that my chances of finding long term love are quite slim,,,,,,,,but,I have to say,I love the view from up here on the shelf,there's a lot of fun to be had without having to drag a partner around with me all the time.

I don't look on togetherness as being the key to happiness. The thing I value above all else in my life is my freedom.

Just giving my point of view,maybe an alternative way to look at the issue. It works for me,it could work for you,OP. XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aww I am happy.... just so many friends around me at mo lived up...married, babies etc.... made me philosophise over it all I think.

and it was my own choice to end my relationship and become single lol..... "

It’s hard sometimes, but I think of it this way. There’s every chance, at some point, that I’ll have children and will be struggling to even have a wee in peace. So, I’m going to live every second that I’m single so I don’t regret wasting it when I’m probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aww I am happy.... just so many friends around me at mo lived up...married, babies etc.... made me philosophise over it all I think.

and it was my own choice to end my relationship and become single lol.....

It’s hard sometimes, but I think of it this way. There’s every chance, at some point, that I’ll have children and will be struggling to even have a wee in peace. So, I’m going to live every second that I’m single so I don’t regret wasting it when I’m probably not. "

That should say enjoy every second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single for 8 yrs and couldn't be happier about it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Yes. I'm fast approaching 40, never been married, never even been asked,no kids and just feel like I'm wasting my life really.

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes


"At age nearly 52,living in a small town and,quite frankly,being a bit of a niche taste,I pretty much feel that my chances of finding long term love are quite slim,,,,,,,,but,I have to say,I love the view from up here on the shelf,there's a lot of fun to be had without having to drag a partner around with me all the time.

I don't look on togetherness as being the key to happiness. The thing I value above all else in my life is my freedom.

Very true..... I’m not saying I’m not happy... I’m just saying I hope to find love/companionship at some point x

Just giving my point of view,maybe an alternative way to look at the issue. It works for me,it could work for you,OP. XX"

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By *acko9568Man
over a year ago

saltburn

Married, widowed, married, divorced. You never know what is round the corner. Enjoy your life with all it throws at you and suddenly you will chance upon the opportunity that changes everything. YOLO X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever.

Been single 16/17 months now longest I ever have been on my own n starting to think this may be it for life "
You have nothing to worry about a good looking lady such as yourself will be fine....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

25 years happily single ... never even wondered about it and have never seen it as a problem! All my choice and who knows what tomorrow will bring ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If i meet someone who wants a relationship with me and i want a relationship with him then great, if i don’t meet someone then that’s ok.

Life is too short to hang around waiting for “the one”.

And i think we over romanticise relationships. Yes they can be awesome, but they can be hard work too at times.

I would love to be in a loving relationship again, and i’m lucky in that i have had that in the past, so unless a man truly adores me i won’t settle, especially not for the sake of not being single.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I just climbed back on the shelf after far too long with a chap who wasn’t the one. I’m in no hurry to leave my spot. I’m a great believer in carrying on with life. I never thought I’d be single and happy in my mid 30s but damn am I enjoying it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just about to get back on that shelf again, it’s a scary thought at my age. But I deserve more than what I was getting. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have my very own shelf. Been single for longer than I care to admit. Get told all the time I'm a lovely woman and a keeper yet no one wants to keep me. Have come to the conclusion that it's me whos scared to take the plunge or then again maybe I haven't met the right man. Still happy to keep looking and having fun doing it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single 15 years and my shelf is nicely decorated with flowers and me sitting in the middle just waiting for someone to join me. Maybe here a while

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever. "

Yes i do at times.

I'm 30 now and I've been singing for the larst 30 years.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Do any of you guys on here every worry that your going to be left on the shelf and single forever.

"

Just recently been thinking this having been single for 12 years now. I know I'm over thinking things and almost looking for reasons for not getting into a relationship, although I do miss being in one.

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes


"No. If i meet someone who wants a relationship with me and i want a relationship with him then great, if i don’t meet someone then that’s ok.

Life is too short to hang around waiting for “the one”.

And i think we over romanticise relationships. Yes they can be awesome, but they can be hard work too at times.

I agree life is to short.... your right we do over romanticise

I definately wouldn’t settle either....

I would love to be in a loving relationship again, and i’m lucky in that i have had that in the past, so unless a man truly adores me i won’t settle, especially not for the sake of not being single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I might be by my own admission. Been single for 6 months after a 17 year relationship. Been asked out quite a few times but the thought of being with someone else terrifies me. Not just the relationship part, the intimate part too. I thought coming on here would be a quick fix, how wrong was I. I'm young, nice looking, funny and have a great life and still can't get over my fear. Hopefully will change over time

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By *ancfem OP   Woman
over a year ago

widnes

Aww I hope so hun.... my last relationship was the worse I’ve had... in terms of him being controlling etc.... knocked my confidence hugely... and prob like you y I’ve stayed single.

But I find now the guys I fancy are wayyyyy out of my league lol

I’m not in a rush in anyway at all just worry that I’ll be on my own for life now

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I thought people had stopped using "on the shelf" about the same time people stopped thinking that a woman's existence was pointless if she wasn't attached to a man...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aww I hope so hun.... my last relationship was the worse I’ve had... in terms of him being controlling etc.... knocked my confidence hugely... and prob like you y I’ve stayed single.

But I find now the guys I fancy are wayyyyy out of my league lol

I’m not in a rush in anyway at all just worry that I’ll be on my own for life now"

Oh I can hold my own on the looks front and I'm not short of offers I'm just really sceptical now when it comes to relationships. My life couldn't get any better but this scares the shit out of me. I also have my ex to thank for that Until my mindset changes I'll have a damm good party on my wee shelf

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

The only thing I worry about is having an accident or dying at home with nobody to find me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing I worry about is having an accident or dying at home with nobody to find me "

I fell down the stairs and knocked myself out last week. My mum said if you were still married that wouldn't have happened

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The only thing I worry about is having an accident or dying at home with nobody to find me

I fell down the stairs and knocked myself out last week. My mum said if you were still married that wouldn't have happened "

Of course it wouldn't, married people don't fall down stairs. Ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I do. I've only ever had one girlfriend and I met her when I was 25. I wanted a partner for a long time, but it just never happened. Now it feels like I'm gonna be single forever. Unfortunately it's because I'm still in love with my ex and want her back as sad and pathetic that sounds.

Even though she's moved on I feel kinda guilty being on here and on POF. I don't want a proper relationship, just something casual to distract me, but even then I feel like I'm in the wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been single 7 years .... def comfortable on this flipping shelf now

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yes, I've been single 12 plus years

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