FabSwingers.com forum: Yes we are on a swingers site

By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Yes we are on a sex site but we are all human at the end of the day. We should all respect others and be kind and caring. Saying this because I'm fed up with so called men being rude and aggressive. Just because a lady has said no or that they are not interested

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have had fewer than five abusive messages in all our time on here. We find single men to be very pleasant on the whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed ! This is y we dnt reply to pms ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had an abusive message, haven't had to reject anybody yet though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shouldn't matter where we are. People should just not be rude. If only!

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Is the lady's that get the shit .. weather is here or other apps .. then people wonder y they hardly talk .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we are on a sex site but we are all human at the end of the day. We should all respect others and be kind and caring. Saying this because I'm fed up with so called men being rude and aggressive. Just because a lady has said no or that they are not interested"

then she should report and block...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed ! This is y we dnt reply to pms ... "

Fibber

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

People do get reported but can easly make another account.. plus i have heard of people getting reported but there accounts not gone.. Is this cos there a paying member

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"People do get reported but can easly make another account.. plus i have heard of people getting reported but there accounts not gone.. Is this cos there a paying member"

No it isn't. I'll post the way admin deal with reports in my next post

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks .. are you a admin

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks .. are you a admin "

No, a forum mod.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Somebody doing a decent thread yay

And in our favour

Been on here five years had alot of abuse and yes before any comments I do report and block but it still makes me feel like crap and hits my anxiety and often leads me to feeling crap about myself and not wanting to give others a chance on here for fear of more abuse..it's just how humans are programmed

But yes agreed don't know why rather than be rude people don't just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Agreed ! This is y we dnt reply to pms ... "

Same. Bit I don't think we can win. If i reply no thanks ( i sually say sorry not meeting anyone new at the moment) i get abuse and if i dont reply I get abuse. I'm afraid as in real life we are going to come up against ignorant people. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men don't have the opportunity to be rude and aggressive with me...

I feel sorry for the men that have up deal with the delicate flowers

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod."

What's a forum mod

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

If i get a reply saying sorry not meeting or not my type. I generally say no worries thank you for getting back to me and I hope you have a lovely week.. Manners and respect don't cost anything

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod.

What's a forum mod "

A forum moderator. We try to make sure the rules don't get broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i get a reply saying sorry not meeting or not my type. I generally say no worries thank you for getting back to me and I hope you have a lovely week.. Manners and respect don't cost anything"

Manners and respect work both ways.

I've had mostly nice replies from men when I've said no thanks. They aren't all horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont tend to get abusive messages. Ocassionally a troll will pop up, who I may troll back for a bit, depending on my mood or until I get bored.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You tell 'em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i get a reply saying sorry not meeting or not my type. I generally say no worries thank you for getting back to me and I hope you have a lovely week.. Manners and respect don't cost anything"

Yawn...it costs me even less to not bother replying at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block everyone. Easy life and no abuse.

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod.

What's a forum mod

A forum moderator. We try to make sure the rules don't get broken.

Ohh are you the one that's banned me before

is lovely too meet you . I'm actually a decent bloke just a bit of a moody brat

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"If i get a reply saying sorry not meeting or not my type. I generally say no worries thank you for getting back to me and I hope you have a lovely week.. Manners and respect don't cost anything

Yawn...it costs me even less to not bother replying at all

Good for you .. enjoy ya weekend

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod.

What's a forum mod

A forum moderator. We try to make sure the rules don't get broken.

Ohh are you the one that's banned me before

is lovely too meet you . I'm actually a decent bloke just a bit of a moody brat"

It's nice to meet you too but it's not a good idea to discuss bans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i get a reply saying sorry not meeting or not my type. I generally say no worries thank you for getting back to me and I hope you have a lovely week.. Manners and respect don't cost anything

Yawn...it costs me even less to not bother replying at all

Good for you .. enjoy ya weekend "

I will. Thanks. It's great not having pointless chats and having no abuse

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t get abuse. When I send a ‘no thank you’ message I generally receive a message back saying thanks for the reply. If I did get abuse then I suppose I would change my approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed ! This is y we dnt reply to pms ...

Fibber

most pm's

u know the faf kinda ones .... please not even a hi how r u

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the abuse thing is luck of the draw. I've had a lot, especially when my profile was "not meeting due to injury". Some were abusive right from the word go, others when I said "sorry, I'm in hospital", more when I hid my profile, etc.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never got abused or given any just here for fun banter giggles and the occasional ride

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

So it definitely does sound like luck of the draw . So strange how some people do and others don't

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldnt be here if i got the amount of abuse some say they get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So it definitely does sound like luck of the draw . So strange how some people do and others don't "

I don't think it's luck of the draw. It is down to how you present yourself and your profile. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had fewer than five abusive messages in all our time on here. We find single men to be very pleasant on the whole."

Some (most) are lovely,some (a very few), less so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed ! This is y we dnt reply to pms ...

It's not just women who get this though and in our experience it's not always a male only account tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt be here if i got the amount of abuse some say they get"

Its why we killed our last account...had a instant block list when we rejoined this time though

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We've never had abuse. I never had any as a single woman either.

Reap what you sow.

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By *ancfemWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Well said....... I’ve had the odd rude/vile message when I’ve politely replied to a message saying...

“ as lovely as you are , sadly your not my type, but good luck “

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Ah, well, I’m sure they’ll all stop now, eh.

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Ah, well, I’m sure they’ll all stop now, eh."

Thanks for your comments have a lovely weekend

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

How dare you!! I'm not human. I'm from the planet Zarquon IV.

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

How dare you!! I'm not human. I'm from the planet Zarquon IV."

And you just made me spit my drink all over the dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod.

What's a forum mod "

They like Madness and The Jam.

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By *apstar OP Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

"Thanks .. are you a admin

No, a forum mod.

What's a forum mod

They like Madness and The Jam."

Who dosnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So it definitely does sound like luck of the draw . So strange how some people do and others don't

I don't think it's luck of the draw. It is down to how you present yourself and your profile. Simple. "

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