FabSwingers.com forum: That feeling before a first meet...

By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

So you've connected with someone on here, flirt, come to the conclusion there's chemistry and finally agree to arrange a meet. You fancy the person and are eager to see if they live up to your expectations. What goes through your mind and how do you feel when you set out for the meet? Nervous, excited, anxious, calm? A butterflies in stomach mess or icy cool? Anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you've connected with someone on here, flirt, come to the conclusion there's chemistry and finally agree to arrange a meet. You fancy the person and are eager to see if they live up to your expectations. What goes through your mind and how do you feel when you set out for the meet? Nervous, excited, anxious, calm? A butterflies in stomach mess or icy cool? Anyone?"

I don’t get excited anymore I just go with an open mind and see if there’s a connection in person or if they are actually the person they’ve said they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I know gets “fanny butterflies”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a mess till i actually meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actual melt down.

I’m pretty stunted in adulting and have a stench of cray-cray and desperation. I hate it when people realise, it’s such a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep the day I stop being nervous is the day I stop. Soon a so walk in though ice cool

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Someone I know gets “fanny butterflies”"

Lol

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I am always absolutely terrified. Terrified that they think they will have been catfished (despite the fact they will have seen plenty of current but flattering pics), terrified that they will think I’m stupid, terrified that I will like them more than they like me (which is frankly the story of my life), terrified that they will message me on the way home and say thanks but no thanks.

And a tiny bit excited.

There are times when I wonder why I put myself through the anxiety of a new meet..!

I still get a bit nervous when I have repeat meets with people. There a couple of guys I meet pretty regularly and we know each other really really well, and I still get a bit nervous before I see them. Ridiculous considering I’ve known them both about a year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

minge twinges and butterflies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep the day I stop being nervous is the day I stop. Soon a so walk in though ice cool

*Soon as I.... see I even get tongue tied!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a mess till i actually meet them

Ooooh. You don't say

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I am always absolutely terrified. Terrified that they think they will have been catfished (despite the fact they will have seen plenty of current but flattering pics), terrified that they will think I’m stupid, terrified that I will like them more than they like me (which is frankly the story of my life), terrified that they will message me on the way home and say thanks but no thanks.

And a tiny bit excited.

There are times when I wonder why I put myself through the anxiety of a new meet..!

And in spite of so many fears and nerves you persevere and ultimately enjoy yourself. Well done

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

So nervous I could actually be ill. I wonder why I’m doing it, where do they keep their axe etc etc. My hands shake. It’s a shame because I’m sure I don’t show people what I’m actually like because I let nerves get in the way.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

The feeling of relief when you realise you get on is immense though. And if the appreciation is mutual, moving on to the next stage is exciting, but the terror kicks in again then too.

What if they don’t like my body, they think I’m too fat, my skills aren’t as good as I thought, maybe I kiss like a fish.

I try to rein in the needy, low self esteem, desperate for reassurance bit of me afterwards, but usual fail miserably and end up sending a message saying “great to meet you, had lots of fun but totally understand if you don’t want to see me again” which makes me look sad as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a mess till i actually meet them

Ooooh. You don't say

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Perhaps its because i'm a very outgoing person who enjoys social interaction, but I don't get nervous before a meet. I just get really excited and always have a warm smile to greet the person when I first see them

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Am always nervous

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Quim quivers and nervously exhilarated - it's like an intoxicating, heady mix of lust and a slight tinge of worried 'I hope they like me enough to have sex with' thoughts.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Quim quivers and nervously exhilarated - it's like an intoxicating, heady mix of lust and a slight tinge of worried 'I hope they like me enough to have sex with' thoughts. "

What a telling sensation that must be!

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"Perhaps its because i'm a very outgoing person who enjoys social interaction, but I don't get nervous before a meet. I just get really excited and always have a warm smile to greet the person when I first see them

I’m very envious! I’d love to be like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we go for social meet I feel absolutely calm as I go only half expecting for the other party to turn up and if they do only half expecting for it to go any further than just social.

When it's the first play meet then I get excited. Not nervous - purely excited. By the time the meet turns up I'm well turned on by the thought of what's coming alone

Mrs

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I’m very envious! I’d love to be like that "

It's easier than it sounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I save the excitement for when we've both arrived, I Just get slightly stressed before then. I feign confidence when I arrive but my hands will be shaking and my stomach will be fluttering wildly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really excited , turning to a tad nervous , turning to totally relaxed..

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I save the excitement for when we've both arrived, I Just get slightly stressed before then. I feign confidence when I arrive but my hands will be shaking and my stomach will be fluttering wildly.

Wouldn't be surprised if you provoked the same reaction on the other person

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

As I treat fab the same as if I was meeting someone from a dating site, its a social! I cant stand the word "play".

Since we would have messaged and spoken over a reasonable period of time and already build up a rapper. I feel excited about meeting them but have no expectations. I dont get nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fairly new to this and haven’t met anyone yet. It’d be a social first and I’m usually cool with meeting someone in that situation.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't get nervous before a social, and just excited before a play meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a wonderful exciting build up. A little bit of nerves. A little horny. Most excited.

As I get ready and go on my journey it builds and, if all goes to plan, ends in a wonderful orgasm and then there's silence and stillness and off we go all over again

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I don't get nervous before a social, and just excited before a play meet

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I’m a bag of nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a mixture of nerves and excitement. I tend to think, why the hell am I putting myself through this again... it will all turn to shit.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

First time meeting someone, i'm usually a gibbering wreck.

I giggle & tend to talk too much when I'm nervous, I know I do it, so then I start thinking, they'll think I'm a raving lunatic, and try to act cool & not say too much, then I worry they'll think I'm boring.

Seeing someone regularly, I still get excited, I'm like a kid at Christmas for days before, butterflies & silly smiles.

I hope that feeling never stops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nerves are part of what makes me love meeting!

The day I dont get them will be when I dont meet anymore.

I chanel them positively though- the adrenaline rush can be intoxicating.

I hope I am honest enough with my profile, pictures and messaging that people meeting me don't feel that I am very different in reality- at least, no one has said that!

Mostly I get told that I am exactly like I am on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly some anticipation, curiosity, butterflies, a hope we'll get on (usually do!) ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nervous as hell. Adrenaline pumping through me to the extent that i get the shakes.

Then the first kiss and all is normal. Bit the initial rush on the way to the meet is incredible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get nerves as i meet strangers for a job

But i do love the excitement of waiting for it to happen it reminds me of being a kid on christmas eve when u dont know what santa will bring you

Id meet everyday if i could no matter the reason its a special feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv only got butterflies once tho that was the first one because i thought it must be someone playing a joke on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definite nerves, hoping they like me, I like them and there's a spark! If there's a connection then it's a bloody amazing feeling!

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

What's a meet???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get Quivers down my back bone

I get the quivers down the thigh bone

Yeah i get tremors in my back bone

In fact immmmmm Shakin' all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get Quivers down my back bone

I get the quivers down the thigh bone

Yeah i get tremors in my back bone

In fact immmmmm Shakin' all over

Showing your age Tosh.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If it's a social then it's mostly excitement mixed with all the 'what ifs' my rambling mind can conjure up. If I find that I'm really attracted to them then I have to concentrate really hard at listening to them as all I can think about is kissing their mouth.

If it's a first play meet then I tend to be a bit more on the nervous side.

If it's a repeat play meet then the adrenaline is pumping, the flutters are doing mad things in my pants, and I'm raring to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one personal social meet and I was nervous as hell and full of butterflies.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I get Quivers down my back bone

I get the quivers down the thigh bone

Yeah i get tremors in my back bone

In fact immmmmm Shakin' all over

Showing your age Tosh. "

Haha!

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Wow...very interesting feedback

From what i've read, half the posts describe an addictive cocktail of nerves / dread and excitement and others of sheer nerves bordering on terror!

I suppose that nervous feeling can play both ways....either add an element of excitement or be a source of frustration that compromises one's ability to engage and interact.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm always excited meeting new people for anything - as they're unknown and unpredictable, potentially different in many ways from others you know. They can spark your own creativity and tap the unexplored aspects of your own personality - that's not to mention all the things you can explore doing differently.

New people - yes! I love novelty

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"What's a meet???

Cheeky tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume they aren't going to turn up, so I don't really feel anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worth it for that first time you see a guy undress your wife feeling though!

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"It's a mixture of nerves and excitement. I tend to think, why the hell am I putting myself through this again... it will all turn to shit. "

It's a pity you feel that way

i've found if you approach situations with a positive mindset, more often than not they'll play out better

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In the days/hours leading up to a meet I get nervous/anxious/worried beyond belief - what if they don't like me in person, what if the sex isn't great, what if I choose the wrong shirt and more besides - then once I'm ready an air of inevitability that I can't back out now kicks in and I just go into quiet yet determined mode.

Fortunately once I'm there I've usually chatted to the person for long enough beforehand to be able to find things to talk about and I tend to just go with the flow although there's still a lot of self-doubt lurking in the background unless we immediately 'click', which, when it happens is a great feeling that sweeps away any concerns immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I just assume they aren't going to turn up, so I don't really feel anything."

I wouldn’t go as far as assuming they won’t turn up, but probably the thought “fuck! they’re here!” flashes quite prominently when they arrive.

I guess it’s the same mix of nerves and excitement for me that others have said. Especially after they’ve arrived and there is still that anticipation of not knowing how far things will go or if anything will happen.

One of my first meets almost went wrong, as the Air B&B was almost a little too hard for the taxi to find. Fortunately it did, and was a good little ice breaker.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online "

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x"

It does and is hard work! Guys think it's ok to say just about anything on here though to get a meet so unless my imagination is well and truly stimulated I don't tend to meet anymore. Luckily have an amazing life so this is only a very small extra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x

Good outlook to have and so correct.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x

Most everything is achieved through hard work

the rewards become all that more satisfying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before a social I get slightly nervous but that's about it really. Only one meet had left me in a total nervous excited state but that's because we had let it build up like crazy before the meet and was really into each other so I would have been gutted had he not liked me or vice versa when we did meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x

Most everything is achieved through hard work

the rewards become all that more satisfying

Agreed love hard graft

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm the same! And an outgoing person so treat it the same as I do when meeting anyone at any time! Less than excited now as people rarely seem to be how they come across online

I've been fortunate so far as that hasn't happened to me. I'm very observant and chat quite a bit before deciding to meet someone. I suppose that helps x

Most everything is achieved through hard work

the rewards become all that more satisfying

Agreed love hard graft

The best kind!

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Before a social I get slightly nervous but that's about it really. Only one meet had left me in a total nervous excited state but that's because we had let it build up like crazy before the meet and was really into each other so I would have been gutted had he not liked me or vice versa when we did meet "

I assume it all went well then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume it all went well then?

Very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous that I’m shaking. Then the butterflies in my stomach start, and the worry that they won’t like me. But once I’ve met them I calm down x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1-2-1 social I'm cool.

Group social, inside I'm a wreck.

Any play meets I'm nervous, excited, but the nerves soon go.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I assume it all went well then?

Very well

Its for that reason I adore the fab experience

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