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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv done it but wont again now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s pure hypocrisy. If someone is telling me this then surely they don’t like my personality ? So why do they want to fuck me ?

They also think I don’t want both. I can be picky ! (Which is how I know I’ve struck gold with Mrs Glos)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't.

End of in my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

Done it with a larger girl... was surprisingly one of my best times in bed. She made me climax more than any other girl, and took it on the chin (literally)

She was attractive, but not the usual body type that I go for. I went in a bit reluctantly

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm probably strange in this. You can tick all my boxes in terms of what I lust after, but if your personality is wrong (for me) my attraction diminishes. Whereas as long as I don't find someone physically repulsive (which is worse than not being attracted to them), I can become attracted to them based on their personality.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

For me the most important thing is connection. I had a meet a couple of days ago and was actually quite relieved when she told me there was no spark of attraction as I'd struggled to connect with her all night (bloody hard work). Lovely girl though I did enjoy my time.

I guess with a lot of guys on this site they just see it as a sex site for people wanting sex. So if you have a pussy and they have a cock all the basic criterias have been met and you're simply being picky wanting attraction

Have you heard of double bagging?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person "

Anyone who doesn't respect your no or wants to force you through something unpleasant is by definition not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around.

Done it with a larger girl... was surprisingly one of my best times in bed. She made me climax more than any other girl, and took it on the chin (literally)

She was attractive, but not the usual body type that I go for. I went in a bit reluctantly"

I want a man that will give me a pity fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person "

I think that's just desperation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around.

Done it with a larger girl... was surprisingly one of my best times in bed. She made me climax more than any other girl, and took it on the chin (literally)

She was attractive, but not the usual body type that I go for. I went in a bit reluctantly

I want a man that will give me a pity fuck.

"

You hinting at something?

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person

I think that's just desperation "

Seems to be! Place is getting worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person

Anyone who doesn't respect your no or wants to force you through something unpleasant is by definition not nice. "

And desperate for a fuck.

(Not that they're desperate for wanting to meet the OP. x)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who do dogging just want genitalia.

Glory.holes the same.

I've fucked someone I didn't fancy, it wasn't worth it....

I have to connect.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

For me, attraction is as much in the mind as it is physical. What are you going to do when you first meet if you can't have a good conversation?

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Mental attraction is key for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me. Physical attraction. Then mental attraction. Then build up until I feel comfortable with them. I'm hard work

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"I can't.

End of in my case

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Also me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think (don't shoot me) a lot of guys will fuck anything on here. They don't need to be attracted to someone physically, they just want to get their cocks wet!

Ps what's double bagging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is complex. For some people it's about looks, for others it's about connection, personality, intelligence etc ...

I'm more in the connection camp. Connection first (personality, conversation, humour, cheekiness ...), looks second. I've found that some of the best sex is with ladies who many wouldn't think are attractive just from looks.

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person

Anyone who doesn't respect your no or wants to force you through something unpleasant is by definition not nice.

And desperate for a fuck.

(Not that they're desperate for wanting to meet the OP. x)"

Haha thanks SH! I'd be happy with a nice looking person with a person with and wit. Just seems to be lacking in these parts. Men message when dick in hand and horny and once they've had a wank you don't hear from them again. Or stand you up haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's about both for me. Though i have spoken to some, who may not have originally been my type, but their personality has been so great, that I've found myself becoming attracted over time. It doesn't happen often and only happens with those who i think are not bad looking to begin with. It's also gone the other way. Where someone is really handsome. As you get to know them, you realise there is no banter there and they become less attractive. If i don't find someone even slightly attractive though, then i couldn't bring myself to meet them for play.

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"I think (don't shoot me) a lot of guys will fuck anything on here. They don't need to be attracted to someone physically, they just want to get their cocks wet!

Ps what's double bagging?"

2 condoms or one bag on head and one on their knob? I'm assuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

paper bag over the OP's head and am down with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think (don't shoot me) a lot of guys will fuck anything on here. They don't need to be attracted to someone physically, they just want to get their cocks wet!

Ps what's double bagging?"

Yeah some seem to just want a wank with a personality.

Double bagging ... you wear a bag as well in case hers falls off..... or wearing two condoms because she’s that dirty.

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Oh and if someone is attractive but a knob head I won't meet them either. I've met some gorgeous people who struggle to hold a conversation and that is where i leave it

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By *uriouskitty29Woman
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

My juices wouldn’t be able to get flowing if I didn’t have a physical attraction to someone , but connection is key too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around.

Done it with a larger girl... was surprisingly one of my best times in bed. She made me climax more than any other girl, and took it on the chin (literally)

She was attractive, but not the usual body type that I go for. I went in a bit reluctantly

I want a man that will give me a pity fuck.

"
I keep offering

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

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Double bagging ... you wear a bag as well in case hers falls off..... or wearing two condoms because she’s that dirty. "

Oh I see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

Optimists? No, the first attraction is physical, then I have to like the person. I couldn't have sex with an attractive person without a connection. May as well just have a wank. Far less fuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think (don't shoot me) a lot of guys will fuck anything on here. They don't need to be attracted to someone physically, they just want to get their cocks wet!

Ps what's double bagging?"

Well that’s the whole basis of fab straight isn’t it! Those guys that will just fuck anyone so long as they get a fuck...

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We need both...The initial physical attraction from their pics and the intellectual/personality attraction from their profile and messages until we meet. That's not saying we meet everyone who provides us with both as a dodgy message at any point can make a 100% nailed on fuck become another blocklister.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

There has to be an attraction for looks and personalality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only did it once and hated it

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

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Double bagging ... you wear a bag as well in case hers falls off..... or wearing two condoms because she’s that dirty.

Oh I see!

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And if I can put my serious hat on for a second - wearing two condoms means that they are more likely to split. Be safe kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality and a nice gash..

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

No I can’t. There has to be some attraction first.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It has to be both otherwise things will just not work as they should.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

As people have said, attraction is a weird thing - there are people you don't really think of in that way who over time become the object of your affection.

I think it would be harder to go with someone with an unattractive personality than someone who was physically unattractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with."

I'm shocked...particularly as it was the best sex I ever had..

*feeling humiliated

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By *ceans80Man
over a year ago

dublin

Definitely has to be connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with.

I'm shocked...particularly as it was the best sex I ever had..

*feeling humiliated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with.

I'm shocked...particularly as it was the best sex I ever had..

*feeling humiliated

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thats the last time I'll let anyone suck popcorn from my arsepipe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with.

I'm shocked...particularly as it was the best sex I ever had..

*feeling humiliated

thats the last time I'll let anyone suck popcorn from my arsepipe"

Well I needed to get the savoury taste from somewhere and you only bought sweet.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

wouldnt say attraction as thats not bound to looks alone personally im not that bothered by how a fem looks it is more about how we get on while i understand for others its about phisical apperance

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Lots of girls will have sex because they are needy, not because they are attracted to a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope there has to be some sort of attraction x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couple times that I’ve had sex with someone that I wasn’t physcally attracted to (but liked their personality), were both the worst sex I’ve had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are growers I guess...

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Nah, there has to be something about them physically that I fancy. That might not be immediate and their personality might help but I need a bit of chemistry and that includes a bit of physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an attraction for me to want to fuck anyone man or lady. I’m a self confessed picky fucker! OP FAF?

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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"There has to be an attraction for me to want to fuck anyone man or lady. I’m a self confessed picky fucker! OP FAF?

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Thought you'd never ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There has to be an attraction for me to want to fuck anyone man or lady. I’m a self confessed picky fucker! OP FAF?

Thought you'd never ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I would see if sex with someone I wasn't instantly attracted to could be good.

I couldn't decide who the lucky man would be

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Some people are growers I guess..."

This

Ive met someone that I wouldnt have looked twice at in the real world just not my type at all as Im attracted to toned/muscler fit guys and he was skinny but I think sometimes we are drawn into the person and or charm overtime and pictures can be alittle deceptive..

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By *allisto2000Woman
over a year ago

Stafford ish

"Oh and if someone is attractive but a knob head I won't meet them either. I've met some gorgeous people who struggle to hold a conversation and that is where i leave it "

Completely agree with you on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite the general assumption that a single male will fuck anything, I am actually quite fussy and have to have some attraction, be it visual or personality, it's a bonus if it's both.

There are a couple of ladies on here that I would dearly love to meet who have both, but sadly my age doesn't fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mental attraction is key for me..."

Good job im chicken oriental then init

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

I think this is sligtly easier for me to do as we are visual creatures and most boobs and bums look the same. Lol

On a more serious note I think physical attraction is the key element as you have to fancy the prson or at least find them vaguely attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mental attraction is key for me..."
as in you attract the mental ones right?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"People who do dogging just want genitalia.

Glory.holes the same.

I've fucked someone I didn't fancy, it wasn't worth it....

I have to connect."

Absolute nonsense ... we do dogging and sonly play with those we are attracted to. It's always been that way for us .

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By *traightguy101Man
over a year ago

Darlington

being attracted to them and having the chemistry to go with it, is a boon. Don't think I could sleep with someone I didn't find attractive.

Everyone has there own standard it should be respected.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

Nope. Couldn't get it on with somebody I don't fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

there always has to be a spark otherwise what's the point

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I’ve never been so apprehensive to open a thread, in case someone I have played with has said they would absolutely fuck without attraction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never been so apprehensive to open a thread, in case someone I have played with has said they would absolutely fuck without attraction! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did to end a 2 year dry spell. Not proud of it and it really opened my eyes to who I'd be prepared to have sex with.

I'm shocked...particularly as it was the best sex I ever had..

*feeling humiliated

thats the last time I'll let anyone suck popcorn from my arsepipe

Well I needed to get the savoury taste from somewhere and you only bought sweet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me it's a pretty bizarre concept yet get plenty messages from ppl telling me I shouldn't have to be attracted physically and that I should pick personality over looks.

However on a site such as fab the first measure is physical attraction.....i mean I'm not gonna message someone I think is ugly and hope we get along so I can fuck them.

So where does fuckin without attraction come into it?

Can you? How can you?

I'm not having a go at anyone btw merely trying to wrap head around. "

I'll put my hands up and I have had sex with women as a favour that I haven't liked the look of or just didn't think of them in that way (even when they was good in bed).

When I've done it in the past to help a friend out with her needs I found it just to feel more awkward than anything and she has actually been asking me again tonight to sort her out soon, she's a good looking girl and has everything I like about a woman and is good in bed (so obviously I cum) but just doesn't feel right.

With someone I've slept with as a favour (not in a bad way!! ) that I didn't like the look of one bit, there's just nothing there for me. It's more like I'm just dancing than having sex, no nice sexual feeling and I have to try and make my self cum just so they don't feel bad.

Personally I prefer to have sex with someone I get on with and get the feeling I just wanna fuck there brains out if there naked around me. If it's not a favour for a friend or I'm not d*unk I won't tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be attracted I couldn’t do it otherwise if I wanted ugly I’d of stayed married x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could but why would I?

You need both personality and physical attraction to have the best time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many times a guy will message saying he could make me cum..... when I reply not my type or not interested I get told I should allow them cos they're nice people and I can think of someone else

which to me defeats the purpose of meeting a person "

'Allow them' funny as ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't I ever get these weird messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't I ever get these weird messages?"

I try often!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Met a chap once, tall, dark & handsome, fit as fuck, French, rugby player. Charming and polite but there was zero spark.

Was keen and could have jumped him for bragging rights but couldn't.

Took one for the team once in a bi MMMF with my ex that went sour as didn't fancy one of them. Had to make my excuses and ask him to leave. Yes I felt like a bitch but respect what goes in and around body (except cake)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't I ever get these weird messages?

I try often!

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You need to be weirder to qualify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't I ever get these weird messages?

I try often!

You need to be weirder to qualify

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But surely I’m not that weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't I ever get these weird messages?

I try often!

You need to be weirder to qualify

But surely I’m not that weird?"

Exactly!

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