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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Friendship.

What’s it all about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very good question

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A very good question "

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

Friendship is weird; you meet another person think to yourself I like this one and do stuff together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

Someone who's completely honest with and make you laugh till you cry. They also offer before you have to ask and you feel as comfortable on their house as you do yours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal supporters trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum."

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ? "

Yes... always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

You pick a human, take it to the tills and say "I like this one"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s about, trust, loyalty, a bond and humour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*beach volleyball scene, Top Gun*

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?

Friendship is weird; you meet another person think to yourself I like this one and do stuff together.

That's it in a nutshell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*beach volleyball scene, Top Gun*"

Gayest seen in cinema.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*beach volleyball scene, Top Gun*

Gayest seen in cinema."

Absolutely!

That and the shower scene...

Actually the whole film is a giant gay fest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always"

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"*beach volleyball scene, Top Gun*"

I have a need to re-stage this scene with Fabsters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just about knowing they are there, I can go six months without speaking to a few friends but I know if I turned on on their doorstep I’d be welcomed with open arms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then! "

You can... just Top Gun friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then! "

I love you man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*beach volleyball scene, Top Gun*

I have a need for speed. "

FTFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?

Someone who's completely honest with and make you laugh till you cry. They also offer before you have to ask and you feel as comfortable on their house as you do yours x"

spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!"

Me too but in an heterosexual way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way "

I like you too but not sexually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

Different things to different people. I had a friend who told me that she "used" her friends for different purposes. One for talking to, one for going out with, one for feeling superior to (yes really) etc. While I don't agree with the way she expressed it and her cynical view of friendship, she had a point. I do different things with different friends but I don't see it as using.

I have three people apart from Mr N who I count as friends. All three take me for what I am even though I'm sure I must annoy them intensely at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing"

It’s also a heterosexual thing, hard to understand for gay and bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing

It’s also a heterosexual thing, hard to understand for gay and bi men

Think gay and bi men can have platonic relationships with men too. They don’t fancy every man on the planet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing

It’s also a heterosexual thing, hard to understand for gay and bi men

Think gay and bi men can have platonic relationships with men too. They don’t fancy every man on the planet. "

Wait for the guy to jump in to tell you denial is a horrible thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me friendship is about being there for someone.. to listen.. to care... to laugh... to have fun with but also be there no matter what... to be a shoulder and to hold them if needed or to be a sounding board or to rant and cry if needed.. as a friend I expect nothing in return. But hopefully it is reciprocated!!

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

Something that's wonderful and desirible in theory but, for me, in reality it's a significant source of frustration, anxiety and sadness. My experience of real friendship has been a rare one and it's one of those taken for granted life skills I just don't seem to be very good at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing

It’s also a heterosexual thing, hard to understand for gay and bi men

Think gay and bi men can have platonic relationships with men too. They don’t fancy every man on the planet.

Wait for the guy to jump in to tell you denial is a horrible thing "

Yeah, that was a joke...

I have plenty of platonic relationships with people of any sex, I’m less likely to jump on people full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count the number of people I know in hundreds, maybe thousands.

I count my friends one one hand. Those who I would always be there for whatever they need and whenever they need it. Those who I would stand in front of the oncoming bus to protect.

Those who even if they hurt me I will never walk away from and who I would give all that I have for.

And those I know would do the same for me.

There's a fortune in friendship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can count the number of people I know in hundreds, maybe thousands.

I count my friends one one hand. Those who I would always be there for whatever they need and whenever they need it. Those who I would stand in front of the oncoming bus to protect.

Those who even if they hurt me I will never walk away from and who I would give all that I have for.

And those I know would do the same for me.

There's a fortune in friendship..."

Your right... I only count my true friends on one hand!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People you can rely on no matter what. You can be your wonderful weird and disgusting self around and feel safe that you know way too many of their secrets for them to ever tell anyone yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretending to be friends to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretending to be friends to get a fuck. "

What ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very good question

Friendship is both the realm of non-sex, non-feelings and yet, also entirely the realm of sex and feelings.

It’s a conundrum.

You saying there’s an undercurrent of sexual feelings between platonic straight males ?

Yes... always

Sorry Tame we can't be friend anymore then!

I love you man!

Me too but in an heterosexual way

I like you too but not sexually

Denial is a horrible thing

It’s also a heterosexual thing, hard to understand for gay and bi men

Think gay and bi men can have platonic relationships with men too. They don’t fancy every man on the planet.

Wait for the guy to jump in to tell you denial is a horrible thing

Yeah, that was a joke...

I have plenty of platonic relationships with people of any sex, I’m less likely to jump on people full stop"

My sore is saying the opposite !

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

Love, philial love mostly, with ludos if you're my friend! And in my book mutual respect and loyalty.

Very, very few people are truly loyal nowadays, or even appreciate loyalty to be honest, but I hold that virtue in the highest regard.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Or according to Facebook the other day:

'A friend is someone who listens to your bullshit, calls it bullshit, and then listens some more.'

I can relate.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking frankly, friendships can be difficult to gain and to maintain. In certain areas of life there just isn’t always the ability or the people to forge those close connections, especially for men with families or commitments to their time.

One of the things that was unexpected from my previous time on fab was the amount of friendships that I found through swinging and meeting.

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By *umpsimusMan
over a year ago

Camberley

Friendship is NOT pinching money out of your coin collector . . . Ok, Piggy Bank (glorified, with total display)

as one of mine has done this week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship is NOT pinching money out of your coin collector . . . Ok, Piggy Bank (glorified, with total display)

as one of mine has done this week

How do you know they did that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When each person is secure enough to not want to compete with the other.

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By *umpsimusMan
over a year ago

Camberley

"Friendship is NOT pinching money out of your coin collector . . . Ok, Piggy Bank (glorified, with total display)

as one of mine has done this week

How do you know they did that?

It's like one of those old sweet jars. Screw top with counter. Put a few coins in the other evening and found the top wasn't tight. Hmmmm . . .

I only put 5. 10 and 20p out of my pocket into it. Yesterday morning I placed a 50p under the top 10p. Result . . . Different position for lid and 50p gone, no doubt along with a handful of coins

He's staying with me at the moment. He'll be spoken to tonight when I get home.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Friends are the family you chose.

My 5 close friends weve been friends for 30 years. Weve been through everything together. We where all single when we met (or early relationships) we are all now grandmas. Been through everything together but yes i can only describe them as the family i chose. I do have other close friends and they are the same but some live away so i dont see them often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendship.

What’s it all about?"

No idea..

Im a crap friend as i dont make much effort to stay in touch...

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Someone who ‘gets you’ is my perfect kind of friendship

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Friendship is about a third of the way through the dictionary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Friendship is about a third of the way through the dictionary."

I’m hoping you did an actual visual check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends to me is a connection with someone you care about deeply, want only the best for. You have each others backs, no matter what. They will be honest with you, when everyone is just agreeing for less drama. Is loyal and someone you can confide in..... Though that's more the definition of a true friend. There are a lot of fake friends, or convenient friends also.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I’m hoping you did an actual visual check."

Obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I think of my best friendships, I think of understanding, laughing, and being apart of something wonderful. Most of mine have been there for 25 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I think of my best friendships, I think of understanding, laughing, and being apart of something wonderful. Most of mine have been there for 25 years

A part*

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

That’s quite the typo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends any more. I had one from 5years old until I was about 29. My husband saw her off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s quite the typo!

I’ve done worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendship is about brojobs and kissing your homies goodnight. x

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Talking crap and no self edits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having someone there to support you in life, be there to share the good times and the bad and bring humour to every situation. That's what I call good friends.

Then there's also those 'friends' who are there for filthy fuckery.

I'm lucky that I have a fair few of those friends and 'friends'.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Friends are the people you can share your bad news with and they will keep it to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends any more. I had one from 5years old until I was about 29. My husband saw her off. "

Have you ever tried to get back in touch with her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some of my friends it means we promise to meet up often, we know it's been too long. Life gets in the way. When we do though, we are just as close as ever.

For others over the years I've learnt that the friendships have meant more to me than them.

Some friends though are the family we choose.

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