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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage

I would like to begin by saying I've never been naive enough to be cuaght for money before but i think it has just happened to me on this site and I'm sure I'm not the only male as others signed up to.

There was a couple last weekend advertising a gangbang of 3 women and up to 6 males in the Ramada in Solihull for this weekend both Friday and Saturday night. They were verified by 4 people on the site, admittedly I did not check those people out.

Stupidly i did not write down their user name so i cant even check that, im usually way more clever and smart about things like this.

All seemed legit and they asked for a deposit of £40 upfront which is fair enough as i know there can be a lot of time wasters, so i paid the deposit and they took my number and said they would be in contact through Whatsapp on Thursday(you know whats coming right)

Today is Thursday and no message and I went into my messages on this site and all messages are gone from this couple, I didn't know that was a possibility to erase messages from here.I thought you could see them but the deleted beside them?

Is there any way of tracing these people/person?

If any of the men are reading this that signed up please get in contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you fab any of their pics ? Looked at your sent messages ?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You need a change of username OP

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

How did you pay the deposit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need a change of username OP "

Eloquent and elegant. Still laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Facepalm)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh babe. They saw you coming. You've been had. Chalk it down to experience and spend your money on going to a club instead. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Facepalm)"

You're obviously down with the yuff, Sam, what does that mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Facepalm)

You're obviously down with the yuff, Sam, what does that mean? "

When you’ve done something you know was daft and just clap your hand to your face and look to the sky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've blocked you then the messages disappear, same as if they leave the site. Without a username not a lit you can do to check which it is.

Put it down to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They will.have messaged you... Bet they have blocked you tho.

How did you pay? Online banking or a direct money transfer.....

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Sometimes people criticise my tight-fistedness, but then I see threads like this.....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If you send me £40 I'll try to trace them for you

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

If their messages have disappeared from your inbox, they have been removed from the site by admin I would think.

Probably for asking for money in return for sex?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"If you send me £40 I'll try to trace them for you "

It's rare a post actually makes me laugh out loud....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you send me £40 I'll try to trace them for you "

Cannot believe I didn’t think of that !

(Facepalm)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only ten pints of lager ,or a new pair of shoes , or nice shirt .....

id try contacting your bank , see if they can help ..

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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage

That's hysterical and quite witty, it did make me laugh.

To all that asked i paid by bank transfer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they deleted their account. Not much you can do if their messages have gone from your inbox. Depending on how you sent the money you could contact the police- if you have their bank account or paypal details they might be able to help.

Lesson learned. Don't feel any worse than you do already. At least it wasn't more money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its only ten pints of lager ,or a new pair of shoes , or nice shirt .....

id try contacting your bank , see if they can help .."

14.29 pints here

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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage


"If you send me £40 I'll try to trace them for you "

Hilarious, fool me once and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fool and his money..... we've all heard the saying before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are real men... Hats off for putting this out in public, not may would do.

If they have deleted their profile then all the messages will be gone. I am sure they will create the new profile soon, with similar game, and they may even approach you, so wait for you turn....

Try speaking with admin, to see any way to track them.

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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage


"its only ten pints of lager ,or a new pair of shoes , or nice shirt .....

id try contacting your bank , see if they can help .."

Its not even about the money, I think it's more to do with the fact I was had

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"That's hysterical and quite witty, it did make me laugh.

To all that asked i paid by bank transfer"

Technically I think you could report it to the police as they had defrauded you. Please can i come to the station with you when you explain what happened?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

There's little point dwelling on it, i'd try to forget it & move on. A mistake's ok as long as you don't make it twice

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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage


"There's little point dwelling on it, i'd try to forget it & move on. A mistake's ok as long as you don't make it twice "

I'm truly embarrassed I made it the first time

You are right it's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Facepalm)

You're obviously down with the yuff, Sam, what does that mean?

When you’ve done something you know was daft and just clap your hand to your face and look to the sky"

Hope do you look at the sky with your hands over your face?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The money is gone, they have gone, move on. £40 isn’t that much (if you can afford just to put down a deposit like that anyway lol).

Chalk it up to experience, you know the signs now and if that’s the kind of thing you want try a club, money for entry of course and you don’t know if it will happen but at least you’ve paid money for something that you’ve physically seen.

I know it sucks (well in your case not) but you’ve learned from it.

Geeky x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You left a deposit. Perhaps not the sort you hoped you’d be leaving....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's 40 quid, not 40 grand. Chalk it down and consider it a relatively cheap education.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head) "

"God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time"

Robyn Williams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head) "

Small brain thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple never ever pay for sex. Plenty of nice people on here who like us all are just looking for nsa mutial fun.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head)

"God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time"

Robyn Williams "

Sounds about right

But OP what amount would the 'con' have caused you to think more? Would it be £50, £100 or more? I am genuinely interested. I just don't understand how you were thinking at the time as making the bank transfer, you definitely need a complete head wobble

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By *ogue-neMan
over a year ago

durham

Could be worse, could have put £50 on argentina winning the world cup

#facepalm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to begin by saying I've never been naive enough to be cuaght for money before but i think it has just happened to me on this site and I'm sure I'm not the only male as others signed up to.

There was a couple last weekend advertising a gangbang of 3 women and up to 6 males in the Ramada in Solihull for this weekend both Friday and Saturday night. They were verified by 4 people on the site, admittedly I did not check those people out.

Stupidly i did not write down their user name so i cant even check that, im usually way more clever and smart about things like this.

All seemed legit and they asked for a deposit of £40 upfront which is fair enough as i know there can be a lot of time wasters, so i paid the deposit and they took my number and said they would be in contact through Whatsapp on Thursday(you know whats coming right)

Today is Thursday and no message and I went into my messages on this site and all messages are gone from this couple, I didn't know that was a possibility to erase messages from here.I thought you could see them but the deleted beside them?

Is there any way of tracing these people/person?

If any of the men are reading this that signed up please get in contact"
it's only 40 quid leave it and take it as lesson learnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head) "
ah now I've heard lot women been defrauded for lot more then that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head) ah now I've heard lot women been defrauded for lot more then that lol"
the con artists were verified by several others. It wasn't stupidity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they were removed by admin, probably got reported for asking for money. A deleted profile mostly the messages stay and say unlos.All you can do is chalk it down to experience, move on and next time anyone asks you for money, report them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head)

"God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time"

Robyn Williams

Sounds about right

But OP what amount would the 'con' have caused you to think more? Would it be £50, £100 or more? I am genuinely interested. I just don't understand how you were thinking at the time as making the bank transfer, you definitely need a complete head wobble "

Honest question..... if a woman posted that she was defrauded by a verified couple after 2 weeks on Fab?

Would you give her hugs?

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By *uckyirish84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stevenage

Not that I have much of a defence, yes I know it was stupid but it's not uncommon to see ganbangs advertised and to be held in a hotel suite, and it's not uncommon for all males attending to be asked to contribute to the cost of a hotel suite which i think is only fair.

I done a small amount of research into before transfering money across eg. I checked they had verifications so I had no reasons and there was no signs to believe this wasn't legit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head)

"God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time"

Robyn Williams

Sounds about right

But OP what amount would the 'con' have caused you to think more? Would it be £50, £100 or more? I am genuinely interested. I just don't understand how you were thinking at the time as making the bank transfer, you definitely need a complete head wobble

Honest question..... if a woman posted that she was defrauded by a verified couple after 2 weeks on Fab?

Would you give her hugs?"

The thread would be very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I have much of a defence, yes I know it was stupid but it's not uncommon to see ganbangs advertised and to be held in a hotel suite, and it's not uncommon for all males attending to be asked to contribute to the cost of a hotel suite which i think is only fair.

I done a small amount of research into before transfering money across eg. I checked they had verifications so I had no reasons and there was no signs to believe this wasn't legit"

You made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. You did try and check them out. Smile... it's weekend.

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By *igchestddWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Whoops bless you .. I wouldn't charge you lol x you shouldn't be greedy xx

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's 40 quid, not 40 grand. Chalk it down and consider it a relatively cheap education. "

At first glance I read that as 'cheap ejaculation'..doh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone answer why some men are soo fucking stupid?

I really don't understand it (shakes head)

"God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time"

Robyn Williams

Sounds about right

But OP what amount would the 'con' have caused you to think more? Would it be £50, £100 or more? I am genuinely interested. I just don't understand how you were thinking at the time as making the bank transfer, you definitely need a complete head wobble

Honest question..... if a woman posted that she was defrauded by a verified couple after 2 weeks on Fab?

Would you give her hugs?

The thread would be very different. "

Ok ..... this guy is new and seems like a nice guy....

I call this the paying your dues stage of swinging... we all have to go through this at the beginning but all the bad encounters we have then ... turn into great stories later in life...

To make you not feel bad Op .. this happened to me on my second ever meet ,1 month into swinging...

Met this girl for a drink at a posh hotel Bar in Manhattan.... she insisted on a social first due to safety... no problem....

She had modeling pics on her profile , showed up looking super skinny with lots of makeup...we have a drink, start flirty and touching. Things are going great , I’m definitely getting sex....

Then She ask me to buy her a pack of cigarettes, because she wanted to smoke. I said no problem we can get some on the way to my apartment.... she says no no . I’m not ready yet , I want to drink more. Give me the money I’ll go and get them. Not wanting to seem pushy and seeing I still had a bar tab open , I said ok.

I only had 100’s in my money clip. So I handed her a 100 bill and went back to the bar... that was the last time I saw her....

Moral of the story.... I never open bar tabs when meeting anyone for sex nor buy them cigarettes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow just wow

Some guys will do awt to get there end away

My advise punish your cock for being a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's 40 quid, not 40 grand. Chalk it down and consider it a relatively cheap education.

At first glance I read that as 'cheap ejaculation'..doh! "

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