FabSwingers.com forum: Better offer

By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Would you rather be told you've been passed over for a better offer or be left in the dark?

I think I'd rather be told to be honest.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I appreciate honesty

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

To be told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appreciate honesty"

Snap, so long as it's polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% honesty should always be done! I can’t understand why people can’t do that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me pls are we done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not be told they had a better offer but be told it’s not working or happening....

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

You normally find out when they stick up the veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather be told I think

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I am soooooooo used to being dropped like a hot potato for better offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You normally find out when they stick up the veri

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"100% honesty should always be done! I can’t understand why people can’t do that!!

I defy anyone to have a better offer then you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would rather be told than find out some other way

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

Maybe but some do.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If I'm cancelled with plenty of notice I'm not that bothered

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By *exyangeleyesMan
over a year ago

london

I would rather be told, no matter how much it hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% honesty should always be done! I can’t understand why people can’t do that!!

I agree. Sadly that is not the case. After all this is fab. You do and say what you like. The chances of you seeing them are 0. But then why should they tell you they have a better offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

Maybe but some do. "

Think it's more than just some?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather be told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

Of course not but they do, keeping their options open!! When they go silent that is usually a sign they are working on something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be told it's not happening yes but I don't think someone needs to tell you they prefer someone else over you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% honesty should always be done! I can’t understand why people can’t do that!!

I agree. Sadly that is not the case. After all this is fab. You do and say what you like. The chances of you seeing them are 0. But then why should they tell you they have a better offer."

Agreed it is fab and that means it happens.. but there’s way of doing things... but here or in real life it happens!! I just like to behave how I would like others to be with me! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can normally sense it so probably no need to be told.

It's like love island if anyone watched it tonight. Could see it playing out, the girls can sense the distance and the guy pulling away which made them act in irrational ways which in turn pushed the guys away anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd defo prefer to be told every time. I'd hate to get ready for a meet and then have a no show!

If someone took the time to tell me and be honest I'd be ok with it

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'd rather be told honestly, I'm a big girl, I'm not going to wail n' cry - being led on, kept dangling, then slapped in the face with numerous veris... That does hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like them to give another excuse than be told they've had a better offer, I don't think it's a nice thing to be told. I'd never tell someone that I've had a better offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once told someone they were the 2nd choice because the 1st choice cancelled.

I have no idea why I do these stupid things sometimes.

She still met me

Goes to show, honesty is king!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like to know - their business is none if mine.

I doubt I'd get myself in a position to ever have to do it on gere as I'm fairly particular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% honesty should always be done! I can’t understand why people can’t do that!!

I defy anyone to have a better offer then you x"

You’d be surprised!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't like to know - their business is none if mine.

I doubt I'd get myself in a position to ever have to do it on gere as I'm fairly particular."

As particular as me?

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

Just to be told not for us but thank you for the interest would be nice instead of being blanked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be left in the dark. Don't need details of why someone doesn't want to chat or meet me

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Don't tell me. Keep me on the reserve list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would rather not be told, I don't like the idea of being someone's backup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that’s something I don’t need to know.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me pls are we done

Nooooo never!!

honest!!!

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I wouldn't worry about it and get on

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If we've made arrangements to meet and he then arranges to meet someone else instead I would definitely want to be told and not left hanging or lied to about the reasons for the cancellation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell me pls are we done

Nooooo never!!

honest!!!

Woop woop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally. I stick to my planned meet and arrange a date with the other one.

It might not of been a better offer.

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden

Somone arranged 2 meet me .. then put up a meet .. didn't here from her for 2 hours and she was like are we meeting now .. I said no cos I felt like she was waiting for a better offer . Do you think I did the right thing

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Somone arranged 2 meet me .. then put up a meet .. didn't here from her for 2 hours and she was like are we meeting now .. I said no cos I felt like she was waiting for a better offer . Do you think I did the right thing "

Yes, absolutely.

I'd rather someone was honest with me and told me they were meeting someone else. I wouldn't make other arrangements with them though ~ there's no second chances in Lickville!!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Can normally sense it so probably no need to be told.

Exactly this .

We watched it and fair play to Rosie , she held it together really well when she told Adam what a dick he was .

But when the other one squirted cream at Wes and it went in his eye she just looked childish ad stupid .

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden

Yes, absolutely.

I'd rather someone was honest with me and told me they were meeting someone else. I wouldn't make other arrangements with them though ~ there's no second chances in Lickville!!"

It made me feel like second best yes she was good looking but I don't care how good looking somone is . If they act like that there not for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can't meet me for whatever reason I would rather be told. Maybe not because they've had a better offer though. Bit harsh on the old self esteem that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone can't meet me for whatever reason I would rather be told. Maybe not because they've had a better offer though. Bit harsh on the old self esteem that. "

Exactly this that would crush someone at least ask if a 3somes a possability

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Rather be told in a respectful way, especially if their meeting time and place is included, so success will be better assured for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

It's their life to live how they choose though.

It's not something that I would do though and in answer to the OP, I would rather be told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to be told that they had a better offer. Perhaps that they found someone more suited to their needs would be nicer. It just seems a bit callous to me. In all honesty, i would hate to think that i would speak to someone who would be so tactless with their words, if they no longer wanted to meet me, because they felt they were meeting someone better

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Wouldn't bother me (and it has actually happened) they soon come running back once their "better offer" stands them up or was a shit shag then you get the karmic effect of saying "sorry I've found better since you did"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brass shines just like gold.

I wonder just how many of those supposed better offers ever really are

If another decides someone is a better offer there is no way and no point in trying to change their mind.

When they discover the offer wasn't better, or doesn't turn out to be they expected, then who has really lost out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once planned something for months . booked hotel . booked days holiday. got too 2 weeks before and she started making excuses. Then on the weekend we was we suppose to meet a veri went up saying she had spent that weekend with someone . i would of rather her been honest then just deceive me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love when you make plans with someone... then the night of the meet 2-5 hours before the meet, thier cat dies/Mom is sick/Work called so they have to cancel.... no problem.... then at 1 am they text you asking if you can meet now....

I always say sure I’ll come right over... then I stop answering text.... the next day I tell them ....Sorry I fell asleep...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised by the Amount of women commenting on this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I need to be told, I always know instinctively and block and move on. Am not good at being second best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's get realistic here... who's gonna get a better offer than me??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an invite to a bloke I meet sometimes to his house at Easter. Next thing I get a message saying he's met a dirty woman from another site and can I come to his house at Easter to play with her arse and fuck her because SHE wants to try FF. I ghosted him and haven't met him since XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to be told that they had a better offer. Perhaps that they found someone more suited to their needs would be nicer. It just seems a bit callous to me. In all honesty, i would hate to think that i would speak to someone who would be so tactless with their words, if they no longer wanted to meet me, because they felt they were meeting someone better

Same.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I had this year's ago

Arranged to meet, day before said he couldn't male it as he was now having his kids,fair enough.

The next day he displayed a new verification,I wish he had just been honest about it.I offer socials the 1st ,but the new meet he had was just a straight to it judging by the verie.

I'd rather people were truthful ,I'd have more respect for them if they were.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Be told.

At lest that way you no wots happening. And don't purtencharley wast your time.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

You'll see when they've post the veri.....

I'd rather ppl just had balls and said. Saves a lot of time wasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here."

I don't think anyone should feel grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here."

I’m sorry you’re completely wrong.... no man worth his salt is grateful for a meet...attractive people do very well in real life and don’t need the internet to have sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here.

I’m sorry you’re completely wrong.... no man worth his salt is grateful for a meet...attractive people do very well in real life and don’t need the internet to have sex..."

Only ugly people use t'internet for a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone no longer wished to meet me then i would appreciate them telling me, diplomatically.

I would do the same.

I wouldn’t want to know the details, but likewise i wouldn’t want to be strung along. Afterall, there are plenty more fish in the sea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here.

I’m sorry you’re completely wrong.... no man worth his salt is grateful for a meet...attractive people do very well in real life and don’t need the internet to have sex...

Only ugly people use t'internet for a shag.

No I just think people can become jaded by the amount of attention they receive online... statements like “ women will always have the upper hand , and men should be grateful “

Screams superiority

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

To be told. But like most on here they don't reply when this occurs.

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By *ike_TrishaCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I’d rather be told to f*ck off I/we stink or something than just being left To wait around

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

Anyone telling me they had a better offer would be telling a big fat lie

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Maybe they shouldn't be making plans to meet others when they already have plans?

Of course not but they do, keeping their options open!! When they go silent that is usually a sign they are working on something else

Ah that's how it works, thought as much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the better offer just thought u should know that ladys

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I'd just like an offer.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather be told a really elaborate and convincing lie whereby they turn it around and I actually begin to feel sympathetic as to why the meet got cancelled. I still can't believe someone threw a paper airplane at her and gave her papercuts on both eyes causing her to walk off a cliff and break her skull. I hope she's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the single males here are constantly pulling out of meets because they had a better offer.

Or is it you who had the better offer, OP? In that case, just delete and block the interior offer.

Single males should be grateful to get a reply to a message, a meet is always going to be tough. The ladies will always have the upper hand here.

I’m sorry you’re completely wrong.... no man worth his salt is grateful for a meet...attractive people do very well in real life and don’t need the internet to have sex...

Only ugly people use t'internet for a shag.

No I just think people can become jaded by the amount of attention they receive online... statements like “ women will always have the upper hand , and men should be grateful “

Screams superiority

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"I once planned something for months . booked hotel . booked days holiday. got too 2 weeks before and she started making excuses. Then on the weekend we was we suppose to meet a veri went up saying she had spent that weekend with someone . i would of rather her been honest then just deceive me "

She missed out then didnt she. Hope you got yourself another date .

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