FabSwingers.com forum: bareback is it idiocy?

By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

Is it just me or are these idiots who boast how their partner will only go bareback just dicing with stds and possibly death?

We were messaged the other day by a couple on here who demanded if we met that me and Sir dont use anything how stupid did they think we were? Plus proved they hadnt read profile.

Makes you wonder if they dont already have something and are spreading it about. Thoughts please....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my personal opinion on this subject is so long as they respect my rules if we meet i really dont care what they do with other people

There are so many people on here who will go bare back but never admit it i really wouldnt base the reason you meet someone by wether they use condoms or not

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"my personal opinion on this subject is so long as they respect my rules if we meet i really dont care what they do with other people

There are so many people on here who will go bare back but never admit it i really wouldnt base the reason you meet someone by wether they use condoms or not "

Its the fact it was demanded we didnt scared us off

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i long gave up replying to these kinds of threads but im bored. other people can do what they like im only interested in me and and what the person im shagging do. dont understand what you mean about demanded. if they said we demand you dont wear a condom i would of pissed myself laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my personal opinion on this subject is so long as they respect my rules if we meet i really dont care what they do with other people

There are so many people on here who will go bare back but never admit it i really wouldnt base the reason you meet someone by wether they use condoms or not

Its the fact it was demanded we didnt scared us off "

to be honest id have told them to f**king off for any reason if they demanded it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, it's personal choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it's personal choice..."
still stupid personal choice or not

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"No, it's personal choice... still stupid personal choice or not

sure, in your opinion stupid, the OP thinks idiocy... I think personal choice and as adults they can do what they want... we are all responsible for our own decisions and I am not here to judge others for what they do.

A condom reduces risk. Not sleeping with strangers and being exclusive to one sexual partner and ENSURING they are exclusive to you... is safe sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are these idiots who boast how their partner will only go bareback just dicing with stds and possibly death?

We were messaged the other day by a couple on here who demanded if we met that me and Sir dont use anything how stupid did they think we were? Plus proved they hadnt read profile.

Makes you wonder if they dont already have something and are spreading it about. Thoughts please...."

There are some who put up a profile like that seeing who contacts them for bare back purely to find out who to avoid.

Personally i think people should have choice and not be castigated for wanting bareback because all this does and your thread included does is to make the whole thing subversive and make those that do not own up to it.

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the reason they 'demanded' it is because of the 'sub' part of your username... they might have been playing 'dom'!

Either way, the site is working correctly, you don't have to meet them so it not something to get your knickers in a twist about, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it's personal choice... still stupid personal choice or not

A condom reduces risk. Not sleeping with strangers and being exclusive to one sexual partner and ENSURING they are exclusive to you... is safe sex."

Pretty much sums up my _iew too.

I do find these types of thread ironic. Here we are, on a site seeking to meet strangers for nsa, a dangerous and idiotic act no matter how you dress it up, yet some seek to take a moral high ground against barebackers, cheating partners etc.

This is an adult site is it not? Leave people to make their own decisions.

I'm in a sharing, caring mood so I'll let you know the secret of how to enjoy the site: when I come across a profile I dont like or get a message I'm not interested in then I ignore it.

No need to thank me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps the reason they 'demanded' it is because of the 'sub' part of your username... they might have been playing 'dom'!"

Yep, that was my thought too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile! "

I dont think people are that naive and many given honest facts would not chose not to play. I certainly would avoid playing anyone who had been to bareback gangbang. I think if i was so cynical and mistrusting others i wouldn't be swinging at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile!

Good point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile!

You missed my point somewhat.

Some people take as gospel what's written on profiles. One couple do not play with black people and do not play with anyone who has played with a black person...based on profiles.

How are they going to ensure that? How do you ensure everyone that claims to play safe does? You can't.

I think I'll stick to being cynical and take all the measures I can to protect myself rather than naively put my welfare in the hands of total strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile!

You missed my point somewhat.

Some people take as gospel what's written on profiles. One couple do not play with black people and do not play with anyone who has played with a black person...based on profiles.

How are they going to ensure that? How do you ensure everyone that claims to play safe does? You can't.

I think I'll stick to being cynical and take all the measures I can to protect myself rather than naively put my welfare in the hands of total strangers."

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People within this lifestyle make their own choices on protection, no matter how clever we think we are we can't be absolutely sure of the sexual history of someone we're meeting. The only sure fire way to be 100% risk free is to abstain so there is a certain risk taken by everyone.

Our personal choice is 100% use of condoms for sex but do not use condoms or vaginal dams for oral, this strategy significantly reduces risk but doesn't eliminate it.

We wouldn't go bareback with anyone we met and would probably avoid someone who advertised that as a preference but we wouldn't criticise them for making their personal choice, it's really up to them.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Me i think those that do its their choice but they should be honest so those that don’t can make an informed choice on if to play or not.

I assume EVERYONE I meet has just returned from a bareback gang bang and ensure I do all I can to protect myself.

Scarey and naive if others make decisions based on the works of fiction some call their profile! "

Same here...i can only protect myself,and the only meet i know about with 100% certainty is the one i am at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least those involved let you know ahead of time that they wanted 'dangerous sex'.....

I have turned up to a meet, with my satchell ful of rubbers only to drink my drink get upand fuck off when told the play would be fully bare back.

I wasn't even offered a blowjob when I objected! How rude!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

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Makes you wonder if they dont already have something and are spreading it about. Thoughts please...."

My thoughts are... this last comment is just scaremongering and a tad immature if your aim is to get a serious point across.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution."

it may not be the best option... but it may well be the most realistic option...

you can take everything you get told at face value but in the end, any decision you make had to be about protecting you and your wellfare.

for example...if someone said they were a virgin, would it affect your process over whether to wear something or not?

so would you take that risk? I think most people would still say no.. and put something on it....

in the end I can only go about protecting me in the best way that I can...

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I think personally it's silly but each to their own. Im really allergic to condom's and still get a rash with latex free and sometimes it can be silghtly painful on a meet if not enough lube as i just dry up with condom's but i would never risk going without!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never get why so many people spend so much time worrying about what others are doing

if someone dont use condoms

if someone had 100+ verifications

if someone chooses to do anything i wouldnt do matters not to me

i would never dream of opening a post or questioning someone just because they choose to do things differently to the way i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only safe sex is no sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is down to personal choice.

We have witnessed many people giving it " I wont go bareback etc etc" Then later in the evening they are up to the nuts in someone they don't even know(male and female) without a seconds hesitation and guess what hey wern't wearing?

We decided a while back that we aren't willing to put our health at risk by involving just anyone in our sexual play.

To each their own, live and let live.

But we would sooner play safe when we have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why people dont like em but personaly i think if ya go bare back your playing russian roulete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution.

it may not be the best option... but it may well be the most realistic option...

you can take everything you get told at face value but in the end, any decision you make had to be about protecting you and your wellfare.

for example...if someone said they were a virgin, would it affect your process over whether to wear something or not?

so would you take that risk? I think most people would still say no.. and put something on it....

in the end I can only go about protecting me in the best way that I can... "

Thank you...that was the point I was trying to make!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution.

it may not be the best option... but it may well be the most realistic option...

you can take everything you get told at face value but in the end, any decision you make had to be about protecting you and your wellfare.

for example...if someone said they were a virgin, would it affect your process over whether to wear something or not?

so would you take that risk? I think most people would still say no.. and put something on it....

in the end I can only go about protecting me in the best way that I can... "

A realistic option? So if you suspected someone played bareback you would take precautions and play anyway but would feel using protection would be fine as its the best option? Personally i would not play but if you feel differently that’s your choice.

As for your virgin analogy well I have to question the realism of using that in the context of swinging. Personally i use protection with whoever but if i suspect or know they are a risk take i decline the offer to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it's personal choice... still stupid personal choice or not

A condom reduces risk. Not sleeping with strangers and being exclusive to one sexual partner and ENSURING they are exclusive to you... is safe sex."

eeee ba gum, you are so logical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyone here use dental dams?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution.

it may not be the best option... but it may well be the most realistic option...

you can take everything you get told at face value but in the end, any decision you make had to be about protecting you and your wellfare.

for example...if someone said they were a virgin, would it affect your process over whether to wear something or not?

so would you take that risk? I think most people would still say no.. and put something on it....

in the end I can only go about protecting me in the best way that I can... "

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt, leave it out.

Lets face it, having unprotected sex with anyone you have only just met or someone with little knowledge of how this type of lifestyle really is, is like using Borat's logic of "having a jar of gypsy tears to protect me from the AIDS!"

You put your seat belt on in the car even though its uncomfortable, so why go without your condoms?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....A condom reduces risk. Not sleeping with strangers and being exclusive to one sexual partner and ENSURING they are exclusive to you... is safe sex."

Except that ( I believe ) AIDS can have a 10 year incubation period....

Still and all, opinions asside... It remains personal choice... And I dont care to play russian roulette...

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bareback sex and anyone who says they don't are just saying it to take the moral highground. Can't beat the natural feel of sex and filling a pussy full of cum is amazing.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I love bareback sex and anyone who says they don't are just saying it to take the moral highground. Can't beat the natural feel of sex and filling a pussy full of cum is amazing. "

most have it with their loved ones but don't with strangers for health reasons not moral ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love bareback sex and anyone who says they don't are just saying it to take the moral highground. Can't beat the natural feel of sex and filling a pussy full of cum is amazing. "

So do we but only with each other.

We have been together over 20 years and yes, you're right, bareback sex is amazing! But why risk good health for a quick session and pay the rest of your life suffering and possibly passing something on to other people?

Aids or any STD's/STI's has no prejudice , sensibility or common sense but people do.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Is it just me or are these idiots who boast how their partner will only go bareback just dicing with stds and possibly death?

We were messaged the other day by a couple on here who demanded if we met that me and Sir dont use anything how stupid did they think we were? Plus proved they hadnt read profile.

Makes you wonder if they dont already have something and are spreading it about. Thoughts please...."
its not the ones that are open n honest about it that you need to worry about

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

No i did get your point and i disagreed with it. If you missed mine though i was stating that taking precautions with someone you assume plays unsafe isn't the ideal solution.

it may not be the best option... but it may well be the most realistic option...

you can take everything you get told at face value but in the end, any decision you make had to be about protecting you and your wellfare.

for example...if someone said they were a virgin, would it affect your process over whether to wear something or not?

so would you take that risk? I think most people would still say no.. and put something on it....

in the end I can only go about protecting me in the best way that I can...

well good for you!!!! glad everyone knows that....

still missing the point.... so lets try this again....

in the end... regardless of whether someone was a virgin, or played bareback.. all you can do is to protect YOURSELF the best that you can.....

you can worry about someone else as much as you want... if they don't want to protect themselves that is up to them... but YOU make that decision to put something on for your own safety.. no one elses...

if they have an issue with it... tough! don't play with them.... that would be the same if it was a virgin, or someone going bareback (using both extremes)

out there in the real world not everyone tells the truth.. hate to break it to you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhhh this old chestnut again.

This is a site who's primary function is to bring people together who are looking for certain criteria in the field of sexual fulfilment. There is probably just about every sexual taste, orientation and activity on offer. Bareback is just one of those, but one which seems to been seen by some as a choice by which to castigate any who practice it.

Yet there are regular adverts for bukkake parties and people who indulge in that - I'm guessing that's allot off unsafe oral with people awash with bodily fluids, often taking it orally.

How many of us do oral without? There's a risk. Or insert fingers into orifices without using gloves - a risk.

This site is about choice, and we are all free to choose. Condom, no condom; play, don't play. No one should be chastised or shouted down for their choices, nor those who choose to play with them.

At the end of the day if all involved have made an informed, open choice then they are free to practice what they will and should not be singled out for doing so. Because to do so introduces a sense of exclusion and exclusivity into the whole idea of informed consent.

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By *he incognito twoCouple
over a year ago

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"Ahhhhh this old chestnut again.

Yet there are regular adverts for bukkake parties and people who indulge in that - I'm guessing that's allot off unsafe oral with people awash with bodily fluids, often taking it orally.

How many of us do oral without? There's a risk. Or insert fingers into orifices without using gloves - a risk.

This site is about choice, and we are all free to choose. Condom, no condom; play, don't play. No one should be chastised or shouted down for their choices, nor those who choose to play with them.

We find ironic that people who insist on condoms, dont mind sucking and licking without a condom or taking a load in the face and mouth and then wear a condom for intercourse(wake up people STD's get transfered to the eyes,mouth and throat) so unless you practice full safe sex femidom's and condoms when having oral...its all a contradiction.....dont you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ahhhhh this old chestnut again.

Yet there are regular adverts for bukkake parties and people who indulge in that - I'm guessing that's allot off unsafe oral with people awash with bodily fluids, often taking it orally.

How many of us do oral without? There's a risk. Or insert fingers into orifices without using gloves - a risk.

This site is about choice, and we are all free to choose. Condom, no condom; play, don't play. No one should be chastised or shouted down for their choices, nor those who choose to play with them.

Eloquently put...but why am I thinking "pearls before swine?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiv is very very difficult to transmit vaginally. If you read actuarial statistics then it's almost impossible for a straight, white male who has never had anal sex or injected drugs to acquire it through vaginal sex from a white woman in the developed world. It's very different in other demographic subsets for different reasons.

Other stds are much easier

Do whatever you choose - run with the risk or reduce it

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Ahhhhh this old chestnut again.

Yet there are regular adverts for bukkake parties and people who indulge in that - I'm guessing that's allot off unsafe oral with people awash with bodily fluids, often taking it orally.

How many of us do oral without? There's a risk. Or insert fingers into orifices without using gloves - a risk.

This site is about choice, and we are all free to choose. Condom, no condom; play, don't play. No one should be chastised or shouted down for their choices, nor those who choose to play with them.

Possibly the best post ever on this topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course bareback is better, but the risks are to high. Sadly it's condoms only.

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By *amish SMan
over a year ago

Eastleigh

Each to their own I say.

Personally I wear protection on my motorcycle due to unforeseeable risks that that may dent my health and enjoyment, why would I treat my sexual health any different. Protection against the unknown makes sense in my eyes.

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