FabSwingers.com forum: The abuse

By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

Yes there is , it’s calked the block button .

FTFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply unless I want to chat. The rules state it's not rude to do so and it stops the abuse you get back for saying no thanks.

I occasionally get abuse for not replying-I just send a link to the FAQs and then block them.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I no longer reply if the person doesn't interest me due to receiving abuse in the past, it works for me

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Go stealth and then you do all the searching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've kind of set yourself up to fail!

Your status says something like 'if you've messaged before, message agin I'm feeling ravenous...'

So a guy messages you again after being told no thanks before, you turn him down again, he might feel a little miffed.

I'm not saying that abuse is ever right or warranted, however that kind of message will attract a level of ire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go stealth and then you do all the searching. "

This

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like this! "

Haha it is not abuse but advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

Yes, delete and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like this! "

Its not abuse, just a bit of advice from experience!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

You say your thanks but no thanks then hit the block button. Probably not so nice for the poor bloke you blocked who had no intention of kicking off, but it gets to a point where you say 'why risk it'.

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Understood, but I'm not getting replies from people I've spoken to before.

These are first timers not reading properly lol.

But duly noted; will remove the message.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"
I stopped saying no thanks as the abuse was horrific! Why not? Ur a whore! There are nasty fkrs on this site! So block!

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X I stopped saying no thanks as the abuse was horrific! Why not? Ur a whore! There are nasty fkrs on this site! So block! "

Laugh it off, two minutes ago that same man would've crawled over broken glass to hear you fart down the phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

I've had a couple of them. Only one from a woman though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

I've had a couple of them. Only one from a woman though "

You forgot the hashtag #youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

I've had a couple of them. Only one from a woman though

You forgot the hashtag #youknowwhoyouare"

Oh I'm not sure they're still here any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

Only when their wife finds out!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

Not really, just feckers stealing my pictures but that's my own fault for being so pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dressed up as a woman once and went out in public to see how hard it is living as a woman

Apparently you women get called a 'faggot' an awful lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

Not really, just feckers stealing my pictures but that's my own fault for being so pretty."

Oh my god, for the last time, I apologise!

But how else was I supposed to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore block and move on

You defo gotta be a strong single woman to cope on here lol

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You say your thanks but no thanks then hit the block button. Probably not so nice for the poor bloke you blocked who had no intention of kicking off, but it gets to a point where you say 'why risk it'."

That's how I prefer it to go as it acknowledged the time I put into reading profile and sending message but is clear that there isn't any interest.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I think the conversation usually goes along the lines of;

My God you're stunning, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I'd be really honoured if I could spend some time with you.....

I'm sorry, thank you for the message, I've looked at your profile and don't see the same connection, good luck in the future....

What? I mean fucking what? You fat ugly fucking bitch I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last woman on earth. You stuck up fucking bitch.

Is that about it?

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I see abuse as a good filter tbh I'd rather dismiss somebody on here as a cockwomble than find out in person

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

Deleting gets the lowest abuse, sadly, if you want to reply then maybe block at the same time.

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

Not often thank goodness. Difficult to compare both sexes in terms of number of times abused, because it's economies of scale. So if 5% of messages were abusive, women are going to get far more due to the huge amount of messages they get in comparison to men.

Wouldn't it be great if there was an abuse count, like hot pics where the profile and number of times they hurled abuse showed them right up. I think it would cut the amount of abuse down as they would be named and shamed for ALL to see.

Just keyboard warriors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby"

May I lick on your tities to help my sorrow to go away ?

snif

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

As far as I am concerned abuse is not acceptable block and report.I like the way Fabs tells you if you go to send a 2nd message to someone who has not responded to your first Stop you have already sent this person a message to me that means that person is not interested leave them alone they don’t owe you a explanation and certainly they don’t deserve abuse.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby

May I lick on your tities to help my sorrow to go away ?

snif "

If you think it would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby

May I lick on your tities to help my sorrow to go away ?

snif

If you think it would help "

I do and my therapist agrees with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby

May I lick on your tities to help my sorrow to go away ?

snif

If you think it would help

I do and my therapist agrees with me"

I’m his therapist, can join in too

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

Oh, god, you have no idea. It’s constant. I get abusive messages all the time. There’s barely an hour goes by without me receiving:

- threats of abduction (I want to tie you to my bed and keep you to myself)

- menacing messages of humiliating slavery (I’m going to ride you like a bucking bronco)

- invitations to enter into weird genital mutilation self-harm cannibalism pacts (I’ll suck your cock until it explodes in my mouth, I’ll swallow it all)

Like others have suggested, I just delete and block. I wouldn’t care, but they’re often bang tidy, and I’d love to have sex with them, but I’ve got a zero tolerance attitude to abuse.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"I think the conversation usually goes along the lines of;

My God you're stunning, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I'd be really honoured if I could spend some time with you.....

I'm sorry, thank you for the message, I've looked at your profile and don't see the same connection, good luck in the future....

What? I mean fucking what? You fat ugly fucking bitch I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last woman on earth. You stuck up fucking bitch.

Is that about it?"

You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

Poor baby

May I lick on your tities to help my sorrow to go away ?

snif

If you think it would help

I do and my therapist agrees with me

I’m his therapist, can join in too

That depends, exactly how damaged is he?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem. "

Welllll, that could be taken two ways, in fairness...

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...no, you’re right, I’m not seeing it either.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"I You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem.

Welllll, that could be taken two ways, in fairness...

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...no, you’re right, I’m not seeing it either."

I think he was the same guy who called me a fucking charmless bitch. Not quite as brutal as the aids comment, and quite perceptive really. He at least got the measure of me there......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

All the time !

#youhavenoidea

#whatIamgoingthrough

#onhere

#metoo

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

Not really, just feckers stealing my pictures but that's my own fault for being so pretty."

And pouting!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse?

Oh, god, you have no idea. It’s constant. I get abusive messages all the time. There’s barely an hour goes by without me receiving:

- threats of abduction (I want to tie you to my bed and keep you to myself)

- menacing messages of humiliating slavery (I’m going to ride you like a bucking bronco)

- invitations to enter into weird genital mutilation self-harm cannibalism pacts (I’ll suck your cock until it explodes in my mouth, I’ll swallow it all)

Like others have suggested, I just delete and block. I wouldn’t care, but they’re often bang tidy, and I’d love to have sex with them, but I’ve got a zero tolerance attitude to abuse."

Are you saying you'd like me to stop messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

I matched with a girl match with me on tinder. Turned out she swiped right to see what I meant by "poly male". I sent her a message and went through it, and afterwards she thanked me for not sending a mean message and being nice. I was dismayed by her saying that, because I felt like an exception and not a rule. Manners cost nothing, and treating others well, even if it is in a situation that isn't ideal, makes life easier for everyone

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Hmmm....close enough

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

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By *gcoops OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I think the conversation usually goes along the lines of;

My God you're stunning, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I'd be really honoured if I could spend some time with you.....

I'm sorry, thank you for the message, I've looked at your profile and don't see the same connection, good luck in the future....

What? I mean fucking what? You fat ugly fucking bitch I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last woman on earth. You stuck up fucking bitch.

Is that about it?

You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem. "

I think we've had the same person

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I think the conversation usually goes along the lines of;

My God you're stunning, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I'd be really honoured if I could spend some time with you.....

I'm sorry, thank you for the message, I've looked at your profile and don't see the same connection, good luck in the future....

What? I mean fucking what? You fat ugly fucking bitch I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last woman on earth. You stuck up fucking bitch.

Is that about it?

You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem.

I think we've had the same person

I think it's just one person, he just moves around a lot.

Us guys are kinda lucky in the arsey, abusive message front I think.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"I think the conversation usually goes along the lines of;

My God you're stunning, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I'd be really honoured if I could spend some time with you.....

I'm sorry, thank you for the message, I've looked at your profile and don't see the same connection, good luck in the future....

What? I mean fucking what? You fat ugly fucking bitch I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last woman on earth. You stuck up fucking bitch.

Is that about it?

You forgot to add the line “I hope you die of aids you fat cunt”. That was a particular gem.

I think we've had the same person

We should compare notes, then go and give him a dead leg

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Never had any abuse for it and always reply (even to the ridiculous messages) politely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dressed up as a woman once and went out in public to see how hard it is living as a woman

Apparently you women get called a 'faggot' an awful lot "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

Keep it totally non personal- "Sorry you're too far away. Hope you find someone nice. xx"

If they've sent a face pic- "You look hot but not what I'm looking for sorry. Hope you find someone nice. xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me!

Keep it totally non personal- "Sorry you're too far away. Hope you find someone nice. xx"

If they've sent a face pic- "You look hot but not what I'm looking for sorry. Hope you find someone nice. xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see no reason why blocking somebody you aren’t into is a bad thing. I block anyone who says no or deletes my message without responding, so I can’t message again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my first time posting in here, but I've got to get this off my chest;

The abuse women get on here (and in the real world) is real.

Men and women, is there a better way than "thanks, but no thanks x" to decline a person? Please, school me! X"

Yeah, just ignore and delete, if they continue then just block them. It happens to us guys too you know, just on a lesser scale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gentlemen, do you receive much abuse? "

I’ve had my fair share. It seems ya single guys should be grateful for any attention we get so should jump when told to. I’ve had girls being abusive when I’ve said thanks but no thanks, I’ve been called all the names under the sun but I just ask why they messaged if I’m so damn ugly.

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