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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's awful. People are pretty bitter and Fu**ed up.

I hope you're ok x

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"That's awful. People are pretty bitter and Fu**ed up.

I hope you're ok x"

Heard about it last night and spoke to the bouncers. I just don't get it. Happened to the other organiser here also.

It's just a night out on the piss. .... Wish the non swingers would piss off at times. They ruin the site and the enjoyable things x

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

We've had it happen to a couple of socials in South Wales. Very sad and bloody infuriating to the organisers. Bloody sad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't surprise me that

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Doesn't surprise me that "

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???.."
lot guys think with there dick lol prob didn't understand what social was

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"That's awful. People are pretty bitter and Fu**ed up.

I hope you're ok x

Heard about it last night and spoke to the bouncers. I just don't get it. Happened to the other organiser here also.

It's just a night out on the piss. .... Wish the non swingers would piss off at times. They ruin the site and the enjoyable things x"

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Some people just don't get the etiquette!

A social is a social, if you want a guaranteed shag or sex show then go and pay for it.

There are plenty of really nice guys on Fabs, but there are some that have no manners and can't handle rejection.

Rant over

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???.."

I think it's more that they imagine we make up 99% of sex addicts anonymous and never say no to a fuck. I had about 3 blazing rows with a vanilla friend because he was saying stupid shit, during the 3rd one he revealed that he had assumed women can't say no at swingers club and consent was already implied

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Some people just don't get the etiquette!

A social is a social, if you want a guaranteed shag or sex show then go and pay for it.

There are plenty of really nice guys on Fabs, but there are some that have no manners and can't handle rejection.

Rant over

"

Completely agree! I started sending the dictionary definition of a social to men who clearly don't grasp it. They do spoil it for the genuine few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???.."

Probably because they are under the impression that swingers are hedonists will do anything for pleasure.

And more to do with their self inflated ego that would be infuriated at the prospect of you NOT being able to appreciate just how honoured you should be that they show interest?

Sadly, it would appear that when people like that want something, as self involved as they are, they can't possibly comprehend that the object of their desire may have a mind of his/her own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

Sorry to hear that love i guess some guys are just creeps

Iv never been to one of those types of socials but i imagin its just a group of friends meeting up and chatting having a drink trying to hit on each other and chat each other up like in old school pubs clubs or am i naive either way i hope your next one goes better

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????.

Sorry to hear that love i guess some guys are just creeps

Iv never been to one of those types of socials but i imagin its just a group of friends meeting up and chatting having a drink trying to hit on each other and chat each other up like in old school pubs clubs or am i naive either way i hope your next one goes better"

First one there's been any issue like this. Hopefully none again either

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

You shood come to my 0 meet club social op

A social to me is just a social.

Anything else is a bonus.

Thow so far ive not had that bonus

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"You shood come to my 0 meet club social op

A social to me is just a social.

Anything else is a bonus.

Thow so far ive not had that bonus "

That is all a social is. A chat... socialise. Sad most don't get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is such a shame, a large proportion of my veri's are from socials.

It's sad that the minority who don't actually know that not every meet is an invitation to have sex

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"You shood come to my 0 meet club social op

A social to me is just a social.

Anything else is a bonus.

Thow so far ive not had that bonus

That is all a social is. A chat... socialise. Sad most don't get that"

It is sad but not everyone is like that I'm not anyway

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Some people just don't get the etiquette!

A social is a social, if you want a guaranteed shag or sex show then go and pay for it.

There are plenty of really nice guys on Fabs, but there are some that have no manners and can't handle rejection.

Rant over

Completely agree! I started sending the dictionary definition of a social to men who clearly don't grasp it. They do spoil it for the genuine few

r"

It isn't only men. the one and only social we went to was in a cordoned off side room in a pub and we left once the groping started between couples. They didn't care that people were gawping at them from the public bar either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????.

Sorry to hear that love i guess some guys are just creeps

Iv never been to one of those types of socials but i imagin its just a group of friends meeting up and chatting having a drink trying to hit on each other and chat each other up like in old school pubs clubs or am i naive either way i hope your next one goes better

First one there's been any issue like this. Hopefully none again either "

Hope so too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shood come to my 0 meet club social op

A social to me is just a social.

Anything else is a bonus.

Thow so far ive not had that bonus

That is all a social is. A chat... socialise. Sad most don't get that"

That's awful, I've only been to 1 social and lucky enough it was brilliant and nobody there treated it other than a social which made it enjoyable. I'm sorry to hear that. Some fuckin dickheads just spoil it.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Some people just don't get the etiquette!

A social is a social, if you want a guaranteed shag or sex show then go and pay for it.

There are plenty of really nice guys on Fabs, but there are some that have no manners and can't handle rejection.

Rant over

Completely agree! I started sending the dictionary definition of a social to men who clearly don't grasp it. They do spoil it for the genuine few

r

It isn't only men. the one and only social we went to was in a cordoned off side room in a pub and we left once the groping started between couples. They didn't care that people were gawping at them from the public bar either

"

It isn't always men.....just 90%. It's rare I get shit off a cpl or single fem and they've not asked me when sex starts as the men do.

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By *traightguy101Man
over a year ago

Darlington

Oh this got my back up the wall. I had such a great time, why would anyone be bitter about it.

Damned fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to have the ground rules set out from the beginning

...I've only attended one social but as I wes leaving it was turning into a free for all

...if it's a social keep it social otherwise you'll be asking for trouble later...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???..

I think it's more that they imagine we make up 99% of sex addicts anonymous and never say no to a fuck. I had about 3 blazing rows with a vanilla friend because he was saying stupid shit, during the 3rd one he revealed that he had assumed women can't say no at swingers club and consent was already implied "

Many people assume that's what swinging is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

Hope no-one managed to get pics. Be aware they may do an article anyway.

Hope it was a good night apart from that. x

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I think you need to have the ground rules set out from the beginning

...I've only attended one social but as I wes leaving it was turning into a free for all

...if it's a social keep it social otherwise you'll be asking for trouble later..."

I've been doing it a long time.

I decided to start doing the Darlo one last year and never has there been an issue. Problem is people who don't seem to grasp social or what it actually means. My rules are very simple and straight forward and if people can't abide by them then I do ask them to leave or have refused to allow them to attend.

I have a pretty good idea which idiot has done this and I don't have any qualms in barring him from any event in the future

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????.

Hope no-one managed to get pics. Be aware they may do an article anyway.

Hope it was a good night apart from that. x"

Bouncers prevented that! I'm sure the story would be interesting reading....."swingers drank alcohol and chatted" hahaha it's almost as newsworthy as swingers went to costa and had coffee!

Has a good night overall tho. Thank you

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Some people just don't get the etiquette!

A social is a social, if you want a guaranteed shag or sex show then go and pay for it.

There are plenty of really nice guys on Fabs, but there are some that have no manners and can't handle rejection.

Rant over

Completely agree! I started sending the dictionary definition of a social to men who clearly don't grasp it. They do spoil it for the genuine few

r

It isn't only men. the one and only social we went to was in a cordoned off side room in a pub and we left once the groping started between couples. They didn't care that people were gawping at them from the public bar either

"

I'm sorry that you had that that experience, but most socials really are just a bunch of people meeting at the pub...

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

Gutted for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought socials were just to socialize and get verifications.......

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

The appalling behaviour by some eejits at this Social just goes to show how they don't fit into the scene at all.

My experience of Socials has been positive, in that everyone treated each event as such and no unseemly actions or attitudes arose.

However, and at the risk of some people objecting to the following, maybe for the sake and good respect of those of us who use the site and its spin off activities positively, maybe there has to be a "back-up" process to "out" the irresponsible eejits!

That is effectively to "name & shame" offenders but only after at Socials, they continually fail to grasp the concept of a Social Event and receive several warnings and are advised they'll be identified for their actions!

Yes, it means having some form of rules framework for all organisers to follow but if everyone acted as such, maybe the idiots who cannot behave & adjust their day to day misguided thinking, will realise their negativity could result in their being publicly recorded & publicised via here!

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"The appalling behaviour by some eejits at this Social just goes to show how they don't fit into the scene at all.

My experience of Socials has been positive, in that everyone treated each event as such and no unseemly actions or attitudes arose.

However, and at the risk of some people objecting to the following, maybe for the sake and good respect of those of us who use the site and its spin off activities positively, maybe there has to be a "back-up" process to "out" the irresponsible eejits!

That is effectively to "name & shame" offenders but only after at Socials, they continually fail to grasp the concept of a Social Event and receive several warnings and are advised they'll be identified for their actions!

Yes, it means having some form of rules framework for all organisers to follow but if everyone acted as such, maybe the idiots who cannot behave & adjust their day to day misguided thinking, will realise their negativity could result in their being publicly recorded & publicised via here!

"

Thing is I'm strict. I've been criticised for being too strict! For Newcastle it's wrist bands and secure guest list entry. However as darlo one is out in the public I don't have that level of control so to speak.

For a long time I refused to allow unverified ppl to attend but just cos they met someone one on one doesn't mean genuine...often just means 2 ppl horny at same time so altered and on the whole have been 97% successful in ascertaining someone's suitability.

There is always 1 who will spoil it sadly.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve been to several socials. Well organised, anyone could attend and there were no issues, just plenty of chatting and networking. I should imagine if someone had caused issues, they’d never get invited again.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Bloody hell girl. After all the effort you put in too.

We had similar shit occur at Barnsley. It wasn’t the paper they tipped off but the council who rang the organiser saying to think twice about having it and they’d be sending workers down on the night to spy on any sexual activity.

Most sexual activity was when Polly had to smack my back cos I’d got a Crisp stuck.

Absolute bell-ends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I do feel sorry for your darlo. Social does mean social and if you are on a guestlist then people should be respectful and not communicate location.

I have felt bad before having to say to friends sorry I am not the organiser I can’t tell you where a social is. Most of my friends have understood.

Social are not orgys at all. It is an opertunity to meet new people or even old people that you may not have met in last

I suppose I must confess I may not have always been well behaved at socials . I was told of years ago for bending over a pool table whilst be spanked, and I was checking if the ladies had nickers on under skirts and dresses

I wouldn’t do that now and I did push the boundaries a bit. But to have the press invited is out of order

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers."

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction "

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

From over three years of running a fl social event, I can sympathize. We used to have guys trying to get into the area we had sectioned off, because they had gotten some kind of wind about something happening, and they would presume it was a swingers party, and they would try to push their way in.

The worst we had was these guys who just kept on trying, and then started doing this obnoxious thing where they would stand as close as they could without crossing the barrier. The co-host with me had been to her brothers funeral that day, so she was in no mood, and she can shout lout too. Apparently after I left, she slapped one of these guys because he pushed his luck too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*too far

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By *orningtonCroissantMan
over a year ago

notts and humberside

That’s terrible! There should be some kind of swingers ombudsman... seriously. That’s why I love this community, we all know the rules, ruins it when people behave that way

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

"

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people need to grow up and stop being jealous because that's what it is. They think others are getting something they are not

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I've attended socials in the past ...the single guys I met there seemed very respectful..

I can only control my behavior, others of whatever gender or demographic ..their behaviour doesn't represent how I behave ..if others wish to tar all with the same brush that's their issue.. until I'm given reason I'm happy to believe the other person(s) will behave in a right and proper way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

How annoying for you, the socials I have been to have just been that socials. Unfortunately some people just want Fab to be instashag be that online or in person x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life "

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear about this. Small narrow minded idiots who wish to spoil things for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

500 people is an awful lot to police. Where do you hold these socials that fit 500 people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why as a single female i am too anxious to attend a party or social or club alone. Im scared someone will think i will go with anyone and there wont be anyone to help me.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

How did you know it was a reporter OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why as a single female i am too anxious to attend a party or social or club alone. Im scared someone will think i will go with anyone and there wont be anyone to help me.

"

I've been to 3 Tea Party socials and never once felt intimidated. They are smaller gatherings not held in clubs and people behave. It's not a case of inviting anyone to join; someone can't put their name down if they aren't known to the organisers. They are very relaxed, enjoyable events.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???.."

Single guy probably did it out of spite, reporter anything to get a storey.

When you think this effects not just the site but also people's working and private lives, surely in this day and age people are entitled to a bit of privacy.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Been to a few brighton socials, they are great places to have a chat, have a drink and put faces to the bodies that you have fabbed on here.

It also confirms you why you blocked people as well.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"How did you know it was a reporter OP?"

The bouncers confirmed it

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"500 people is an awful lot to police. Where do you hold these socials that fit 500 people?"

In a private venue policed with door staff

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people."

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a shame, hope your ok op.

I went to the Newcastle social and was very hard to break the ice.

I suppose I was looked at with suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently "

That's more manageable. I suppose you'll get some who need everything in front of them in black and white, but still chance their arm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had people ask me if the STP gatherings are orgies.

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By *otwifeHunter808Man
over a year ago

Bury

Disgusting behaviour I am shocked these people think that cos they signed up they can do this. Hooe u and any other fabber involved are OK.. BE strong keep going its people like u that make this place good x find your wings and fly again x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Disgusting behaviour I am shocked these people think that cos they signed up they can do this. Hooe u and any other fabber involved are OK.. BE strong keep going its people like u that make this place good x find your wings and fly again x"
you could write a song about wings and flying

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"How did you know it was a reporter OP?

The bouncers confirmed it "

Ah! The trilby hat with the press card in the hatband would give it away I imagine?

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By *otwifeHunter808Man
over a year ago

Bury


"Disgusting behaviour I am shocked these people think that cos they signed up they can do this. Hooe u and any other fabber involved are OK.. BE strong keep going its people like u that make this place good x find your wings and fly again x you could write a song about wings and flying "
writing it as we speak

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Don't understand why a reporter would be interested?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???..

I think it's more that they imagine we make up 99% of sex addicts anonymous and never say no to a fuck. I had about 3 blazing rows with a vanilla friend because he was saying stupid shit, during the 3rd one he revealed that he had assumed women can't say no at swingers club and consent was already implied

Many people assume that's what swinging is. "

My jaw hit the floor when i realised what he'd been assuming. An otherwise well educated person holding down a job, but dumb as fuck on this issue. I think on some level, most men want to believe that there's a website full of women who are gagging for it. It's like a mental backup plan.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Don't understand why a reporter would be interested?"

Same reason they write stories about swingfields...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't surprise me that

Why?

I mean for what purpose? It's a night out. What do they think that we all sprout horns from our heads and change colour at midnight cos we are swingers???.."

Only us welsh do that

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"That's a shame, hope your ok op.

I went to the Newcastle social and was very hard to break the ice.

I suppose I was looked at with suspicion "

Did you wear your paper bag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Disgusting behaviour I am shocked these people think that cos they signed up they can do this. Hooe u and any other fabber involved are OK.. BE strong keep going its people like u that make this place good x find your wings and fly again x you could write a song about wings and flying writing it as we speak "

I love you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently "

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what time did the sex start

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging. "

So. The first occasion of anything in all the time I've hosted and suddenly it's my fault! Of course silly me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging.

So. The first occasion of anything in all the time I've hosted and suddenly it's my fault! Of course silly me "

I haven't said that. I am just saying that you should learn from that experience and do things differently to check if there will be a different outcome. Hopefully a better one.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"So the last social I held I got no end to abuse mainly from single men because they think a social means an orgy.

They also couldnt grasp why I said no photography etc and advised they weren't welcome!

Imagine my upset at them tipping off a reporter who tried to get in last night

Why can't people just let us swingers have our socials in peace????."

If you'd refused them access to the social before the event how did they know where it was being held?

If they were denied access on the night or ejected at the venue ..I'm not sure how they'd have been able to get a reporter to the venue before the event had finished..

There are folk of all genders that can behave inappropriately not just single guys.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging.

So. The first occasion of anything in all the time I've hosted and suddenly it's my fault! Of course silly me

I haven't said that. I am just saying that you should learn from that experience and do things differently to check if there will be a different outcome. Hopefully a better one. "

Short of banning newbies and insisting on a social one on one there is very little else I can do.

Maybe some ppl shouldn't be on swingers sites when they arent swingers or maybe there should be more education surrounding social altho it seems rather basic even the word itself 'social'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was a reporter gettong in then why not let them in and see what goes on.

They may write a decent report and destroy the gossip or msy lie and say it was an orgy.

If so they don't need to attend of lying so let em in, cobblers to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a shame, hope your ok op.

I went to the Newcastle social and was very hard to break the ice.

I suppose I was looked at with suspicion

Did you wear your paper bag?"

Actuality no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a shame, hope your ok op.

I went to the Newcastle social and was very hard to break the ice.

I suppose I was looked at with suspicion

Did you wear your paper bag?"

Did you? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you write up some rules and expectations and paste them onto acceptance replies?

It's not a guarantee they will still behave, especially if they have paid to enter a club, but it's better than just being told it's a social.

Is the club open to others at the time too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there was a reporter gettong in then why not let them in and see what goes on.

They may write a decent report and destroy the gossip or msy lie and say it was an orgy.

If so they don't need to attend of lying so let em in, cobblers to them

"

Why make it easy for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently "

Sorry to hear that; shocking!

In the past you haven’t had problems so don’t stop - hopefully it’s a one-off. You seem to have put things in place to reduce chance of the dickheads attending. Maybe the single men you are unsure of need to have a meet? Or a recommendation by a couple/female?

Not great I know as new people would struggle more. One or two spoiling it for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging.

So. The first occasion of anything in all the time I've hosted and suddenly it's my fault! Of course silly me

I haven't said that. I am just saying that you should learn from that experience and do things differently to check if there will be a different outcome. Hopefully a better one.

Short of banning newbies and insisting on a social one on one there is very little else I can do.

Maybe some ppl shouldn't be on swingers sites when they arent swingers or maybe there should be more education surrounding social altho it seems rather basic even the word itself 'social'. "

Think that’s the crux of it: people confusing swinging / 1:1 meets / paid sex worker

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"If there was a reporter gettong in then why not let them in and see what goes on.

They may write a decent report and destroy the gossip or msy lie and say it was an orgy.

If so they don't need to attend of lying so let em in, cobblers to them

Why make it easy for them."

Reporters are swingers too, not everyone is looking for a story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I went to munches from the kinky site I often had requests of sex or a bj in the bathroom.

I was there to drink non alcoholic beverages, talk utter bollocks with people that understood and have a bit of food and a giggle.

It did cast a shadow over them for me.

I think a lot of men think kink or swingers is an easy shag. Or like was said an orgy. It's pathetic.

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently

Well it seems that doing the things the way you do results in having ppl who behave like utter assholes so maybe it may be good to look at the process of screening people out.

And assuming that people have the same set of mind as yours when it comes to swinging may be your downfall too.

I am not paranoid but your experiences clearly showed that some people hold different views of swinging.

So. The first occasion of anything in all the time I've hosted and suddenly it's my fault! Of course silly me

I haven't said that. I am just saying that you should learn from that experience and do things differently to check if there will be a different outcome. Hopefully a better one.

Short of banning newbies and insisting on a social one on one there is very little else I can do.

Maybe some ppl shouldn't be on swingers sites when they arent swingers or maybe there should be more education surrounding social altho it seems rather basic even the word itself 'social'. "

Personally I think newbies (and some older members)should take a step back and think before they post some stuff on the forums. They are open forums for all to see. Way too often you see them posting stuff that gives the game away on certain events and places.

Remember anyone can be reading the posts.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

That is really terrible, I am very sorry that people did not know how to behave.

Some of them just shouldn't be out in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way to ensure the type of people that will go along to a social. I went to a social at a pub a few years ago and the downstairs was full of local men. (The social was in the rooms upstairs.)

It was obvious that the word had got out and the locals were there to see a swinger orgy. The pub landlord 'had no idea' why it was so busy.

Even holding it in a swinging club there would be bound to be some randoms out for a gawp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the result of telling every new member to go to a club or social......

I see this advice being given everyday on the forums... unfortunately you will meet people with no social skills and no concept of swinging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"500 people is an awful lot to police. Where do you hold these socials that fit 500 people?"

We could tell you but then we would have to kill you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently "
you do a fantastic job of organising these events and couldn't possibly do anymore to protect people who attend x

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By *IMPLY SOCIALSWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere

Really sorry to hear that OP. I've had to boot a couple of single guys from pre-social kik groups and disinvite them from events in the past because they've tried to use the group chat to push their pics and pester couples/single females who had already blocked them from their personal accounts. Thankfully I haven't had the backlash you've had. It is a shame though when a few spoil things for everyone.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Assuming that everyone and anyone on this site understand a simple concept such as social is, well too simple.

Be tougher in your selecting process next time you organise a social and set some rules to stict to prior the social and make sure they understand what that actually means, however, I am pretty sure you will still have some ppl who won't respect them, be it swingers or non-swingers.

I'm very tough in my selection process and I tell others not to say where it is. Some just can't follow simple instruction

Do you have an oral phone conversation with everyone who are invited to those socials ?

With up to 500 people?????? Are you serious? I work full time, raise a family, train and organise 2 socials and parties as well as having some kind of real life

Maybe it would be better to restrict the number of ppl of those socials in order to avoid to get these sort of people.

Darlo was 100 ppl.... I don't feel I should do anything differently you do a fantastic job of organising these events and couldn't possibly do anymore to protect people who attend x "

Thank you! Try my best x

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By *an42Woman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Catching up on all of this , and I’m fuming for you .

You do an amazing job x

All the work us organisers do to arrange social events and put safety for others high on the engender is unreal .

We vet people and turn into detectives.

But one lesson I have now learned from all of this is the next time I’m organising an event it’s not going up on the forum.

Rant over

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