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Why am I rubbish at fabing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't think I'm very good at this and need to up my game, if I have one at all, maybe!? So my thoughts were to improve my pictures. Seeing so many comments about how rubbish single mens picts are I now seek your advise, comment or criticism on best practice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done all you can your profile is like 5 lines is that u in a nutshell or can you expand on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't know where to start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't know where to start "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on 11 months and never thought to ask before?

More pics more info

Just more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well..... a better pic might help, looks a bit like an extra from Brideshead Revisited, that far away look at you phone.

18-99 is quite an age range

A bit more expansive than 5 lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't know where to start "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really meet a woman aged 99? The think that puts me off instantly is when a guy doesn't sort out his looking for. Shouts out any holes a goal. Lack of photos- can see more of your shirt than you. And your profile text is poor

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I didn't click on the profile as the username put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on 11 months and never thought to ask before?

More pics more info

Just more"

OK, I'm really rubbish at this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on 11 months and never thought to ask before?

More pics more info

Just more

OK, I'm really rubbish at this!!"

No shit sherlock

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I've seen so many of these threads over the years on here, and I always give pretty much the same answer.

Swinging is like that job you have to do. Maybe building some shelves, fixing something on the car, or putting together that IKEA wardrobe (Yeah I know ).

For those jobs you need a box of tools.

You have got a screwdriver but you need a socket set, some spanners, a hammer, a pair of pliers Etc.

Swinging is the same.

So FAB is the screwdriver but getting out to socials, visiting clubs Etc. are the rest of the tools you need to get the job done.

Think about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success?? "

This

OP for pics why not take a look at other single guys for ideas of what might work for you - remember though that cock pics aren't everyone's cup of tea so look for ideas that show off your body and not your cock, or for that matter your phone!! It's easy to take pics using the timer on the camera app on most phones/tablets (is how most of mine were taken) and with a bit of thought and imagination you can get some great results.

You've not asked for profile advice so I can't give any, but I'd suggest searching for profile advice threads on the forum and taking on board some of the advice given in them.

As for the profile name - I'd change it as soon as you can

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Oh I should have added decent quality tools.

At the moment your screwdriver look like one of those cheap made in China jobs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success?? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success?? "

Harsh but true.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Would you really meet a woman aged 99? The think that puts me off instantly is when a guy doesn't sort out his looking for. Shouts out any holes a goal. Lack of photos- can see more of your shirt than you. And your profile text is poor "

I disagree on that point. The OP is a man, doubtless he’ll be the one doing the searching and the messaging. His actual searches may be as wide or as narrow as he likes. Having 18 to 99 on your profile is not a bad thing per se, it just means you could be messaged about anything by anyone. Why would a 99yr old have a less valuable opinion on his profile for example? At least they’ll be able to pm him with suggestions..

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Your profile text also makes it sound like you prefer unwashed vaginas.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

And.. I don’t know why in every profile advice thread people ask the OP to check out other guys.

The idea is to find something that works (in my case doesn’t) for you, not for someone else.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Having 18 to 99 on your profile is not a bad thing per se, it just means you could be messaged about anything by anyone."

I can be messaged by people of any age, but my profile still indicates a much narrower age range. I just don’t select the option to block messages from people outside my age range.

Maybe check that you know how the site features work before giving ‘advice’ on them.

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success?? "

Nice and honest. Can you do my profile please

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"And.. I don’t know why in every profile advice thread people ask the OP to check out other guys.

The idea is to find something that works (in my case doesn’t) for you, not for someone else."

Because looking at other guys profiles let’s you see what works and what doesn’t. Some people are shooting in the dark with this stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I might not throw myself of a tall buildings just yet but I might start climbing the stairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Username is rank, I wouldn't even look at the message.

Your only pic is crap.

Your profile write up is crap.

Are you seriously wondering why you're having no success?? "

Spinderella, cut it up one time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on 11 months and never thought to ask before?

More pics more info

Just more

OK, I'm really rubbish at this!!"

No not rubbish. Just not making an effort.

I agree that as a single bloke you will do the searching but a lot of folk will check your profile before reading any messages. So I would make your age range realistic.

Your user name is up to you but can put people off.

Someone once said to me the advice they gave when thinking of a user name is something that you don't mind being used in public or refered to as.

You get out of Fab what you put in and it's just as hard for single gals and couples as it is for single men. It's just the challenges faced differ.

Better pics. Not 100s of cock pics or mirror pics from so far away.

More text telling any potential playmates what your looking for, what you like and what you can bring.

The hardest part but not impossible is making yourself stand out. You are part of the majority on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all.

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Thank you all. "

Don't be one of the people that gets help and dosnt take it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having 18 to 99 on your profile is not a bad thing per se, it just means you could be messaged about anything by anyone.

I can be messaged by people of any age, but my profile still indicates a much narrower age range. I just don’t select the option to block messages from people outside my age range.

Maybe check that you know how the site features work before giving ‘advice’ on them."

That's what I was just about to say. As I stated age range is what your looking for. If you don't block others they can still message you. And my opinion was it puts me off, I know it puts other woman off too

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Chuck a dress on, then pretend you're a straight TV. Thank me later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All the advice is greatfully received, thank you all again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chuck a dress on, then pretend you're a straight TV. Thank me later. "
This I need to try!

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