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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

Never a truer word said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just sycophants trying to get into your knickers who say that.

As you say, it’s clearly no loss to the third party if they couldn’t be arsed to follow through, they probably couldn’t give a shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn right. It's never been 'my loss'.

It's usually the reaction of someone who's been butthurt by rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

That is a fair point and true!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually."

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss .. "

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Makes me laugh when the sycaphants say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me laugh when the sycaphants say it"

It's their loss that they don't laugh too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is. "

Fair enough. FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is.

Fair enough. FAF? "

I respectfully decline, but it’s definitely not your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is.

Fair enough. FAF?

I respectfully decline, but it’s definitely not your loss "

Pfft! Ah well I’ll have to accept that date with Scarlett Johanssen instead then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is.

Fair enough. FAF?

I respectfully decline, but it’s definitely not your loss

Pfft! Ah well I’ll have to accept that date with Scarlett Johanssen instead then! "

Her loss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place.

An accurate assessment. Although the phrase “it’s someone’s loss” is mostly understood to be used in definition “to say that one thinks another person could be helped by or would enjoy something which that person has chosen not to do or have”, so it’s not entirely inaccurate to use actually.

It’s all about Opportunity Cost though innit? They may well have enjoyed it, but if they’re doing something BETTER then it’s a marginal gain, not a loss.

eg if I turn down a Fab date in favour of a scorching night with Scarlett Johanssen instead then I won’t necessarily see it as a loss ..

I understand your point, but the assessment of loss is held by the person saying it, in this case

- so it doesn’t matter at all what the misser-outer’s opinion and rating of the situation or alternative is.

Fair enough. FAF?

I respectfully decline, but it’s definitely not your loss

Pfft! Ah well I’ll have to accept that date with Scarlett Johanssen instead then!

Her loss? "

how wude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Fair enough. FAF?

I respectfully decline, but it’s definitely not your loss

Pfft! Ah well I’ll have to accept that date with Scarlett Johanssen instead then!

Her loss?

how wude!! "

Jokes only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always your loss

Did u just say no to me

Do you know who i am

You have no idea what u missed out on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Jokes only. "

I know fellow newbie, we’re both still learning the forum etiquette!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Jokes only.

I know fellow newbie, we’re both still learning the forum etiquette! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I know it's their loss. If they only knew about my incomparable blow job skills, they'll be kicking themselves.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I was always told "You don't miss what you never had.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I know it's their loss. If they only knew about my incomparable blow job skills, they'll be kicking themselves."

Still want to tag team Lib?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Damn right. It's never been 'my loss'.

It's usually the reaction of someone who's been butthurt by rejection."
i one of them loll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Damn right. It's never been 'my loss'.

It's usually the reaction of someone who's been butthurt by rejection."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that there we only a lose if there was a chance by a gain of one party

...but if neither had anything to offer in the first place it was Deffo not loss to either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I know it's their loss. If they only knew about my incomparable blow job skills, they'll be kicking themselves.

Still want to tag team Lib? "

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I know it's their loss. If they only knew about my incomparable blow job skills, they'll be kicking themselves.

Still want to tag team Lib?

Of course "

He’s currently fapping to Christina Hendricks. Whilst I’m fapping next to a Horlicks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its always your loss

Did u just say no to me

Do you know who i am

You have no idea what u missed out on "

Missed out on the best shag on Fab no doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its always your loss

Did u just say no to me

Do you know who i am

You have no idea what u missed out on

Missed out on the best shag on Fab no doubt "

You have no idea

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

You don't miss what you never had

pardon the pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as someone replying ‘shame’ when you say you don’t want to meet them.

It really isn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to love the logical song

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By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

im sicopants.. I've gone to boxers

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

As one door closes another opens . In my opinion there is no loss from either perspective. You can’t miss what you’ve never had

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By *orningtonCroissantMan
over a year ago

notts and humberside

I would never ever not turn up. So rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

To be honest I have never said this, if a guy doesn't want to meet me it's his perogative, as it is mine if I don't want to meet them...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well the tale of people not meeting up after a promising back and forth is a tale as old as FAB it's self.

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By *aturelover2016Man
over a year ago

London


"It’s just sycophants trying to get into your knickers who say that.

As you say, it’s clearly no loss to the third party if they couldn’t be arsed to follow through, they probably couldn’t give a shit!"

I beg to differ. If they follow through they clearly are in a position to give a shit.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"We all say that if someone doesn't want to meet us for example, then it's their loss.

But surely it's only their loss if they actually wanted to meet us in the first place?

As you can't be loosing out on something that you didn't even want in the first place."

'We' don't all say it of ourselves, I never have - but it's a legitimate thing to say to offer someone else comfort if eg they have been stood up or ghosted, then it's simply saying 'They don't know what they are missing! '

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Same as someone replying ‘shame’ when you say you don’t want to meet them.

It really isn’t "

Yep ie shame you're local ,yep so?.I'm still not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get that saying either. The only one potentially losing out, is the one who wanted to meet. If the other person wasn't interested, clearly they don't feel they are losing out on anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love the English language. It's all about perspective, isn't it?

Don't get me wrong, it is an exercise in futility to suggest to someone who has decided NOT to meet you, that it is their loss. The decision has been made, move on to your next victi...er candidate.

I would argue however, that going on text messages and first impressions (that can be misleading), having been inundated with messages and doing a quick sift, we may possibly miss out on meeting someone we're quite compatible with.

In the end, what does it matter? We'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to make a comment of intrinsic value regarding "Missee" and "Missers".

However I've lost my train of thought along the way so please assume my comment was original, well thought out and sprinkled with comedy gold.

Many thanks.

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

Built up, let down, built up, let down, our sex life is Phenomenal, we just like to meet like minded lovely people, if they say no, we ain’t dead or gonna commit Suicide? We just carry on and enjoy ourselves anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it's not their loss. I think the same when I say no thanks to a person and they reply that it's a shame. XXX

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