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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t dislike you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem nice to me and look good. Maybe jealousy and rejection or maybe you just bumped into a few grumpy people this week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t dislike you either?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that many people do dislike you. I think a few don't like how you post though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a good contender for attention seeking post of the year lol

I dont dislike you...in fact really like your profile and pics.

pants....sucked into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t dislike you, I’d like to get to know you better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have different agendas than you (on the forums) so can't align theirs and yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’re awesome and I always enjoy your posts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop caring whether they like you or not and maybe they'll like you more. But either way, you won't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I like you

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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As we don't know you it we don't dislike you. From other posts of yours you seem to have a streak of self loathing, you constantly want reassurance which is all very well but do think you should seek professional help.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don’t dislike you either, but if I did, it might because you stole all the Nutella.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

There could be many reasons.

It could be jealousy from women or feelings of inadequacy from men.

Maybe you have a strong personality, that intimidates people.

Maybe you are rude or opinionated.

Personally I wouldn't worry about what people on here think, be true to yourself...

Dr Risky...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you "

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I don't dislike you. I think you're a strong minded attractive woman. Genuine compliments there and not trying it on in case the haters accuse me of "white knighting" .

I also think you recieve too much of a hard time from men and some women on here. This is fab and some folk seriously need to lighten up.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

What has made you come to that conclusion may I ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No dislikes here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

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Would they be wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You open up fully and speak the truth. That doesn't always go down well, and your high opinion of yourself seems to rile some people up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe so many people dislike you, because you told yourself they did as opposed to asking them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you or dislike you. I have read a few of your posts only.

I do, however, wish you well after reading your thread.

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

Because you put Nutella all over your breasts and didn't invite me for a lick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because you put Nutella all over your breasts and didn't invite me for a lick. "

That's _eep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno

I don’t hate you, for what it’s worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet"

How do you build an onion???

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I don't dislike you, infact from some of your posts I've read, I kind of wish I was a bit more like you tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never bother to dislike people I do not know

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By *heladyandthelibertineCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Serial lurker here, who has followed many of your posts. Hi! I would say that you show a need to put down other people to make yourself feel better about yourself. This could be one reason. Plus, your casual attitude towards threatening violence. Doesn’t make you come across very well tbh.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you mistake people giving you opinions/advice you don't like or agree with for those people disliking you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop caring whether they like you or not and maybe they'll like you more. But either way, you won't care."

It's not such a bad thing wanting to be liked, if everyone did it then the world might be a nicer place. But if it starts upsetting you a lot then it's time to say fuck 'em.

I don't know you but I see your posts sometimes and you never say anything dislikeable that I've seen.

Forums can be hard, sometimes you feel included and sometimes ignored. It can be a roller-coaster if you care too much about being liked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet

How do you build an onion??? "

In layers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you enough to dislike you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always one, today I dislike you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

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well from a mans point of view I can't see a problem with the way you look, I think you are actually quite attractive maybe its because you're so attractive people either feel jealous or intimidated because they feel inadequate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t dislike you, I’m sure you’ll rest easier tonight knowing that!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't think it helps that you have a high opinion looks wise about yourself. I don't know how to put it without sounding horrible as having confidence in your looks is a great thing,you obviously shouldn't change that in the slightest,but it seems like you put yourself above others and that can rile people.

Not sure I've explained that in the right way. It's easy for people to want to knock someone off their perch when they've stuff themself on a pedastal.

I used to have a boyfriend that thought highly of himself which is good in one respect,but I could never compliment him on something because he did that himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you mistake people giving you opinions/advice you don't like or agree with for those people disliking you?"

No. It's the personal comments about my personal appearance or the no wonder you can't keep a man comments or the barbed comments that people make that are just inside the rules so they don't come across as abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck what others think be true to yourself who cares who likes you or hates you it’s there loss not yours and why care I’ve been hated and pushed aside for years and to be honest I’m a better person for it

I know who my real friends are not that I have many but those I have I hold close to my heart

And because of this I also know how to read a person and am a great judge of character

So all in all why care fuck em all and be true to yourself

:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible that you are projecting your own self-loathing onto others. Particularly those who try to help you but not in the way you want?

I often see you pour out your soul, and appear like you feel like a victim of your past. The victim that others might see in you, hooks their inner rescuer. They try to help with advice of various sorts, but if that doesn’t fit your frame of reference you switch to become the persecutor and the hapless rescuer becomes your latest victim. They are left feeling “I was only trying to help’. And the drama continues again.....

I actually see some of myself in you but thankfully over the years I have been able to work through quite a bit of my baggage and nurture the rejected child in me and integrate a number of the parts of me I didn’t like and value what they now offer me. As a fellow Gemini I have many faces and I quite like almost all of them now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

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but do you really want to know? the truth often hurts, as you know, and often to your detriment....

I personally think you give far too much away in your posts, and that often leaves you vulnerable and open to attack...maybe reign it in a bit...or get a new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I don't dislike you

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By *heladyandthelibertineCouple
over a year ago

Reading


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

well from a mans point of view I can't see a problem with the way you look, I think you are actually quite attractive maybe its because you're so attractive people either feel jealous or intimidated because they feel inadequate "

yeah, that must be it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think it helps that you have a high opinion looks wise about yourself. I don't know how to put it without sounding horrible as having confidence in your looks is a great thing,you obviously shouldn't change that in the slightest,but it seems like you put yourself above others and that can rile people.

Not sure I've explained that in the right way. It's easy for people to want to knock someone off their perch when they've stuff themself on a pedastal.

I used to have a boyfriend that thought highly of himself which is good in one respect,but I could never compliment him on something because he did that himself.

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Yeah but I'm not gonna start writing about how I think I'm unattractive just to make people feel better. Everyone should be happy with what they've got, if that's the cause of some of it then isn't that them projecting their own self loathing on to me?

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west

I don’t think anyone dislikes you... I think your insecurities make you over analyse opinions that you’ve previously asked for in your other threads.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I haven't met you yet so I can't really judge.

We all feel this way once and a while I'm sure it not you that the problem

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By *oman wantedCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Liverpool/Manchester

Well I would. Stunning babe! xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I don't think it helps that you have a high opinion looks wise about yourself. I don't know how to put it without sounding horrible as having confidence in your looks is a great thing,you obviously shouldn't change that in the slightest,but it seems like you put yourself above others and that can rile people.

Not sure I've explained that in the right way. It's easy for people to want to knock someone off their perch when they've stuff themself on a pedastal.

I used to have a boyfriend that thought highly of himself which is good in one respect,but I could never compliment him on something because he did that himself.

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I understand what you mean, and OP sometimes, you do really come across as I love me who do you love....me of course!

It's not really an attractive trait to be honest, sometimes humility can be attractive as long as they are not the self depreciating one's that others blatantly show in order to garner compliments, it can be a fine balance, but maybe one you need to learn and understand, why you do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont dislike you great pictures

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I don't think it helps that you have a high opinion looks wise about yourself. I don't know how to put it without sounding horrible as having confidence in your looks is a great thing,you obviously shouldn't change that in the slightest,but it seems like you put yourself above others and that can rile people.

Not sure I've explained that in the right way. It's easy for people to want to knock someone off their perch when they've stuff themself on a pedastal.

I used to have a boyfriend that thought highly of himself which is good in one respect,but I could never compliment him on something because he did that himself.

Yeah but I'm not gonna start writing about how I think I'm unattractive just to make people feel better. Everyone should be happy with what they've got, if that's the cause of some of it then isn't that them projecting their own self loathing on to me?"

Definitely that's their problem,it can just be part of human nature for some to want to do that though can't it. It's like when someone starts a thread about grammar and spelling everyone will be scrutinizing their thread for mistakes wanting to knock them down a peg or two.

Anyway it's just a thought as I can't think of any other reasons why people would dislike you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

well from a mans point of view I can't see a problem with the way you look, I think you are actually quite attractive maybe its because you're so attractive people either feel jealous or intimidated because they feel inadequate

yeah, that must be it!! "

Haha yes of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re Welsh, you’ll always be alright in my book

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I don't think it helps that you have a high opinion looks wise about yourself. I don't know how to put it without sounding horrible as having confidence in your looks is a great thing,you obviously shouldn't change that in the slightest,but it seems like you put yourself above others and that can rile people.

Not sure I've explained that in the right way. It's easy for people to want to knock someone off their perch when they've stuff themself on a pedastal.

I used to have a boyfriend that thought highly of himself which is good in one respect,but I could never compliment him on something because he did that himself.

I understand what you mean, and OP sometimes, you do really come across as I love me who do you love....me of course!

It's not really an attractive trait to be honest, sometimes humility can be attractive as long as they are not the self depreciating one's that others blatantly show in order to garner compliments, it can be a fine balance, but maybe one you need to learn and understand, why you do it?

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Yeah you explained that way better than me.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I did chuckle at the kick boxing pants you have on.

also noted you quote 5ft 3 by ask for 5ft 10 people due to you wearing heels.

but theres nothing really to dislike you for.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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Are there people YOU like or dislike here ?? male or female.

I have no feeling either way, though you do seem extremely troubled to me in all your posts.

Quite a shame really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did chuckle at the kick boxing pants you have on.

also noted you quote 5ft 3 by ask for 5ft 10 people due to you wearing heels.

but theres nothing really to dislike you for."

So people dislike her because she’s 5’3???

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Do you really want an honest answer, or are you looking to have self-esteem/ ego boosted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

well from a mans point of view I can't see a problem with the way you look, I think you are actually quite attractive maybe its because you're so attractive people either feel jealous or intimidated because they feel inadequate

yeah, that must be it!!

Haha yes of course "
didn't say it was definitely the reason, it was a mere suggestion

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I like you OP. You have a refreshing honesty about you. Sometimes you come across as vulnerable though but you are also incredibly funny.

Inevitably if you start a thread about yourself you will get all sorts of comments. We can’t all appeal to everyone after all. It’s a bunch of faceless strangers on a sex site so it doesn’t really matter whether they like you or not, just do your own thing

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I don’t dislike you

Appreciated, I wanna bloody know though, in a constructive manner.

Like I could start a thread about cooking a chicken and someone would say I'm mental and need psychiatric help or slag off the way I look or I'm attention seeking.

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I tho k this is quite telling of paranoia on your part to be honest. People like to challenge people's OP's and views on forums,it happens to lots of people.

You do have an abrupt, sometimes argumentative style about you which people (on occasion me) bristle against.

You are very honest on here and open about your personality flaws (that you admit to on other threads), that's not a bad thing in itself but it can leave you very vulnerable and open to those who like to kick a person when they are down.

I don't dislike you but j find some of your posts, opinions and online mannerisms jarring on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't dislike you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you mistake people giving you opinions/advice you don't like or agree with for those people disliking you?

No. It's the personal comments about my personal appearance or the no wonder you can't keep a man comments or the barbed comments that people make that are just inside the rules so they don't come across as abusive.

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I've read some of your threads and genuinely laughed out loud as you can be funny.

I've read other posts and thought "ffs love, could you be more up your own arse?!" as you do, on occasion have an extremely high opinion of yourself (which isn't always a bad thing) but when it comes along with the occasional comments you make which appear to put other women down, it's an unattractive quality.

Continually asking for advice or reassurance of some kind on here can also come across as needy or looking for potential suitors to blow hot air up your arse.

None of that means I dislike you though. I don't know you well enough to like or dislike you.

You bare your soul which is why some arseholes will have a dig with regards to you getting a man and your looks are obviously important to you which is why it's easy for them to have a pop at that too. These are complete strangers and you really shouldn't give a shite about their opinion.....or mine for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passes over a tissue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't always ignore my posts

The difference is, I like myself so I don't care what you and others like you, think about me. No matter what barbed comments that are 'just inside the rules' are made about me.

It was a genuine question. Are you attention seeking?

If you are, it's vicious circle, the need for attention, validation, is tiresome and will give you negative feedback, the more negativity you get the more you need attention, etc.

You'll always get positive attention too, but it's shallow, mainly about your looks from men who are going to fuck you. Probably. So therefore it's not satisfying for you.

There's only one person who can make you happy. And that's you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I don't know you well enough to form an opinion, and would never judge someone by there profile or post

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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There isn't that many people on here I dislike, You're not one of them,

I don't agree with a lot of what you say or like doing but that's not a reason to dislike you its just a class of personalities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. I'm going to be super honest on my opinion in my usual form. Basically you're super fucking hot and you know it. Those two facts alone will put a lot of people on edge about you. The temptation of most will be to assume you're completely up yourself and have a terrible personality. Why? Partly because that is unfortunately sometimes the case with stunning women who know they're hot. Partly because insecure people like to think there's at least one department in which they're better than you.

In short, a super hot woman who knows she's hot has to work doubly hard from everyone else to show she's actually a nice grounded humble intelligent person despite of that. If she can't be bothered to do that she'll generally be branded negatively by onlookers. And if she's positively feisty and outspoken, as you often are, they'll tend to assume even worse of you, even though they may actually love feisty women usually. Basically, in short, it's an ism. Prettyism.

Having said that though, I haven't noticed anyone particularly hating on you so I may have spilled my beans there entirely unnecessarily

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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Have you had nasty private messages ?

Or random blocks for no apparent reason ?

Or is it just the messages on threads ?

Whatever it is , don’t let it get to you . It’s really not worth it . You know your worth , so remember that and ignore the haters .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't always ignore my posts

The difference is, I like myself so I don't care what you and others like you, think about me. No matter what barbed comments that are 'just inside the rules' are made about me.

It was a genuine question. Are you attention seeking?

If you are, it's vicious circle, the need for attention, validation, is tiresome and will give you negative feedback, the more negativity you get the more you need attention, etc.

You'll always get positive attention too, but it's shallow, mainly about your looks from men who are going to fuck you. Probably. So therefore it's not satisfying for you.

There's only one person who can make you happy. And that's you."

She says she’s attention seeking in the opening question, so she’s already answer that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't always ignore my posts

The difference is, I like myself so I don't care what you and others like you, think about me. No matter what barbed comments that are 'just inside the rules' are made about me.

It was a genuine question. Are you attention seeking?

If you are, it's vicious circle, the need for attention, validation, is tiresome and will give you negative feedback, the more negativity you get the more you need attention, etc.

You'll always get positive attention too, but it's shallow, mainly about your looks from men who are going to fuck you. Probably. So therefore it's not satisfying for you.

There's only one person who can make you happy. And that's you.

She says she’s attention seeking in the opening question, so she’s already answer that."

I thought she was being tongue in cheek because she's dismissive about people calling her that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see any reason why not xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

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I don’t dislike you, OP. Not at all.

Hope all is well. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Have you had nasty private messages ?

Or random blocks for no apparent reason ?

Or is it just the messages on threads ?

Whatever it is , don’t let it get to you . It’s really not worth it . You know your worth , so remember that and ignore the haters ."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

"

I don't yet the fabs and thought out messages I've sent you have not been responded to at all (Yes poor me).

It seems you only respond to negativity

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Honestly I don't know you well enough to dislike you but I like your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

I don't yet the fabs and thought out messages I've sent you have not been responded to at all (Yes poor me).

It seems you only respond to negativity"

Maybe, just maybe she doesn’t fancy you.

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By *heladyandthelibertineCouple
over a year ago

Reading


"Ok. I'm going to be super honest on my opinion in my usual form. Basically you're super fucking hot and you know it. Those two facts alone will put a lot of people on edge about you. The temptation of most will be to assume you're completely up yourself and have a terrible personality. Why? Partly because that is unfortunately sometimes the case with stunning women who know they're hot. Partly because insecure people like to think there's at least one department in which they're better than you.

In short, a super hot woman who knows she's hot has to work doubly hard from everyone else to show she's actually a nice grounded humble intelligent person despite of that. If she can't be bothered to do that she'll generally be branded negatively by onlookers. And if she's positively feisty and outspoken, as you often are, they'll tend to assume even worse of you, even though they may actually love feisty women usually. Basically, in short, it's an ism. Prettyism.

Having said that though, I haven't noticed anyone particularly hating on you so I may have spilled my beans there entirely unnecessarily "

I disagree- the amount of times I have thought about someone I deem more attractive, stronger, more successful, more popular, and genuinely liked them- and also thought; can’t you at least be an arsehole!! Why do you have to be so bloody nice as well??

None of the friends I have tend to talk about kicking people’s teeth in, or how other people are saggy buzzards though, so I know my friends look amazing and are actually nice people, too! Its great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The internet can be a cruel and lonley place. Dont react to those that upset you and maybe think twice before you post and upset someone else.

The people that upset you on here dont really matter in your life. They are just words on a web page.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry op. Not everyone will like you but you, come across as true to yourself whereas not many do. I guess that makes some uncomfortable.

You make me smile often, so no beef here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this forum helping you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

I don't yet the fabs and thought out messages I've sent you have not been responded to at all (Yes poor me).

It seems you only respond to negativity

Maybe, just maybe she doesn’t fancy you. "

*Sigh* Another conclusion jumper..

Who said I was messaging her because I fancy her or expect her to fancy me? There are other reasons why people message people here maybe not in your world but there is.

I don't need to explain myself but I will just for you - The OP has been having a rough time of it on here recently which is why I have messaged her on occasions and THAT is the real reason, not that my explanation will satisfy you but anyway enjoy your evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

"

Do you mean on here or in real life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't understand you so I struggle to empathise.

Sometimes you make me laugh and other times roll my eyes but I respect your right to your opinions.

Except when you are wrong and I am right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you personally so my opinion is based solely from what I see you post.

You sometimes come across as blunt, rude and often thoughtless.

Maybe you're different in person.

That's as honest as I can be.

I dare say I'll be jumped on for my opinion but I'm being true to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is my thought too. no one can please everyone and there is so reason to try. best to please ourselves ... and of course the ones we truly love.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I like your honesty OP.

The fact that you are confident is good, I wish I were.

You don't seem to be here for an ego boost which many are.

Nor do you filter your opinions

This can antagonise folk, but you seem to handle that pretty well too and stick by your convictions.

We've had a tussle before, And you stood by your guns then- I admire that.

Deep down does it bother you what people think? If you find it hurtful why do you come back?

Does it matter? Really...in the real world what a bunch of faceless wonders on a sex site (sorry social gathering community) Think of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

I don't yet the fabs and thought out messages I've sent you have not been responded to at all (Yes poor me).

It seems you only respond to negativity

Maybe, just maybe she doesn’t fancy you.

*Sigh* Another conclusion jumper..

Who said I was messaging her because I fancy her or expect her to fancy me? There are other reasons why people message people here maybe not in your world but there is.

I don't need to explain myself but I will just for you - The OP has been having a rough time of it on here recently which is why I have messaged her on occasions and THAT is the real reason, not that my explanation will satisfy you but anyway enjoy your evening."

Thanks for your prompt reply, I’m having a lovely evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't know you, but i just read your profile. i think it is great. it is right to the point so there is no confusion and says what you want. the pics are awesome too. i have no clue why you think no one likes you.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I like you OP. You have a refreshing honesty about you. Sometimes you come across as vulnerable though but you are also incredibly funny.

Inevitably if you start a thread about yourself you will get all sorts of comments. We can’t all appeal to everyone after all. It’s a bunch of faceless strangers on a sex site so it doesn’t really matter whether they like you or not, just do your own thing "

I’m with Babs, I’ve said pretty much the same previously. Just be true to yourself

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I like you OP. Well as much as I could like someone I haven't met.

Honestly, there's only a handful of us who could give as we got with Ruby and yeah - at times I have disagreed with what you are posting but not you. I can see how you might rub people up the wrong way - you have a quite outspoken 'voice' and some of your views are a bit... (I'm not sure how to explain that part in a succinct manner).

I think what I'm trying to type is not everyone who has a differing opinion dislikes you - it might just be your opinion they are challenging.

You're you and I respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There could be many reasons.

It could be jealousy from women or feelings of inadequacy from men.

Maybe you have a strong personality, that intimidates people.

Maybe you are rude or opinionated.

Personally I wouldn't worry about what people on here think, be true to yourself...

Dr Risky... "

This.

Attractive women who show their vulnerability will always be attacked by insecure women, that's just natural competition. Just read this thread for examples of that.

Inadequate men have nothing to lose and some may see an opportunity to have a go at all women by singling out and attacking one of the attractive ones. Don't forget some guys have a hard time on here so won't resist an opportunity to hit back.

Some have no agenda other than to give you their honest opinion, but you may mistakenly see it as an attack. This in my opinion is the overwhelming majority.

You need to get better at distinguishing the jealous or vindictive posts (not difficult to spot) from the honest advice ones.

... Or share less of your vulnerable side like most others people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree- the amount of times I have thought about someone I deem more attractive, stronger, more successful, more popular, and genuinely liked them- and also thought; can’t you at least be an arsehole!! Why do you have to be so bloody nice as well??"

Oh I definitely get where you're coming from with that. Particularly in men, what selfish twats who call themselves alpha males often fail to realise is that people usually become successful, popular, and strong due to their being genuinely bloody nice people who others want to help.

But prettyism is something different. It's about an automatic inverse opinion that people start to form of someone when they look super fucking stunning and they know it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean in real life or on here?

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I like the way you look but couldn't say I like or dislike you as a person because I don't know you. All I can say is that from the threads I've seen you make, you seem a little.....unstable

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

"

And y are letting it bother u .. true friends and real people will like u no mater what..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U ok hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet

How do you build an onion??? "

Oh you picked up on that did ya just throwing a bit of happiness in there to cheer her up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life’s a cruel bitch/bastard just get on with it and appreciate what you’ve got as there’s so many worse off

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet"

Lots of layers in an onion ...... keep building.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet

How do you build an onion???

Oh you picked up on that did ya just throwing a bit of happiness in there to cheer her up"

I'm serious, I want to know how you do it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Do you mistake people giving you opinions/advice you don't like or agree with for those people disliking you?

No. It's the personal comments about my personal appearance or the no wonder you can't keep a man comments or the barbed comments that people make that are just inside the rules so they don't come across as abusive.

"

Mostly jealousy I would say - of the attention you get for instance. What Ignite says is true too though - if you blow your own trumpet that will always wind some people up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people warm to you. You are funny, honest and incredibly open, but probably too open. Some of your posts do come across as putting others down but I don't think it's intentional. As others have said some of your threads you start open yourself up to criticism, again I think is genuinely meant help you rather than put you down.

And no one is going to deny you aren't attractive, because you are and you know that.

I don't know why people play the jealousy card, most people have a "hot" friend in their circle and it causes no issues; most hostility between women stems from personalities and attitudes rather than looks. The comments like this on this thread seem to be more about ego inflating rather than offering constructive advice.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Sorry luv i dont feel i know you well enough to have built an onion yet

How do you build an onion???

Oh you picked up on that did ya just throwing a bit of happiness in there to cheer her up

I'm serious, I want to know how you do it "

1 layer at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927 "

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder."

Who was it? Missed that

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that "

Seeder irish guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that "

Slightly over dramatic !

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

Seeder irish guy"

Never heard of him....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that "

I don’t know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know "

Was pull my finger x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know

Was pull my finger x "

Nope Pull is still here . It was SEEDER

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you...but by posting the question you have, I'd say you're a little insecure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just so everyone knows. Atropos is eh hm... otherwise indisposed at the moment She'll reply when she next gets the chance

...and no! I'm not fucking her as I type... although that's not for the want of trying haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know

Was pull my finger x "

What have i done?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know

Was pull my finger x

What have i done?"

Someone said it was you that left I saw you posting on Gobshite so knew you hadnt

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Do you mistake people giving you opinions/advice you don't like or agree with for those people disliking you?

No. It's the personal comments about my personal appearance or the no wonder you can't keep a man comments or the barbed comments that people make that are just inside the rules so they don't come across as abusive.

I've read some of your threads and genuinely laughed out loud as you can be funny.

I've read other posts and thought "ffs love, could you be more up your own arse?!" as you do, on occasion have an extremely high opinion of yourself (which isn't always a bad thing) but when it comes along with the occasional comments you make which appear to put other women down, it's an unattractive quality.

"

Yes, it really does not do you any favours to talk about saggy tits and wrinkly willies in a way that sounds like you are judging others as inferior - that looks arrogant and unkind and people will think less of you for it, even if you were just in fact being a bit blunt.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well hopefully you got the answer you were looking for in all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

"
i only like people who have sat on my face .... soz x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like to use others to validate themselves, some people dont get enough interest. Funny ol place this.. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you "

Awww!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you "

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that "

Ha ha well who knew that would work

Thanks

Im not that worried though, worked in a childrens home so very thick skinned and this is meant to be fun right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't I want shag you lol . Don't know ye well enough to like or dislike tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that

Ha ha well who knew that would work

Thanks

Im not that worried though, worked in a childrens home so very thick skinned and this is meant to be fun right? "

That was meant to be fun ... I liked your pics

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that

Ha ha well who knew that would work

Thanks

Im not that worried though, worked in a childrens home so very thick skinned and this is meant to be fun right? "

Nowt wrong with being bald. Worked for some very fit actors. Look at Stathem

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you "

That's nothing,try being a single bald 50 year old woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that

Ha ha well who knew that would work

Thanks

Im not that worried though, worked in a childrens home so very thick skinned and this is meant to be fun right?

That was meant to be fun ... I liked your pics "

I took it as fun

Thankyou Coquette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single, bald 40's gent. Then you'll think no one likes you

I've just fabbed all your pics as punishment for saying that

Ha ha well who knew that would work

Thanks

Im not that worried though, worked in a childrens home so very thick skinned and this is meant to be fun right?

That was meant to be fun ... I liked your pics

I took it as fun

Thankyou Coquette "

That's good then ... My pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social media (including these forums) can be a brutal place for self-esteem. We all know that there are people who prey on others just for kicks.

We have a choice either to ignore it and not let it affect us or not expose ourselves to social media. The choice we make comes down to how well we feel we can handle the inevitable abuse ... and unfortunately the ladies tend to receive more of this.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

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over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know

Was pull my finger x

What have i done?

Someone said it was you that left I saw you posting on Gobshite so knew you hadnt "

Thank god for that i thought i was having an outa avatar experience then

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over a year ago


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

Ohh dear Lord dont say that. "

Why ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel the hand of fab cliquue on my shoulder.

You know your issues, you mistakenly believe you can cope with them. Playing the perpetual victim will bring the White Knights out.

You will feel good in your popularity for a short while, then you'll resent anyone who didn't fall at your feet.

Then the cycle will repeat.

Get help.

I'm out of here as I know I'll get a ban for saying what needs to be said.

For fucks sake get help.

If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

www.rethink.org

0300 5000 927

0/10 flounce.

Must try harder.

Who was it? Missed that

I don’t know

Was pull my finger x

What have i done?

Someone said it was you that left I saw you posting on Gobshite so knew you hadnt

Thank god for that i thought i was having an outa avatar experience then "

It was his alternate Profile.

He's "Breeding" Fingers as they've all been pulled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

confidence, kindness/ruthlessness self esteem, beauty, intelligence, self worth, success, physical abilities, dress/fashion sense, being forthright the list goes on.

all can be loved or despised with a mixture of both.

tonight, I like you

Just be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - If someone is down, that can sometimes make them paranoid. Why worry what people think of you? They’re strangers on the internet, so not of any importance in the grand scheme of things.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Never met you, probably never will, but you look nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO OP you come across as extremely arrogant in many of your posts and (speaking for myself) it's not an attractive trait. But then again there are plenty of forum regulars on here who seem to have more than enough "self-confidence".

Do I hate you tho? Nah. I just probably wouldn't mix with you in the "real world". But then I'm an insecure man (before anyone else points it out ) so I'd struggle to get on a level with such a strong, beautiful woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you? "

I don't know the op but feel that if someone was very attractive and lots of people told her she was very attractive at some point the penny would drop and she'd realise that she's very attractive. You can't hold either of those things against a person. It's like an extremely clever person realising they're extremely clever. Nature has endowed them with assets and they've been made aware of that fact. Such is the state of things.

Attractiveness is a powerful tool in this world. As is cleverness. It therefore makes total sense that someone who has such things is going to put some weight on them to exploit their advantage. What of any of this is distasteful or not common sense so far?

The trouble comes when attractive people or clever people or rich people, comfortable with their position of power, relax a bit, let their hair down, and start chastising fat people, ugly people, dumb people, or poor people. We find the exact same unattractive views expressed by lots of types of people when they let their guard down. But among those who have in plenitude that which they mock others for lacking... that's just deeply ugly.

This is why we admire attractive, clever, rich people all the more when they clearly signify that are sensitive and humble about their good fortune. But, regardless, such traits will tend to polarise a certain amount of a population, with some attracted to them and others jealous and judgemental. It's true of each. Clever people get regularly chastised for that. Rich too. Attractiveness is just another one of those things which tends to trigger those of us insecure about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

I don't know the op but feel that if someone was very attractive and lots of people told her she was very attractive at some point the penny would drop and she'd realise that she's very attractive. You can't hold either of those things against a person. It's like an extremely clever person realising they're extremely clever. Nature has endowed them with assets and they've been made aware of that fact. Such is the state of things.

Attractiveness is a powerful tool in this world. As is cleverness. It therefore makes total sense that someone who has such things is going to put some weight on them to exploit their advantage. What of any of this is distasteful or not common sense so far?

The trouble comes when attractive people or clever people or rich people, comfortable with their position of power, relax a bit, let their hair down, and start chastising fat people, ugly people, dumb people, or poor people. We find the exact same unattractive views expressed by lots of types of people when they let their guard down. But among those who have in plenitude that which they mock others for lacking... that's just deeply ugly.

This is why we admire attractive, clever, rich people all the more when they clearly signify that are sensitive and humble about their good fortune. But, regardless, such traits will tend to polarise a certain amount of a population, with some attracted to them and others jealous and judgemental. It's true of each. Clever people get regularly chastised for that. Rich too. Attractiveness is just another one of those things which tends to trigger those of us insecure about it "

I'm not sure I agree.

We are all human. We were all born and will all die.

Everyone is equal in my eyes.

If you're decent we'll get on.

If you're a shit sandwich we won't.

I don't judge people by looks, money, status, popularity, race, religion, intellect, culture ....

I'd rather spend time with people who demonstrate empathy. Compassion. Kindness. Etc and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison "

Not being funny but OP doesn't have a face pic so how do we know she's "pretty"? I'm not saying she isn't but you can't tell from her pics.

That's why I laugh when so many guys on here tell women how stunning they are when they don't have face pics. I've slept with a couple of women with amazing bodies when d*unk then woken up the next morning to realise I'd well and truly had my beer goggles on the night before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is equal in my eyes."

Everyone is *different*. And everyone (*everyone*) deserves equality of opportunity.

But the landscape isn't equal. By that I mean our culture. Our culture favours rich, clever, attractive people. It's skewed in their favour. Some people are relaxed and comfortable about that, comfortable that some of their peers have advantage over them for no reason other than birth. Some want to see some kind of equality of outcome whereby the rich, clever, and attractive are held back somehow, to make it fairer for the rest of us

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over a year ago


"I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison

Not being funny but OP doesn't have a face pic so how do we know she's "pretty"? I'm not saying she isn't but you can't tell from her pics.

That's why I laugh when so many guys on here tell women how stunning they are when they don't have face pics. I've slept with a couple of women with amazing bodies when d*unk then woken up the next morning to realise I'd well and truly had my beer goggles on the night before. "

The op has a face pic

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Op I think you must be a wrong un !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison

Not being funny but OP doesn't have a face pic so how do we know she's "pretty"? I'm not saying she isn't but you can't tell from her pics.

That's why I laugh when so many guys on here tell women how stunning they are when they don't have face pics. I've slept with a couple of women with amazing bodies when d*unk then woken up the next morning to realise I'd well and truly had my beer goggles on the night before.

The op has a face pic "

So her open mouth is classed as a face pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

I don't know the op but feel that if someone was very attractive and lots of people told her she was very attractive at some point the penny would drop and she'd realise that she's very attractive. I think she knows this already !!

You can't hold either of those things against a person. It's like an extremely clever person realising they're extremely clever. Nature has endowed them with assets and they've been made aware of that fact. Such is the state of things.

Attractiveness is a powerful tool in this world. As is cleverness. It therefore makes total sense that someone who has such things is going to put some weight on them to exploit their advantage. What of any of this is distasteful or not common sense so far?

The trouble comes when attractive people or clever people or rich people, comfortable with their position of power, relax a bit, let their hair down, and start chastising fat people, ugly people, dumb people, or poor people. We find the exact same unattractive views expressed by lots of types of people when they let their guard down. But among those who have in plenitude that which they mock others for lacking... that's just deeply ugly.

This is why we admire attractive, clever, rich people all the more when they clearly signify that are sensitive and humble about their good fortune. But, regardless, such traits will tend to polarise a certain amount of a population, with some attracted to them and others jealous and judgemental. It's true of each. Clever people get regularly chastised for that. Rich too. Attractiveness is just another one of those things which tends to trigger those of us insecure about it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

I don't know the op but feel that if someone was very attractive and lots of people told her she was very attractive at some point the penny would drop and she'd realise that she's very attractive. You can't hold either of those things against a person. It's like an extremely clever person realising they're extremely clever. Nature has endowed them with assets and they've been made aware of that fact. Such is the state of things.

Attractiveness is a powerful tool in this world. As is cleverness. It therefore makes total sense that someone who has such things is going to put some weight on them to exploit their advantage. What of any of this is distasteful or not common sense so far?

The trouble comes when attractive people or clever people or rich people, comfortable with their position of power, relax a bit, let their hair down, and start chastising fat people, ugly people, dumb people, or poor people. We find the exact same unattractive views expressed by lots of types of people when they let their guard down. But among those who have in plenitude that which they mock others for lacking... that's just deeply ugly.

This is why we admire attractive, clever, rich people all the more when they clearly signify that are sensitive and humble about their good fortune. But, regardless, such traits will tend to polarise a certain amount of a population, with some attracted to them and others jealous and judgemental. It's true of each. Clever people get regularly chastised for that. Rich too. Attractiveness is just another one of those things which tends to trigger those of us insecure about it "

Can you minimise that in layman’s terms?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I have been on off on here for 5yrs and know OP. I Truly believe you have a bipolar type personality (slash) slightly narcissistic. You put your worth on your physical body and sexual beings. Almost as no other woman could compete?

What about if another woman had a lovely personality and was very confident but a size 14+, would you say you were more worthy than her,? If a guy choose her over you?

I don't know the op but feel that if someone was very attractive and lots of people told her she was very attractive at some point the penny would drop and she'd realise that she's very attractive. You can't hold either of those things against a person. It's like an extremely clever person realising they're extremely clever. Nature has endowed them with assets and they've been made aware of that fact. Such is the state of things.

Attractiveness is a powerful tool in this world. As is cleverness. It therefore makes total sense that someone who has such things is going to put some weight on them to exploit their advantage. What of any of this is distasteful or not common sense so far?

The trouble comes when attractive people or clever people or rich people, comfortable with their position of power, relax a bit, let their hair down, and start chastising fat people, ugly people, dumb people, or poor people. We find the exact same unattractive views expressed by lots of types of people when they let their guard down. But among those who have in plenitude that which they mock others for lacking... that's just deeply ugly.

This is why we admire attractive, clever, rich people all the more when they clearly signify that are sensitive and humble about their good fortune. But, regardless, such traits will tend to polarise a certain amount of a population, with some attracted to them and others jealous and judgemental. It's true of each. Clever people get regularly chastised for that. Rich too. Attractiveness is just another one of those things which tends to trigger those of us insecure about it "

Im not sure I agree.

Life is about your inner soul. Skin deep attractive people often lack self esteem are so worried about what everyone thinks about them they often dont have fun etc.

Being attractive is about liking yourself in your own skin making the best of what you have. Needy people are somewhat draining to be around, the people that its always about me type.... How you speak, what you say etc.

Beauty and sex appeal are very different.

Keep it real

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison

Not being funny but OP doesn't have a face pic so how do we know she's "pretty"? I'm not saying she isn't but you can't tell from her pics.

That's why I laugh when so many guys on here tell women how stunning they are when they don't have face pics. I've slept with a couple of women with amazing bodies when d*unk then woken up the next morning to realise I'd well and truly had my beer goggles on the night before.

The op has a face pic

So her open mouth is classed as a face pic? "

No. But the face pic she sent me is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear, for a woman, being "pretty" can be something of a prison

Not being funny but OP doesn't have a face pic so how do we know she's "pretty"? I'm not saying she isn't but you can't tell from her pics.

That's why I laugh when so many guys on here tell women how stunning they are when they don't have face pics. I've slept with a couple of women with amazing bodies when d*unk then woken up the next morning to realise I'd well and truly had my beer goggles on the night before.

The op has a face pic

So her open mouth is classed as a face pic?

No. But the face pic she sent me is "

Ooh check you out, stud!

Do we get an invite to the wedding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory "

This!!! 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being attractive is about liking yourself in your own skin making the best of what you have. Needy people are somewhat draining to be around, the people that its always about me type.... How you speak, what you say etc.

Beauty and sex appeal are very different.

Keep it real

"

I couldn't agree more. But I think part of being comfortable with who you are is being unthreatened by others who are richer, cleverer, prettier etc. I don't get any richer, cleverer, or prettier by giving them a drubbing or treating them as lesser than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory

This!!! 100%. "

Haha I'm enjoying the ride for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory

This!!! 100%.

Haha I'm enjoying the ride for now "

Just make sure that saddles tight.

A fall from a high horse can result in serious injury.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory

This!!! 100%.

Haha I'm enjoying the ride for now

Just make sure that saddles tight.

A fall from a high horse can result in serious injury. "

Something tells me this mare isn't for riding, at least not by me. But I find the issue interesting

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So anyway, OP, did you come to any conclusions?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Why do so many people dislike me, male and female?

Are there people YOU like or dislike here ?? male or female.

I have no feeling either way, though you do seem extremely troubled to me in all your posts.

Quite a shame really."

I see lots of posts have been removed so as this question got missed along the way I will ask it again.

Just because the Op seems so angry with people all the time if opinions differ from her own.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

People that don't get/understand you are pretty much not gonna like you they just assume you are this that or the other. The people who understand where you are coming from you don't need to worry about they like you so if you can just talk to them but have fun pissing off the rest from time to time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See if a guy posted this it would be stop bitching and leave then.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

6 posts to close then, guess OP has nothing more to say on the matter

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I don't dislike you...I like a project

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 posts to close then, guess OP has nothing more to say on the matter "

She isn't able to I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See if a guy posted this it would be stop bitching and leave then. "

Pretty much spot on fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"6 posts to close then, guess OP has nothing more to say on the matter

She isn't able to I think "

(Starts taking bets on a similar thread starting within the next 24 hrs....)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t know. Not the most helpful of replies but on my reckoning, it’s a lovely ‘sit on the fence’ and non committal weak Lilly Livered civil service type lack of definition (unlike my bicep (left)) that one might associate with someone like me, except of course, that assumption would be inaccurate.

*sings* it’s the end of the thread as we know it, and I feel fine”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would good sir like me to stable his steed and return his Lance to the armory

This!!! 100%.

Haha I'm enjoying the ride for now

Just make sure that saddles tight.

A fall from a high horse can result in serious injury. "

And without that charger ...

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Dammit .. still no reply.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

[(Starts taking bets on a similar thread starting within the next 24 hrs....)quote]

Indeed you are correct.

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