FabSwingers.com forum: People with no 'Interests' ticked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you mail someone that had none of the 'Interests' ticked? What would you think they're into?

Do you assume that the list is mandatory sex acts- if they tick anal do you expect anal on a meet with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume (rightly or wrongly) that that's what they are interested in..

If they have none showing I'd assume it's something they wish to keep private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any. I want to just play it by ear and not want people to go by them so when I do meet someone there is no expectation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had none ticked for ages, because what I enjoy can vary widely depending on people and situations.

Now I just have a small number ticked to see if anyone picks up on particular kinks/tastes that I have. I wouldn't expect a ticked interest to be something that definitely will happen, any more than my ticks are any guarantee of what I'll feel like doing.

Conversely just because I haven't ticked something doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy it or try it.

Aside from the safe sex one. I often wonder why that is in "interests".

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

My interests aren't a given on every meet

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I just assume (rightly or wrongly) that that's what they are interested in..

If they have none showing I'd assume it's something they wish to keep private"

Rightly.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think a lot of people keep them hidden or unticked to prevent any expectation of those things happening on a meet or even prevent messages geared purely around those interests.

Personally as my profile says the interests I have ticked are "a mix of what I enjoy, what I've dabbled with, and what I'd like to try and/or explore further, but it's not exhaustive (or expected)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no interests ticked

People contact me.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

I ticked them because I've already done them and didn't mind them too much. I'd never expect anyone to assume it was a list of expectations.

Although I do shy away from those that ticked 'bare back' simply from the safety aspect (it's fine if you know and trust the person but not random meets)

I guess it comes down to what they've written in their profile

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Would you mail someone that had none of the 'Interests' ticked? What would you think they're into?

Do you assume that the list is mandatory sex acts- if they tick anal do you expect anal on a meet with them?"

If you read the forums some people seem to think an interest is mandatory, the obvious example is safe sex.

Look how many forum posts mention safe sex being ticked but a meet has mentioned bareback.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I tick them, so when someone messages with "hi wot u in2?

I can block them straight away as its obvious they don't read profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you mail someone that had none of the 'Interests' ticked? What would you think they're into?

Do you assume that the list is mandatory sex acts- if they tick anal do you expect anal on a meet with them?"

In every meet you are expected to meet every tick, and marked out of 10 for your complience and performance

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

It's an interest .nothing more or less.

When I meet TOM I may hope he pisses all over me(watersports)

When I meet DICK I may want him to fuck me silly(anal)

Moving on to HARRY it's his huge knob I want to suck(oral)

With no interests shown it could be more spontaneous.

To be honest I rarely look at them.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Don’t think the people that message me ever read that far down. They don’t even take note of any text at the top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interesting, not interested.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like "

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

Interests Bingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't ticked any because I like the getting to know someone part, finding out what they're into and what we match in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

Having to cum before the egg timer runs out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take much notice of interests on here. I don't tick mine because people have assumed that's what I want from them, or what they will get from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't take much notice of interests on here. I don't tick mine because people have assumed that's what I want from them, or what they will get from me."

That's what I was thinking when I was filling out my profile. That and I only had about 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just disinterested

Reducing people to a list of what may or not be a fuck list of potentially compatible sexual interests and only meeting those who fall into the right ticks....

Doesn't it just further reduce us to cyphers where the ticked actions are the reason to accept or reject others?

Isn't life richer than that? Isn't the mutual journey far more important?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

Having to cum before the egg timer runs out

Blimey that long?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you mail someone that had none of the 'Interests' ticked? What would you think they're into?

Do you assume that the list is mandatory sex acts- if they tick anal do you expect anal on a meet with them?

In every meet you are expected to meet every tick, and marked out of 10 for your complience and performance

Bonus points for how many you can manage simultaneously

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I do find it strange that people complain on the forums that they can't find someone who's into let's say spanking. Yet they don't have it in their interests,which means they only show up on a general profile search. If it was listed,they would show up to someone who's ticked spanking to do a profile search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

Having to cum before the egg timer runs out

Blimey that long?!

We can include clean up time in that if you wish

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Depends on the rest of the profile. If I found their profile interesting then yes I would send a PM. A boring profile or 1 that says 'just ask', I never bother with as they seem lazy IMO.

I have had messages where it seems a guy has gone through my interests and sent a detailed description of our potential meet including everything on that tick list. I am sometimes surprised that he doesn't send a schedule as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't take much notice of interests on here. I don't tick mine because people have assumed that's what I want from them, or what they will get from me.

That's what I was thinking when I was filling out my profile. That and I only had about 3

I could tick lots that I've done and some I would try. It would asking for trouble. In fact, I might tick them and see the results.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

The irony of the interest list is lost once you go to a club and meet someone who is not on your radar or you on theirs.

The the fun really begins. You do really not have any intimidating views, preconceptions or prejudices to help/hinder your liason.

Those moments are really different.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I wouldnt expect to work through a ticklist of interests if I meet someone. I just use it as an idea of what they may like

I can't think of anything worse than working through a ticklist!!

Can you imagine?

"Right that's five minutes of anal done, by my watch it must be time for watersports"

Having to cum before the egg timer runs out

Blimey that long?!

We can include clean up time in that if you wish

Is that before or after moving onto rimming?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just disinterested

Reducing people to a list of what may or not be a fuck list of potentially compatible sexual interests and only meeting those who fall into the right ticks....

Doesn't it just further reduce us to cyphers where the ticked actions are the reason to accept or reject others?

Isn't life richer than that? Isn't the mutual journey far more important?"

It would be nice to think so... but it is fab and like with everything you have people who do enjoy the journey and those who are not so it seems! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had watersports ticked as have dabbled in the past. I unticked it along with a few others after the type of messages I was receiving.

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading

It's an interest list, not a shopping list. Helps people searching for certain interests to find you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't take much notice of interests on here. I don't tick mine because people have assumed that's what I want from them, or what they will get from me.

That's what I was thinking when I was filling out my profile. That and I only had about 3

I could tick lots that I've done and some I would try. It would asking for trouble. In fact, I might tick them and see the results."

Oh no I was no no fuck that like that hell no oh one I've done what even is that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you mail someone that had none of the 'Interests' ticked? What would you think they're into?

Do you assume that the list is mandatory sex acts- if they tick anal do you expect anal on a meet with them?

If you read the forums some people seem to think an interest is mandatory, the obvious example is safe sex.

Look how many forum posts mention safe sex being ticked but a meet has mentioned bareback.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm just disinterested

Reducing people to a list of what may or not be a fuck list of potentially compatible sexual interests and only meeting those who fall into the right ticks....

Doesn't it just further reduce us to cyphers where the ticked actions are the reason to accept or reject others?

Isn't life richer than that? Isn't the mutual journey far more important?"

Yeah I feel that way. I don't want to be a tick list I want to be a person. I have no problem with people that go from one fuck to the next, they'd just hate me so I don't waste their time.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I expect every single item on the interest list will be acted out on first meet. Like a to do list.

If not they will get a scathing verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just disinterested

Reducing people to a list of what may or not be a fuck list of potentially compatible sexual interests and only meeting those who fall into the right ticks....

Doesn't it just further reduce us to cyphers where the ticked actions are the reason to accept or reject others?

Isn't life richer than that? Isn't the mutual journey far more important?

It would be nice to think so... but it is fab and like with everything you have people who do enjoy the journey and those who are not so it seems! X"

There's always a place for the occasional diversion

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