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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm going through a particularly big and stressful time at the moment which I am muddling through, but thought I would ask how you cope, and get through, your stress?

I might get some hints to make my transition through it a bit easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I clean a lot more thoroughly than i usually do

Or i cry. Or go for a walk with the dog and kids.

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By *imal75Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

try and not think about it, stay positive, engage only around supportive and positive people, Make a to do list, Try and get away on holiday if your able too... Keep your mind active... and busy and not dwell on the past... Hope this helps..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sleep, walk, eat properly. Talk things out with a trusted friend, every problem is more daunting when kept to yourself.

When you feel overwhelmed, remember that this too shall pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect yourself to be superwoman, she's a myth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I clean a lot more thoroughly than i usually do

Or i cry. Or go for a walk with the dog and kids."

Doing too much crying ... More than is good for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk in the countryside, exercise and have dedicated ‘me time’, which is basically just lighting a candle, relaxing and listening to some music.

Hoping things are less stressful for you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually bash my bishop

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

Vodka.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"try and not think about it, stay positive, engage only around supportive and positive people, Make a to do list, Try and get away on holiday if your able too... Keep your mind active... and busy and not dwell on the past... Hope this helps..xx

I don't like bothering people, maybe that's my problem...

Thank you for the input x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sleep, walk, eat properly. Talk things out with a trusted friend, every problem is more daunting when kept to yourself.

When you feel overwhelmed, remember that this too shall pass."

I know it will pass ... Hence muddling through the best I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re stressed, try going to a spa and pamper yourself, massage, sauna, jacuzzi. Forget the world outside for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I walk in the countryside, exercise and have dedicated ‘me time’, which is basically just lighting a candle, relaxing and listening to some music.

Hoping things are less stressful for you soon

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually bash my bishop "

I don't have a bishop. Will the vicar work as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Vodka."

Temporarily yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you’re stressed, try going to a spa and pamper yourself, massage, sauna, jacuzzi. Forget the world outside for a bit. "

If only I could ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually bash my bishop

I don't have a bishop. Will the vicar work as well?

You'll have to try and let me know

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

I don't like bothering people, maybe that's my problem...

Thank you for the input x"

First thing to do is accept the feelings. You will feel isolated and think 'No one can feel this bad' but like anxiety you have to first accept what your feeling, as trying to block something out...yes you guessed it, makes you think about it more. Just like when a loved one passes away, there's a natural grieving process. At the time it's horrible, but but by but the feelings are not so profound. Don't tell yourself I don't want to feel like sh$t, but that you know you will, but in time you will feel better. That's the first part, excepting the feeling, not fighting it. Then you need to try and keep yourself busy..a hobby, cleaning, friends..going for a walk. You may not feel like it, and not motivated but exercise releases the endorphins in bring that increases the feeling if well-being. This was the single biggest thing that helped me some years ago going through a stressful period. Didn't want to go, but leaving the gym I felt that little bit better that when I walked in. You will be able to eat and sleep far better. Hope you get through it. If you need a chat, then message me. And I do only mean a chat. Sometimes someone you don't know can be far easier.

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

Sorry for the typos...but I hope you get the jist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually bash my bishop

I don't have a bishop. Will the vicar work as well?

You'll have to try and let me know "

If I get arrested I'm blaming you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually bash my bishop

I don't have a bishop. Will the vicar work as well?

You'll have to try and let me know

If I get arrested I'm blaming you

If you do send them my regards as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't like bothering people, maybe that's my problem...

Thank you for the input x

Thank you ... Very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually bash my bishop

I don't have a bishop. Will the vicar work as well?

You'll have to try and let me know

If I get arrested I'm blaming you

If you do send them my regards as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have some hobbies or interests that you can focus on. Sometimes a mental distraction can help, rearranging a room, clearing some old stuff.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Don't bottle it up.

Crying is good, might not feel it at the time.

Speak to friends, share worries and problems.

Sending hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you have some hobbies or interests that you can focus on. Sometimes a mental distraction can help, rearranging a room, clearing some old stuff."

I'll certainly try, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm crap at handling stress. I do find chocolate and the odd glass of wine helps me though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't bottle it up.

Crying is good, might not feel it at the time.

Speak to friends, share worries and problems.

Sending hugs xx"

I'm not good at sharing problems Tee, it's usually me helping everyone else with theirs so really difficult to try to turn it around...

It's quite an isolating experience for me ... Ha!

Thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm crap at handling stress. I do find chocolate and the odd glass of wine helps me though."

I don't get stressed very often so it's a bit alien if you know what I mean?

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Usually find praying and taking time out to reflect and trying to connect with your Lord is a good way to deal with stress and hardship one faces in life.

This works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can only ever do what we can do. That's all we have all we can offer all we can give.

If we try to do more it never works.

Stop breathe smile look around. The world is a beautiful place even if we don't always see it that way.

Then go outdoors sit in a field a park wherever you can just watch the world go by close your eyes and feel the crap stuff just float away...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually find praying and taking time out to reflect and trying to connect with your Lord is a good way to deal with stress and hardship one faces in life.

This works for us. "

Sadly I am not religious

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Don't bottle it up.

Crying is good, might not feel it at the time.

Speak to friends, share worries and problems.

Sending hugs xx

I'm not good at sharing problems Tee, it's usually me helping everyone else with theirs so really difficult to try to turn it around...

It's quite an isolating experience for me ... Ha!

Thanks xx"

I know you're struggling at the moment lovely lady. All I will say is, you must look after your own wellbeing, otherwise you can't help those, who I know your looking after. You must allocate some you time and do something nice that you enjoy. Big Hugs to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We can only ever do what we can do. That's all we have all we can offer all we can give.

If we try to do more it never works.

Stop breathe smile look around. The world is a beautiful place even if we don't always see it that way.

Then go outdoors sit in a field a park wherever you can just watch the world go by close your eyes and feel the crap stuff just float away..."

If only this were that easy ... But I will try to put some of it into practice, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't bottle it up.

Crying is good, might not feel it at the time.

Speak to friends, share worries and problems.

Sending hugs xx

I'm not good at sharing problems Tee, it's usually me helping everyone else with theirs so really difficult to try to turn it around...

It's quite an isolating experience for me ... Ha!

Thanks xx

Thank you so much Sami xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Don't bottle it up.

Crying is good, might not feel it at the time.

Speak to friends, share worries and problems.

Sending hugs xx

I'm not good at sharing problems Tee, it's usually me helping everyone else with theirs so really difficult to try to turn it around...

It's quite an isolating experience for me ... Ha!

Thanks xx

Thank you so much Sami xx"

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From one who has been there, booze doesn't help.

I had a really shitty start to the year, I was lucky to find someone to actually talk to who had no vested interest in me and let me open up.

My emotions and stress levels were through the roof, but after a few sessions of talking which for me as a general rule is like getting blood out of a stone, I began to feel a lot better, more relaxed, and more in control.

It may work for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From one who has been there, booze doesn't help.

I had a really shitty start to the year, I was lucky to find someone to actually talk to who had no vested interest in me and let me open up.

It may work for you"

Yeah I am way better at listening than talking ....

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Try and hibernate with curtains closed phone off,pj's on get under a blanket and get engrossed in a film or do some gardening.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

I cook and bake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We can only ever do what we can do. That's all we have all we can offer all we can give.

If we try to do more it never works.

Stop breathe smile look around. The world is a beautiful place even if we don't always see it that way.

Then go outdoors sit in a field a park wherever you can just watch the world go by close your eyes and feel the crap stuff just float away...

If only this were that easy ... But I will try to put some of it into practice, thanks "

Sometimes things aren't easy or the way we want them to be. But if you don't stop and smell the roses even for a few moments then the problems get bigger and the world a more disconcerting place.

If you don't take time for you no one else will do it for you.

Those who rely on you benefit too. The less stressed you are then the easier it is to deal with stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont deal well so try some for of exersize untill im too tyred to be stressed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and hibernate with curtains closed phone off,pj's on get under a blanket and get engrossed in a film or do some gardening. "

Good call, just wish I could switch my brain/thoughts off too!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cook and bake"

Okay, something else to think about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going through a hugely depressing, stressful time and have been for a while. Doc has put me on medication but its to soon to work yet, im awaiting councelling but sorting that out has been very stressful ! Doc has also put me on the sick and i have stopped doing the things that were causing the stress, that has been difficult to do but im putting me first at the moment. I am also going for walks in a country park, gardening, reading more and taking nice trips with hubby. Sitting in my garden listening to the birds and the gentle noises of village life going on around me has been helpful too. I have also been visiting my local club just to relax in the hot tub and chat to people. Im still very low so its not helping much yet but i will keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We can only ever do what we can do. That's all we have all we can offer all we can give.

If we try to do more it never works.

Stop breathe smile look around. The world is a beautiful place even if we don't always see it that way.

Then go outdoors sit in a field a park wherever you can just watch the world go by close your eyes and feel the crap stuff just float away...

If only this were that easy ... But I will try to put some of it into practice, thanks

Sometimes things aren't easy or the way we want them to be. But if you don't stop and smell the roses even for a few moments then the problems get bigger and the world a more disconcerting place.

If you don't take time for you no one else will do it for you.

Those who rely on you benefit too. The less stressed you are then the easier it is to deal with stuff."

I'm better at looking after others than myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont deal well so try some for of exersize untill im too tyred to be stressed"

I have recently ramped up my exercise, but am waiting for the benefits to kick in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont deal well so try some for of exersize untill im too tyred to be stressed

I have recently ramped up my exercise, but am waiting for the benefits to kick in "

State of mind is the first benefit so hope it kicks in soon for ya lass

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im going through a hugely depressing, stressful time and have been for a while. Doc has put me on medication but its to soon to work yet, im awaiting councelling but sorting that out has been very stressful ! Doc has also put me on the sick and i have stopped doing the things that were causing the stress, that has been difficult to do but im putting me first at the moment. I am also going for walks in a country park, gardening, reading more and taking nice trips with hubby. Sitting in my garden listening to the birds and the gentle noises of village life going on around me has been helpful too. I have also been visiting my local club just to relax in the hot tub and chat to people. Im still very low so its not helping much yet but i will keep trying."

By the sounds of it, this is going to take longer than I hoped

Sorry you are in a stressful situation too x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Try and hibernate with curtains closed phone off,pj's on get under a blanket and get engrossed in a film or do some gardening.

Good call, just wish I could switch my brain/thoughts off too!!

Yep life would be a lot easier at time's without them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the sounds of it, this is going to take longer than I hoped

Sorry you are in a stressful situation too x"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Write stuff down so if gets it out of my head.

During a particularly awful break up I wrote several letters/emails containing all my feelings that were never sent anywhere but they helped clear my head and allowed me to sleep a bit better.

Running or exercise also helps as it's me time. I can put the world to rights while pounding the pavement.

Talking to people helps too. I know you don't want to be a burden but you won't be if they are truly friends. Alternatively talking to strangers Dan be very therapeutic as you don't have to be careful in what you say fir fear of it getting out. Try the samaritans. Everyone thinks they are just for suicidal people but actually they are just there to listen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and hibernate with curtains closed phone off,pj's on get under a blanket and get engrossed in a film or do some gardening.

Good call, just wish I could switch my brain/thoughts off too!!

Yep life would be a lot easier at time's without them. "

And when I think ... I overthink even though I know I shouldn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Write stuff down so if gets it out of my head.

During a particularly awful break up I wrote several letters/emails containing all my feelings that were never sent anywhere but they helped clear my head and allowed me to sleep a bit better.

Running or exercise also helps as it's me time. I can put the world to rights while pounding the pavement.

Food for thought there... thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From one who has been there, booze doesn't help.

I had a really shitty start to the year, I was lucky to find someone to actually talk to who had no vested interest in me and let me open up.

It may work for you

Yeah I am way better at listening than talking .... "
I am the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go sailing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go sailing!"

No interest for that I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try and plod on and breath and go with it.... sometimes I have a good cry and rant..or chat to my friends... sometimes just hide away from everyone... or sometimes I just want to fuck... it’s an amazing stress reliever!

Just remember it won’t last... whether we want it to or not life keeps moving forward!!

Here if you need me xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just try and plod on and breath and go with it.... sometimes I have a good cry and rant..or chat to my friends... sometimes just hide away from everyone... or sometimes I just want to fuck... it’s an amazing stress reliever!

Just remember it won’t last... whether we want it to or not life keeps moving forward!!

Here if you need me xxxx"

That last line brought tears to my eyes (silly bloody woman that I am

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I'm also not used to people being genuinely nice to me

xxx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Just remember it won’t last... whether we want it to or not life keeps moving forward!!

Here if you need me xxxx

That last line brought tears to my eyes (silly bloody woman that I am

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I'm also not used to people being genuinely nice to me

xxx"

You deserve it sweetheart, you have a kind heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just remember it won’t last... whether we want it to or not life keeps moving forward!!

Here if you need me xxxx

That last line brought tears to my eyes (silly bloody woman that I am

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I'm also not used to people being genuinely nice to me

xxx

You deserve it sweetheart, you have a kind heart

I try Sami, I also have a very soft heart too which is a bug bear if I get stressed

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Just remember it won’t last... whether we want it to or not life keeps moving forward!!

Here if you need me xxxx

That last line brought tears to my eyes (silly bloody woman that I am

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I'm also not used to people being genuinely nice to me

xxx

You deserve it sweetheart, you have a kind heart

I try Sami, I also have a very soft heart too which is a bug bear if I get stressed

That's the downside sometimes

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Talk to somebody I trust and work out a lot at the gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and accept it!

Stress is normal, it goes back to our caveman (women) days, your body / brain telling you there is a problem, and you need to resolve it.

Talking it through will be your first step to stress relief.

Good Luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and accept it!

Stress is normal, it goes back to our caveman (women) days, your body / brain telling you there is a problem, and you need to resolve it.

Talking it through will be your first step to stress relief.

Good Luck x"

Therein lies my problem then, I won't be bothering anyone, it's not fair on them ...

Never mind it's interesting to see how other people respond to stress ... Thanks for your input x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to run. I went through a very through time a whole ago and running really helped.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love to run. I went through a very through time a whole ago and running really helped."

I can't run, I look like a demented giraffe with saggy tits if I try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try and accept it!

Stress is normal, it goes back to our caveman (women) days, your body / brain telling you there is a problem, and you need to resolve it.

Talking it through will be your first step to stress relief.

Good Luck x

Therein lies my problem then, I won't be bothering anyone, it's not fair on them ...

Never mind it's interesting to see how other people respond to stress ... Thanks for your input x"
I would say you can talk to me, pub landlords get to deal with this all the time, and as I found out it does help in reverse

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By *ourNaughtyNeighbourMan
over a year ago

Close enough :)

Yeh I’m riding that same stress train at the moment, just changed roll into a managerial which bough on a lot of a work load, split with daughters mum and now having to find a place to live as living back at parents is not ideal for long term....

I started looking into meditation which in a quiet environment can help calm the mind but my true go to lately has been a good sit down the beach for an hour but of music watching the waves pass just using that as feelings and stress just washing away....

Mini essay sorry but you will find the right thing for you hopefully just trial and error I found :D chin up chicken, how you feel today won’t be the same as tomorrow or next week

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By *urvyandNerdyCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Stress isn't something I cope well with

Usually end up trying to shoulder it all myself then end up I'll with a migraine

Curvy x

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Try and actually concentrate on the stress. Think of the reasons you feel that way, decide whether or not they are worth getting stressed about.

If they are, dedicate some effort in to deciding on your strategy for tackling them (this is the difficult bit).

Then break it down into tiny pieces, set yourself realistic achievable goals about how you’re going to handle it, get up and at 9 o’clock on Monday morning do something about one of them.

Then treat yourself to one of the methods of putting stuff off that everyone else in this thread has described!

Importantly don’t be too critical of yourself if you fail to complete all the goals you’ve listed, but that doesn’t mean you should stop trying.

Fresh air and exercise are good. Wallowing, junk food and alcohol are bad.

Think of the things that’ll make you feel better tomorrow rather than in 10 mins time.

Best of luck. You’ll get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I'm so glad you were kind enough to put a post up like this and I've been reading all the comments with great interest.

I too suffer with stress and anxiety and last year it all came to ahead and I ended up having a breakdown.

I won't go into too much detail but I was so busy taking care of everyone else and fulfilling their needs that I forgot about myself.

I'm on the mend now as I've finally started putting myself first instead of last without feeling guilty. Obviously I'm always going to have issues but that's just how I am,I worry about silly things and worry about things that may never even happen,I just can't help it!

I hope you take onboard some of the comments on here and take good care of yourself and talk about how you feel with someone you trust or a professional as it does help.

I never spoke to no one and bottled everything up for months and months and I didn't realise it at the time but I was a ticking time bomb and eventually I got to the breaking point,hence the breakdown.

Don't do what I did as it's really unhealthy and not good for the soul x

Big hugs.

Lola x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Share it with a friend who will listen without judging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mindfulness. Amazing. I no longer get stressed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and accept it!

Stress is normal, it goes back to our caveman (women) days, your body / brain telling you there is a problem, and you need to resolve it.

Talking it through will be your first step to stress relief.

Good Luck x

Therein lies my problem then, I won't be bothering anyone, it's not fair on them ...

Never mind it's interesting to see how other people respond to stress ... Thanks for your input x

I would say you can talk to me, pub landlords get to deal with this all the time, and as I found out it does help in reverse"

Thank you but I really wouldn't put on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yoga exercises and stretches help.although its good for the body .i find it helps with the mind too

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Central

Exercise.

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeh I’m riding that same stress train at the moment, just changed roll into a managerial which bough on a lot of a work load, split with daughters mum and now having to find a place to live as living back at parents is not ideal for long term....

Mini essay sorry but you will find the right thing for you hopefully just trial and error I found :D chin up chicken, how you feel today won’t be the same as tomorrow or next week"

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Sadly I am a long way from a beach so that isn't doable for me, but maybe I can find somewhere quiet to escape to

I know I will get through it, my parents will make sure of that if I don't, but it's a very isolating thing and frustrating as hell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I'm so glad you were kind enough to put a post up like this and I've been reading all the comments with great interest.

I too suffer with stress and anxiety and last year it all came to ahead and I ended up having a breakdown.

I won't go into too much detail but I was so busy taking care of everyone else and fulfilling their needs that I forgot about myself.

I hope you take onboard some of the comments on here and take good care of yourself and talk about how you feel with someone you trust or a professional as it does help.

Don't do what I did as it's really unhealthy and not good for the soul x

Big hugs.

Lola x"

Hi Lola

Thank you for sharing your story and I am so sorry that you suffered so badly.

I'm glad you're on the mend and wish you lots of luck for the future xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Share it with a friend who will listen without judging... "

I couldn't put on my friends like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mindfulness. Amazing. I no longer get stressed!"

If this was small stress that would work, but this is something life changing so not so easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dogs are my well being therapy - the stress melts away when I'm with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yoga exercises and stretches help.although its good for the body .i find it helps with the mind too"

Definitely worth considering

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Exercise.

I'm throwing myself into this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If possible, grab a book (or audio book), find a quiet place away from the hustle and bustle, preferably with a nature view, have half an hour to yourself and wallow in an escapist story. I'm lucky, I have some cathedral grounds very close by where I can relax and enjoy some quiet, gather my thoughts, and ponder my next move.

All the best, tho. Hope stuff is on the up soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My dogs are my well being therapy - the stress melts away when I'm with them."

I don't have dogs.

Or kids.

I'm very much on my own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If possible, grab a book (or audio book), find a quiet place away from the hustle and bustle, preferably with a nature view, have half an hour to yourself and wallow in an escapist story. I'm lucky, I have some cathedral grounds very close by where I can relax and enjoy some quiet, gather my thoughts, and ponder my next move.

All the best, tho. Hope stuff is on the up soon."

Oh I will be fine, I know that ... It's just dealing with the early stages of it ... Thank you x

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Good long walks with music in my ears just to have a bit of mindful time away from whatever is going on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good long walks with music in my ears just to have a bit of mindful time away from whatever is going on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm going through a particularly big and stressful time at the moment which I am muddling through, but thought I would ask how you cope, and get through, your stress?

I might get some hints to make my transition through it a bit easier

If few things are particularly stressing me, I try to fix them one at a time . Small wins are easier than big ones and slowly it all adds up. Big picture thinking helps but divide and conquer works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm going through a particularly big and stressful time at the moment which I am muddling through, but thought I would ask how you cope, and get through, your stress?

I might get some hints to make my transition through it a bit easier

Thank you for the input, good ideas too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a big hug will help, then I'm sending you my best ((((HUG))))

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a big hug will help, then I'm sending you my best ((((HUG))))

Hugs are ALWAYS helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When Ive done all the crying I can do I read/watch something funny. Something that you just cant help to laugh at however else miserable you may feel. I found this is better( for me) than sitting and reflecting to much.

Failing that get a punchbag and murder it with your fists

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

For me, understanding the cause and effect of stress helped me cope with a particularly bad time.. understanding that is your brain flooding your body with chemicals in a Fight or Flight way. That tight feeling across your chest, feeling sick, wanting to cry; they are all natural reactions and once it was explained to me why it happens I was far more able to cope.

Speak with a stress councillor, they really do help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me, understanding the cause and effect of stress helped me cope with a particularly bad time.. understanding that is your brain flooding your body with chemicals in a Fight or Flight way. That tight feeling across your chest, feeling sick, wanting to cry; they are all natural reactions and once it was explained to me why it happens I was far more able to cope.

Speak with a stress councillor, they really do help. "

At the moment I don't want to talk to anyone, but at least I know they're available x

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over a year ago

"I'm going through a particularly big and stressful time at the moment which I am muddling through, but thought I would ask how you cope, and get through, your stress?

I might get some hints to make my transition through it a bit easier

Don't beat yourself up over it or expect yourself to cope wonderfully with it all. Best advice I ever heard was, give yourself the same patience and understanding that you would give to anybody else.

For what it's worth, I cope with stress with music... listening to it, playing it, and definitely dancing to it. And walking, I find walking miles is very therapeutic. And writing.

Virtual hug : )

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

I’ve also had more than my fair share of stress mainly in the form of bereavement. My way of coping with that is through going to new places and leaving something in each place to remember those who have passed. I feel it provides a connection for them to see the places they never got the chance to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to the gym... I see results I smile.

Do things that improve ones being. So when you stare back at your reflextion you can smile knowing you're better than the you yesterday, the you last week, the you a month ago.

You can do anything, read, learn culinary arts, anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm going through a particularly big and stressful time at the moment which I am muddling through, but thought I would ask how you cope, and get through, your stress?

I might get some hints to make my transition through it a bit easier

Don't beat yourself up over it or expect yourself to cope wonderfully with it all. Best advice I ever heard was, give yourself the same patience and understanding that you would give to anybody else.

For what it's worth, I cope with stress with music... listening to it, playing it, and definitely dancing to it. And walking, I find walking miles is very therapeutic. And writing.

Virtual hug : ) "

It always helps to hear how others get through it, hence why I posted this thread.

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve also had more than my fair share of stress mainly in the form of bereavement. My way of coping with that is through going to new places and leaving something in each place to remember those who have passed. I feel it provides a connection for them to see the places they never got the chance to see. "

That's a really nice idea

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By *am DavisMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Hey Coquette69

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go to the gym... I see results I smile.

Do things that improve ones being. So when you stare back at your reflextion you can smile knowing you're better than the you yesterday, the you last week, the you a month ago.

You can do anything, read, learn culinary arts, anything

I absolutely know I can do anything, but I need to wade my way through this too

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