FabSwingers.com forum: Putting myself out there...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Central

You look lovely to me. I’m sure you’ll be fine. The right person will come to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly lovely, give it time! I had a 6 year relationship from online dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly lovely, give it time! I had a 6 year relationship from porn hub online dating. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.

They're all slightly different and all free...

You might get to like one of them.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

It’s a buyers market, the question is what are you looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you spend too much time searching for someone, you'll never find them

Don't fret about negatives, focus on doing things that make you happy and the right person will turn up eventually

I hear stamp collecting is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.

They're all slightly different and all free...

You might get to like one of them.

Good luck x"

Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.

They're all slightly different and all free...

You might get to like one of them.

Good luck x

Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy

The point is that they're all a little different and one might work better than another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.

They're all slightly different and all free...

You might get to like one of them.

Good luck x

Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy

The point is that they're all a little different and one might work better than another"

She’s still young why not go to the pub instead of digital dating which is a bit like eBay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

I’d say the hobby is a better idea. I hope you haven’t paid for the site. I’ve been on all sites going. Found dating sites to be like a mail order family. Found it works for all my single kid less friends though. Spend your time having fun else where. An remember there is nothing wrong with you

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By *eep.Man
over a year ago

Just a background character

I'd have thought you could have your pick round here OP! Maybe your standards are too high!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same divorced with kids but not in any way looking for a relationship at the minute. I hope that you find what you are looking for OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!"

Because it wasn’t the first one of the type that he’d posted. Next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is online your only access to men OP? Could you go out with some friends and meet someone that way? Oh and a hobby might actually give you access to meeting new men in the flesh.... I will say, your pictures are lovely. So I'm surprised that you are struggling on that match site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!"

I would say the exact same thing to a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!"

I was just thinking if any comparisons were going to be made with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!

Because it wasn’t the first one of the type that he’d posted. Next!"

Or because she's a poor little woman who needs sympathy and tissues?

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

say what lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

Try fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is online your only access to men OP? Could you go out with some friends and meet someone that way? Oh and a hobby might actually give you access to meeting new men in the flesh.... I will say, your pictures are lovely. So I'm surprised that you are struggling on that match site

I think it's a convenient option. My friends are all coupled up and have busy lives too, when we go out men are the last thing on my mind. We are too busy dancing round our handbags.

Plus I'm not confident enough to approach someone I might like the look of. I'm also oblivious if anyone is flirting with me!

Also it's unlikely I'll meet anyone through work.

I'm really not seeking sympathy, I was aiming for humour.

I've been single a very long time now (9 years) and I genuinely don't want to be anymore.

I suppose I'm also trying to prove I can be more to someone than just a bit of fun.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s sorting the wheat from the chaff analogy, I suppose. The needle in a haystack.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

im sure you'll find someone soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im sure you'll find someone soon "

How sure are you?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Dating sites are the same as FAB - except you pay more for it and get less out of it! The quality of talent is no different to here!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The ratios are the other way round on dating sites. You need to put the effort in the get results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

Nothing wrong with a yummy mummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratios are the other way round on dating sites. You need to put the effort in the get results.

Really!

are you sure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find that hard to believe as women always get lots offers say your just picky

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Have you tried the meet up apps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to stop putting yourself down and find some self confidence. From what I can see you look gorgeous. Get out there and her some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find that hard to believe as women always get lots offers say your just picky "

Are you saying us women shouldn't be picky and just say yes to every Tom, Dick and Harry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find that hard to believe as women always get lots offers say your just picky

Are you saying us women shouldn't be picky and just say yes to every Tom, Dick and Harry? "
no but some of you are extremely picky then winge about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

I would work on your profiles on the other sites. Get some good pics and write a decent one. On a site where there are probably girls a lot hotter with no baggage and a decent profile ....an average.. girl next door will get overlooked x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"You need to stop putting yourself down and find some self confidence. From what I can see you look gorgeous. Get out there and her some fun. "

Couldn't agree more. If you don't feel you're good enough, it won't happen. And you're definitely good enough! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.

So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.

I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.

I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.

I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!

I might actually have to take up a hobby!

I'd wager that, contrary to you what you think, you are exactly what someone is looking for!

You are not the only person who is divorced with children, many people are and it hasn't been an obstacle for them.

You say you aren't slim or attractive, but to whom? You may be surprised by the number of people that think the opposite. Try sending the 1st message, be brave. Fortune favours the brave.

Good luck though, I'm sure when you least expect it someone will make your tummy flutter

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