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Awesome but not fuckable!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

You both look fuckable to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense! "

Suck it up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You both look fuckable to me "

That's because we are....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly being straight and honest would be best? It’s not the easiest thing to do but if I was in that situation I’d probably just say ‘thanks but no thanks’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a really awkward thing to do but it's better to be straight and just tell them either yes or no I tried to be reasonable by telling them look I don't think we've clicked

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"You both look fuckable to me

That's because we are.... "
Haha good answer . Although i wouldn't know for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense! "

I usually have a social first, that's how I suss them out.... saves having to ask advice too

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Katie can't face it. We always meet in a pub and she has a code meaning she is not interested. She then goes off to the loo and I have to do the dirty.

Feminism eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Katie can't face it. We always meet in a pub and she has a code meaning she is not interested. She then goes off to the loo and I have to do the dirty.

Feminism eh? "

I can't face it either (Mrs mp) We don't know if there interested either lol half the time hehe. I just usually jump on em! Which seems to work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a really awkward thing to do but it's better to be straight and just tell them either yes or no I tried to be reasonable by telling them look I don't think we've clicked"

Are they usually ok with that they don't take offense or anything?

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I'm kind but honest about it. I can't and won't fuck someone who doesn't do it for me just to spare their feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a social first usually, they usually get the vibe if I like them or not. If they don't, I just tell them, I don't owe them anything, being on fab isn't a guaranteed fuck. Being honest is just easier, I never do it unkindly, but I'm never gonna fuck someone just because I don't know his to tell them I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They usually tell me something along the lines of "....you're great an all sweet cheeks but I'm joining a nunnery and I have to stay celibate for two weeks before I'm allowed in, and the two weeks began 5 minutes ago, did I not mention this in our messages?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense! "

Be honest.

Thats all.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I'd peek through the blinds first, then hide and pretend I wasn't in. xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer "

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp..."

Still...

How would you like that person to tell you that you are not for them ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp...

Still...

How would you like that person to tell you that you are not for them ? "

But people have and I'm fine with that, its a sex site it's about attraction... I'm not getting into a relationship with them. If you get upset when someone says your not for them then you will not be on the site long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp...

Still...

How would you like that person to tell you that you are not for them ?

But people have and I'm fine with that, its a sex site it's about attraction... I'm not getting into a relationship with them. If you get upset when someone says your not for them then you will not be on the site long. "

So u have your answer

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense! "

As I understand it, the acceptable and widely used approach is to arrange a full meet but suddenly go quiet as the date approaches. Then you don't turn up and block them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp...

Still...

How would you like that person to tell you that you are not for them ?

But people have and I'm fine with that, its a sex site it's about attraction... I'm not getting into a relationship with them. If you get upset when someone says your not for them then you will not be on the site long.

So u have your answer "

Right ok cheers have a nice day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well try to put yourself in the shoes of the awesome but not fuckable person... How would you like that person to tell you that you are awesome but not fuckable?

You'll have your answer

Well I can try and put myself in their shoes but they probably wouldn't suit me lol... I am awesome hehe and Im definitely not fuckable to some people but that's life! It's about attraction and the person could be absolutely lovely but you don't fancy them.. I wouldnt exactly say "oh by the way your awesome but not fuckable" would i?!

I put a catchy title that's all.

Mrs mp...

Still...

How would you like that person to tell you that you are not for them ?

But people have and I'm fine with that, its a sex site it's about attraction... I'm not getting into a relationship with them. If you get upset when someone says your not for them then you will not be on the site long.

So u have your answer

Right ok cheers have a nice day "

Thank you ever so much that's so kind of you.

You too xoxox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense!

As I understand it, the acceptable and widely used approach is to arrange a full meet but suddenly go quiet as the date approaches. Then you don't turn up and block them."

That's terrible we've had that a couple of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them. I usually say they are lovely, but i just didn't feel the chemistry. That I'm happy to keep chatting, if they want, but i don't see it going further than a potential friendship. I've only ever had one get very weird about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense!

As I understand it, the acceptable and widely used approach is to arrange a full meet but suddenly go quiet as the date approaches. Then you don't turn up and block them.

That's terrible we've had that a couple of times. "
me to.

At the end of the day, most of us are adult enough to actually say, I don't think it will work, nothing personal, but that spark isn't there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have a meet planned and they look and sound great online but when they turn up they are either awesome but not fuckable or just not what you thought. How do you tell em its not happening? For future ref.. Hope that makes sense! "

We meet for social first and make sure they understand there will be no answer on the spot. We don't expect one either.

We msg later same day either way.

We have received "no" as well as said "no" ourselves. Never any offense taken from either side in our experience.

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