FabSwingers.com forum: MMF

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have put on our profile that we have an interest in trying an MMF. We have had plenty of messages as you can imagine, however as exciting as it was at the begging we now feel that this is not the case

We have a growing feeling that most of the guys looking at the female of the couple look at her as a whore due to having a fantasy about sharing her bed with other man as well as her hubby

In our eyes this is a perfect example of lack of respect towards the female

What are people's views on this please

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

If a man disrespect women, he will disrespect them whatever they do or do not do. If a man is unable to conceal his disrespect when doing so would be in his interest, he is also stupid. Keep looking.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Something one that is like a huge neon sign to all the wannabes and chancers and men who think swinging is a cheap alternative to paying for sex.

Try removing the mmf request and get men to make contact and talk. Hopefully those who are ‘proper’ swingers and ‘genuine’ will be happy to chat and find out what rocks your twos boats.

It’s a sub-game of sifting the wheat from the chaff.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you don't like guys looking at your wife's pics then block all single men.

I don't see how you can tell that most men think she is a whore. Are you telepathic ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No respect for my wife = him leaving via the window in a very short space of time.. Luckily it’s always been very respectful, most men on this site seem to appreciate the ratio of men to women and and very happy to have the opportunity...

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I doubt if people think she is whore because she wants this, it is a swinging site after all but if you are not happy with the mail you're receiving take it from your profile and find your own partner and approach them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're overthinking this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what you're saying op. The majority of messages from guys in regards to a mmf is that they presume we want a bull to lead, to show what a 'real' man fucks like!

So we don't specifically look for it, and it has happened for us with a good friend from here who we got to know.

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't like guys looking at your wife's pics then block all single men.

I don't see how you can tell that most men think she is a whore. Are you telepathic ?"

I don't have problems with guys looking at my wife's pics, and I'm happy to share this experience with the right person but as it came through so far through messages, most guys are not willing to take there time to get to know us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you're overthinking this..."

I'm not over thinking things, I (Lisa) want to take time in finding a potential play partner as I would like to have a regular play buddy. Most guys don't read the profile and expect to meet right now due to being horny

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We just received this private message and wanted to share not only did we get consent to this, we also feel this sums up what's been missing from most of the men who messaged us......

Hi guys welcome to the world of swinging

I’m D** I’m not trying to meet as not your type however I saw your forum page and would like if okay to offer some advice

I’ve been on the scene for many years and have met a lot of new couples having there first MMF

I always meet for a drink first to let the couple get to know me and if they like me and my attitude then we arrange a time and place to meet for fun

I always say to them that if we start having fun and at anytime during it any of them feels uncomfortable then we stop and I leave

It is all about them and especially the lady

A lot of guys love the idea but when they see the lady in front of them with another guy it can change sometimes so we stop others love it the whole idea is to make the lady feels special and have two guys pleasuring her at once xx I hope this helps and enjoy the scene x

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By *nicorn and TigerCouple
over a year ago

South East London

Hi guys welcome to the world of swinging

I’m D** I’m not trying to meet as not your type however I saw your forum page and would like if okay to offer some advice

I’ve been on the scene for many years and have met a lot of new couples having there first MMF

I always meet for a drink first to let the couple get to know me and if they like me and my attitude then we arrange a time and place to meet for fun

I always say to them that if we start having fun and at anytime during it any of them feels uncomfortable then we stop and I leave

It is all about them and especially the lady

Absolutely spot on. MFMs should be fun for everyone, but especially the female, as she’s the centre of attention. Definitely take the time to find the right Male to bring in (best if it’s someone that has actively shown interest or has been involved in them before) and go with your gut instinct, there should be no ‘competition’ on the guys side, so steer clear of the ‘bulls’! Hope you find someone and everything goes well as when they’re great they’re GREAT

- R

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