FabSwingers.com forum: Sub drop

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do others deal with sub drop?

I haven’t had this feeling for months however following a meet I’m dropping ridiculously, what’s others way of coping rather than turning to alcohol or chocolate?

Currently snuggled up on the sofa watching a comedy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a sub but I experience this often. The low after such wonderful highs.

Be kind to yourself. Remember it will pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never experienced it as I don’t do the sub thing. However, I can send pictures of cute cats, babies and boobs! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So with you it like going cold turkey after fun

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I self indulge with a nice warm bath or I go for a run. Having a conversation with those I love helps massively as well. And binge watch Parks and Rec or do a marathon of LOTR. Things that give me an endorphin boost essentially.

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By *oisineandAlCouple
over a year ago

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Be kind to yourself, drink lots of water. Spoil yourself. Eat chocolate if you have to. If the person who put you into this drop, he/she must keep checking in with you. Make sure to receive extra hugs etc. Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I self indulge with a nice warm bath or I go for a run. Having a conversation with those I love helps massively as well. And binge watch Parks and Rec or do a marathon of LOTR. Things that give me an endorphin boost essentially."

TREAT YO’ SELF

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve never experienced it as I don’t do the sub thing. However, I can send pictures of cute cats, babies and boobs! X"

Boobs send boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Sub drop’, wow they have a name for everything these days. What a time to be alive!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I went to the gym earlier but dropped this evening, managed to chat on the phone with my friend who is always there to pick me up when this happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to the gym earlier but dropped this evening, managed to chat on the phone with my friend who is always there to pick me up when this happens

I love parks and rec,so funny.

Ive never had sub drop I dont think but chocoalate solves lots of problems. And have a hug xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing helps me, I just have to remember that it will pass.

Maybe remember all the good things/ feelings about the meet. Hope you feel better soon OP. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I went to the gym earlier but dropped this evening, managed to chat on the phone with my friend who is always there to pick me up when this happens

I love parks and rec,so funny.

Ive never had sub drop I dont think but chocoalate solves lots of problems. And have a hug xx"

Aww thanks, I tend not to suffer as I only see my master or mistress but I had my ultimate fantasy last night and that has made me drop

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing helps me, I just have to remember that it will pass.

Maybe remember all the good things/ feelings about the meet. Hope you feel better soon OP. x"

Thank you I’m sure I will x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending thoughts of how you were giggling and happy at the social when I saw you. I really hope it passes soon SB

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending thoughts of how you were giggling and happy at the social when I saw you. I really hope it passes soon SB "

Aww thanks G yes I’m as happy in person usually as I am on here and apparently cute! It’s in my veris!

It’ll pass though x

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I think I've got social drop

Hope you're feeling more like yourself soon gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I've got social drop

Hope you're feeling more like yourself soon gorgeous xx"

I got the social drop but was easily over it but it was my fantasy that I dropped from. It’s rubbish as I haven’t dropped like this since February but I’ll be grand and so will you gorgeous. See you in October if not before xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I've got social drop

Hope you're feeling more like yourself soon gorgeous xx"

you

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"managed to chat on the phone with my friend who is always there to pick me up when this happens

Im not a sub, but I know what you mean OP. Monday I was like this. Had an amazing weekend. Monday was back to reality with one almighty bang. Not helped by been on my own all day at work either. Luckily my best friend knows all about me. So I can talk to him when I need it.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"I think I've got social drop

Hope you're feeling more like yourself soon gorgeous xx

you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard the phrase myself so il read and learn please no test tho

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

It’s also your ‘dom’’s responsibility to help here.

Sub drop should be an anticipated part of a scenario and they should have already shown you that they have thought about how they will deal with it. If someone hasn’t given you the impression that they understand that, yet calls themselves ‘dominant’, I’d suggest that you don’t undertake any activity with them from a safety perspective as they are likely to be clueless as to your needs.

If you communicate the way you are feeling, or have felt in the past after a meet as well has what has helped to make you feel better in the past they can tailor the aftercare to you with the same attentiveness they administer the dominant element.

I appreciate that everyone is different. Some have next to no special needs, others a cuddle a blanket and some sugary tea, and some will need support and reassurance over the next couple of days, even if that’s just a text to make sure they’re ok.

Everyone is different, but as with all the other things, it’s better to talk. Then you can build on what you’ve done to make the next time even better..

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By *witch4Fun24Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

I snuggle up in my pjs wrapped in a warm blanket, watch my fave films with hot chocolate, have a long soak in a bath with bubbles and then have an early night. Talk to the other person/people if you can. Sleep helps the most I think as your endorphins have usually regulated by the time you wake up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve experienced something similar and seen it too. If you can’t directly get the aftercare from your Dom then something similar can help. As said ^^ do something that makes you happy, comfort food, a good film etc. I also found that making future plans helps massively too.

Look after yourself and be gentle too, it does happen to all of us at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for being ignorent hope you feel better soon luv

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s also your ‘dom’’s responsibility to help here.

Everyone is different, but as with all the other things, it’s better to talk. Then you can build on what you’ve done to make the next time even better.."

Just to clarify it wasn’t my Dom I played with, it was a regular guy who played out a fantasy for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do others deal with sub drop?

I haven’t had this feeling for months however following a meet I’m dropping ridiculously, what’s others way of coping rather than turning to alcohol or chocolate?

Currently snuggled up on the sofa watching a comedy. "

I've only experienced this after really intense meets this year but it's been rare and mostly the following day for a few hours. I've found contact afterwards helps me, essentially to talk over what fun it was. I tend to feel incredibly sensitive and I find masturbation eases my mind and body and I'm back on track enjoying all those delicious flashbacks.

Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do others deal with sub drop?

I haven’t had this feeling for months however following a meet I’m dropping ridiculously, what’s others way of coping rather than turning to alcohol or chocolate?

Currently snuggled up on the sofa watching a comedy.

Hugs xx"

Thanks sweetie xx

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just to clarify it wasn’t my Dom I played with, it was a regular guy who played out a fantasy for me "

Then I totally understand how you are feeling. Monday afternoon when I’d felt like this all day. Someone I met the weekend text me. She gave me the most beautiful comment. It literally made me cry. That’s no that was due to feeling so low, then the comment was such a high. If that makes sense?

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"It’s also your ‘dom’’s responsibility to help here.

Everyone is different, but as with all the other things, it’s better to talk. Then you can build on what you’ve done to make the next time even better..

Just to clarify it wasn’t my Dom I played with, it was a regular guy who played out a fantasy for me "

I think the advice is the same. Talk about it before, and after. And, during if you need to.

Hope you’re feeling better soon.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

"I’ve never experienced it as I don’t do the sub thing. However, I can send pictures of cute cats, babies and boobs! X"
pictures of boobs always help dureing a low time

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve never experienced it as I don’t do the sub thing. However, I can send pictures of cute cats, babies and boobs! X pictures of boobs always help dureing a low time "

I’m sure they would of helped me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s also your ‘dom’’s responsibility to help here.

Everyone is different, but as with all the other things, it’s better to talk. Then you can build on what you’ve done to make the next time even better.."

I agree fully.

For now- have you someone who you can be around? Can anyone cuddle you or even a pet?

Personally I find I need physical contact from MrP. Just for him to hold me.

I’m sending love as it’s a weird feeling that some may not understand xxxx

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By *oisineandAlCouple
over a year ago

limerick

"‘Sub drop’, wow they have a name for everything these days. What a time to be alive! "

There is also a Dom/me drop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you play with a regular dom ? Maybe have a chat to him .. most doms see it as their duty to look after your well being not just during play but after too especially after a particularly intense session . Failing that a good cuddle with someone close to you and wine and chocs and bubble bath and lots of pics of boobies

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you play with a regular dom ? Maybe have a chat to him .. most doms see it as their duty to look after your well being not just during play but after too especially after a particularly intense session . Failing that a good cuddle with someone close to you and wine and chocs and bubble bath and lots of pics of boobies

Mrs xx "

Yes I’ve got a regular master and a regular mistress however this was a fantasy that didn’t include neither. I have had a message off the guy in question however my usual friend from fet picked me up and sorted me out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs xx

Perfect xx

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Lots of water, a soak in the bath with a good book, binge watch some classic comedy and an early night usually does the trick for me

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