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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think self pity is the worst of all personality traits, I’ve seen it on here with certain users and nothing irritates me more than someone feeling sorry for there self continually.

Do you agree it’s the worst trait or do you think there are other more annoying ones ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

arrogance is worse than self-pity imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to say yes, but there's so much going on in my life, No one understands

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It depends when there's a serious need I get it although it's not a place I'd go I'm way to head strong but everyone deals with things differently and I know if somebody is really struggling especially mentally the absolute worst thing you can ever say is pull yourself together.

Personally I think liers are way worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know if it’s the worst, but it’s certainly darned irksome. Especially so when the self pitier asks for advice and rejects every single suggestion with an even more self-pitying excuse. I like to help people, but after a while even I have to fight the urge to say ‘oh just sod off and be miserable then’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends if it a genuine feeling or if they are doing it for sympathy.

As highheels said it can become tiresome if they aren't willing to change things for themselves although I appreciate in some cases it can be hard or feel impossible for them.

I find narcissistic people worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t know if it’s the worst, but it’s certainly darned irksome. Especially so when the self pitier asks for advice and rejects every single suggestion with an even more self-pitying excuse. I like to help people, but after a while even I have to fight the urge to say ‘oh just sod off and be miserable then’ "

I had this yesterday with someone, I was trying all I could to help them, in the end I thought fuck it, cause it just drags you down as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t know if it’s the worst, but it’s certainly darned irksome. Especially so when the self pitier asks for advice and rejects every single suggestion with an even more self-pitying excuse. I like to help people, but after a while even I have to fight the urge to say ‘oh just sod off and be miserable then’ "

I agree with this totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think self pity is the worst of all personality traits, I’ve seen it on here with certain users and nothing irritates me more than someone feeling sorry for there self continually.

Do you agree it’s the worst trait or do you think there are other more annoying ones ?"

That, and passive aggressive

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I was going to reply to a post on another thread about it but changed my mind, Partly because everyone has their own reasons for being that way, But I don't think they realise that most people are thinking

"Yes I know its not the first time you have posted about it"

When you see a particular thread you know who is going to post and what they are going to say before you have even looked at it,

I worked with someone like that for for a while and I could only handle a few days at a time with him, He had so much negativity about himself and everyone else it actually rubbed of on me and would put me in a foul mood for hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who sign off emails “regards”. They’re the worst...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Are you allowed self pity if you face palmed the pavement on Monday and seriously hurt yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know those people who try to belittle others in groups of people. I hate that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst? No. Irritating? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self pity is something I think everyone experiences from time to time. However some people who constantly wallow in it are frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People who sign off emails “regards”. They’re the worst..."

All the best X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who sign off emails “regards”. They’re the worst...

All the best X"

Regards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People who sign off emails “regards”. They’re the worst...

All the best X

Regards."

Thanks in advance X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if its constant then its irratating everyone has low moments tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self pity is a difficult one, i will admit. First you pity them, try to boost them up, to make them feel better about themselves, then become frustrated when they still wallow. I do feel sorry for ones who have so little self esteem, but my impatience takes over from that pity, unfortunately

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

I wonder what prompted this thread

Cockiness, arrogance and stubbornness though if you want an answer to your question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality traits to avoid in order of importance.

1. Self pity/self loathing

2. Arrogance

3. Posessive people

4. Brown guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self pitty & jealously such destructive emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t know if it’s the worst, but it’s certainly darned irksome. Especially so when the self pitier asks for advice and rejects every single suggestion with an even more self-pitying excuse. I like to help people, but after a while even I have to fight the urge to say ‘oh just sod off and be miserable then’ "

I smile and say nothing anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty coincidental to start this after you go on at me for self pitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty coincidental to start this after you go on at me for self pitty. "

I don’t think it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lamppost pissing is a turn off for me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Being short-tempered is worse.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Iv got to pity myself cos my kids would just say oh get a life!!!

In fact jeez theyr just like me

There's always someone worse off than urself is how I look at life when I'm feeling sorry for myself x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pretty coincidental to start this after you go on at me for self pitty. "

No, I spent all day helping someone yesterday in the real world who is Wallowing in it, it’s destructive cause it drags other people in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lamppost pissing is a turn off for me "

Come on i was in the middle of nowhere my bladder was bursting why bring that up here for shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lamppost pissing is a turn off for me

Come on i was in the middle of nowhere my bladder was bursting why bring that up here for shame "

To be fair, she has a point. You had a litter tray to use, after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pity the fool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lamppost pissing is a turn off for me

Come on i was in the middle of nowhere my bladder was bursting why bring that up here for shame

To be fair, she has a point. You had a litter tray to use, after all "

Hahahahaha almost needed one then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who continually point out the flaws of others. I think that's worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance. Massive turn off.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

The fool deserves no pity.... He's just a foolish fool xxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lamppost pissing is a turn off for me

Come on i was in the middle of nowhere my bladder was bursting why bring that up here for shame

To be fair, she has a point. You had a litter tray to use, after all

Hahahahaha almost needed one then "

Durty

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Yeah ... Ok. Only Suzi knows what she is on about xxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fool deserves no pity.... He's just a foolish fool xxxx Suzi"

Whos the more foolish the fool or the fool that follows him

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

In my mind the fool who follows him, the fool in front knows what he's doing xxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fool deserves no pity.... He's just a foolish fool xxxx Suzi

Whos the more foolish the fool or the fool that follows him "

The force is strong with this one

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"People who continually point out the flaws of others. I think that's worse. "

Well some people are so perfectly perfect it appears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who continually point out the flaws of others. I think that's worse.

Well some people are so perfectly perfect it appears."

I am... yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fool deserves no pity.... He's just a foolish fool xxxx Suzi

Whos the more foolish the fool or the fool that follows him

The force is strong with this one "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah ... Ok. Only Suzi knows what she is on about xxxx Suzi"

You mean the baaaaaaaas’s right

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"People who continually point out the flaws of others. I think that's worse.

Well some people are so perfectly perfect it appears.

I am... yes "

I know right...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my mind the fool who follows him, the fool in front knows what he's doing xxxx Suzi"

I like the way you sign off xxxx Tame impala

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