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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

I have just been told by this woman I have never made her cum. also most of the people she sleeped with havnt... she says she his a condition that makes it difficult too make her cum .... Is this true or am I just shit in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every woman is unique, and yes, there will be some who find it incredibly difficult, if not impossible to orgasm. Doesn't necessarily mean you're doing a shit job though.

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Every woman is unique, and yes, there will be some who find it incredibly difficult, if not impossible to orgasm. Doesn't necessarily mean you're doing a shit job though. "

Thanks for taking ya time out to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nahh most can’t with me either tbh but it’s not an issue to me

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Nahh most can’t with me either tbh but it’s not an issue to me "

Is that cos you have a condition that makes it harder ... I'm sure as a woman it wouldn't bother you but being a man and hearing a woman say that makes me feel like shit

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm. "

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back"

invest in a body wand, some women find it difficult to cum from penetraion alone and a few find it near impossible, ask her what works, if she can cum through toys if the answer is yes go get some..get more confidence by getting a bigger toy bag.. so many will thank you for it xx

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back"

I think it's cool that she confided in you that she has difficulty orgasming. If she loved it, then be happy with that.

If she asks for repeat meets you are doing something right .

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By *ornycouplesbCouple
over a year ago

aylesbury

Not your problem If her hed is not in the right place. most likely an underlying problem. Unknown

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Will give that o go .. she hasPolycystic ovarian syndrome .. shit I thought I was doing somthing wrong

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back

I think it's cool that she confided in you that she has difficulty orgasming. If she loved it, then be happy with that.

If she asks for repeat meets you are doing something right . "

Seen her a few times now so supose I must be doing somthing right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just been told by this woman I have never made her cum. also most of the people she sleeped with havnt... she says she his a condition that makes it difficult too make her cum .... Is this true or am I just shit in bed "

Do you cum? Because if so, I don't see what the problem is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she enjoying everything else about sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy sex but it’s hard to make me orgasm. I’d say personally I have to be relaxed and at ease. As I get older I get more selfish as in I will always guide a man to my orgasm. Talk and communicate is always good x

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Is she enjoying everything else about sex?"

There is no problem and we have sex she just dosnt cum. Was just asking a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nahh most can’t with me either tbh but it’s not an issue to me

Is that cos you have a condition that makes it harder ... I'm sure as a woman it wouldn't bother you but being a man and hearing a woman say that makes me feel like shit "

Mines more a mental barrier I can’t quite relax but due to past experiences but it sure as hell doesn’t stop me enjoying it

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"I enjoy sex but it’s hard to make me orgasm. I’d say personally I have to be relaxed and at ease. As I get older I get more selfish as in I will always guide a man to my orgasm. Talk and communicate is always good x"

Thanks x

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Nahh most can’t with me either tbh but it’s not an issue to me

Is that cos you have a condition that makes it harder ... I'm sure as a woman it wouldn't bother you but being a man and hearing a woman say that makes me feel like shit

Mines more a mental barrier I can’t quite relax but due to past experiences but it sure as hell doesn’t stop me enjoying it "

Thanks beutifull x

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

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By *ornycouplesbCouple
over a year ago

aylesbury

Good advice ??

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By *ornycouplesbCouple
over a year ago

aylesbury

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back

I think it's cool that she confided in you that she has difficulty orgasming. If she loved it, then be happy with that.

If she asks for repeat meets you are doing something right .

Seen her a few times now so supose I must be doing somthing right "

Absolutely. If you were shit in bed and she wasn't enjoying it, she would bother seeing you again.

So smile and know you are making her happy.

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"I have just been told by this woman I have never made her cum. also most of the people she sleeped with havnt... she says she his a condition that makes it difficult too make her cum .... Is this true or am I just shit in bed

Do you cum? Because if so, I don't see what the problem is"

This is exactly the reason I didn't ask the men .

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"If the lady said MOST of the men cant. That means some can. Hope you asked her what you could do to increase the chances of coming. Hopefully she enjoyed it, even if she didn't orgasm.

She said she loved it but for somone that has no confidance anyways is just nocked me back

I think it's cool that she confided in you that she has difficulty orgasming. If she loved it, then be happy with that.

If she asks for repeat meets you are doing something right .

Seen her a few times now so supose I must be doing somthing right

Absolutely. If you were shit in bed and she wasn't enjoying it, she would bother seeing you again.

So smile and know you are making her happy. "

Thanks beutifull and I wish you all the happynies in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just been told by this woman I have never made her cum. also most of the people she sleeped with havnt... she says she his a condition that makes it difficult too make her cum .... Is this true or am I just shit in bed

Do you cum? Because if so, I don't see what the problem

This is exactly the reason I didn't ask the men . "

He’s winding you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just been told by this woman I have never made her cum. also most of the people she sleeped with havnt... she says she his a condition that makes it difficult too make her cum .... Is this true or am I just shit in bed "

One of my dates read an article which said the optimum length of time most women want sex to last is 8 minutes. We had just fucked for about 2 hours solid before she read that and laughed ourselves silly. I only bring this up because, without any more information, none of us really know if you genuinely are a shit shag or not. As a rule of thumb, if you're going into it with a mind of trying to give the woman at least equal pleasure to yourself, and have the ability to hold back from cumming until it's pretty clear she's either had some fun or she's unlikely to have anything like that... maybe lasting 20-40 mins... then I'd imagine it's unlikely to be anything wrong on your side. So, if so, just chill out, don't get neurotic about it (either for yourself or for her), and just accept you're putting in a good show and she's enjoying it and sooner or later she might cum... or she might not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The orgasm isn't always the most important part of sex for everyone.

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By *esus H ChristMan
over a year ago

birmingham

On your behalf I had a quick google and yes in medical studies women who suffer from aforementioned problem do suffer more from being unable to orgasm, it also has something to do with their increased production of testosterone, so no I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Also psychologically she may feel unattractive in herself due to other issues associated with her medical condition, which I guess doesn't really help.........if you're both enjoying each other an orgasm isn't the be all and end all just enjoy giving pleasure to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just your responsibility to make her come. She can move as well. It takes two to tango x

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By *apstar OP   Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Thanks everyone for messaging me it means a lot

. Hope you all have a good week and I wish you all the happynies in the world

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