FabSwingers.com forum: Jelousy

By *r discreet472 OP Man
over a year ago

Durham

Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it isn't normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be in passing.

But ignore it and move on.

This site is all about having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, most are fake anyway!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

Because you wanted to fuck the guy and she got there first?

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Envious but not jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can be a normal reaction. For people new to this world, it’s very surreal seeing everyone’s meets in black & white.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

In what way? You want to be the men that are shagging her or you want to be shagged by the men that are shagging her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't help your feelings so yes it is "normal" but I would be considering why I was jealous and how I was going to deal with that if I was you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, most are fake anyway!

Having received a fake verification myself recently I’m inclined to agree that they’re not as foolproof as people think they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

There's are no verified women. Those are Russian bots.

It's pretty much just the two of us here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people get jealous over lots of different things on here, nature of the beast and all that for some people.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"You can't help your feelings so yes it is "normal" but I would be considering why I was jealous and how I was going to deal with that if I was you. "

Exactly what I was going to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, most are fake anyway!

Having received a fake verification myself recently I’m inclined to agree that they’re not as foolproof as people think they are "

OK so I'm still pretty new to all this, but why would someone fake verify you?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"No, most are fake anyway!

Are they?

That had never crossed my mind..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

Jealousy is a deadly sin young man.

don’t get jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here before, some couples/ladies said they would only consider meeting if I verified them first!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I must be odd. I wasn't jealous of my husband, or my current partner who I met on here. I tease him when he empties his pockets and condoms and lube is amongst the contents. So being jealous of strangers?!! Seems bizarre to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be normal yes but you need to get it under control if you want to get good enjoyment out of Fab. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im curiouse about this.

When you say some womens is it a person you know / have meet with or even had or are still in a relationship with ?

What is it your jelouse off?

Its just i dont understand that if its not someone you have ever meet or know what is there to be jelouse off?

Just got me interested thats all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I used to get insecure when I had my FWB, a lot was down to how he lied when I first met him and made out he just wanted an FWB. When in reality he was a player and met multiple lady's. He couldn't be bothered with me if he was chatting to a new conquest. In the end I told him to get out of my life.

He wasn't from Fab though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, most are fake anyway!

Having received a fake verification myself recently I’m inclined to agree that they’re not as foolproof as people think they are

OK so I'm still pretty new to all this, but why would someone fake verify you?

To get my attention, but it got him blocked and reported. I can show you the screenshots if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're attracted to her and want it to be you who's verifying her, it's normal human behaviour.

Don't get all stalkerish and weird on her though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was on here before, some couples/ladies said they would only consider meeting if I verified them first!

My veris aren't fake but I choose not to show them anyway, but I have never asked for one ... Bloody ridiculous IMHO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does. "

I don’t want it to bother me... because I would be meeting people too.. but how do you deal with it!!? It is hard when you own confidence is fragile... but you want to enjoy amazing sexy with someone and just have fun!!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I don’t think you can get too jealous, but I would admit to finding verifications as evidence of misleading profiles annoying.

Examples would be ‘not meeting’, but recently verified, or a single woman’s profile with a verification that says ‘met her with her husband/fuck buddy’.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don’t think you can get too jealous, but I would admit to finding verifications as evidence of misleading profiles annoying.

Examples would be ‘not meeting’, but recently verified, or a single woman’s profile with a verification that says ‘met her with her husband/fuck buddy’."

Could be not meeting new people just those on her friends lists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

For me, it’s something which has happened over time. It was difficult at first, like a big learning curve. My confidence got better the more people I met. I hope you find yours soon! X

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By *ornyharry39Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

No room for jealousy it’s a swinging site everyone having fun with everyone plenty of people on here for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think you can get too jealous, but I would admit to finding verifications as evidence of misleading profiles annoying.

Examples would be ‘not meeting’, but recently verified, or a single woman’s profile with a verification that says ‘met her with her husband/fuck buddy’."

I verified someone last week who I have met a few times over a year or so, and haven't met this year yet. Unless it states met today or last night, they could have met weeks or months ago.

Might be a regular friend and they aren't looking for new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely normal if you are new to the scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

Meet people that are discreet and don't show verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

For me, it’s something which has happened over time. It was difficult at first, like a big learning curve. My confidence got better the more people I met. I hope you find yours soon! X"

Well I guess time will tell!! Life is too short and at the moment I just want fun and amazing sex!! So I will do my best!! Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I have a long term regular partner, and I've seen pics and videos of some of the women he's having sex with. It doesn't bother me at all, but I was upset when I thought I might not see him any more. Maybe if I wasn't having regular sex with him I would feel jealous, but I've never been jealous of other women with my men friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

Meet people that are discreet and don't show verifications.

So if Decide to have a couple of fwb... then either don’t read their verifications and don’t show mine?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

When I first joined I met a guy who used to seek great pleasure out of ensuring the veri after the one he left for you was always better than yours.. I quickly learned it was him bigging himself up and playing the ladies against one another. Despite he was good I blocked and let it go... mind games are never good here!

If I’m on someone’s veri list then I feel confident enough I made a suitable impression

more than once I consider a privilege... we each have our own individual qualities we give to and look for in a meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

Do you see other people too? I’ve never had fwb before! So it’s interesting to hear about people’s experiences... do you see him often? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

I think some people say it doesn’t bother them when it actually does.

Meet people that are discreet and don't show verifications.

So if Decide to have a couple of fwb... then either don’t read their verifications and don’t show mine? "

Yes if that works for you.

I won't meet anyone with more than 4 sex veris shown on their profile.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

1. Do you mean you are jealous ?

2. Do you mean another woman told you she was jealous of a verification you gave to another woman ?

3. Do you mean another woman is jealous of a verification given to YOU be another woman ?

You asked if it's normal so here goes.

Normal is different for every individual. I'd say it's HIGHLY normal for an emotionally , totally illogical unreasonable, in experienced human being of low intellect and self esteem.

It happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousish but happy they had fun more im like a randy cheer leader need some pom poms

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

No, it’s not normal. It’s extremely odd, strange and weird.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Jealous? no.

Sick to your stomach/disgusted? yes.

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I get nosey, and I also compare myself to other meets they have had. Usually unfavourable. And if I get a message from someone new, see their profile and l their veris are from stunning, pert, scum beauties there is a very high chance I won’t reply, because I would find it hard to believe that person would want to play with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealous? no.

Sick to your stomach/disgusted? yes."

That's why I don't like it when people show the veris I gave them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it can be a normal reaction. For people new to this world, it’s very surreal seeing everyone’s meets in black & white. "

I agree! I found verifications difficult at first. Now I like to see them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealous? no.

Sick to your stomach/disgusted? yes.

That's why I don't like it when people show the veris I gave them. "

Your verifications make yourself sick?

go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealous? no.

Sick to your stomach/disgusted? yes.

That's why I don't like it when people show the veris I gave them.

Your verifications make yourself sick?

go figure.

Nooooo!

Because someone will read my veri and they'll think "oh bloody hell he met that weirdo minger ewwwwww" and he'll never ever get laid again.

The End.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

No room for jealousy in our lives

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s only natural to look at veris of people you’ve met, and maybe compare. And human nature to compare ourselves unfavourably because we tend to view ourselves more critically than other people do. But with sex it isn’t necessarily better or worse with different people, just different.

With the jealousy thing, I suppose it depends how people feel about the people they have met. In normal circumstances if someone we have slept with sleeps with someone else that typically involves betrayal and/or rejection, which would usually make us feel jelous. Whereas in Fab life there is the whole sleeping with other people thing, but there isn’t any betrayal or rejection, so I guess it all gets a bit confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"
it's normal but prob not healthy on swinging site

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I get nosey, and I also compare myself to other meets they have had. Usually unfavourable. And if I get a message from someone new, see their profile and l their veris are from stunning, pert, scum beauties there is a very high chance I won’t reply, because I would find it hard to believe that person would want to play with me. "

Good points made there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on whether you had met them yourself or not I would think. If you hadnt, a bit odd, if you had then I suppose everyone wants to think they were a bit special.

I surprised myself with some jealous feelings recently,and had to slap myself round the face a bit. Stems more from self confidence issues I think which I can wobble with every once in a while.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not normal in my world. Its a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it... for me it would be more about my insecurities what if she was slimmer and better at everything then me?? Hahaha sounds pathetic doesn’t it!!

I have wondered if you have a FWB do any of you get insecure?

Do you see other people too? I’ve never had fwb before! So it’s interesting to hear about people’s experiences... do you see him often? X"

Yes. I currently have another regular partner, and they both know I see other people.

I see both of them regularly.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Depends on whether you had met them yourself or not I would think. If you hadnt, a bit odd, if you had then I suppose everyone wants to think they were a bit special.

I surprised myself with some jealous feelings recently,and had to slap myself round the face a bit. Stems more from self confidence issues I think which I can wobble with every once in a while.

I think a lot of it is self confidence. As posted above, if we like someone we’ve seen, and would like to see them again, if we see veris from people we would imagine to be better looking, or better lovers based on their veris (especially if the person we like has given them a glowing veri), then it’s only natural to question why they would want to see us again now that a more desirable option might be available.

I suppose that may happen, but also we maybe shouldn’t assume that, if we’ve also had great meets with that person. Hopefully they just see other meets as different, but not necessarily better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really need to have more self confidence.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I met my other half on here. Regulars are going to be sick of me saying this, but here goes...my pep talk to those with self esteem issues.

I'm fat: size 24 and met my other half on here. He's a cross between Bruce Willis and Jason Statham. 6ft 1, speaks seven languages, is Dutch, lived in Paris for years and usually dated leggy Scandinavian types. In a rare moment of doubt I did wonder why he wanted to meet me but I gave myself a slap because he did.

He was late to our meeting but he had phoned to tell me and I saw him running through the crowd to me. He dropped to his knees and apologised for being tardy, much to the amusement of those around.

That was nearly five years ago. He put his friend and her dead dog before me and my dead son last week and I can't get past that...but I digress.

The point is there will ALWAYS be someone younger, slimmer, prettier etc than us and the people we meet will have met some of them. This is a casual hook up site for those seeking hedonistic pleasure so why the angst? If we compare ourselves to others we'd never get out of bed.

If someone you like has stunning pictures up think "go me! I'm a hotty too!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my other half on here. Regulars are going to be sick of me saying this, but here goes...my pep talk to those with self esteem issues.

He was late to our meeting but he had phoned to tell me and I saw him running through the crowd to me. He dropped to his knees and apologised for being tardy, much to the amusement of those around. Sorry to hear about your son

That was nearly five years ago. He put his friend and her dead dog before me and my dead son last week and I can't get past that...but I digress.

If someone you like has stunning pictures up think "go me! I'm a hotty too!"

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By *aranelloMan
over a year ago

Sittingbourne

I would go with what a previous poster has said, envious is one thing, but jealous, if you are swinging then there is no place for jealous feelings (unless you are a cuck and enjoy it!) Also, I would take verifications with a pinch of salt. I have none, mainly due to the fact that I have been inactive for quite a while, yet I have been swinging on and off for the best part of 25 years, it does not mean you are not genuine if you have no verifications, and if you have loads, then you lucky people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is what it is,life on here is supposed to be fun stress free and fun with like minded people.Lets all just play nicely and enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is what it is,life on here is supposed to be fun stress free and fun with like minded people.Lets all just play nicely and enjoy it

I agree.... that is what this site is about and sometimes it’s too easy to get bogged down with alllllllll issues... life and shit that is going on..when we should just be enjoying it!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

If she's a woman you meet and like then yes I think it's a pretty natural human response to a rather unnatural situation. The question is to what degree you get an emotional response, and what behaviour you let it give rise to. If you start plotting to boil the bunny, then you have serious issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!"

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I must be odd. I wasn't jealous of my husband, or my current partner who I met on here. I tease him when he empties his pockets and condoms and lube is amongst the contents. So being jealous of strangers?!! Seems bizarre to me."

This. I don’t have a jealous bone in my body. Sex is just sex. Could be a game of scrabble. Once I’ve left that door it’s in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt. "

Yes for all this is a swingers site etc etc people do have feelings and that seems a bit thoughtless!! Even the most secure person would maybe find that hard to take!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read other verifications of people I’ve met then it wouldn’t detract from my time with them...I know how I felt at that time and how they felt and that’s all that matters.

So I wouldn’t feel insecure at all...good sex is when two people have a connection...so I wouldn’t look at other verifications and think ‘he’s got a better chest, cock’...it’s just variety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

Yes for all this is a swingers site etc etc people do have feelings and that seems a bit thoughtless!! Even the most secure person would maybe find that hard to take!!

She was really quite sweet and cute and I think, to be fair, it was just a misjudgement.

I'm more ashamed of the rather pathetic d*unken messages i sent her later - I'm cringing even thinking about them!

Phones should have breathalysers attached!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

Yes for all this is a swingers site etc etc people do have feelings and that seems a bit thoughtless!! Even the most secure person would maybe find that hard to take!!

She was really quite sweet and cute and I think, to be fair, it was just a misjudgement.

I'm more ashamed of the rather pathetic d*unken messages i sent her later - I'm cringing even thinking about them!

Phones should have breathalysers attached!"

Oops a daisy!!! Haha oh well it’s done... I’m sure you’ve said sorry so draw a line and move on!!

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over a year ago

This. I don’t have a jealous bone in my body. Sex is just sex. Could be a game of scrabble. Once I’ve left that door it’s in the past. "

I got a triple word score for ya

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!"

It's funny you saying this. I can cope with seeing verifications etc but my man sent me a pic of another woman sucking his cock and it totally turned my stomach I didn't want to see it. Yet I have no issues of another woman sucking his cock in front of me. I have no issues with him having veris, he can even meet others as long as I know about it but a photo in front of me caused me a anxious feeling. Is weird how our brain works and how jealousy naturally plays out

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt. "

I’ve sent a video of me fucking but the guys wanted to see it. Lots of guys get turned on by it. I love seeing videos of guys I talk to also. The watching and being watched is my favourite thing at a club so probably why.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I guess it’s not being there. When you’re there you are having fun too, and part of it.

I’ve found it helps to just mention it, to acknowledge it in some way with the person you like. It just nips any weird bittersweet feelings in the bud, and stops them festering into something more. And then you move on and forget about it, because you’re too busy being aware of the great thing that you have with that person in the here and now.

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

I totally get that... if someone finds it a turn on to watch you being fucked and play etc when why not!!

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

I totally get that... if someone finds it a turn on to watch you being fucked and play etc when why not!!

Hell yeah bonus vids

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

I totally get that... if someone finds it a turn on to watch you being fucked and play etc when why not!!

It was only the penetration and could have been anyone. It’s the only video I have. I’m pretty camera shy when it comes to filming.

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over a year ago

Maybe it all goes with the territory... feelings and emotions of all kinds... and we all just need to focus on what makes us feel good and not get bogged down by the insecurities and worries... which is easier said the done...

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over a year ago

I won't meet anyone with more than 4 sex veris shown on their profile. "

Best get in quick with me then, Doris, you could be the lucky number 4

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over a year ago

I won't meet anyone with more than 4 sex veris shown on their profile.

Best get in quick with me then, Doris, you could be the lucky number 4

You seem like a nice guy. You deserve better than me.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

There is no place for jealousy in the swinging world

It just wouldnt work otherwise.

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over a year ago

"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt.

That's the difference though. You know they wanted to see it and that's hot. But not everyone does want to see it.

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over a year ago

"I think it is what it is,life on here is supposed to be fun stress free and fun with like minded people.Lets all just play nicely and enjoy it

I second that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal to get jealous over some women’s verifications? ??"

Jesus no!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

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"Well, this lifestyle is about (an aspect of) human relationships, and they can be unpredictable - not always possible to keep a lid on your feelings!

Never been jealous of veri's but I was surprised recently at a wave of jealousy when a girl I'd been messaging sent me a vid on Whatsapp of her "in action".

Ashamed to say I didn't deal with it well - silly, really, I'm old enough to know better!

A vid of her fucking another man? Bet she'd go mental if you sent a vid of you fucking another woman! Who the heck does that?! Don't blame yourself for how you felt. "

I agree ... that’s one of those brain and gear moments! What on Earth was she thinking! Hope you’ve managed to move on from it

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Trying to get my head around how anyone can operate in the swinging world and be jealous.

Counter-intuitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trying to get my head around how anyone can operate in the swinging world and be jealous.

Counter-intuitive."

I'm not a swinger.

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over a year ago

"I think it is what it is,life on here is supposed to be fun stress free and fun with like minded people.Lets all just play nicely and enjoy it

I second that!!

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that’s why I’m going to be spanking you woohooo!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty normal for some, others are better able to compartmentalise. I will admit that I have suffered the odd twinge with some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger and there’s a very good reason for that.

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't get jealous seeing, hearing about or knowing that he is fucking someone else, I find it a huge turn on in fact

but I do feel anxiety and insecurity at even the thought of it going on behind my back. I need things to be open and transparent...then I can get my rocks off

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over a year ago

"I don't get jealous seeing, hearing about or knowing that he is fucking someone else, I find it a huge turn on in fact

but I do feel anxiety and insecurity at even the thought of it going on behind my back. I need things to be open and transparent...then I can get my rocks off

I agree 100%

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