FabSwingers.com forum: Wrong men choice 2

By *otSoNewWalesCouple OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

The thread closed due to length, but you said...

"Yes your very right I’m attracted to arrogance and self confidence, assertive men regardless of image!! I find it hugely attractive. Along with power and intelligence!! How do I change what I find attractive in a man emotionally?? I can’t can I?"

No you can't. But why should you?

What you need to realise is; that these blokes who project themselves in that way will be inwardly very vulnerable.

They'll know the image and confidence they project, but will live in constant fear of not delivering and of disappointing.

If you live your life by such arrogance, you have to be able to back it up or it's all for nothing. It's alm just show if you can't deliver.

That's why I say the ball is in your court. You have immense power by way of deciding whether they have substance or if it's all just bluster.

Of course the reality is the ones who have genuine substance are unlikely to be on the market for long, which might explain why you are disappointed so often. You are left with the 'all talk no trousers' guys.

Anyway, I was gonna mail these thoughts to you, but I'm outside your age range.

But again, good luck in your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for the guy brave enough to put up a wrong women choice thread

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By *OCKDUDE1Man
over a year ago

TROWBRIDGE/BRISTOL

reply to the original OP. Didn't read all the replies but noticed they were mostly women so thought I'd give my perspective. So, everyone is different for a start and we all are attracted to different things, both mentally and physically. It is proven in life and further proven by online dating sites and even more so hook up sites that women can be as picky as they want to be! I'd say myself and my girlfriend are both average looking people, neither of us are freeking models with perfect features and flat tummy/6 pack etc... when we both joined this site...(blank profiles, no pic, no info) she had over 1000 messages in a week and I had not even one view! I have much more luck going out and chatting to girls in pubs, at gigs, in the supermarket etc... as it gives me a chance to show off my sense of humour, my attitude and whatever charm is left! lol my girlfriend has had thousands of messages now and hundreds from guys who really are TOP SHELF....fit bods, successful, well off, good looking guys, where as I haven't had a single message still. This partly boils down to numbers, but also I think because guys think differently? Or I know I certainly do! I have to be attracted for sure but I love the look of girls with short hair, long hair, messy hair, straight hair, pink, blue, blonde, brunette. no eye colour pref, different styles of girls...I love punk girls, emo girls, stunning girls, rock chicks, tattoos, no tattoos, same with piercings, girly girls, posh, smart, even chavy looking girls sometimes, between 5ft and 5'10 (as long as not much taller than me) skinny if shorter, curvy, or really quite curvy! looks wise, I just think if you open your mind and don't always go for "safe" and "vanilla" you might find people who you didn't expect are just as cool to be around and surprise you...My girlfriend is a very girly girl and I'm a rock guy...I changed her perspective on things as much as she didn't think we were the same, when we really are very similar people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the original op of the first thread. Most guys who project that they're a 9 or a 10 are actually a 3 at best. You find yourself irresistibly attracted to the display of arrogance these fakers play, hoping that one day one of them will be genuinely a 9 or a 10. That's like chasing after guys who wear lots of gold chains in the hope that one day one of them will turn out to be genuinely rich. Real alphas don't put on silly displays of being alpha. Real confidence quietly smolders

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KzNyv6OdZuo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the original op of the first thread. Most guys who project that they're a 9 or a 10 are actually a 3 at best. You find yourself irresistibly attracted to the display of arrogance these fakers play, hoping that one day one of them will be genuinely a 9 or a 10. That's like chasing after guys who wear lots of gold chains in the hope that one day one of them will turn out to be genuinely rich. Real alphas don't put on silly displays of being alpha. Real confidence quietly smolders

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KzNyv6OdZuo"

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